What is the problem with these men?

So I have had a crush on this cute aqua guy for a year, and it has been so frustrating and heart-breaking, even though we never got any further than flirting. However, right before leaving for another country for 3 weeks, he suggested we meet up for a drink when I return, and I was so excited, because finally something real was going to happen after he had been alternately very sweet and very aloof and cold.

However, I sent him an e-mail while away just to let him know when I would be back and to see how he was doing. I have now been back for a week--nothing. Except: he sends out these business newsletters, and had at one point taken me off his list (got upset with me, I guess, for some weird reason). He now seems to send these newsletter to me he subscribes to this service, and they used to come around certain dates of the month) whenever he wants to hear from me (how bizzare is that!!!). So yesterday, I received this month's main newsletter (only two weeks late!!), but marked as high priority. I sent him back an e-mail saying thank you and that I would be sure to read every word ASAP (LOL!)

I just found out that he is all over several online dating services, looking for women that are 10 to 16 years younger than me (I am 4 years older than him, but I don't think I look it!!) Initially this crushed me, but I guess my best revenge is to find someone else (isn't online dating great!!!)

I guess my question is if it is typical aqua behavior to keep someone on the backburner, just in case— I do believe that I will hear from him again at some point when he is bored and I certainly pop up in his little head.

Aqua guy world = bizarro world (LOL!)

Has anyone had similar experiences?

Aquarius-God,

You are so right. I am trying to forget about him, and I realize now that silence is the best revenge (from having read other impossible-aqua-men posts on this site). I think I will not even have him remove me now (that would indicate that he has power over me); however, next time he sends me one of those, I will have my name taken off, without even involving him directly.

Still don't get it, though!

Nice to see that there are some normal aquas that can help us unfortunate girls (esp. cancers) who seem to always fall for them.

I wonder what distinguishes a "bad" aqua guy from a good one--as for this one, I know that his moon sign is aries, and his mars and venus is sagittarius--perhaps too much fire mixed with that air (which causes wild fires!)

Thank you Aquarius-God,

You are right, astrology aside he is immature and a clown--I realize that now. Yet, he also has a venus-pluto square aspect, which is supposedly one of the most difficult for maintaining any kind of relationship!

You may be right about the 8th house aspect--this holds especially true for myself, since I have so many planets in that house.

This isn't an Aqua thing, it's a guy thing.

I notice that cancer women are the type of women who want to be in a long loving relationship. I notice that a long loving relationship to some men, even more so to aqua men can scare them away. Aqua men are known to be independent and cancer has a loving mother type nature, which might be too much to deal with for an aqua man. They like their space, and if they don't talk to you for a couple of weeks or days they really think they did nothing wrong at all. And you being a cancer will be worried and wonder why he hasn't contacted you in so long when he really might just be caught up at work or something else. I think though that once an Aqua man really gets to know cancer though, they will see that this is a loving and caring sign, and that maybe soon enough they will open up too.

Now depending on what your looking for it could work out. If your looking for a quick fix and someone to just fun with and you have other guys on the side this could work out. But if your looking for a relationship and want to see what happens then I don't think this is a guy for you. It's best just to move on and find someone worth your time

"And the "good" aqua is usually completely distracted by work and other issues in the world to notice a girl...haha"

oh my...that is my aqua!!! he is extremely into his job but also very into his hobby, mountain biking...so much, that he even has what he calls "bike porn"...bike magazines in his bathroom rather than porn mags!!!

I don't think that my aqua is one of those flirting aquas who are all over the place. I think he is really hard working and probably liked his space for a long time, but then suddenly saw everyone around him getting married and having kids and realized--hey I am missing out on something.

Reading his online-blurbs he seems to not know what in the world he is looking for, if anything! He even admits that he is not putting any time into it, and that may be his problem (LOL!). I just think he is a little confused and very insecure with women. Of course I have two kids already, and if I wanted more, it would have to be within the next few years. Being a bit on the conservative side of the aqua-spectrum, I think he would totally default to the young never-married girl who would make his parents happy!

But what do I know! I am trying to forget about him real fast, although I am sure I will hear from him again in some cryptic form of e-mail communication (for me to interpret!) However, I decided to sign up on some dating sites and am already communicating with a couple of guys that are totally down-to earth! I will have my fun now, and see where it takes me.

As for the cancer-aqua thing, I think both signs really look for unconditional love and space, and that is maybe what attracts us to each other.