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"I just wanna know do you aquas do this a lot? If someone says I need space away from you...do you let them go on their merry way or do you keep reaching out cause you hate to be ignored? Or is there something else that I'm missing. I'm not deluded in thinking he wants to start a relationship with me. That ship has sailed and this mermaid can't go back there...so...what gives? Any advice?"
I cannot speak for every Aqua but during my immature phase, I wanted what I couldn't have, if I had it I'd throw it away out of fear--ignorance--my deep need to be free and explore life--learn and grow, I used to hate being ignored now I could care less, I prefer it actually and once I get some space--time to breathe I fall in love all over again--believe I could just come back when it was CONVENIENT FOR ME, life doesn't actually work that way, he'll soon find out when he continues to LOSE in love.
So yeah it could be a number of emotional-mental things going on, we Aqua's can be emotionally unavailable so it takes some time for us to CATCH UP to our partners--not that we don't want to feel love or be in love, it's just that a lot of us DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL WHAT WE ARE FEELING WHEN WE FEEL IT, we'll assume it's not love so we'll potentially push away a good mate only for love to catch up to us and THUNK (slaps forehead) we're alone with no one to express those feelings too so we come back.
The easy answer is he's doing it because he can--there are explanations but for the most part we can be self centered-self involved not because we're selfish but just not emotionally mature enough to strike the iron while it's hot, I can't tell you how many opportunities I messed up, thank gawd I have my happy ending but yes I was not the most emotionally mature-in tune person back in the day, something I learned--it didn't come natural for me, this back and forth dance can go on forever, if you're smart you won't go there.
He'll go away if you don't answer him, he'll be aggressive as if his life depends on you coming back but then he'll go away if he realize you are not interested in reconnecting--he'll probably pop up off on to see if the door is still open, yep we can be a bit manic when it comes to being ignored, not sure how old he is either and that can play a significant part in how he behaves.
I cannot speak for every Aqua but during my immature phase, I wanted what I couldn't have, if I had it I'd throw it away out of fear--ignorance--my deep need to be free and explore life--learn and grow, I used to hate being ignored now I could care less, I prefer it actually and once I get some space--time to breathe I fall in love all over again--believe I could just come back when it was CONVENIENT FOR ME, life doesn't actually work that way, he'll soon find out when he continues to LOSE in love.
So yeah it could be a number of emotional-mental things going on, we Aqua's can be emotionally unavailable so it takes some time for us to CATCH UP to our partners--not that we don't want to feel love or be in love, it's just that a lot of us DON'T KNOW HOW TO TELL WHAT WE ARE FEELING WHEN WE FEEL IT, we'll assume it's not love so we'll potentially push away a good mate only for love to catch up to us and THUNK (slaps forehead) we're alone with no one to express those feelings too so we come back.
The easy answer is he's doing it because he can--there are explanations but for the most part we can be self centered-self involved not because we're selfish but just not emotionally mature enough to strike the iron while it's hot, I can't tell you how many opportunities I messed up, thank gawd I have my happy ending but yes I was not the most emotionally mature-in tune person back in the day, something I learned--it didn't come natural for me, this back and forth dance can go on forever, if you're smart you won't go there.
He'll go away if you don't answer him, he'll be aggressive as if his life depends on you coming back but then he'll go away if he realize you are not interested in reconnecting--he'll probably pop up off on to see if the door is still open, yep we can be a bit manic when it comes to being ignored, not sure how old he is either and that can play a significant part in how he behaves.
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I guess I can compare to him somewhat. Before my ex (who you know is a Pisces and I'm an Aqua) suddenly didn't want anything to do with me, we were good. I respected her and we acted like before, minus any physical thing. We just have this weird connection of talking and knowing who each other feels, so it was like we were best friends all over.
Now, when she said she realized she needed space to get over me (which was odd cuz, hey she was dating the day after we broke up) I took it stangly. Like the man you mentioned, I sent her things she liked, a few, like videos on youtube of make-up gurus, characters from shows we would watch. I think aqua's have this impulsive drive. We think so much at a time, and don't realize how to act sometimes. And it happens. I sent them to her cuz I thought she would like it/ appreciate it. Looking back now, I realized "hey, i was an idiot".
It's hard for me to say... Maybe it's because we're humanitarians. We care about people, especially those who ment a lot to us (the ones that we actually want to keep in our lives). And we are so damn stubborn. Which can be good if it;s in a good cause, for now, no it is not good.
He may realize he likes you, and wants attention. or he may just want to make sure you don't completely forget him, see him in a bad light. Aqua's adore and treasure friends.
Course everyone is different, so I may not be of any help, but hopefully this brings some short of insight.
If I remember right, merfolk never return to exes correct, or regain lost feelings to any individuals? Or am I wrong here?
I guess I can compare to him somewhat. Before my ex (who you know is a Pisces and I'm an Aqua) suddenly didn't want anything to do with me, we were good. I respected her and we acted like before, minus any physical thing. We just have this weird connection of talking and knowing who each other feels, so it was like we were best friends all over.
Now, when she said she realized she needed space to get over me (which was odd cuz, hey she was dating the day after we broke up) I took it stangly. Like the man you mentioned, I sent her things she liked, a few, like videos on youtube of make-up gurus, characters from shows we would watch. I think aqua's have this impulsive drive. We think so much at a time, and don't realize how to act sometimes. And it happens. I sent them to her cuz I thought she would like it/ appreciate it. Looking back now, I realized "hey, i was an idiot".
