Why oh Why?!

I've been reading these boards for a bit now as I've been dating an Aqua for a couple of months and I thought I'd let you know how it's going for me. At first he was attentive, affectionate and made such an effort to see me I thought maybe I'd got his sign wrong (I've dated a few Aqua's and always found them quite aloof in that area). So then a few weeks ago he tells me he loves me. I couldn't say it back as I didn't feel that way, which I explained to him and he seemed quite happy with that. But now it's almost like he's got me so he doesn't try as hard as he used to. He's still affectionate and stuff but other things seem to take priority now, like his band and stuff. There's always a real tension between us (I'm Taurus), like who can be the most stubborn and just niggling little things which we wind each other up about. I know that our two signs aren't the best match, but I am very happy with him and hope it continues. Was just wondering how to deal with this slight aloofness that seems to have appeared?
His moon is in Aries, ascendant Cancer and venus/mars Pisces.

He is probably just feeling a little more comfortable around you now.I have been dating an Aquarius for 10 months now and in the beginning there was a lot of arguments and tension. Just think of it as teething problems,think its a case of getting used to each others personalities. Just to let you know though, you will never take priority in Aqua mans life, you will prob be up there with the rest of the stuff but he HAS to do his own thing, it is just the way he is. Doesn't mean he doesn't love you or want to be with you. If you give Aqua man his space he will love you all the more for it.

I am cancer and aqua and i are meant to be the most incompatible of signs.. dont dwell too much on the fact your signs are not meant to be a good match. With a few adjustments you can get there in the end! My aqua boyfriend and i seem to be getting over the teething problems and are more accepting of each others faults. It does take a little time and patience though!

I agree with that one...you wont see him for dust!!!

Oh I'm not gonna get possessive, I'm very protective of my own space, was just wondering why there had been a subtle shift, but I understand what lunarlady says about never being top priority. Least it takes some pressure off me!!! I do have patience, just unfortunately not really with other people, which kind of defeats the whole purpose of having any patience in the first place! Must admit, sometimes I feel like he thinks I'm being too pushy just because I'll ask him when he fancies meeting up again or I'll text him after work to see how his day was. If he doesn't answer then I don't get worried, just wait until he does! He works funny shifts so I like to know when he might be free so I can make sure I have other things going on when I don't see him. Will he see that as being too possessive?

I agree copperhead, they hate making plans in advance.When i first starting dating my Aqua i never used to ask about meeting up cos being a true cancerian i'm scared of rejection.Trouble is, he is the same and he just kind of used to say, "what are you doing tonight? "..that was Aqua talk for "do you want to do something later?"...The not making plans thing is not just a male aqua thing, my mom is aqua and hates to commit to a hair appointment!!
I dont think he will think you are being to possesive by asking when he is free. You could always try asking " what are you doing tonight ? " lol

I think you become top priority when they finally come to terms with the fact they are in love with you.. that takes them a while!!.

leos are impossible. X__X

leokitten, let me ask you something. And I beg of you, please answer honestly, truthfully...

How much do we really have to sacrifice for you leos. And I am being dead serious..

Don't be afraid to tell us how far we really have to go. If you truly want us to prove it to you leos, seriously...WHAT is sacrifice to you...how far—

"they hate making plans in advance"

-LOL!!! this is true for every aqua male... they do not make plans in advance, ever!
although, my aqua has been getting a lot better about it. he decided to go to a wedding with me that is at the end of April, and he is planning already for it...go figure!
but, usually his famous words are "don't worry about it, babe. we'll figure something out"...whenever i talk about planning ahead of time...

"Trouble is, he is the same and he just kind of used to say, "what are you doing tonight? "..that was Aqua talk for "do you want to do something later?"..."

-this is so funny to read, b/c that is exactly how it is with me and my aqua bf!!!
and still, after almost 3 years together...he still does that. he will call me and ask what my plans are for the night, but he will never come out and ask me to do something...so funny!!!

I offered to take my Aqua away for the weekend for his bday and i asked him 3 weeks prior to the date, you should have seen the horror on his face. I had to laugh....

yeah, my aqua planned valentine's on valentine's day!!! but, it was really nice. he cooked me an amazing dinner and it was very romantic...

Arrg - I dont know if I like the comfortable Aqua - take last night - he sat on the bed with the music blarring playing with photos on some picture program - most nights he will will be either trying to find tabs, cords & lyrics or f'ing around with one of his many elect. gadgets - they come first me talking.... later - like next month later - but when hes all mine mentally its a lovin feeling 🙂
Just annoying sometimes!!

how much do you have to give to a leo? it is not about sacrifice. i would never ask anyone to give something up. it is about balance. it is about realizing that if you are going to be one half of a functioning partnership that you need balance and compromise. so you get to do your stuff....but not as often. that goes for both people. how can you expect to be in a relationship and not have to compromise? or expect to live your life as if you are still single and expect the other person to just put up with it? that is just plain selfish and disrespectful.

each person needs to give a little...


dang. WEll I did that. And he didn't seem to appreciate it. Wait, are we suppose to tell you all what we've sacrificed. do you want talk or demonstration??

Let's say..I've never had a cell phone in my life, but I decide to get one just to talk to you long distance...is that showing anything?

What if I use my spare time to talk to you rather than for my hobbies..

What if I sacrifice what I usually do..just to satisfy you.

For example, I was going to church the other night and *He* called right before I was about to leave..and he dared me to not go just this once..and initially I told him no and acted like he was crazy but then he said he wouldn't talk to me at all then..
I finally sacrificed..but then he said he was JOKING...and this is RARE...

It's just so hard.. I would never give up my morals...do you want us to give up our morals too?? Or would you rather find someone who would give up more than we do and move on from us??

Cause really, that is totally unfair...Can't we love you and still respect ourselves and be loyal to what we've put our heart into already..without sacrificing it?? Because we are loyal to an extreme. I mean really...I love my family..and this guy was telling me to curse them out when they were mean to me. And I just don't and WON'T do that..

Is the leo just gonna not care—

(However, I will note that this guy is a Virg with venus in leo, descendant in leo and ceres in leo)

I will say, he is not my source of joy. He is just someone I admire and respect because he is one the best guys I've ever met, honest to God. However, along with having a wonderful side, he also has a negative side, but not in the ordinary sense, as you can see.

ALmost like he is bipolar, but his positive side definately makes up for it. Plus, I care about him deeply because of what he's gone through..as far as his traumatic past. Plus, he loses people close to him..he's lost friends, he's thought of himself as worthless his entire life, I'm assuming because he was adopted.

And I really think I have a purpose in his life...Not sure about him doing anything for me..But I am defiantely a person that can and I am willing to help him..so you know..

And no we're not in relationship. We are just friends. He was doing that when he was "giving me another chance"(even though we were never friends let alone anything else to begin with) after I said that I wanted to meet him later on in life..but ended up giving at least frienship between us another chance but then he found out I had feelings for him and he said he also did for me but he had a g/f and it all went Downhill from their..I just can't trust someone like that. No matter how sincere he is..

I have to teach him a lot before we get anything off the ground, really Leokitten..

Anywho, do you leos take instruction okay..? Do you want it done a certain way.

For example, let's say I said that I would like you to use differenet words besides foul language..and I asked nicely...would you all care to change such things? Or would you only do it for someone that you have an actual serious relationship with?

AMEN AND AMEN..why didn't I think of that!!!!

THANK YOU!!!!
*huggles*

stupid scorpio moon blinds the hell out of me when I get emotional.(I would say)