What's on his mind? Does he still like me?What is

Hi! Its kinda long but I really need help.Aqua males insights would be great.So there's this aqua guy in my class.I am on the cusp of Taurus n Gemini (20 May).when I was in first year of my college,I found him cute.my friends told me that he stared at me all the time.so I got into talking terms with him and we became friends.he was fun to talk with and we texted all day in the class which he would initiate and then I would call him up in the evening and we would have an hour long chat.he used to tell me that I was his only friend in the class(although he spoke to many) and said many sweet things even after a fight although I started most of them. he once told me that he didn't like getting into Relationships.in a month or so,our conversations reduced from everyday to every 2-3 days n from one hour to just about 10 mins n then we had a 2 week no convo gap and then he called me up one day for 5 mins to ask for an assignment.lol.I told him I liked him in another 2 weeks and asked him if he felt the same to which he refused initially but when I told him that its okay if you don't wanna get committed,he said that he did like me.I asked him about his past relationships to which he confessed that he did have one in the past but he didn't want to talk about it.we then had beautiful 5 days n then he backed off.after a week he returned Again n in another one month he confessed that he liked me.then he went cold again.on his birthday,I made some arrangements for him n he was overhelmed,had tears in his eyes,hugged me tight n told me that he doesn't deserve what I do for him.he was all lovey dovey that day and then in the night,he again backed off although we had regular convos n texting after that.he wished me on valentine's day,four days after his bday.after a day or so we again had a fight.he tried to sort out things the next Day but I didnt.n then we had a huge fight on a petty little issue-I Had made an assignment for him.he thought I was behaving like a girlfriend.he backed off again.n then we stopped talking.I said few mean things to him,including 'you don't exist for me anymore'(although I didn't mean a word)we didn't talk for 8 months.we got into second year of college.during this period,he got to know that many people knew about us from me although he wanted to keep it a secret.he once told amy friend that he broke because I was getting possessive about himI.I tried talking to him almost 3-4 times,cried,asked if we could be friends,but he wouldn't budge.he

Hi! Its kinda long but I really need help.Aqua males insights would be great.So there's this aqua guy in my class.I am on the cusp of Taurus n Gemini (20 May).when I was in first year of my college,I found him cute.my friends told me that he stared at me all the time.so I got into talking terms with him and we became friends.he was fun to talk with and we texted all day in the class which he would initiate and then I would call him up in the evening and we would have an hour long chat.he used to tell me that I was his only friend in the class(although he spoke to many) and said many sweet things even after a fight although I started most of them. he once told me that he didn't like getting into Relationships.in a month or so,our conversations reduced from everyday to every 2-3 days n from one hour to just about 10 mins n then we had a 2 week no convo gap and then he called me up one day for 5 mins to ask for an assignment.lol.I told him I liked him in another 2 weeks and asked him if he felt the same to which he refused initially but when I told him that its okay if you don't wanna get committed,he said that he did like me.I asked him about his past relationships to which he confessed that he did have one in the past but he didn't want to talk about it.we then had beautiful 5 days n then he backed off.after a week he returned Again n in another one month he confessed that he liked me.then he went cold again.on his birthday,I made some arrangements for him n he was overhelmed,had tears in his eyes,hugged me tight n told me that he doesn't deserve what I do for him.he was all lovey dovey that day and then in the night,he again backed off although we had regular convos n texting after that.he wished me on valentine's day,four days after his bday.after a day or so we again had a fight.he tried to sort out things the next Day but I didnt.n then we had a huge fight on a petty little issue-I Had made an assignment for him.he thought I was behaving like a girlfriend.he backed off again.n then we stopped talking.I said few mean things to him,including 'you don't exist for me anymore'(although I didn't mean a word)we didn't talk for 8 months.we got into second year of college.during this period,he got to know that many people knew about us from me although he wanted to keep it a secret.he once told amy friend that he broke because I was getting possessive about himI.I tried talking to him almost 3-4 times,cried,asked if we could be friends,but he wouldn't budge.he

Continued: he would stare at me even now,although not as much.one day one of my close friends went and told him everything I did for him without letting him know and told him to be friends with me as it would harm no one.he agreed.after that,only I would call him,he wouldn't.no texting.gradually,he has become more frank though,more than before,but not open.our convos are humorous.although in the start he makes me feel like a burden to him :/(which he said I am not because simply calling someone doesnt make you burden').we talk once a week for around two hours.on his bday,I did a lot many things for him but he didn't cut the cake or even take any gift(maybe that's because I told him,on our last fight that if he didn't feel for me,why did he take my gifts which I had given him with the obvious feeling of love.(what I actually meant was he should have not encourage d my feelings).n then we had a serious talk in which I asked him if he didnt feel for me anymore to which he said that its not that,he needs time,maybe this year,he said.this happened on Feb 10,2014.and presently the scenario is the same,a 2 hour long chat once a week.he still stares.he majorly remembers stuff I tell him.and he started wearing a shirt which I told looks good him 🙂 what is on his mind?