It's hard for me to say... Maybe it's because we're humanitarians. We care about people, especially those who ment a lot to us (the ones that we actually want to keep in our lives). And we are so damn stubborn. Which can be good if it;s in a good cause, for now, no it is not good.
He may realize he likes you, and wants attention. or he may just want to make sure you don't completely forget him, see him in a bad light. Aqua's adore and treasure friends.
Course everyone is different, so I may not be of any help, but hopefully this brings some short of insight.
If I remember right, merfolk never return to exes correct, or regain lost feelings to any individuals? Or am I wrong here?
Thanks Tiki and Hazard, your insight is very much appreciated! Well he's 38... I know he was in a long term relationship with someone he living with but she cheated on him with a co-worker and moved in with him. He's had other relationships with them but he said he did that without thinking it through and then realized it wouldn't work out so he broke up with them and hurt their feelings and he doesn't want to ever do that again and esp not with me.
I dunno what the reasoning is...I don't want him to leave, like I said I value our friendship and we get along like Forrest and Jenni lol. Seriously we do...we share the same weird, random arse quirks. He's a great guy he just doesn't feel the same about me. That doesn't make him a jerk or anything, life just works out that way sometimes.
Hazard to answer your question yeah for the most part once merfolks decide they are done that's it...it takes a rare breed for us to reconsider. Also rare situations like we were close to a relationship and it didn't pan out so there is always a what if scenerio for merfolks so that can help with merfolk turning around and giving it a go, but like I said that has to be with a rare guy/gal.
I just wish he would just come out with hey I'm contacting ya cause I miss talking to you or I hate to be ignored or whatever the case may be. I seriously doubt if it's because the love brick decided to land on his forehead. I can't think that way. I can't get hut again so friend zone is where it is and where it will remain.
I dunno what the reasoning is...I don't want him to leave, like I said I value our friendship and we get along like Forrest and Jenni lol. Seriously we do...we share the same weird, random arse quirks. He's a great guy he just doesn't feel the same about me. That doesn't make him a jerk or anything, life just works out that way sometimes.
Hazard to answer your question yeah for the most part once merfolks decide they are done that's it...it takes a rare breed for us to reconsider. Also rare situations like we were close to a relationship and it didn't pan out so there is always a what if scenerio for merfolks so that can help with merfolk turning around and giving it a go, but like I said that has to be with a rare guy/gal.
I just wish he would just come out with hey I'm contacting ya cause I miss talking to you or I hate to be ignored or whatever the case may be. I seriously doubt if it's because the love brick decided to land on his forehead. I can't think that way. I can't get hut again so friend zone is where it is and where it will remain.
Well you can reply to his email and let him know that unless he answer your question directly then you'll have to politely ask him to discontinue contacting you.
Basically you have to be the adult here, no letting him off the hook, if you want to break your no contact rule then you'll have to be a straight shooter, don't give him an opportunity to bullshit you. Tell him you want to know why he's contacting you and attempting to resume a friendship is not a good enough answer especially since you asked him not to contact you. Say to him...I don't want to be a friend, I don't want to be your FWB, I want to be in a real relationship with you and if we can't do that then we HAVE NOTHING to talk about. He'll most likely go away.
But you also have to realize that 3 weeks in his mind is enough time to get over him, there also could be a bit of selfishness behind his behavior, attempting to keep the door open to have his cake and eat it too so he's being selfish in that regards, if you get over him then he doesn't get another opportunity for sex, plus he may just like the idea that someone is INTO HIM and that makes him feel better about himself and of course this is all speculation, men don't make sense, they do what they want to do, he do it because he can, he doesn't really need an explanation to what HE WANTS TO DO and what he's doing has little to do with you and more to do with him. It's not about you really, it's about him, it feels right for him--good to him so he's doing it.
If you're not interested in rekindling a friendship/relationship then don't answer his emails, he'll go away.
Basically you have to be the adult here, no letting him off the hook, if you want to break your no contact rule then you'll have to be a straight shooter, don't give him an opportunity to bullshit you. Tell him you want to know why he's contacting you and attempting to resume a friendship is not a good enough answer especially since you asked him not to contact you. Say to him...I don't want to be a friend, I don't want to be your FWB, I want to be in a real relationship with you and if we can't do that then we HAVE NOTHING to talk about. He'll most likely go away.
But you also have to realize that 3 weeks in his mind is enough time to get over him, there also could be a bit of selfishness behind his behavior, attempting to keep the door open to have his cake and eat it too so he's being selfish in that regards, if you get over him then he doesn't get another opportunity for sex, plus he may just like the idea that someone is INTO HIM and that makes him feel better about himself and of course this is all speculation, men don't make sense, they do what they want to do, he do it because he can, he doesn't really need an explanation to what HE WANTS TO DO and what he's doing has little to do with you and more to do with him. It's not about you really, it's about him, it feels right for him--good to him so he's doing it.
If you're not interested in rekindling a friendship/relationship then don't answer his emails, he'll go away.
your welcome tbird 😛 you helped me way back when so my turn to help you!
let's see what else I can say...
As for his age...I'm not too sure how that would work. I would imagine he would be more mature. But I figured he's being like that with the whole "don't forget me" type ordeal. He doesn't want to be ignored, and that's why he's acting that way. Well, that's what I see. And though I am old for my age, I still have lots of growing to do. Maybe it's some weird quirk he has. Such as, he knows it would be wrong to send you stuff and so on, but he does for attention/cause he can. Ya know?
