Are Aries women meant to be single and love?!!!

I'm 28 years old, I have three kids, I'm newly single and I honestly love it. I actually realized that every power move I made in life was when I was single. I realized that when I was in relationship I felt weak, vulnerable, manageable, something I can proudly say that aries are not. I just dumped my Aqua of 4 years and I feel so much freedom and just peace. I went to work having the best day, came home focused on my self. Which is a complete breather for me because as an aries woman we are always busy being incorporated in our mates life that we forget to focus on ourselves. As I was driving home I realized that being single IS fun....No commitments, no judgements, no standards, no limits....At the same time I'm afraid that I will have so much fun being single that I will be single forever and never experience, true love (Aries are true romantics). Will I have to give up my freedom in order to have true love?.....I don't know if i CAN do that? Any older Arians shed some wisdom please? or are there any other Arians who feel the way I do?

You should read about a thing called a Saturn return it sounds and seems like you are starting yours...

I am an Aries sun... not that... that break up was bad... alot of people are and Saturn going retro was a big endings and beginnings.

Why did you end it?

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I ended the relationship due to lack of acceptance, lack of understanding, lack of trust, him being a hypocrite,him being petty, selfish, and manipulative when something doesn't go his way. I've tried to show him love and give him support and understanding but he can't reciprocate that to me. He's aloud to hang out late with friends but how dare I have friends, it's like he can't believe I have a life that doesn't revolve him....My freedom mean more to me than a relationship

I'm 36 and haven't had a serious relationship in 6yrs. I've been happy with the freedom that comes with not being in a serious relationship.

However last few months I have had the same fears and doubts of not experiencing love again. It's quite a scary thought to be honest.

I'm my own worst enemy though as I can actually come across as quite detached to men, so I've been told. Up until recently I hadn't even thought about being in a relationship.

But a guy I was casually seeing for a year, about 6mths ago he started, every now and then dropping hints that he liked me a little bit more and wanted to get to know me better. Like a fool I kinda brushed off his attempts, as he was asking indirect questions and hypothetical conversation topics.

However I had actually decided that the next time i saw him I would ask him outright what he wanted from me. Well with 1 thing or another we never managed to be free at the same time for about 6 wks.
He then informs me that for his well being it's best we stop seeing each other. It's been fun and when I find the right man he will be a lucky man indeed. His reaction to what he probably assumed was me rejecting him.
I've told him I do like him and that I would've liked to get to know him better but will respect his descion. So I've left it to him now. Not heard from him in nearly 2wks which us not unusual. Being an aqua he could be thinking on it for a while or I'll never hear from him again.

I've realised that I've been so busy protecting myself from getting hurt that I'm not even giving anybody or myself a chance.

So, yes enjoy your new found freedom have a blast.
Just don't be afraid to at least consider someone if the opportunity happens to present itself. It's so easy to miss the signs or even just dismiss them. Because you're busy enjoying your freedom and fear you may have to give it up. With the right man that wouldn't even be an issue.

That was really wise....I left my aqua man.....Maybe aries and aquarius are destined to have a prolonged and overdrawn love....maybe

Posted by Arianlotus0214
That was really wise....I left my aqua man.....Maybe aries and aquarius are destined to have a prolonged and overdrawn love....maybe

You might be right there. I find myself drawn to them. There's always been an instant connection with them.
But I find that sometimes it can become really intense. Which kind of unnerves me at times and makes me feel vulnerable. Which is a big no no for us Aries, but I just can't help myself ? lol
I think for my recent situation it'll be better for my well being if he doesn't get in touch again.

Posted by Hotbeefy
Btw for MadMarchRam.. I do found the amazing quote for this!

"STAY SINGLE UNTIL SOMEONE ACTUALLY COMPLEMENTS YOUR LIFE IN A WAY THAT MAKES IT BETTER NOT TO BE SINGLE. IF NOT, IT??S NOT WORTH IT."
By Roald Dahl

Thanks hotbeefy._

That's exactly what I'm waiting for. It's not something you can force, I'm happy to wait until it happens naturally.

