Was I used or what's going on with this aqua?

It's really sad I have to be back here for some advice because things for me are really going bad. The aqua guy I was talking about, we had stopped talking to each other since march (I also deleted him from fb then) and we got back 'together' in may ( he reguested me on fb). I felt like in heaven, he said he was sorry, he really missed me, he was always thinking about me. We went on a date then hanged out with friends. He even told me once he loves me and he said he doesn't just want dating but more. Well I did the dumbest mistake, I had sex with him in his car, it's just things got out of my control. The contact was the same, he'd first text me everyday, ask things. But I got tired that he hasn't asked me to be his girlfriend. I didn't wanna be like a doormat, especially when I found out later on from his friend that meanwhile me and him weren't talking, he was dating this another chick(the one I had suspicions about earlier that I've mentioned in my older posts). I got very upset. Well, I went biking with this other guy who added me on facebook (he knows him n he's hot) he found out and said he doesnt wanna bother me bcause he thinks I've found someone else. I asked him why he'd think that, and then he said coz I stopped texting him and he's the one always doing it. I told him why he's so demanding becuz its not like we're couple or anything and he was like: oh I'm sorry. I told him I just dont wanna be stringed along anymore and he asked what I meant by that, I told him maybe michelle (that girl he was dating) knows. He told me he's stopped talking to her since 2 months ago and thanked me for bringing that up. Since this convo we just stopped talking n it was about 3 weeks ago. Now I saw he and that girl became friends on facebook again because she had deleted him when he requested me on fb and they had stopped talking. Idk who requested who. I mean I've already found out about him enough to not be the one initiating the contact because his friend told me he's never been in relationship, he's always just dated girls. He told me he's a good guy, but not to expect a relationship from him or just tell him straight up that either I'm his gf or things are over. Well, pretty much I gave him the hint. I guess that's why he hasn't texted me even he's been gone to Europe since 2 weeks ago. DO you think he was playing me all the time? If that's the answer, then he was very good at that...

I mean I can't decide why he stopped talking to me, either he was mad because I was biking with another guy or he realized that I might be putting ultimatum about our relationship and just made his way out himself. But hence, I noticed today that he and that girl became friends again on facebook. It's not easy to set yourself on moving on, I had moved on b4 he came back into my life asking for another chance and I was stupid to fall again n do things without thinking of consequences. IT really seemed he was so into me, he offered me help to learn how to drive, texted me everyday cute messages, asked me when he'll be able to meet my mom, always so affectionate and polite and romantic with me. His little cousin said he loves me. lol Do you think I should just move on? Wait to hear from him? And if things don't work out, do you think it would be ok to stay just friends with him (without benefits of course)?

I can believe I managed to swim through that wall of text. If you were any more used, you'd be in the 50% off bin at movie gallery. You're girl number 2 or 3. He stops talking to you because he was macking on the other women. But when things fall off with those ladies, you're back-up. You're the back-burner girl. You are the leftovers when he has nothing else to eat.

Wow thanks for such comment, I appreciate your opinion. If I had thought that's how it was I wouldn't have given him another chance to win me over. But things were going great until I found out about another girl he was dating while me and him weren't talking and since then I just stopped contacting him and maybe he sensed something was up.

I understand dating is just dating, we weren't even together at that time he was dating her so I can't really complain I guess. All in all it was in past n he stopped talking to her when he started talking to me. I thought he was for serious because that's how he said he was. All these words that seemed so original didn't seem they were recycled to someone else, all these compliments ur so beautiful, funny, etc. And we've been on and off since January. But exactly what would make you think I was just his back up plan? After I met his friends, his family, whom he told about me that he likes me... I can't possibly think of someone mastering so well a dating game and knowing exactly everything to do to program every cell of my brain into thinking he got it bad for me, it's something psychological that I've conquered. I've never pressured him into anything, never demanding, I show respect for his independence and live with my own. Maybe I went too promiscuous by sleeping with him while not being his girlfriend. But it doesn't always mean that man is going to lose interest, if he really loved a woman he wouldnt. And I can't regret it, maybe it wasn't meant to be. I hate looking at the past, it stops me from going forward so I tend to think as if some things happened, they don't exist anymore, the only thing is left is future. I'm just not sure, maybe I've hurt him and that's the reason I haven't heard from him but then again I'm confused, we weren't in a relationship and he was always little possessive, asking me everyday where i am, what im doing and who I'm with. It was cute at the start but made me feel wow he's doing this but I'm not even his girlfriend yet even though things really seemed like going towards relationship, I just felt he needed some time. So when I told his one friend I went biking with this guy, he asked me if aqua knew about it. Wow like wow. I guess he was the one to tell him about it, but I made it clear enough that Im not his doormat if he doesn't even ask me to be his gf. So its not like I was fooling him with someone else. Idk and sorry about long text lol..Im just looking for opinions thats al

dont beat around the bush with him...id be pissed off irritated and playing mind games with him by now....but id never let it get to that because id confront him and tell him what i want and what is pissing me off....aquarius is the sign of friendship hence why theyre friends on facebook but who added who would be playing on my mind big time also why theyre friends on facebook in the first place...are they seeing each other? etc etc

Your actions will form his reaction. If your beating around the bush and just standing by ur not gonna get results. U need to express urself as a woman not by rooting him in his car...but by letting him know u want to be his girlfirend if he says no then move on sure it may hurt you but expressing yourself is about taking risks and u develop either way......you guys need boundaries ur relationship is in the grey make it CLEAR! lol theres my two cents

by eleventh...

I feel he's just not mature enough to have a relationship. He never had it before but had many casually dates...He even told me himself and said he finally wants to settle down and have a serious girlfriend and he was talking about me n him. Well it was long time ago. I'm not going to confront him or even contact him. I'm just curious what would make him chase a woman. He either mans up or I move on to someone else...

And I want respect.

Ty SD,

That is very truth! Life's too short to be unhappy, it's about how you react to things, that's important, not what happens to you.

I'm also an aqua(but i'm a girl) and sadly it's hard for us to commit . But from now on,if you ever see him again,be only his friend,not his friend with benefit or girlfriend.It's true that we aqua's appreciate mostly people who got a sense of humor and can keep a conversation going. So,if he would be again talking to you about his other girlfriend,or that he is denying that he is with her,then tell him that "none of my business,now back-to-the-subject" or something like that.People want what they can't have.And i remember when my ex told me that "none of my business" i felt like jumping on him,and in the end he did win me back in a month or two,but i think you should just make this dumb aqua's ass feel sorry . I hope you'll be better 🙂