Aries, do you hold grudges?

I have two sisters, both Aries. One HATES fighting, will always try to avoid it, and is extremely emotional and open with her feelings. The other never shows her feelings and is very argumentative and forceful in her opinions. In fact at the moment, with this sister, we aren't speaking and haven't spoken for more than a week. In 25 years I never had such a fight with my sister, we've always been very close. But now I'm wondering if this serious fight has ended our relationship for good.

She just needs to let off some steam. I'm like this with my Gemini brother. He's a total ass when he drinks and then can't remember shit the next day, but I do and what he did or said when he was drunk affected me so I stay away from him and keep myself detached because he annoys me so much when it happens, but he's my brother and within a month it's normally back to mellow. Until the next time. Feel free to explain the situation so we can understand a bit more.
As far as holding grudges goes: normally if shit hits the fan and an argument goes down, the air just needs to be cleared and then it'll be fine. It's a different story if there's betrayal involved though. Then we'll write you off because we just won't be able to trust you anymore. That can last a lifetime.
Sounds like ur sis just needs time to mellow out a bit over the situation. If she's not talking to you, you may have really hurt her feelings. I've had a friend who really hurt me and I didn't talk to her for a month because I was so devastatingly hurt with what she had said to me. Then one day, when I was ready I just spoke to her again. It was neverthe same again though. I still considered her my friend but I had learnt she was capable of hurting me and that I shouldn't get too close just so I could protect myself.

The thing is that she is actually in the wrong and not me, but she's so stubborn she won't see that. I know that's typical Aries! The odd thing is that my other sister isn't like that. She always backs down and never cares about having the last word or winning a fight.

My dad and my son are both Aries. They are a little hot headed. They say what they mean and mean what they say. They are stubborn about it, too. And arrogant, OMG! Usually, they are pissed for a while, then come around. They don't apologize though. You just have to know they are over being pissed. Let it go and she will come around.

Now us Caps...we don't forget. That is what makes mine and thier relationships more difficult.

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Posted by tatbubba
The thing is that she is actually in the wrong and not me, but she's so stubborn she won't see that. I know that's typical Aries! The odd thing is that my other sister isn't like that. She always backs down and never cares about having the last word or winning a fight.

What is she in the wrong about?

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I can't really say everything as it's very personal but it has to do with shirking certain financial responsibilities towards my father... she is being very selfish, a trait which both my sisters have to a greater or lesser extent

It's more complicated than that because at the moment I'm the only one of us who is taking this joint responsibility and I'm the one in the least capable position to do it! My sisters are both well off financially and the responibility is a big one - funeral expenses for our mother. So I'm not going to butt out and let them get away with it because frankly the thought disgusts me.

Cancer. It hurts more because I was the one who took care of her at the end and I just feel like to the outside world they put on an act of how much they miss her for example through facebook, but they don't really care. Instead I am the opposite, I hate to talk about it (and I'm a Gem, I love talking) because I don't like people to see me cry every time, but I miss her every second of every day without telling anybody, not even my dad.

pick your grudges

i dont really care much about revenge but i guess it depends on the situation
if its something really bad then i might have my revenge if i have the chance
otherwise i just quickly forgive but never forget ;P