Aries Girl - Why the stubbornness ...

Hey, so wondering if the Arien women can shed some light.

Dating an Aries girl for coming up to 3 months and things had been going great. As far as I knew. Few hiccups. Up to this point, couple ironed out one up on the air, and one to follow. Became exclusive, deleted dating accounts on POF. We were getting on great one yesterday we went out. I didn't get laid till today and yesterday when we was out forgot to transfer some money between accounts. anyway, Bill time and I gave her my wallet to hold earlier, forgetting that and looking for it knew I had no cash accept change and mentioned I have nothing, she got her card out and paid, now admittedly I kind of assumed oh she'll pay. Not thinking it'd be an issue. She paid I paid the tip, " oh you said you had no cash" no only change, things turned weird after ... Dropped her home things being awkward knew something was up. Today find out she was annoyed and thought I was ending arrogant with regards to her paying. Said no immediately apologised. Slipped my mind, now I didn't think it'd be an issue, because I've paid 75% of bills, even spent £80 in one day in us both. That doesn't bother me cos I like her and its what gentlemen do. She also said I've had a couple of outbursts which is trivial, because one she caused but it wasnt aimed at her just in general. And one time she interrupted me 5 times but it was banter. Now she's ended on those reasons. Arrogance last night, and 3 outbursts. Long story short, is it normal to just end it after this much effort and good times based on their few things. Considering I had to drag her out one evening as she left her purse at work and the meal cost £110. Didn't baulk and didn't ask for anything either.

Wow that was so long

Get paid hahaha

COMMUNICATION IS KEY. Tell her how you feel, she should appreciate that. If she's not willing to compromise, then cut her off (if you want to).

Agreeing with above^

It's gonna sound stupid but in the early stages aries girls want to be made.feel special (not saying you didn't do that just to be clear)
But that means old chivalry and paying for dates. After u gone solid she will probably pay just about anything because she loves to spoil, but never on demand. And an unannouced "hey u get this one is no good..
If the man ask her out..be prepared to pay, if the aries girl ask you out, she has made sure she has the funds to spend.

Aries girls must respect a man to love him, and to say after dinner hey sorry..don't have money is like saying hey i'm an lousy ass that couldn't be bothered telling u in advance.

A guy asked me out for a third date..told me after the meal : u get it,didnt bring my card- he lost my respect. And I have no problem paying for stuff, I had paid for another hockey game date etc..but I initiated it..that's the difference.

There are holes to this story, and I think she didn't fully understand what you meant with regards to the payment. I think it kind of came off like you were trying to rip her off and take advantage of her (thats how she might have taken it), and she doesn't know you that well- it's only been three months. Trust is something that takes YEARS for rams. I think it turned her off.

"I feel like you possibly want her to start contributing more to splitting bills and instead of bringing this up directly you "conveniently" forgot to transfer funds"- I completely agree with what twodrink said here. It was almost as if it sounded premeditated, like you "accidentally forgot on purpose". I would honestly just talk to her about it straight and have a real conversation about the situation to clear the air.

"Considering I had to drag her out one evening....."- I think she thinks you treat her like a child. Aries women are very opinionated, and sometimes our thoughts can be projected as banter, when really we just like discussing things intellectually, and we can have moments of being passionate.

"A guy asked me out for a third date..told me after the meal : u get it,didnt bring my card- he lost my respect. And I have no problem paying for stuff, I had paid for another hockey game date etc..but I initiated it..that's the difference".- what bexi said here also makes perfect sense. If I initiated the idea, and us spending time together was more of a play it by ear type of thing, then yes, I would have absolutely no problem paying. In fact I do not EXPECT anyone to pay. But the thing is, I'm used to taking care of myself. When there is a definitive label that an aries woman and the man are TOGETHER, of course we don't EXPECT the person to pay every single time, but its nice to hear that he wants to. Actually, rammy women are quite gentle and sensitive at heart. I think this situation made her insecurities grow a bit more because maybe she thought you didn't care as much as she thought you did.

There has to be a communication issue between the two of you. I understand you are very old school and you like to treat a lady like a lady, but you have to realize aries is a cardinal, MASCULINE sign. Al though we can be all about business, we have a hidden femininity people overlook. Sometimes in relationships, aries women want to feel like the woman, and it is hard feeling that way when you've grown up being labelled as a tomboy or a "strong personality". I think this is a combination of her own insecurities, and maybe you not understanding the deeper underlying issues. I would have taken that situation the wrong way as well (by the way you described it), but I'm sure your intent wasn't to rip her off. I think it was a misunderstanding. Btw, what sign are you if you don't mind me asking?

nvm I just saw your username, you're a gemini lol. What are your astrological placements though...and what are hers?