Relationship wise, like how he said he doesn't want to hurt you, that can be true. It can also very well mean he actually does have some feeling, but he isn't letting go of the past. The aqua thinks and thinks, thinks bring up the past, and the past haunts. He needs to understand to let go, and not miss opportunities. Like tiki said, we sometimes are "just not emotionally mature enough to strike the iron while it's hot, I can't tell you how many opportunities I messed up". Aqua's are said to handle emotions roughly. I'm fine with emotion, though I do feel blank sometimes for no reason, or romantically I brain fart. He may just be unsure how his thought process works.
But I can say why not try and ask him those questions? Like "Why are you contacting me?" or "do you miss me then?" but of course, not as blankly... If that makes any sense lol. If you want confirmation of something, I think most aqua's will tell you flat out, so it's more if your nervous to ask,
I understand the friendship thing you two have going, with the similar quirks and just be able to bond and communicate. It's like a puzzle fits? not sure how to say it, but your friendship with him is probably different then ones you have with others. Right? I'm in the same boat with my ex on that one.
Oh lol. thanks for the answer. I asked the question because of her. (course I'm not sure if the whole guy/girl explanation would go with us, but i'll say it does)She contacted me complaing about her bf. I'll get into details else where, this is your thread after all. All in all, she vents to me because I listen and I can't deny her help (or any one really but specially her, damn it). I find out she dumped him this monday. Heh. go figure.
let's see what else I can say...
As for his age...I'm not too sure how that would work. I would imagine he would be more mature. But I figured he's being like that with the whole "don't forget me" type ordeal. He doesn't want to be ignored, and that's why he's acting that way. Well, that's what I see. And though I am old for my age, I still have lots of growing to do. Maybe it's some weird quirk he has. Such as, he knows it would be wrong to send you stuff and so on, but he does for attention/cause he can. Ya know?
Relationship wise, like how he said he doesn't want to hurt you, that can be true. It can also very well mean he actually does have some feeling, but he isn't letting go of the past. The aqua thinks and thinks, thinks bring up the past, and the past haunts. He needs to understand to let go, and not miss opportunities. Like tiki said, we sometimes are "just not emotionally mature enough to strike the iron while it's hot, I can't tell you how many opportunities I messed up". Aqua's are said to handle emotions roughly. I'm fine with emotion, though I do feel blank sometimes for no reason, or romantically I brain fart. He may just be unsure how his thought process works.
But I can say why not try and ask him those questions? Like "Why are you contacting me?" or "do you miss me then?" but of course, not as blankly... If that makes any sense lol. If you want confirmation of something, I think most aqua's will tell you flat out, so it's more if your nervous to ask,
I understand the friendship thing you two have going, with the similar quirks and just be able to bond and communicate. It's like a puzzle fits? not sure how to say it, but your friendship with him is probably different then ones you have with others. Right? I'm in the same boat with my ex on that one.
Oh lol. thanks for the answer. I asked the question because of her. (course I'm not sure if the whole guy/girl explanation would go with us, but i'll say it does)She contacted me complaing about her bf. I'll get into details else where, this is your thread after all. All in all, she vents to me because I listen and I can't deny her help (or any one really but specially her, damn it). I find out she dumped him this monday. Heh. go figure.
Also, be cautious that his actions can be for selfish use, like tiki stated. I missed her post, but it can be he just simply wants attention and is being selfish.
Thanks Tiki! That's the thing I do want to have a friendship with him. As to Hazard's question (and thanks again for your reply hun) yeah it feels like 2 puzzle pieces fitting together when we talk or are around each other. As a mermaid with a Leo rising I meet and engage a lot of people but then I rarely have friends I can talk to almost daily and not have that oh just leave me the hell alone or go away aspect within the friendship. When he emails me even if I'm in my reclusive mood I'm compelled to answer him. Well that's until the I need my space to get over your arse period I'm currently residing in.
I never want to loose our friendship so that may kinda stupid to you guys, but it's very true. So this kinda puts me in the awkward situation where I want to ask him "Just out of curiousity may I ask why are you contacting me? Do you miss our conversations or something?" But I'm also afraid that this will screw up or friendship, you know that whole you first then me sometime in the future thing that merfolks have going on. This thought process is hendering me from asking this...but at the same time it's nagging me. So I guess I'll ask him I just have to figure out a tactful way to do so. If he can't handle that then it's his problemo not mine. Usually when I ask questions like this is point blank and pretty damn blunt (Virgo aspects) and will most likely be stated as I posted it above...but I don't want to seem harsh or bitchy. He's very been mean to me...well he's been very direct and could been seen as harsh to another set of eyes, but I don't want to be portrayed as a bitch. Screw it...I'm over thinking this WAY too much...damn 4 Virgo placements lol
I'm sending it...if he can't handle it oh to the well. That's what he gets for contacting me before I was ready.
That's strange about the mermaid hazard if you want to delve into that further you know how to get in contact with me luv.
I never want to loose our friendship so that may kinda stupid to you guys, but it's very true. So this kinda puts me in the awkward situation where I want to ask him "Just out of curiousity may I ask why are you contacting me? Do you miss our conversations or something?" But I'm also afraid that this will screw up or friendship, you know that whole you first then me sometime in the future thing that merfolks have going on. This thought process is hendering me from asking this...but at the same time it's nagging me. So I guess I'll ask him I just have to figure out a tactful way to do so. If he can't handle that then it's his problemo not mine. Usually when I ask questions like this is point blank and pretty damn blunt (Virgo aspects) and will most likely be stated as I posted it above...but I don't want to seem harsh or bitchy. He's very been mean to me...well he's been very direct and could been seen as harsh to another set of eyes, but I don't want to be portrayed as a bitch. Screw it...I'm over thinking this WAY too much...damn 4 Virgo placements lol
I'm sending it...if he can't handle it oh to the well. That's what he gets for contacting me before I was ready.