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Posted by MadMarchRam
I'm 36 and haven't had a serious relationship in 6yrs. I've been happy with the freedom that comes with not being in a serious relationship.

However last few months I have had the same fears and doubts of not experiencing love again. It's quite a scary thought to be honest.

I'm my own worst enemy though as I can actually come across as quite detached to men, so I've been told. Up until recently I hadn't even thought about being in a relationship.

But a guy I was casually seeing for a year, about 6mths ago he started, every now and then dropping hints that he liked me a little bit more and wanted to get to know me better. Like a fool I kinda brushed off his attempts, as he was asking indirect questions and hypothetical conversation topics.

However I had actually decided that the next time i saw him I would ask him outright what he wanted from me. Well with 1 thing or another we never managed to be free at the same time for about 6 wks.
He then informs me that for his well being it's best we stop seeing each other. It's been fun and when I find the right man he will be a lucky man indeed. His reaction to what he probably assumed was me rejecting him.
I've told him I do like him and that I would've liked to get to know him better but will respect his descion. So I've left it to him now. Not heard from him in nearly 2wks which us not unusual. Being an aqua he could be thinking on it for a while or I'll never hear from him again.

I've realised that I've been so busy protecting myself from getting hurt that I'm not even giving anybody or myself a chance.

So, yes enjoy your new found freedom have a blast.
Just don't be afraid to at least consider someone if the opportunity happens to present itself. It's so easy to miss the signs or even just dismiss them. Because you're busy enjoying your freedom and fear you may have to give it up. With the right man that wouldn't even be an issue.

Good post.

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Thank you tiziani —

I'm more comfortable alone. But, I enjoy being in a relationship, I love looking after other people and having someone to be around, but I don't like the other things that come with it, the vulnerability.. It's hard. It's hard when you give people everything and you have to learn not to do that.

Posted by Hotbeefy
Btw for MadMarchRam.. I do found the amazing quote for this!

"STAY SINGLE UNTIL SOMEONE ACTUALLY COMPLEMENTS YOUR LIFE IN A WAY THAT MAKES IT BETTER NOT TO BE SINGLE. IF NOT, IT??S NOT WORTH IT."
By Roald Dahl

I think most women need this imprinted in their brains.

Guys, too, but the amount of women you see wasting time on garbage around here, this applies a LOT to them.

Posted by Rambunctious76
I've been single for almost 6 years, will be 39 in April.

Despite what people say, I still enjoy being single. (Although sometimes it does get lonely, but it's nothing that a casual fling can't fix 😛)

That's what keeps me going too

i can totally relate with being venus in aries i find myself not minding being in the most unconventional relationship. i am talking to a guy that is also an aquarius with venus in aries and we havent had sex yet i have given him oral just a sample but he gave me all these rules but we not together , he calls me from a blocked number ,does not want to go out in public with me . he does want me to come to his home and spend the night and he's just my type a boss but he also does not want me to go out basically be all about him but no title. in my mind im like this nigga is crazy we have stopped talking and he's now back in my life ive been celibate for a month and i need a release but i dont wanna move too fast . i say that to say since i've dealing with boys my relating with them has been lowkey and heavily sexual but sometime i look at sex and a buddy as just something to get me through you know cause i wanna be a singer and im thinking if im in a relationship they need to want to do music in some sort of way

he is on the dl on a break from his girlfriend only way i have contact is adam4adam .

Posted by Rambunctious76
I've been single for almost 6 years, will be 39 in April.

Despite what people say, I still enjoy being single. (Although sometimes it does get lonely, but it's nothing that a casual fling can't fix 😛)

Right? People look at you like you're crazy when you have no problem being single. Just the thought of dating gives me a headache because you have to do so much weeding.

So I just do me, and if something comes along, cool. If not, whatever. Less drama in my life.

