Aries Guy Has Me Super Confused - Is He Into Me?!

This is my first time posting on this forum, but I read it all the time! 🙂 I met an Aries guy at a club on March 22nd. (I am a Pisces female). Right away, he was all over me, as Aries guys apparently tend to do when they're attracted to a woman. We exchanged numbers but I ran off because I saw my friends. That same day, he text me on his way home from the club and then called me. We talked for about an hour. We went out to dinner that weekend, and he was super affectionate right away.We kissed at the end of the night. We continued to text/talk for the entire week. He told me he wanted to marry me, etc. He would call and text me first thing in the morning. He shared some very personal things with me about his life and asked me if these things made me judge him. I told him no, they didn't. He also asked me questions about my family, career and goals. He asked me when he could meet my father. Lol. On March 28, we had dinner again, only this time we went back to his place, afterwards. We didn't have sex, but we did a some kissing and massaging. Things got a little hot. He did not attempt to sleep with me, however. Once things got a little too saucy, we both backed off. We spent the entire night together and he held me all night. He held me so tight as if I would break if he didn't. After that night, he changed entirely. He still texts me every morning, but he never calls. He hasn't called me since that night. He went on vacation April 2nd and came back April 7th. I haven't seen him since the night we spent together. He does have a full-time job and go to school full-time, but I feel like his interest is waning. If I text him first, he always texts back, but I just don't understand why the momentum has stopped. Am I asking for too much? Should I move on? I imagine that if he was into me, he'd want to speak to me and spend time with me, no? I appreciate any feedback on this situation. I really like this guy and he's the only one I'm "seeing" right now. I don't want to sit around thinking there's potential where there isn't.

Btw, he sent me pics from his vacation, but we didn't really talk/text the entire time he was there. His birthday was April 4th, and I text him at 12:01 am to tell him Happy Birthday. He said thanks and I didn't hear back from him until he returned from his trip.

it's not looking good is it? don't even waste time trying to figure out why he's changed, just cease all contact and leave the ball in his court while making an attempt to move on. i was with an aries for nearly 20 years and we're now divorced. we spent the first 10 years playing games like this. it was stop, start, stop, start the whole time because of various issues. initially, he had been with a girl he was planning to marry and although he ended it for me, it played with his head for a good 18 months while he pushed me away and reeled me back in.

after too long of this initial frustration, i told him it was over and i was leaving the country. i did. i decided to come back after a month and wrote him to let him know. he met me at the airport and we were officially a 'couple' from that moment. but the games didn't stop unfortunately. still, i stayed in the relationship and so it's just as much my issue as it was his.

but as a benchmark...it ended very badly between us and there is still a lot of bitterness on both sides. today is his birthday and i sent an early happy birthday message. i got a 'thanks' back. in aries speak that is an acknowledgement of your good wishes with absolutely no trace of feeling..whether it's there or not.

with the right woman, aries men are fantastic partners as is evidenced by my ex who is now with another aries. however, they are passionate men. people of extremes. either their relationships are completely toxic or they are absolutely rock solid...no middle ground. i think you can tell which way things are likely to go very early on.

Thanks, R1g0rM0rT1s.He actually said Thanks "baby", which in my opinion, is the same level of acknowledgment. What you have said makes a lot of sense, though. I really appreciate your comment. I have no problem moving on. It's just that really like him so I wanted to get some advice from someone else before I completely wrote him off. I'm young, beautiful and childless. No way I'm gonna wait around for someone who doesn't want me. And summer time is coming! Time for me to have some fun! Lol

Okay, I'm having a blonde moment. Sorry. Lol. When you say "cease all contact", does that mean I should ignore him if he texts/calls me? He texts all the time, he just doesn't call anymore.

@ bluemoon9043834: Thanks! I think I'll leave Aries guys to the rest of you ladies! I prefer a situation where two people decide they like each other and go from there. All the game playing is too much for me!

Posted by PiscesPrncss
Okay, I'm having a blonde moment. Sorry. Lol. When you say "cease all contact", does that mean I should ignore him if he texts/calls me? He texts all the time, he just doesn't call anymore.

He was probably bored with no real challenge??_from what you wrote it seems like you were going with the flow of everything and didn't show him you have a back bone.

He will probably come back around when you??re just about to let him go??_.puff there he is like magic. That is when you need to set the pace and tell him what's up and accept nothing less. 🙂

Pisces please try not to follow the advice on here...not that it isn't correct sometimes. It comes from a female mindset.
I don't really agree with it. While I don't believe in "pushing" a man I do believe they sometimes need to be told exactly what it is you want.Or they actually do need a little "push". Just because he is not calling does not mean it is over, or that he is not as interested.
I have been seeking advice from real men lately and it is not at all in line with any of what I read on here.
All the men I have spoken with recently have said, "I LOVE it when a woman calls me" "It lets me know she likes me, is interested and I don't have to do all the work" I think when a woman pulls back he thinks the same thing we think...that she is not interested any longer. And then both think the same thing leading to drifting apart. Trust me the men have said this...they think we are no longer interested too!! And then they get reluctant.