Continued: he would stare at me even now,although not as much.one day one of my close friends went and told him everything I did for him without letting him know and told him to be friends with me as it would harm no one.he agreed.after that,only I would call him,he wouldn't.no texting.gradually,he has become more frank though,more than before,but not open.our convos are humorous.although in the start he makes me feel like a burden to him :/(which he said I am not because simply calling someone doesnt make you burden').we talk once a week for around two hours.on his bday,I did a lot many things for him but he didn't cut the cake or even take any gift(maybe that's because I told him,on our last fight that if he didn't feel for me,why did he take my gifts which I had given him with the obvious feeling of love.(what I actually meant was he should have not encourage d my feelings).n then we had a serious talk in which I asked him if he didnt feel for me anymore to which he said that its not that,he needs time,maybe this year,he said.this happened on Feb 10,2014.and presently the scenario is the same,a 2 hour long chat once a week.he still stares.he majorly remembers stuff I tell him.and he started wearing a shirt which I told looks good him what is on his mind?

You already know the answer to your own questions. You just don't want to accept it.

He told you he didn't want a commitment. Not only that, but he wasn't even willing to open up to you about his past relationships. He's been inconsistent from the beginning. He backs off when he feels that things are getting too intense. Why? B/c he was serious then as he is now that a commitment is NOT what he wants. This man can handle simply being friends with you w/o getting attached emotionally to the point of wanting to commit to you, but you on the other hand, can't handle it.

This man has all but told you to move on, but you refuse to listen. He's told you what it was, but yet you kept chasing him & then getting mad when he acted the way a man acts when he is dead serious about not wanting a commitment.

You're sticking around hoping he'll change his mind. You hope he changes. You're hoping that 1 day he'll wake up & realize just how much of a ride-or-die you've been, thus giving you what you really want: all of him. You HOPE all of these things. Aaah gotta love wishful thinking.

This man has known you for years & yet he has NOT changed his mind. He may like you. Cool. But he doesn't like you ENOUGH to want to commit to you. And you being possessive or refusing to accept what he's told you isn't helping your case. And even if he does like you a lot, it doesn't matter if his fears of commitment outweigh & overpower any feelings he may have for you.

This man's actions showcase all that a man does when he's not looking/ready for a commitment, and yet all it takes for you to completely overlook everything he's been telling/showing you is b/c he wore a shirt that you complimented him on?!

Girlie, you're in denial. Big time! If you can't be his platonic friend w/o having expectations, then you cannot be his friend. Him backing off is his way of showing you better than he can tell you that you will NOT change his mind. If you had that power, it would've worked by now, so give it up.

You're beating a dead horse. A man can hang out with you, talk to you on occasion, & even compliment you every blue moon WITHOUT having a shred of feeling for you and without considering you commitment-potential. Know this. And you can't accuse him of leading you on b/c he told you flat out what to expect & what NOT to expect from the beginning.

You're expecting girlfriend treatment from a man who was honest enough to tell you that he friend-zoned you. You're expecting a commitment-phobe to go about things with a woman as if he's not a commitment-phobe. He's doing everything that a person who doesn't want commitment does!!! (hot/cold behavior, NOT committing, verbally saying he doesn't want a commitment, complimenting a woman but leaving it at that, pulling back the minute he senses that a woman didn't get the hint that he didn't want to be with her, etc.)

And that makes sense b/c he told you he didn't want a commitment!!! LOL

How can you not see that?!!!!

I think the root cause of his lack of interest is because you chased him. You tried too hard. You made girlfriend moves when he wasn't your boyfriend. Aquas like to know you're interested, but they don't like to be chased (no man does).

He's trying to be nice in telling you he's not interested, but you're going to push him to end up becoming colder and colder to you.

Your waiting around on him and continuing to chase him is just making you look desperate and needy - which is NOT attractive.

Step back, take a breath, analyze it, learn a lesson from it and move on.

Keep in mind, all this mental energy you're putting into this and he hasn't ever even asked you on a date. I bet yall haven't even kissed. He just wants to be friends - friends text, friends talk on the phone, friends share jokes....

Don't put any more effort into it. You deserve a guy who wants to be with you. So, start getting interested in other guys.

I'd keep the friendship, if possible, aquas make the bestest of best friends. 🙂

He's thinking you over not sure about you. He might not want a relationship right now or he like's the friend thing to go on for awhile. If I was you I would just ignore him you do seem a little possessive just from an aqua man point of view. Just ignore him for a month he will come crawling back if that's what you want.