That's strange about the mermaid hazard if you want to delve into that further you know how to get in contact with me luv.
Crap! I meant He hasn't been mean to me
Tbird what do you prefer? A friendship or a real relationship? The reason I ask is because you shouldn't settle for friendship and HOPE some day he'll change his mind, he won't so if you have an ounce of romantic feelings for this man it's best NOT to be his friend, you'll only make things worse for yourself, if he doesn't like you like that then honestly you're wasting your time being his friend, being rejected by a man you feel romance for won't do anything for your self esteem.
At this point as an Aqua I'd say he's attempting to capitalize off of your feelings by coming around after he rejected you.
Now that I've had time to think about it, he's being a friend, most likely there is no romance behind his behavior, men don't BEHAVE this way when they are into a woman and he damn sure won't let you go. I think this guy thinks you're a cool person, fun to talk to and WHO WANTS TO LOSE THAT...No one.
So I would suggest you cut him off until you really are over the romantic feelings, the quickest way to get over those feelings is to go out and date, have fun and meet a new mate. And honestly you don't have to say anything to him, just move on, he'll get it the hint.
Sometimes you have to be a bitch to HELP YOU PUT YOU FIRST....
At this point as an Aqua I'd say he's attempting to capitalize off of your feelings by coming around after he rejected you.
Now that I've had time to think about it, he's being a friend, most likely there is no romance behind his behavior, men don't BEHAVE this way when they are into a woman and he damn sure won't let you go. I think this guy thinks you're a cool person, fun to talk to and WHO WANTS TO LOSE THAT...No one.
So I would suggest you cut him off until you really are over the romantic feelings, the quickest way to get over those feelings is to go out and date, have fun and meet a new mate. And honestly you don't have to say anything to him, just move on, he'll get it the hint.
Sometimes you have to be a bitch to HELP YOU PUT YOU FIRST....
Pffff he pulled a total cop out and said that he sent it cause he knew I would like it. *slaps forehead* holy moley I don't feel like going through this but I guess I'm going to have to explain myself. *le sigh*
Yeah just ask him! If he can't accept it and give you that space, or realize how much you do honor the friendship, then just ignore him. Just tell him what you told us, about how you want to keep and cherish the friendship, he should understand that right?
*brain farted* err how would I contact you? I'd rather not put it up on a thread lol
*brain farted* err how would I contact you? I'd rather not put it up on a thread lol
I did but he's dodge the question. lol GRRRRRRRrrrr MEN!!
Oh you can email it to me hun.
Oh you can email it to me hun.
Posted by tiki33
Tbird what do you prefer? A friendship or a real relationship? The reason I ask is because you shouldn't settle for friendship and HOPE some day he'll change his mind, he won't so if you have an ounce of romantic feelings for this man it's best NOT to be his friend, you'll only make things worse for yourself, if he doesn't like you like that then honestly you're wasting your time being his friend, being rejected by a man you feel romance for won't do anything for your self esteem.
At this point as an Aqua I'd say he's attempting to capitalize off of your feelings by coming around after he rejected you.
Now that I've had time to think about it, he's being a friend, most likely there is no romance behind his behavior, men don't BEHAVE this way when they are into a woman and he damn sure won't let you go. I think this guy thinks you're a cool person, fun to talk to and WHO WANTS TO LOSE THAT...No one.
So I would suggest you cut him off until you really are over the romantic feelings, the quickest way to get over those feelings is to go out and date, have fun and meet a new mate. And honestly you don't have to say anything to him, just move on, he'll get it the hint.
Sometimes you have to be a bitch to HELP YOU PUT YOU FIRST....
Honestly at first I wanted more than friendship. We can be friends and I can cut off all feelings for him but that's gonna take time...loads of time. So if he really values our friendship he will give me that time, if not that in my eyes he will just come off as a douche, which will make me want to disconnect from him completely. I'm not hoping for more...I used to do that but I've realized I'm selling mysel short and how pathetic that is and that doesn't sit well with me at all. So if he doesn't want a relationship that's fine I can deal. I'm a big girl and I know that there is someone else out there who would and will want that with me. It's not the aqua or nothing! Oh god that would be dreadful to think that way.
I have started dating again and I've meet someone else who's really sweet and right now I'm all about him and not thinking of the aqua hardly at all...but him sending me emails isn't helping at all with that. So yeah you're right I need to put me first and cut off all my feelings. Again if he can't deal oh well.
I agree with Hazard 100%
He's just being your friend business as usual, yes he's being selfish but at the same time you're the one with the issue not him and frankly you can't expect him to stop communicating with you if he doesn't have an issue with you, this isn't something you ask for permission for, this isn't something you expect the other person to understand and this isn't about what you think he should be doing because you asked for space, this is something you simply DO FOR YOU, you stop communicating until you're ready, it's not something you should expect him to understand or be mature about especially since he's not the one hurting or feeling disappointed, some things you just have to DO because it's best for you.
