Arians do you sulk?

So I met this guy last Nov and he starts pursuing me...kinda sweet I thought but didnt really know much about him and he was persistant... as we dont live in the same country. Of course because of that reason I'm not jumping in fast if at all. We went out once and then met at a party during my stay. No real fireworks. After I returned home he continues to be-friend me and 3 months later I'm back in the country and he follows me down to a huge national event that he knew I was going to and makes his way to where I am and spends most of the day with me and my friends.

He's kept in touch and we have maintained that we are friends. Although he has made it pretty obvious that he would like more...I havent been totally upfront telling him that I'm not interested in a casual relationship and he hasnt been upfront in telling me it's only sex he really wants!

So the other day he invites me to attend a wedding with him and as usual speels about wanting to be around family and friends and having some alone time away from our usual crowd so we can get to know each other. Without really thinking I except. We have one room in a hotel and I start to think about the whole thing and realise that i have unintentionally led him to believe that I'm up for the whole deal...

so I try to re-tract my steps and tell him that we are going as friends only and that I'd like to keep it simple. He asks well what were you expecting we live in different countries pretty much implying how simple it will be— I reply...yes lets keep it simple friends only, no sex!

Well he basically tried to turn it all on me saying that I was changing my mind and that he would text me closer to the time to see if I still wanted to go becasue I might change my mind again and then without waiting for my response signed out!!!

I sent a nice email explaining that I would still come if he liked and to let me know what he wants to do but once again made it Clear that it was friendship based only...I have changed the room we had booked as well which he doesnt know of!

Now how long is this Arian going to sulk for? Is that what he is doing? Or is it just to get me to feel like I need him and change my mind about the whole deal? Would like to know what he is thinking but wont contact him again as i feel I explained myself in the email and it's up to him to cool down or whatever it is he is doing.

thanks Lovely for your imput...

online he invited me to the wedding which is in Oct and we both have to fly to the destination, it's local for me and he said it would be better if he had someone to accompany him as it is an old school friend...I thought great time to take a break and attend a function and spend time together, then realised after that we had one double room with a double bed and then all of a sudden he was making noises about what we would get up to. Yes, I didnt think and probably led him into believing it would be like that...but I took a moment and realised it wasnt what I wanted and told him that I would still come but purely on a friendship basis!


makes sense the way he is acting I guess, however I'm prepared to let it go at that because he wants what he wants and that is sex at all costs, well that is what I NOW believe from the attitude. I've apologised for misleading him and now he snubs me...thing is he'll have to figure it out himself now cos I think a libran is more stubborn when they feel they are right and I wont budge or give in to meaningless sex!

He has been persistant saying he isnt after sex (previously) and making out that he wants someone to settle down, I guess he thought that is what I want to hear!

Tbh, I was annoyed at his reaction at first and now I see it more for what it really is...a game!!!

Yep you're right why would I invest my body and mind for a fling— And yes control over my personal welfare is what i have!

So a guy does a little chasing and speels a little flattery and thinks that is enough to get them into bed with someone, I guess it works for a lot of women these days but not this chick!! Also regardless of what he thought about this whole trip...at least he knows upfront what he wont be getting, so he can thank his lucky stars that he hasnt wasted his time and there is certainly enough time to run off and find someone else to take my place.

At the end of the day what it really comes down to is...this guy regardless of his star sign has said everything he thinks I want to hear so that he can bed me, given he has been persistant but that just shows how far a guy will go at times...so sulk if you must, it never got my kids anywhere and it certainly wont get a grown man into my bed!!!

i dunno. if an aries is planning in advance and getting all upset, he probably isn't just looking for sex. if he just wants sex, it's pretty easy to get. they don't have the attention span to pursue a meaningless fling that won't be able to happen for a couple months. they're also pretty romantic. maybe he's hoping to sweep you off your feet and live happily ever after (ie the secret libra fantasy that we pretend we don't have). now, to you it isn't practical to think something serious could happen, so it's easy to assume he just wants a fling. but aries don't think of what's practical. they just think "ok. time to bust my ass so i can get what i want."

i just think you took things the wrong way.

@ DP at what way have I played him for a fool? I have simple decided that I'm not interested in a sexual relationship/fling with him given the circumstances of distance and there is no way around it.

@ CV yes I do believe he was intending to do something romantic from some of the things he was saying so after some careful thought I told him straight up so he could rethink because it wasnt going to be that way. My bluntness (bad trait) may have injured him which is why I took the time to apologise in the email. I thought we were friends and that he would be happy enough with that...in all the time we have had together we havent even kissed, only talked.

So I will wait til he get over his (whatever he is going through) and I'm sure we can make amends...maybe