It's early yet with him...

Posted by sunshine222
Pisces please try not to follow the advice on here...not that it isn't correct sometimes. It comes from a female mindset.
I don't really agree with it. While I don't believe in "pushing" a man I do believe they sometimes need to be told exactly what it is you want.Or they actually do need a little "push". Just because he is not calling does not mean it is over, or that he is not as interested.
I have been seeking advice from real men lately and it is not at all in line with any of what I read on here.
All the men I have spoken with recently have said, "I LOVE it when a woman calls me" "It lets me know she likes me, is interested and I don't have to do all the work" I think when a woman pulls back he thinks the same thing we think...that she is not interested any longer. And then both think the same thing leading to drifting apart. Trust me the men have said this...they think we are no longer interested too!! And then they get reluctant.

It's early yet with him...

how utterly ridiculous!! the advice to a female from a femal is not correct but advice from a 'real' man to a female IS correct? correct for whom exactly?

of course a guy likes it when a woman calls. people don't call eachother enough and the aries the OP is referring to doesn't call at all any more...he just texts. so you think it would be a good move for her to put herself out there as kinda desparate and start calling him? perhaps she should call him and ask in a whiney voice why he doesn't call her any more.

i have four brothers. all of them 'real' men btw, but if a guy went from being overtly interested and pursuing me to half-heartedly texting when he felt like it, you can GUARANTEE, i won't be calling him!!!!

LOL!! women need to learn about men from a FEMALE perspective and vice versa.

Oh chill..no one is advocating her calling him in a whiney voice.

What I meant was I would rather listen to what men have to say in the advice dept. than what we women are saying because it comes STRAIGHT FROM THE HORSES MOUTH...have you not heard of the book, Act Like a Lady, but Think Like a Man" WE do not think the same as they do.

I have said this before and I'll repeat,"IF YOU WANT TO KNOW HOW MEN THINK, ASK A MAN!"

Ladies we all need to chill and relax and not be so b*tchy..with other women as well as with men.

OH for heavens sake just because he texted "thanks" back does not mean anything!! Men are notorious for typing short to the point texts. Do you really think they are going to text love letters!!! Men do not show emotion like we do, they are not wired like we are...so a thanks in a text means just that..it does not convey a lack of emotion or feelings!! And that is not Aries speak, that's anyone. And, "Thanks Baby" means just that.

The reason I mentioned men liking to hear from women is because all the advice books and on here is "Don't call him" and I am sorry I think men like to hear from us..not repeatedly but they like the attention too. The last time I called a guy I was seeing he said, "wow this is great you called me and we are actually talking, not texting."
Also another bunch of cr*p is this...men are texting and not calling because they are not into you or whatever...ok I asked some guys about this...they said "I let the woman set the pace...if she texts, then I text back" Then a pattern of texting develops. But they will not text long messages like women do...every text I have ever rec'd from a guy has been to the point...or "Hey what's up" never longer than 5 words...even from my son... it's males, so please don't sit there and think "Oh he just said "Thanks" oh my goodness...no emotion he must hate me!"

So no she should not call him whining..she should call sweet, nice and friendly. No why haven't you called questions.
I think ceasing all contact is bad advice...he'll lose more confidence and won't call because he'll think she's mad and then it will get worse. If we are going to use Aries traits...we are very backward that way and we will think the person is mad at us. It happens to me all the time. I back off when I don't hear from someone becasue I think they no longer want to be friends or have lost interest, and most likely that is never the case.

Men are very INSECURE...

Pisces...thin

Think positive

Thanks everyone! @ Love366: This is exactly why I said I would leave Aries guys to the rest of the ladies. I really can't do the whole game playing thing. I don't see it as having no backbone. I just like to be straight up and have a man be straight up with me. I'm not a weak woman and I expect a man to show me respect, but like Sunshine222 says, it's very early. We're not in a committed relationship, we're just dating. I don't think it would be appropriate for me to DEMAND that he calls me everyday, or to be "fiesty" with him. That actually seems a little crazy to me. It's been less than a month that we've known each other. On another note, if it is that easy for another Aries woman to "scoop him up", then he wasn't the right guy for me anyway. I'm not going to change my character for any man. He texted me good morning and we've texted back and forth all day. It's not as if I'm begging for his attention, he just chooses to text me, whereas I prefer phone calls.

@Sunshine222 Awesome, awesome, awesome advice! Thank you! 🙂