He's just being your friend business as usual, yes he's being selfish but at the same time you're the one with the issue not him and frankly you can't expect him to stop communicating with you if he doesn't have an issue with you, this isn't something you ask for permission for, this isn't something you expect the other person to understand and this isn't about what you think he should be doing because you asked for space, this is something you simply DO FOR YOU, you stop communicating until you're ready, it's not something you should expect him to understand or be mature about especially since he's not the one hurting or feeling disappointed, some things you just have to DO because it's best for you.
"So if he really values our friendship he will give me that time, if not that in my eyes he will just come off as a douche, which will make me want to disconnect from him completely."
Well clearly he doesn't value you as a friend or he'd respect your wishes as a friend, so yes he's being an inconsiderate douche, just tell him you're not ready to communicate, NO EXPLANATIONS, don't drag this out, let him know you're not ready to communicate and you'll contact him when you are.
You can tell him if he changes his mind and would like to pursue a relationship with you then you're open for that but if not then he'll have to wait until you're ready to be friends again, right now you're not, wish him well and don't answer him again unless he's talking about something serious between the 2 of you.
Well clearly he doesn't value you as a friend or he'd respect your wishes as a friend, so yes he's being an inconsiderate douche, just tell him you're not ready to communicate, NO EXPLANATIONS, don't drag this out, let him know you're not ready to communicate and you'll contact him when you are.
You can tell him if he changes his mind and would like to pursue a relationship with you then you're open for that but if not then he'll have to wait until you're ready to be friends again, right now you're not, wish him well and don't answer him again unless he's talking about something serious between the 2 of you.
Agreed and thank you Tiki for letting me see the matter thru his eyes. I do appericate that greatly!! I will take this into consideration my dear. Many thanks!
i agree with everything said here. and i still have my unused frequent flyer miles also i have been taking kick boxing classes 😉 just give me a time, day and address, i will be ready. 😄
Posted by chemengin
i agree with everything said here. and i still have my unused frequent flyer miles also i have been taking kick boxing classes 😉 just give me a time, day and address, i will be ready. 😄
LOL
Posted by chemengin
i agree with everything said here. and i still have my unused frequent flyer miles also i have been taking kick boxing classes 😉 just give me a time, day and address, i will be ready. 😄
im totally jellin! I wana take kick boxing classes!, or maybe capoeira
Posted by chemengin
i agree with everything said here. and i still have my unused frequent flyer miles also i have been taking kick boxing classes 😉 just give me a time, day and address, i will be ready. 😄
*gigglesnort* that's awesome!!
He did apologize about not honoring my wishes, said you're right no more contact and that he will be here when I'm ready to talk.
that's awesome! 🙂 see it worked!
(i sent the message ma'am)
(i sent the message ma'am)
I went through this at one point with a Aqua guy..And it was exactly like Tiki explained for him. We went back and forth for a few years. Finally I had no desire to be bothered with him like that. He went his way and I went my way. We had such a deep connection and I knew he loved me but emotionally he could not get it together. He could not be the man that I needed in my life. But I learned alot about myself through dealing with this guy..I am grateful I met him we did not end up together but bc of this relationship I found me and found my self-esteem and self worth. The ending is not what I wished it to be at the time, but im ok. AND we are friends and chit chat every now and then. They make way better friends then lovers as far as I am concerned. I too am a Pisces girl..
Aw tbird that sucks.
Going through similar at the moment. You know the situation. Jeez it's almost idential to yours.
Aquaman doesn't want a relationship (with me or anyone else) or at least so he says. Thinks the world of me and says if we ever did have a relationship he'd end up hurting me because, in his words he's "a dick" and that's the last thing he wants.
Right now it's been 4 weeks since I saw him. He hasn't been e-mailing me or anything but he's taken to randomly commenting on my Facebook, which he didn't do much before (when we were seeing each other).
I'm tempted to just delete him off FB actually. I've already deleted his number (in case I drunk text because that would be baaaaad) and all his e-mails.
I'm just done in with it all to be honest. He can't give me what I want and that's fine but having to sit and wonder what he's thinking or doing or what any of it means I honestly just cannot be bothered with it anymore. I'd rather just get on with my own life.
Anyhoo sorry for hijacking, just wanted to say I feel your pain.
Going through similar at the moment. You know the situation. Jeez it's almost idential to yours.
Aquaman doesn't want a relationship (with me or anyone else) or at least so he says. Thinks the world of me and says if we ever did have a relationship he'd end up hurting me because, in his words he's "a dick" and that's the last thing he wants.
Right now it's been 4 weeks since I saw him. He hasn't been e-mailing me or anything but he's taken to randomly commenting on my Facebook, which he didn't do much before (when we were seeing each other).
I'm tempted to just delete him off FB actually. I've already deleted his number (in case I drunk text because that would be baaaaad) and all his e-mails.
I'm just done in with it all to be honest. He can't give me what I want and that's fine but having to sit and wonder what he's thinking or doing or what any of it means I honestly just cannot be bothered with it anymore. I'd rather just get on with my own life.
Anyhoo sorry for hijacking, just wanted to say I feel your pain.
Once I'm done with this though that'll be me. I never go back. Ever.
Onwards and upwards.
🙂
Onwards and upwards.
🙂
Honestly, I think that Aqua men enters into certain women's life to help them figure out what she wants out of a relationship, self worth and things along that nature. Depending on how long it takes for a lady to get it, depends on how long you will allow him in your life. And if he tells you/shows you he does not cannot give you what you want/deserve then you will continue to let him back in over and over. We will go back to the lesson if we don't get it. I use to attract Aqua men alot. Now that I figured something out, Havent attracted one in a real long time. Even with all this Aqua I have in my chart. My energy that I put out now is way diffrent. Its something to think about..
