We had a talk

Hey guys if you remember I have been asking lots of questions regarding my Aqua. I was not feeling that I was getting the attention that I used to.

Someone mentioned I should talk to him about how I've been feeling.

He made some time for us to talk. It's hard for me to talk about my feelings. I told him that I feel like sometimes it's only conversations about sex. That we only meet up for sex. I told him that he called me his best friend and yet wasn't sharing his life with me. I said I wanted him to continue to court me, that I felt neglected. I also mentioned that I wanted more words of affirmation.

He said he's backed away a little because he felt he was wasting my time, unable to give me what I need. I said "don't you think I should make that decision?"

For the most part he listened agreed and said he would try harder to fulfill my needs. He felt he was giving me all he could, and was a bit defensive.

I don't think I asked for too much. And I asked him if any of the thugs we spoke about hurt his feelings or upset him. He said no and that he would tell me if so.

But the next night, he sent me two songs via text. Both were Bobby brown songs. One was "every step" a song about being together. The second was "don't be cruel" which is about an ungrateful woman.

I am unable to chat with him until tonight, and I'm going craaaaaaazy trying to understand why he would send that to me.

Can you please try to help me figure out what he's really thinking?

I think he's trying to tell you not to worry, that you guys will be together but he's also asking you to be happy with what he gives you and try to see the effort he's trying to show you. (Don't be greedy).

Seems to me, those songs are telling you everything he's feeling and doesn't really know how to verbalize it. But trust me, if he didn't like you and want to be with you he wouldn't put any effort in at all, or maybe just enough to keep you dangling.

Go with the flow with him and try to understand Aquas are different, when it comes to matters of the heart.

Just my opinion as an Aqua Venus

I dont know your situation but seems from what is written that he has told you that he doesnt want a relationship and you refuse to listen. Is this your bf?

If not and he has told you he cannot give you more (meaning he does not want to) then you have to listen. It us unfair to demand bf behavior when you agreed to see him in a fwb light.

Mallory we have been in an active relationship for 2.5 years. He has been waning in some things. I don't think what I've asked for was too much, but your input is appreciated if you think otherwise.

He says he wants to give more, and all I've really asked for is more communication of the romantic kind and less sex talk and more sharing of himself...

Nostalgiccappy thank you

He's also got an aqua Venus and Mercury.

The song really upset me, because of how hurt the singer is, but we have never experienced most of those points made in the song. Maybe it's the chorus he was thinking about.

Man I love him so much. Thinking that he's hurt or sad makes me feel like the ultimate butt heads

Youre lucky he didnt send you this song, I predict he will unless you stop being a debbie downer and appreciate what you have, if you want more then take it, don't sulk and get caught up in your own thoughts,

Maybe he shared those songs because he likes them?

Well. I'm glad things are going smooth.

I want an Aqua too! :p

Posted by pennystealing123
Mallory we have been in an active relationship for 2.5 years. He has been waning in some things. I don't think what I've asked for was too much, but your input is appreciated if you think otherwise.

He says he wants to give more, and all I've really asked for is more communication of the romantic kind and less sex talk and more sharing of himself...

At 2.5 years, the courting phase is done. Now you have to re-imagine your relationship, it has to evolve. In order for someone with Aqua Venus to stay in love, relationship dynamics needs to change. Whether it's moving in together, or going on an extended trip, or taking up a hobby that both of you enjoy, something needs to happen.

At 2.5 years you have shared like 90% of your life history. There really isn't that much to talk about. And an Aqua isn't your go-to for comfort, I mean we'll try, but we arnt the most sympathetic of signs.

Also, with a Leo Moon, by saying he's not fulfilling you while you are doing all you can...even if its the truth, it's going to put off a Leo. You'll have a harder time with him if you are pricking his ego. It's just the way his placements are, not your fault.

Posted by pennystealing123
Nostalgiccappy thank you

He's also got an aqua Venus and Mercury.

The song really upset me, because of how hurt the singer is, but we have never experienced most of those points made in the song. Maybe it's the chorus he was thinking about.

Man I love him so much. Thinking that he's hurt or sad makes me feel like the ultimate butt heads

You're welcome.

Don't take that song literally or even how upset the singer is. I meant more the general "don't be greedy" hint in there.

You're not a butt head, just understand he's not going to be an overly sensitive or emotional type. We're detached, even with the Leo Moon. Warm and positive, but ultimately detached and protective of ourselves. You're good, he's into you for sure. As soon as you get more comfortable and accepting of how he's going to be different than what you're used to with others, you will be able to breathe and just take it a day at a time with some security in him and your relationship. He would not be there if he didn't want to be, especially after 2.5 years.

Why are you thinking about his feelings and not your own? He either wants to give you what you need or he does not. In my eyes it is as simple as that, there is no grey area. A person can either work towards pleasing their partner by opening up, talking more than sex or not. He seems just content on not trying.

You either need to except him for how he is, perhaps look and realize how he shows his love and cherish his way OR realize he isnt doing all that he can, stop pestering him and move on to someone who will be a better match.

Posted by pennystealing123
Hey guys if you remember I have been asking lots of questions regarding my Aqua. I was not feeling that I was getting the attention that I used to.

Someone mentioned I should talk to him about how I've been feeling.

He made some time for us to talk. It's hard for me to talk about my feelings. I told him that I feel like sometimes it's only conversations about sex. That we only meet up for sex. I told him that he called me his best friend and yet wasn't sharing his life with me. I said I wanted him to continue to court me, that I felt neglected. I also mentioned that I wanted more words of affirmation.

He said he's backed away a little because he felt he was wasting my time, unable to give me what I need. I said "don't you think I should make that decision?"

For the most part he listened agreed and said he would try harder to fulfill my needs. He felt he was giving me all he could, and was a bit defensive.

I don't think I asked for too much. And I asked him if any of the thugs we spoke about hurt his feelings or upset him. He said no and that he would tell me if so.

But the next night, he sent me two songs via text. Both were Bobby brown songs. One was "every step" a song about being together. The second was "don't be cruel" which is about an ungrateful woman.

I am unable to chat with him until tonight, and I'm going craaaaaaazy trying to understand why he would send that to me.

Can you please try to help me figure out what he's really thinking?

I dunno but all signs point to "its just about sex" I could be wrong but that's what you wrote... Take sex off the table and then see what you are left with. That would be my advice.