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Hi all, I'm back!!! I missed Dxp. Not sure if anyone would remember me but I was always in the Aries section to pick up tips for my relationship with my Aries. Being with a Aries is not easy, especially for a Pisces since we are emotional. So unfortunately we broke up. But now he is back after 5 or 6 months apart. It feels like we never broke up, we kinda just jumped back in the same routine. I do want to talk to him about what happened between us cause I'm still not exactly sure what happened, but I don't know if it's a good idea should I just leave it in the past and look towards the future since he didn't mention it? My Aries doesn't really express his feelings unless I get it out of him, I told him I love him and he says he cares for me and he has a hard time saying the word love only his mother gets that word (he's a mama boy) I know part of it has to do with a long relationship he had way before me but it seems like he didn't get over the pain. I also want to know do Aries say one thing and mean another?. Because before we got back together my cousin tried to talk to him about me and he replied "I don't want to talk about that relationship she broke up with me" But when he saw me that same week all of that went out the window he was smiling, trying to make conversation with me, and he made the first move by kissing me. One thing I find very true from what I have read in this forum that Aries never notice hints, sometimes I am very shy around him so I try to make hints to what I want and he never gets it, maybe I should be brave like him and just say what I want.

for those of you that don't really know about my Aries and I, I will try to write a brief summary about us.

I have known my Aries since I was 15, I am now 19 and he just turned 21. We always had some kind of chemistry between us, but I never paid attention to him till I was 17 going on 18, he chased me down which I liked. He seemed open in the beginning but when we got real serious I felt like he shut down sometimes, I couldn't really handle his hot and cold behavior one minute it felt like he was in the relationship and the next minute I felt like he didn't care about me. Now that I understand him a little better I don't really stress over that. Maybe it's my Pisces nature we are very understanding.

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I'm glad the things are working out for you now. You've stepped back, had the time to see the situation more clearly and now you're being very understanding, good for you.
I on the other hand.
I can no longer handle the hot and cold behavior of my Aries. I don't even want to understand it any longer really, I feel I deserve better than that. I've tried and tried and tried communicating with him, but he just sucks at it. All I do is try try try, which is why I no longer will.

I understand it is very hard and at times I do want to give up. But I love him so I will see how it goes.

Hi Sensual, welcome back! Posting your charts would help.

The first ? that pops in my mind is how did you get back together without talking about what happened? If he's the type that relies on you to get a meaningful convo going, than do it. You can't really progress in your relationship if you can't communicate. Couples will fall back into the same patterns so it's important to keep moving forward and learn from the mistakes. And that means talking about it.

Hi mistery thanks for the welcome back. I know that it sounds weird that we didn't talk about it. We just didn't lol, we talked about everything else what was going on with us, How much we miss each other etc.. I wanted to bring it up but he seems like the type that doesn't like to dwell on the past. For example recently he was mad at one of our friends because he gave him advice on his marriage and our friend went back and told his wife what was said. Instead of mentioning to him that he was mad about that he just didn't talk to him for two days and he was over it. Our break up wasn't over cheating or anything like that, It was more like we both was stressed out with daily life situations and I was getting tired of his hot and cold behavior that I just ended it with him, even though I didn't want to. It's not easy to talk to my Aries about serious issues, the only time I really get him to talk is if we are arguing and he sees that I'm really upset other then that he would mostly say that it's hard to understand him and that I wouldn't understand him.

I will post our charts later on when I have time.

Welcome Back!!

@ Flava thank you for the welcome back it's much appreciated.
@ DetailsPlease You are so right sometimes I don't think about what I want I am so consumed with what do he want, how to make him happy. I plan on talking to him soon. I don't know if you guys believe in psychics but I spoke to mine that I have known for 2 yrs now and she said that he loves me but is afraid to say it because he doesn't want to say it and hurt me or easily walk away from the relationship, because of his past relationship he doesn't stay in relationships long. She said it can work between us if I can change him and have patience. Idk what I am going to do I just know that I love him.
@ Mistery I don't remember the sites for the charts, but then again I don't know the time I was born or the time he was born I just know the dates

Here's a good one: http://abacusastrology.co.uk/amatch.html

HIS
Sun 29' 25' Aries
Moon 11' 33' Libra
Mercury 14' 56' Taurus
Venus 03' 10' Taurus
Mars 24' 02' Gemini
Jupiter 07' 10' Gemini
Saturn 13' 49' Capricorn
Uranus 05' 17' Capricorn
Neptune 12' 23' Capricorn
Pluto 14' 03' Scorpio

MINE
Sun 08' 57' Pisces
Moon 29' 33' Leo
Mercury 07' 11' Pisces
Venus 06' 60' Aries
Mars 13' 16' Gemini
Jupiter 05' 01' Leo
Saturn 02' 15' Aquarius
Uranus 12' 50' Capricorn
Neptune 16' 07' Capricorn
Pluto 20' 12' Scorpio

How were the synastry aspects? Your guy shares my guy's planet's; mercury in Taurus & venus in Taurus. They don't talk about things too much because they think about them & come to their own conclusion. Pretty self-contained; combine that with Aries sun, and yeah, he's got it all figured out. You have to be practical & prepare yourself with specific points when addressing an issue. Discussing feelings is not a comfortable thing for them but will when engaged in the right way. Be rational & use 'just the facts' with him. Which may be hard for you since your mercury is in Pisces so you'll need to prepare.
You have very different ways of communicating; he's all facts & how does this relate to reality & you're about feeling & what could happen, should happen ideally. His mars in Gemini might make him more receptive once you get the ball rolling.

It basically said that we have a strong attraction to each other sexually and spiritually, but it's hard to talk about important issues , we would be able to work well together and have fun in each others company. And your right I'm more about feelings and he's all about facts. What's the right way to get him to express his feelings? Aries do what they want if he doesn't want to talk about it he wouldn't.