Hmmmmm.....something to definitely think about!
Posted by Striking
Honestly, I think that Aqua men enters into certain women's life to help them figure out what she wants out of a relationship, self worth and things along that nature. Depending on how long it takes for a lady to get it, depends on how long you will allow him in your life. And if he tells you/shows you he does not cannot give you what you want/deserve then you will continue to let him back in over and over. We will go back to the lesson if we don't get it. I use to attract Aqua men alot. Now that I figured something out, Havent attracted one in a real long time. Even with all this Aqua I have in my chart. My energy that I put out now is way diffrent. Its something to think about..
Nah I had figured all that out from my last Aqua. 😛
Seriously though I wish the guy well, no bitterness on my part at all. I find it so sad though that someone genuinely feels that way and would shut themselves off from having a relationship ever again just because they've been hurt in the past. It really does baffle me and I think it's a waste personally, he's got a lot to offer someone and maybe he'll meet someone down the line who changes his mind but it ain't me!
I just have to think about myself and as much as I like him I have to put me first. I'm also getting too old for this shit lol.
"Nah I figured all that out from my last Aqua"
Well this one shouldn't have stood a snow ball chance in hell....Lol
He woulda been cut off, with nothing to say. And if he can't recognize all he has to offer and doesnt want to take another chance on love again, to bad that's his problem...
Btw Hey Miss P..:-)
Well this one shouldn't have stood a snow ball chance in hell....Lol
He woulda been cut off, with nothing to say. And if he can't recognize all he has to offer and doesnt want to take another chance on love again, to bad that's his problem...
Btw Hey Miss P..:-)
It's one thing to have it figured out and quite another to have learned from it ha.
Damn Aqua men, they're my kryptonite.
Damn Aqua men, they're my kryptonite.
It might baffle you but many of the commitment phobe , hot and cold Aquas were in very abusive relationships, including the men. They were hurt pretty badly emotionally and physically in the past yet they held on quite long to the abusers because they always believe it will get better or the good old days will return (the future and the past. They don't seem to live in the present so much!). Their fixed nature let them hold onto something complicated and nasty longer agaisnt their better judgements. In love, Aquas are just as vulnerable as any other signs. They quickly realize their mates and get stuck on that "ONE" no matter what happened. You just got to be "the one" or at least "the first special one" and you will guarantee a spot in their heart forever nomatter what.
Exam: you are absolutley right..I know Aqua men that are married, but guess what, the lady they married is like their first love or high school sweet heart. I figured out with these guys the first lady they fall I love with according to who she is and how she treated him sets the precedence for all future relationships to follow. If it was an abusive one that's what they usually gravitate towards from that point on, if they don't figure it out. No one is born a commitment phone, it is because of past hurts and had been involved in bad relationships...
Posted by exam
It might baffle you but many of the commitment phobe , hot and cold Aquas were in very abusive relationships, including the men. They were hurt pretty badly emotionally and physically in the past yet they held on quite long to the abusers because they always believe it will get better or the good old days will return (the future and the past. They don't seem to live in the present so much!). Their fixed nature let them hold onto something complicated and nasty longer agaisnt their better judgements. In love, Aquas are just as vulnerable as any other signs. They quickly realize their mates and get stuck on that "ONE" no matter what happened. You just got to be "the one" or at least "the first special one" and you will guarantee a spot in their heart forever nomatter what.
LOL and this is how I managed to still hold a torch for my first love from when I was 15...He's a scorpio and we do NOT go well together. After 12 years, I'm hoping this time I learned my lesson SMH
Posted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemengin
i agree with everything said here. and i still have my unused frequent flyer miles also i have been taking kick boxing classes 😉 just give me a time, day and address, i will be ready. 😄
im totally jellin! I wana take kick boxing classes!, or maybe capoeiraclick to expand
its awesome HW! you should try it, its totally kick ass!
Posted by exam
It might baffle you but many of the commitment phobe , hot and cold Aquas were in very abusive relationships, including the men. They were hurt pretty badly emotionally and physically in the past yet they held on quite long to the abusers because they always believe it will get better or the good old days will return (the future and the past. They don't seem to live in the present so much!). Their fixed nature let them hold onto something complicated and nasty longer agaisnt their better judgements. In love, Aquas are just as vulnerable as any other signs. They quickly realize their mates and get stuck on that "ONE" no matter what happened. You just got to be "the one" or at least "the first special one" and you will guarantee a spot in their heart forever nomatter what.
Spot on with mine. He was still hung up on his ex, aka "the one" when I first started seeing him, and what she did to him. He says now he's over it but I don't think he is. It seems as though with these guys once bitten twice shy which is such a shame.
As a Pisces I'll admit that's hard for me to understand. I just jump straight back in (that may be the Venus in Aries more than anything though) and I'm always willing to believe that the next person will be different as opposed to thinking the worst.
Posted by chemenginPosted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemengin
i agree with everything said here. and i still have my unused frequent flyer miles also i have been taking kick boxing classes 😉 just give me a time, day and address, i will be ready. 😄
im totally jellin! I wana take kick boxing classes!, or maybe capoeira
its awesome HW! you should try it, its totally kick ass!click to expand
I will try it! This summer! *yes only two weeks till im out of stupid Highschool FOREVERRR*
Are Pisces really that attractive to Aquas? I really don't get it lol
Posted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemenginPosted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemengin
i agree with everything said here. and i still have my unused frequent flyer miles also i have been taking kick boxing classes 😉 just give me a time, day and address, i will be ready. 😄
im totally jellin! I wana take kick boxing classes!, or maybe capoeira
its awesome HW! you should try it, its totally kick ass!
