Why do I do this?

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I have been testing my Aqua male lately...not purposely testing...what causes me to do this is that he is so damn quiet! He seems content...but, doesn't give me enough positive feedback!!

What ends up happening is that I will ask a question about 'us' and if his anwer is not perfect (!) I am convinced that it is over...
It is like I push him away...
We are both Aquarius, making us both the notoriously detached Sun sign...

This is what I have learned about a relationship with a male Aquarian is that it helps to have not only verbal conversations, but also to communicate in writing...notes, or e-mail....

My Aqua guy is more likely to give me the answers I am looking for in an e-mail than he is in person!

Do you feel this is true about Aqua males?
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Star,
I don't communicate verbally with my Aquarian friends when it comes to matter of the heart. I communicate more so by e-mail(electronic cards), regular cards, inexpensive but symbolic gifts (red or white rose). I listen to them to very closely and make mental notes. They usually bare their souls when they're going through something with another person, from there they usually begin to open up by discussing their hopes and dreams in the most sincerest of ways but beware, after the moment has passed you're back to square one again, not knowing what the heck is going on wiht him. Star, also try to pay attention to his actions and not so much his words. They always seem to act opposite of how they're really feeling.(That's to throw you off the trail, so you must be on to something).He probably feels the same as you do, he's just scared of saying it( doesn't want to be held to nothing; form of control), but give him time he will, especially if he needs some brownie points.

Star,it's like you have to study them because things are never what they seem with them. I just hope you have the energy and the patience to do so, the payoff is usually worth it though,or so I here.

Good Luck, Detective!

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Dear CB,

There you are sitting on the green wooden bench in the park. I have been looking for you. I see that you are enjoying the beautiful fall day watching the leaves fall from the trees and feeling the cool breeze dance across your face. Nice, isn't it?

Did you notice that Lady in the long black coat who just walked by? She left something for you across the path on the large stone. There sits one simple very red rose ready for you to hold and to allow the fragrance to penetrate your soul.

Enjoy your moment,
Freebird
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Good one, Freebird!

Rare Gem! Thanks for your insight and for your positive support! As it turns out, he e-mailed me back and in his e-mail, his words made me weak in the knees! I really thought we were taking a serious turn here...but, I couldn't get him to say it for the life of me...and he acted distant! so, I was ready to blow him off...(and I don't mean anything sexual! LOL!)

I do appreciate your response!

CB! Looks like you got a rose from a female! Good for you! You deserve it!
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Rare Gem!
I feel a kindred spirit within you also! LOL! What a joy! (I am serious...I was just writing to my distant cousin, Cwab, and he gets me all silly, so forgive me is some of the silliness is still with me!)

I do know that you are correct about the patience...and you are also correct about my determination ! and going after what I want!! LOL!

I expressed some of my feelings to him in an e-mail and he e-mailed back saying that he didn't understand why I would feel that wasy, etc....that I am his woman and his girl...(melt my heart!!) I love a man who is willing to realize that there is a woman before him but also a little girl inside...
Natch I wrote back and said, 'in that case, you are my man and my boy!'
You are right, it will come! Thanks! Rare Gem!!

Butterflies rank up there with fairies and angels in my opinion, Freebird and CB!!

Life is good! I hope all is well for all of you!
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LOL star, i do the same too, if the person doesnt give me the answer I want to hear i go "OMG HE DOESNT LOVE ME ANYMORE!!!!!" -_-' and well for aqua guys, the aqua guys i know are like really loud and stuff but they cant really EXPRESS themselves when it comes down to serious emotional things, but they can say it better and let it out online, its weird like that, i think its cus they feel comfortable without someone infront of their face to see their reactions and stuff.