Yes Biosynthesis
A man who can make us feel like a "precious princess", girly girl or just a woman for that matter is really a jackpot!
We tend to wear the pants, but it doesn't mean it's by choice always, just because quite often no one else 'man up" means we have to :p
I actually think men dating aries women often misintepret that for her wanting to be bossy and deal with everything her way.
But it's not their fault, we don't always say these things straight up.

Thanks for your comments and insight. I don't use credit cards and have a debit card and it completely slipped my mind that I had to transfer some over. I didn't mention it until the time and when the bill came I was and did make the effort, before I could actually explain anything she got her card out. Now I guess I made the mistake of her being ok with that - but at the same time if it was an issue why not mention it at the time. I've since said I understand what the issue was and it was slight on my part apologised and have said that it won't happen again.

Believe me, I think I've made her feel special this whole time, I've practically paid for most things and insisted she hasn't. And when she hasn't made an effort once or twice I haven't used that as a reason to stop dating or talking. I in no way ever go out with no intention of paying. Not in my nature at all. I can't treat her any nicer than I have without it being forced. We talk I listen I suggest I pay I pick her up drop her off buy small things pay attention and this one time I assumed something it's over. Not very fair in my eyes regardless of "her needing to feel like a princess". And no I don't feel she needs to pay more, in my head at times I've thought it. But as a guy and an old school guy who does the door holding its what a gentlemen should do for he lady he is dating/courting. Bear in mind I haven't used any of this against her or mentioned it to her. Communication is key which is why I'm trying to get to the bottom of it, funnily enough is like to carry on dating her but I don't think this will happen, I've tried to explain Wednesday night as a one off and I'm not the scrounger or cheapskate or arrogant guy she thinks. I'm even trying to convince you guys which isn't fair lol

I e given her lots of attention I mean lots, everything good and positive and even she has said, but in her eyes he couple of times out weigh the good 3 months we've had?! Who thinks like that? I'm 32 and she's 25 and don't know each other's placements, sorry.

@bexi - I'm sorry. But this has happened once. And I immediately thanked her later not right away as I should have but being as I don't complain or expect anything from her it's like she was expecting me to pay because she never said I'll pick it up. She never offered to pay for it only because she thought I had no money. It's possible to have your mind elsewhere with regards to things you should do, I knew I should've transferred it sooner, can't do it in be hour drive to her and then when we met we talk and laugh and I forgot ...But this isn't the issue. The issue is its being made out that I did this intentionally and I never. No she has this image of me which is unfair and untrue based on what 1 time in 3 months. Surely that's a bit extreme? I don't know, just racking my brain here.

Posted by doublesidedGem
Hey, so wondering if the Arien women can shed some light.

Dating an Aries girl for coming up to 3 months and things had been going great. As far as I knew. Few hiccups. Up to this point, couple ironed out one up on the air, and one to follow. Became exclusive, deleted dating accounts on POF. We were getting on great one yesterday we went out. I didn't get laid till today and yesterday when we was out forgot to transfer some money between accounts. anyway, Bill time and I gave her my wallet to hold earlier, forgetting that and looking for it knew I had no cash accept change and mentioned I have nothing, she got her card out and paid, now admittedly I kind of assumed oh she'll pay. Not thinking it'd be an issue. She paid I paid the tip, " oh you said you had no cash" no only change, things turned weird after ... Dropped her home things being awkward knew something was up. Today find out she was annoyed and thought I was ending arrogant with regards to her paying. Said no immediately apologised. Slipped my mind, now I didn't think it'd be an issue, because I've paid 75% of bills, even spent £80 in one day in us both. That doesn't bother me cos I like her and its what gentlemen do. She also said I've had a couple of outbursts which is trivial, because one she caused but it wasnt aimed at her just in general. And one time she interrupted me 5 times but it was banter. Now she's ended on those reasons. Arrogance last night, and 3 outbursts. Long story short, is it normal to just end it after this much effort and good times based on their few things. Considering I had to drag her out one evening as she left her purse at work and the meal cost £110. Didn't baulk and didn't ask for anything either.

Wow that was so long

She's being a big baby.

and you spoiled her so what do you expect, lol.

For her to just say it's over like that, I'm going to guess it's probably about a few other things and not this one incident.

I myself as a fellow ram, will try to talk about things that are bothering me, if I have to keep repeating myself then it will build up and eventually I will grow tired of nothing getting resolved. If things have built up then something minor will piss me off and then I tend to shut down.

So maybe try and talk to her and find out what is really going on.