In love with an aries who doesn't belong to me.

Okay heres the situation in a nutshell. I met aries in 2008. I was instantly drawn to him. He lived with his girlfriend and mother of his first child. We crept for about 4 months. And I didn't care being the side because I had friends of my own, they just couldn't satisffy me sexually, and that's where he came in. we have alot of things in common, so much that I developed feelings. I then called it off, in a not so mature way, and that was it. They later had another child, so I know his devotion to her grew. I had not seen or heard from him until december, in the most unlikely places....walmart....not unlikely right. Well it was 30 minutes on the other side of town, from where I live. why that walmart when it's one down the street. I was christmas shopping, and they had it stock. I avoided him as best I could but wouldn't let up, following me, till I spoke. He finally said something and I gave in, we exchanged numbers and that was it, I gave it 3 weeks before I gave it to him. Thats how drawn I am to him. He swears its fate that we met again I say coincedence. Anyway there is a age difference I'm 27 and hes.24. I have 3 kids, he has 2. He basically laid it out to me that he'so not leaving her because of the kids and hes a great father. But hes that cocky to say I want my cake and eat it to. But I'm the only one who gets that privilege. Ass right. We have great conversation and I love him as a friend, but I can't stand his arrogant attitude . I know its sex, I guess, I stopped tho, because of my feelings. We see each other from time to time but the chemistry is locked. Just the other night he said we were supposed to be together if only I cull have met you first......I know that's a line right and he likes that I won't have sex with him because it keeps him on his toes, and lets him know he haas to step it up come around more and take me out. I care about him and I have feelings for him, but I told him Iwould not be 2nd. He understands, and he knows I talk to other guys but he just says I'm
too good for them. Im confused, does anybody understand this.

Obviously he is happy in the relationship where he is or he would have left.

Tell him not to call you until his testicles have dropped.

"But I'm the only one who gets that privilege."


Bull shit.

He's cheating on a woman AND his kids. Your emotional state is picked up by your kids and what you do in life is observed by your kids. Do you want to set a good example and have a decent man in your life or do you just love to play games and pretend it doesn't matter?
This is not as thrilling or romantic as you'd like it to be. It doesn't make you a better woman to win this cheater over his girlfriend. All you'll do is get his loser ass on your couch while you work, pay his bills and he finds another to cheat on you with.
Grow up, woman up and be decent. Once you do that, you'll meet a man worthy to be in your life 100% that you can love and trust. Anything less ain't worth it.

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So do any of you think its worth having a friendship, even though we have had sex, or just cut ties. He knows I'm dating butt always wants details, y. He knows we are simply friends, but the slight jealousy I sense is kinda annoying. What's the best way to cut ties with an aries without hurting his pride. ima virgo so I run anyway when it comes too love, so its easy for me to drop him but I actually care about his feelings.

Not sure what the protocol is for staying friends with married folk....
Mistery is the wise soul to counsel you on that.

Some people will tell you that 50% of marriages will end in divorce and it seems like a shame to lose touch with someone and find out 10 years later that they DID split up but couldn't find you and married another wrong'un.

Don't you virgos love love?

This sounds really harsh and I am the last person on earth to tell you to do this but stop worrying about his feelings and look after you.


Why does he want details of who you are dating? That sounds a little creepy. That sort of top secret information is strictly for your IRL girlfriends and people on DXP, not married ex-lovers.

Okay I am a virgo and I'm not being a smart ass. I probably am contradicting myself, hello...I'm confused. But to wrap this up I guess I am being an idiot, for even dealing with him in. any form....he is not married though. guess the next time he calls be a decent woman and just tell him not to call anymore, I think its infatuation, cuz he is gorgeous. But that he should focus on his family and I mine. He is obviously a dog, so I can do better, my hole thing was, hes taken I'm not, we both want each other, him mre about sex than I. Me more than sex....I don't want the "label" but I want an exclusive commitment.....(labels scare me), but if we were to go there, it would be a secret, I'm too fine for that, so thanks for the advice.......hes special to me but I guess because I can't have him. Sooooo goodbye my precious aries til next time( in an overly dramatic Gone With The Wind Voice)

Oh and rnap I'm actually terrified of love, so I keep my distance, thats why for a while I was fine being the side, but I'm older and I've done some self improvement stuff, and I'm still scared butt I'm willing to get over it for the right person, but its hard to avoid the bad eggs. For some reason it seems I have side chick or mistress written on my face.married and taken and 40 plus is what I attract, 3 kids intimidate men. An older guy 49 said I give off this vibe of cold and emotionally unavailable, and this is 5 minutes of conversation, but he also said I was too particular, but very grounded and smart. Can married and cheaters,.sense this as an easy kill so to speak.....ijw

Wow! This is an interesting story.

Aries are arrogant, but I just love myself too much to be second best when it comes to men and relationships. I don't give a flying fuck how sexy they are.

You're not very smart if you're messing around with a taken man. Do you have any morals at all?

Posted by beachkisses
You're not very smart if you're messing around with a taken man. Do you have any morals at all?

Well why does the "taken" guy want to mess around outside of his relationship? Where are HIS morals?
Takes two to tango luv.

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by beachkisses
You're not very smart if you're messing around with a taken man. Do you have any morals at all?

Well why does the "taken" guy want to mess around outside of his relationship? Where are HIS morals?
Takes two to tango luv.

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Exactly.
But she posted this, so the question is addressed to her.

Posted by beachkisses

Posted by ReallyNiceAriesPerson

Posted by beachkisses
You're not very smart if you're messing around with a taken man. Do you have any morals at all?

Well why does the "taken" guy want to mess around outside of his relationship? Where are HIS morals?
Takes two to tango luv.

Exactly.
But she posted this, so the question is addressed to her.

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Perhaps I have read the OP's posts incorrectly?
I thought it was the guy (the married guy) chasing her down in walmart and wanting to know all about her dates?

Doesn't sound to me to be worth the heartache. He's never going to leave - he said so. And as long as you are friends with him, you will continue to feel something for him. Protect yourself and your heart. Be done with him so you can move on. In the end, the kids are the ones who will suffer and they deserve to see you happy with someone who treats you well. I don't know how old they are, but they deserve to see what a happy, healthy relationship looks like so they don't grow up thinking this is normal and walk in your footsteps.

I hope that doesn't sound cold or harsh, just looking out for the kiddos.