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Posted by Rambunctious76
I've been single for almost 6 years, will be 39 in April.

Despite what people say, I still enjoy being single. (Although sometimes it does get lonely, but it's nothing that a casual fling can't fix 😛)

Right? People look at you like you're crazy when you have no problem being single. Just the thought of dating gives me a headache because you have to do so much weeding.

So I just do me, and if something comes along, cool. If not, whatever. Less drama in my life.

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Posted by deathnirvana
Aries women don't need love. They either have casual flings to deal with the excess sexual energy or focus all their energy into career/self-improvement etc etc

Cool aries 😛

Basically.

No. of course not. Find a Leo and you'll never be alone again, and your independence will remain intact. Just give him some affection, and you'll going to ask, if you are a princess lol. literally 😉 We leos, just adore you, Aries ladys 😉 just be yourself and try to hunt a big cat (not easy anyway)

Posted by Arianlotus0214
I'm 28 years old, I have three kids, I'm newly single and I honestly love it. I actually realized that every power move I made in life was when I was single. I realized that when I was in relationship I felt weak, vulnerable, manageable, something I can proudly say that aries are not. I just dumped my Aqua of 4 years and I feel so much freedom and just peace. I went to work having the best day, came home focused on my self. Which is a complete breather for me because as an aries woman we are always busy being incorporated in our mates life that we forget to focus on ourselves. As I was driving home I realized that being single IS fun....No commitments, no judgements, no standards, no limits....At the same time I'm afraid that I will have so much fun being single that I will be single forever and never experience, true love (Aries are true romantics). Will I have to give up my freedom in order to have true love?.....I don't know if i CAN do that? Any older Arians shed some wisdom please? or are there any other Arians who feel the way I do?

I swear I have said this time and time again on here my Aries sister. I am attached now and I find it a bit stifling on my freedom, I hate to answer to someone and give them a play by play of my day.

I like to be alone, but sometimes when I am single for too long I get worried and start to feel like im missing something. Then when im attached I feel the same like im missing out on something else.

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Posted by Arianlotus0214
I'm 28 years old, I have three kids, I'm newly single and I honestly love it. I actually realized that every power move I made in life was when I was single. I realized that when I was in relationship I felt weak, vulnerable, manageable, something I can proudly say that aries are not. I just dumped my Aqua of 4 years and I feel so much freedom and just peace. I went to work having the best day, came home focused on my self. Which is a complete breather for me because as an aries woman we are always busy being incorporated in our mates life that we forget to focus on ourselves. As I was driving home I realized that being single IS fun....No commitments, no judgements, no standards, no limits....At the same time I'm afraid that I will have so much fun being single that I will be single forever and never experience, true love (Aries are true romantics). Will I have to give up my freedom in order to have true love?.....I don't know if i CAN do that? Any older Arians shed some wisdom please? or are there any other Arians who feel the way I do?

I swear I have said this time and time again on here my Aries sister. I am attached now and I find it a bit stifling on my freedom, I hate to answer to someone and give them a play by play of my day.

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Posted by Rambunctious76
I've been single for almost 6 years, will be 39 in April.

Despite what people say, I still enjoy being single. (Although sometimes it does get lonely, but it's nothing that a casual fling can't fix 😛)

Right? People look at you like you're crazy when you have no problem being single. Just the thought of dating gives me a headache because you have to do so much weeding.

So I just do me, and if something comes along, cool. If not, whatever. Less drama in my life.

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Posted by Rambunctious76
I've been single for almost 6 years, will be 39 in April.

Despite what people say, I still enjoy being single. (Although sometimes it does get lonely, but it's nothing that a casual fling can't fix 😛)

Right? People look at you like you're crazy when you have no problem being single. Just the thought of dating gives me a headache because you have to do so much weeding.

So I just do me, and if something comes along, cool. If not, whatever. Less drama in my life.

