aries and leo?

ive just recently met this aries guy, he's really giving and different to anyone that i've talked to. in that way i mean that we have alot of similarities and i can tell that his heart is genuinely good, however he has alot of psychological problems and i don't think at the moment i am the most mentally stable person. i don't think that a relationship between us will work out because i'm a very self sabotaging person and when things are going good i always do something to ruin it. additionally im still sort-of involved with my capricorn ex (we only broke very recently) who i dated for a year and had very deep feelings for, it's like me and him can't escape eachother and have this powerful burning magnetic attraction and my emotions for him can't subside.

this aries has just waltzed into my life at quite a difficult time yet he seems too good to be true, the dilemma here is that me and my capricorn are opposites but we still are very much in love - the split was due to the long distance, and he couldn't deal with not being able to be there with me physically, and me being a leo was crushed under the pressure of this too. however i now am going to his country in 2 months, i really don't know what to do because the aries guy seems like the realistic relationship opportunity to go for - however i know that my relationship with my capricorn was nothing that i'd ever had before.

im basically stuck in between and i know this seems extremely selfish, im not leading the aries man on at all, i infact told him i'm emotionally confused myself and don't know what to do. he seemed upset because he was determined to woo me over but i don't know if i should continue my relationship with my capricorn, i still undoubtedly love him alot but i dont know?

Posted by oxSunQueenxo
Wait, you're going to visit your Cap ex in another country after y'all have broken up?

i booked the ticket before we broke up and wasn't going to tell him but then eventually i caved in and told him, tickets weren't refundable so RIP me.

Posted by LuckyLioness

Posted by oxSunQueenxo
Wait, you're going to visit your Cap ex in another country after y'all have broken up?

i booked the ticket before we broke up and wasn't going to tell him but then eventually i caved in and told him, tickets weren't refundable so RIP me.

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additionally it was like a surprise, since he was meant to originally come down to london and see me in march - so then i'd follow him back in april if that makes sense? but then it turns out that he couldn't come in march due to a really serious circumstance irl so here i am lmao

Posted by oxSunQueenxo

Posted by LuckyLioness

Posted by oxSunQueenxo
Wait, you're going to visit your Cap ex in another country after y'all have broken up?

i booked the ticket before we broke up and wasn't going to tell him but then eventually i caved in and told him, tickets weren't refundable so RIP me.

Well, what did he say when you told him that you're going to see him?

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initially, he was upset since we broke up and he spent this time away from me mourning when i could've told him straight away when he suggested a break due to the distance that i was coming to see him. but if im honest i needed time away from him to get my head together, and it was within that time away that i met this aries. i didn't really talk to him during my time away until recently where i said, fuck i'm going to his country and this dude is someone i really loved/love - im not even going to tell him that im gonna be there? two days before valentines day i caved in and told him and then he was upset that i spent money on a ticket to come see him, and also i told him that if i go there i would be okay with seeing him as a friend incase he'd already moved on (but its obvious he hadn't and was still feeling pretty bad) and he said it would probably cause alot of pain for the both of us unless we got back together before we met. so now i don't know but that's the entire situation i guess. but i know that he still loves me just as much, the day i told him he seemed happy that we could actually see eachother and make it a reality but yeah, the reason why i needed the break was because i was becoming too emotionally dependent on him - in reference to the whole 'self sabotage' thing i said above, i become too dependent on my partner then have no independence. it took this week away for me to have reflection and now i can see things clearer, but im still not sure about what to do you know.

Posted by ItsMeRoman
👹 lol this isn’t going to go too well

my life is confusing as hell lmao, being friends with me is fun bc you get to hear about all the drama, but you don't wanna be tied up in my love life 🙃🙃

Sounds like you you dont need either at this time in your life. Sort out yourself first before bringing another around such an unstable/confused energy-it will never end well.

It may be a good idea to leave both these men alone until you start to feel more stable

Someone could get hurt 💔

Thank you all, that's actually what i honestly decided to do in the end.

It's not rational for me to throw myself into or back into another relationship, and i just needed that guidance, this'll be the last post from me about being confused in relationships hopefully 😪