I will try it! This summer! *yes only two weeks till im out of stupid Highschool FOREVERRR*click to expand
yea! now that that nonsense (high school) is over your can start real life 😄 you have so many options! the world is truly yours HW.
Posted by chemenginPosted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemenginPosted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemengin
i agree with everything said here. and i still have my unused frequent flyer miles also i have been taking kick boxing classes 😉 just give me a time, day and address, i will be ready. 😄
im totally jellin! I wana take kick boxing classes!, or maybe capoeira
its awesome HW! you should try it, its totally kick ass!
I will try it! This summer! *yes only two weeks till im out of stupid Highschool FOREVERRR*
yea! now that that nonsense (high school) is over your can start real life 😄 you have so many options! the world is truly yours HW.click to expand
ahh reading that made me feel so much better. lol. things are truly looking up, gona be studying in the city, got some hefty scholarships and so on and so forth. I'm starting to love my life. I won a $ 400 check at a recent art exhibit where my teachers submitted my work, so I'm on fire! BAHHAHA
Especially cuz this year started so stupid with that damn break up e_e
(funnily, she ended up dumping the sag guy she dated after me 2 weeks ago, and started to date a cancer guy within that week. idk what shes doing but geeez.)
Posted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemenginPosted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemenginPosted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemengin
i agree with everything said here. and i still have my unused frequent flyer miles also i have been taking kick boxing classes 😉 just give me a time, day and address, i will be ready. 😄
im totally jellin! I wana take kick boxing classes!, or maybe capoeira
its awesome HW! you should try it, its totally kick ass!
I will try it! This summer! *yes only two weeks till im out of stupid Highschool FOREVERRR*
yea! now that that nonsense (high school) is over your can start real life 😄 you have so many options! the world is truly yours HW.
ahh reading that made me feel so much better. lol. things are truly looking up, gona be studying in the city, got some hefty scholarships and so on and so forth. I'm starting to love my life. I won a $ 400 check at a recent art exhibit where my teachers submitted my work, so I'm on fire! BAHHAHA
click to expand
sssssssss HOT!!! 🙂 so happy for you! your furture shining so bright even i need sun glasses 😄
Posted by everevolvingepithet
Congrats on that.🙂 that girl sounded like a nutter anyways.🙂
Indeed. She ended up apologizing for "being so rude". But also wants us to reconcile, calling me a "very good friend" So... yeah. I'm a bit lost on that one.
Posted by chemenginPosted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemenginPosted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemenginPosted by HazardousWalkPosted by chemengin
i agree with everything said here. and i still have my unused frequent flyer miles also i have been taking kick boxing classes 😉 just give me a time, day and address, i will be ready. 😄
im totally jellin! I wana take kick boxing classes!, or maybe capoeira
its awesome HW! you should try it, its totally kick ass!
I will try it! This summer! *yes only two weeks till im out of stupid Highschool FOREVERRR*
yea! now that that nonsense (high school) is over your can start real life 😄 you have so many options! the world is truly yours HW.
ahh reading that made me feel so much better. lol. things are truly looking up, gona be studying in the city, got some hefty scholarships and so on and so forth. I'm starting to love my life. I won a $ 400 check at a recent art exhibit where my teachers submitted my work, so I'm on fire! BAHHAHA
sssssssss HOT!!! 🙂 so happy for you! your furture shining so bright even i need sun glasses 😄click to expand
Why thankie!! 😄 No lie, I wanted a job similar to yours when I was little. ^///^ heehee. But I discovered art is my calling so I'll be doing Graphic Design/Illustration.
Posted by HazardousWalk
Are Pisces really that attractive to Aquas? I really don't get it lol
Yes... a thousand times hell to the yea. Something about you guys. I will totally say that aquas and virgos are my krytonite (sp?) the analytical nature of you guys and aquas that myserious I can't read you think you have going on just makes me want to crawl around your brain. Doesn't help that the lot of you guys are just sexy with all get out and that I don't give a damn what others think I'm going to be me is just *le sigh* so attractive.
Sad thing is there it's hard to get you guys to wanna be with us. lol damn you... heartbreakers.
ah I can't stay mad at aquas for that long....can't do it with virgos either. Other signs I can hold a gruge like my life depends on me hating on ya. lol
Posted by tbirdPosted by HazardousWalk
Are Pisces really that attractive to Aquas? I really don't get it lol
Yes... a thousand times hell to the yea. Something about you guys. I will totally say that aquas and virgos are my krytonite (sp?) the analytical nature of you guys and aquas that myserious I can't read you think you have going on just makes me want to crawl around your brain. Doesn't help that the lot of you guys are just sexy with all get out and that I don't give a damn what others think I'm going to be me is just *le sigh* so attractive.
Sad thing is there it's hard to get you guys to wanna be with us. lol damn you... heartbreakers.
ah I can't stay mad at aquas for that long....can't do it with virgos either. Other signs I can hold a gruge like my life depends on me hating on ya. lolclick to expand
I think its spelled kryptonite 😛
Ah I guess that makes sense, thats what my ex claimed was what made me so attractive, but I like hearing other people's opinions. bahah.