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Though I do have to admit, the lack of getting laid is probably the shittiest part. ...like it's bugging me atm because I ditched the fwb. Was a good move because he's lame, but the lack of resources for getting laid atm makes the Aries sexual drive crazy haha.

/ random tangent

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Posted by Rambunctious76
I've been single for almost 6 years, will be 39 in April.

Despite what people say, I still enjoy being single. (Although sometimes it does get lonely, but it's nothing that a casual fling can't fix 😛)

Right? People look at you like you're crazy when you have no problem being single. Just the thought of dating gives me a headache because you have to do so much weeding.

So I just do me, and if something comes along, cool. If not, whatever. Less drama in my life.

+1000000

Though I do have to admit, the lack of getting laid is probably the shittiest part. ...like it's bugging me atm because I ditched the fwb. Was a good move because he's lame, but the lack of resources for getting laid atm makes the Aries sexual drive crazy haha.

/ random tangent

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I'm totally with you on this. Although my fwb called it off for his 'well being' lol more like he was getting emo, felt rejected and didn't have the balls to discuss lol
Oh well, celibate it is for a while until I find someone suitable lol

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Posted by rockyroadicecream

Though I do have to admit, the lack of getting laid is probably the shittiest part. ...like it's bugging me atm because I ditched the fwb. Was a good move because he's lame, but the lack of resources for getting laid atm makes the Aries sexual drive crazy haha.

/ random tangent

I'm totally with you on this. Although my fwb called it off for his 'well being' lol more like he was getting emo, felt rejected and didn't have the balls to discuss lol
Oh well, celibate it is for a while until I find someone suitable lol

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Mine was just getting lame because ours was really a "friends" with "benefits" bit, but he started treating it more "benefits" than "friends" and I got sick of the lack of basic respect- respect that had existed prior to this shift.

Made it no bueno and not fun anymore. So yes, lame celibacy for now. I blame hormones to be the likely culprit atm. I'm usually fine with it haha. Like someone said somewhere around here, we tend to channel that energy into other things anyway.

A lack of respect is a massive turn off. That would have me waving someone off too.

Yes I need a good distraction from them hormones, maybe knitting lol

Posted by MadMarchRam
A lack of respect is a massive turn off. That would have me waving someone off too.

Yes I need a good distraction from them hormones, maybe knitting lol

I've taken over my mom's gardening in the backyard. My brother (sorta) and I pretty much took on a few things that she'd been meaning to get around to and other things we'd talked about doing for awhile. I think it's the only thing we're comfortable doing atm because we're expanding on things she did and continuing on her hobby. The rest of the stuff in the house just has been meh to think about. :/

I started up some veggies, we have a fire pit/table on the way, and been generally rearranging and doing misc. things. We had an 8 foot aloe plant (in an EIGHT inch pot, no less) that I took on the other day, haha. Those things turn into beasts!

I'm also trying to save my 23 year old ficus tree. I "rescued" it from the nursery we had before we'd moved away (we were moving into an apartment and basically had to leave a lot of the stuff my parents had in the nursery). I was in like 3rd grade, I think. That thing has survived a lot and it's one of the last things I have from that era in our life. I'll be damned if it dies now, tbh. :/ It was maybe a foot tall when I saved it, and it's now like 9-10 ft tall, maybe. IT BETTER LIVE, DAMMIT.

Well it sounds like you have plenty to distract for sure.

I'm sure if you've kept it going this long your green fingers and determination will keep it thriving.

I've never been into gardening myself I appreciate it but don't like getting my hands dirty lol

That's why I wear gloves haha.

My mom had the green thumb, not me. I'm just seeing if I can manage to keep everything alive haha.

Posted by rockyroadicecream
That's why I wear gloves haha.

My mom had the green thumb, not me. I'm just seeing if I can manage to keep everything alive haha.

I've considered gloves but mine always get ripped lol

I'm sure you'll do alright as you've set your mind to it now, so it's become a challenge lol

I'm an Aries being single is not a bad thing.