Aries.. I need help!!

Hi!!
I am going to go crazy at any moment..

I love this Aries! and he loves me too! I know we have a very deep conection..

He is very jealous.. we broke up.. there are things that we both did to lose out trust.. so theres no trust now both ways..
he is convinced I cheated on him with (not one but several guys) and I have tried to convince him that is not true.. but I havent..

We are not together anymore.. he wasnt calling and texting like before, so I was doing most of the initial contact. he tells me he still loves me, he hasnt been with any other woman, and he doesnt want to for now,
but we cant be together cause he doesnt want to be sitting at work worrying on what I may be doing (insecurity, jealousy)
so I give up, I didnt text him or call for a little over 24 hours.. and I wake today to find over 10 calls and 15 texts all between 6 am to 8 am) he was somewhat mean and acussing me of being with someone else )Sleeping) thats why I didnt answer.. but honestly I was home, I didnt even go out.. I am depressed, miss him like crazy and had silenced his number so he cant wake me up, (done it in the past)

Now I didnt reply today until he started calling and texting again around noon.. he wanted to know if I had been with someone etc..

I told him no, and said that he wasnt sure of what he wanted so thats it.

please tell me if you think we still have a chance.. I know if he wanted to we could make it, even if we go to counseling!

what do you guys think I should do in order to bring down that wall he has and make him feel safe again (he told me he was scared)

Posted by chicksag

he was calling and texting like crazy before, but stopped, so I have been doing most of the initial contact recently.

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You both have walls up so bring yours down and he will bring down his.

I mean if you both have a deep connection then I don't see why communication can't settle whatever you both are going through. Unless he is crazy there is a reason for him to feel jealous so maybe you need to sit down and have a conversation with this man instead of already pointing to jealously and insecurities. I would be insecure too if my partner and I don't have trust anymore. The relationship is unstable and he feels like he is falling. See things from his point of view as well. Bring your walls down and he will bring his down.

He called and text you how many times?

Have you ever done that for him to show him you care about him? Kind of like, step outside of yourself to show him that you care besides initiating contact after things were bad with you guys?

Thank you for your advice, so I have lowered my walls, I guess I'm getting tired
Of waiting it drives me crazy!! I'm so impatient but I have learned to be more patient because I love him, now
It's been six months since we broke up, I Went home (south America) and ended up staying for two months
I was going to stay there, all my loved ones are there, don't have any family here and I had lost him so there was no point in getting back here

He called me like crazy when I was there, told me he wanted me to come back to him. That he loved me etc.. I thought abt, he even told me we would go to counseling
To better understand our fears insecurities and work thru this..

I come back and he's changed his mind...
He now says no to counseling( because counselor can't make me trust you)
And he won't go, I wanted to see him and offered to help him he is moving ( painting, shopping, assembling bed etc) and
He would just cancel on me, or when we started he would have something to do or was tired and we would leave...
Him to his parents and I to my house, he would apologize over this but didn't change.
That's when everything in initial post happened,
And sice then we talked yesterday and I told him I was moving on cause he seems to not want to fix anything and I alone can't do it
He then said he is not 100% ready to be with me (those words are really a test for me cause they give me hope)

He still won't face me, I offered to go somewhere so we could talk he said no..

I feel like I'm chasing him, don't want to do it if it pushes him away.. If I knew I had to chase him some more I'd have no problem
Everything is ok when it comes to love, he loves me. That I know. And so do I

Now what is the best thing I can do so here?
Ive read Aries like to be the initiators and the ones chasing.


Please help me, I'm a sag with and aries ascendant.. and my chart is on my profile page.. L

Double post

So if I call or text that much he gets annoyed and closes off