Aww, you pisces just gota come up and tell us. Be confident! (though some aqua's are douches... I know one I CANT stand at all ughghg) With the ex, I only found out she liked me cuz she couldn't talk to me or look me in the eye without blushing or breaking contact. And she wrote in a notebook all the time. I stole it (bad I know) and read her love for me rofl. sounds like a movie
I hear pisces like cancers as well? That their nice or sumthang? (sorrry I'm curious lol)
*i did send you a message but you dont gota reply if you dont wana*
Pisces and Aqua can work if they both sometimes walk out of their dreams to connect in real life. It's fine and dandy to dance in space but there are other things need to be taken care of in real life such as finance, food and drink,etc 😛
@aiyanatb: what happened with you and the Scorp? I bet he still thinks of you sometimes 🙂
@aiyanatb: what happened with you and the Scorp? I bet he still thinks of you sometimes 🙂
Posted by exam
Pisces and Aqua can work if they both sometimes walk out of their dreams to connect in real life. It's fine and dandy to dance in space but there are other things need to be taken care of in real life such as finance, food and drink,etc 😛
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We worked really well and then she broke up with me out of the blue. We had small argument the night before, and I'm sure we wouldve went back, but we both over reacted so now shes with her 3rd person to date w after me. she calls me a good friend though (waaat?)
"I will totally say that aquas and virgos are my krytonite"
That was my story too at one time..Virgo are our opposites and Aqua's well Im not sure, but anyway with these
too I think Pisces will learn the most and vise versa. I haven't nor have I been attracted to either one in a
really long time. Its mostly Caps and Taurus..Guess I have reached another phase in my life..((Shrugs))
That was my story too at one time..Virgo are our opposites and Aqua's well Im not sure, but anyway with these
too I think Pisces will learn the most and vise versa. I haven't nor have I been attracted to either one in a
really long time. Its mostly Caps and Taurus..Guess I have reached another phase in my life..((Shrugs))
lol dude Virgo's and Aqua's all day every day. Some sag's catch my eye cause they are way too freaking cute for their own good but pisces and sag's = disaster and body parts every where lol.
Caps are like trying to catch a unicorn for me. Cancers, cancers, cancers...I rather have cancer than be with another cancer. My ex was one and the most malpulative mofo on the planet. I can have cancers as friends my sis is one and we are very close. My other sister is a Taurus and so is my daughter and when it's good it's lovely and when it's bad I want to bury them in my back yard.
Now with the scorp...I haven't talked to him since he pulled a houdini on me and left me hanging. With this pisces there is only one guy who got away with that. He aqua who I am referring to in this thread. He's the first and most likely the only...but trust he heard my mouth about it. He apologize and it didn't happen again that's for sure. I pretty much told him I won't tolerate that from my friends I had for years and I certainly wouldn't tolerate it with him. Anywho the scorp I dunno if he thinks of me or not. We had chemistry that is for sure and talked all day everyday. I dunno what got in him or to him that made him want to pull away and completely disconnect, but I'm not chasing after anyone and he hasn't initated contact. I think of him every once in a while. I do miss our convo's but meh I moved on...to a *drum roll please* virgo. lol
I stay over his house a lot but I dunno where that is going. He was married and his wife cheated on him and hurt him really bad so he's kinda skittish. *shrugs shoulders*. He tells me that he doesn't want to hurt me (which makes me nervous and kinda pissed that is what the aqua said to me all the time) and doesn't want me to get attached so I'll put my wall up and he does everything in his power to bring it right back down then he gets closer to me. I don't get men sometimes.
thanks for the spelling hazard! lol BTW I'm sorry about the late reply. I'll get to it I'm promise. I'm scattered brained, so I know I won't be any help so that's why I haven't replied. Once my mind becomes useful again I'll reply. Pff pisces.
Caps are like trying to catch a unicorn for me. Cancers, cancers, cancers...I rather have cancer than be with another cancer. My ex was one and the most malpulative mofo on the planet. I can have cancers as friends my sis is one and we are very close. My other sister is a Taurus and so is my daughter and when it's good it's lovely and when it's bad I want to bury them in my back yard.
Now with the scorp...I haven't talked to him since he pulled a houdini on me and left me hanging. With this pisces there is only one guy who got away with that. He aqua who I am referring to in this thread. He's the first and most likely the only...but trust he heard my mouth about it. He apologize and it didn't happen again that's for sure. I pretty much told him I won't tolerate that from my friends I had for years and I certainly wouldn't tolerate it with him. Anywho the scorp I dunno if he thinks of me or not. We had chemistry that is for sure and talked all day everyday. I dunno what got in him or to him that made him want to pull away and completely disconnect, but I'm not chasing after anyone and he hasn't initated contact. I think of him every once in a while. I do miss our convo's but meh I moved on...to a *drum roll please* virgo. lol
I stay over his house a lot but I dunno where that is going. He was married and his wife cheated on him and hurt him really bad so he's kinda skittish. *shrugs shoulders*. He tells me that he doesn't want to hurt me (which makes me nervous and kinda pissed that is what the aqua said to me all the time) and doesn't want me to get attached so I'll put my wall up and he does everything in his power to bring it right back down then he gets closer to me. I don't get men sometimes.
thanks for the spelling hazard! lol BTW I'm sorry about the late reply. I'll get to it I'm promise. I'm scattered brained, so I know I won't be any help so that's why I haven't replied. Once my mind becomes useful again I'll reply. Pff pisces.
yea but men are always saying women are so emotional. ive learned from being on this site that men are a hell of a lot more emotional than we are. i mean geez a woman broke your heart 10 years ago and ya still not over hmmmm (just an example). i dont know what is wrong with them either bird. smdh
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