Aries long-distance boyfriend broke up with me via text

I am an Aquarius who met an Aries man back in October of last year. We have been in a long distance relationship since approximately December of last year. I went to visit him for the New Year and everything was great up until about a week ago where I noticed that he had started to become slightly distant when at first he showered me with attention; talked to me several times a day via video chat and text message. The day before yesterday he abruptly broke up with me via text message accusing me of disrespecting him by not showing him enough attention and seemingly blowing him off. For a short while I found myself sort of begging him to not do this to me because I was so caught off guard by the situation because he described me as his soulmate and was the first one to declare that he was in love with me. So, needless to say I was taken aback by the break up out of nowhere over something seemingly so small. But as I reflect I decided that I would leave the situation alone and give him his space. I decided that either he would realize how frivolous him breaking up with me is and want to work it out or either he never really loved me in the first place and was just playing games. My question is has anyone else had an experience with an Aries similar to this? Are they prone to react hastily and break up only to want to come back later on or should I write this up as a total loss? If he does try to come back, what should I expect?

@AquaLady526

Do you feel like you disrespected him? Because if you don't then ignore him and stand your ground. He is just being a big baby. If he feels the relationship was deep enough then he'll come back eventually, if not, it's better for you to move on to someone who loves you the way you want.

Don't wait around for him.

Posted by AquaLady526
I am an Aquarius who met an Aries man back in October of last year. We have been in a long distance relationship since approximately December of last year. I went to visit him for the New Year and everything was great up until about a week ago where I noticed that he had started to become slightly distant when at first he showered me with attention; talked to me several times a day via video chat and text message. The day before yesterday he abruptly broke up with me via text message accusing me of disrespecting him by not showing him enough attention and seemingly blowing him off. For a short while I found myself sort of begging him to not do this to me because I was so caught off guard by the situation because he described me as his soulmate and was the first one to declare that he was in love with me. So, needless to say I was taken aback by the break up out of nowhere over something seemingly so small. But as I reflect I decided that I would leave the situation alone and give him his space. I decided that either he would realize how frivolous him breaking up with me is and want to work it out or either he never really loved me in the first place and was just playing games. My question is has anyone else had an experience with an Aries similar to this? Are they prone to react hastily and break up only to want to come back later on or should I write this up as a total loss? If he does try to come back, what should I expect?

The latter. I met an Aries man that gave me ALL his attention for about two weeks. We went out for one date and from there everything went down hill! Why? I didn't give him any sex. He showed up at the club; we smiled at one another (waved hi) and he went to dance w/my girlfriend (she met him first). I am no one's SECOND choice! I have deleted him on my phone and calling out, "Next!" Men are like buses; wait five minutes and another one will come by. Good luck and sorry he broke up w/you via text. In my eyes he's a RUDE, CRUDE, DUDE! 😡 As he took the ASSINATED (ass) way out by texting instead of speaking to you on the phone like a MAN!

🤗 cyber hugs!

Love,

Eva

He is upset and is testing you to see if you will give up on him easily. Let him know you are sorry (if you are) and for him to contact you when he is ready. This will get him thinking and he should get back in touch. But do it soon because Aries tend to move on very quickly.

@SourPie I don't at all feel like I disrespected him but I'm an Aquarius and realize that I can be kinda aloof to others sensitivities I guess...but I agree, I've already decided that I'm standing my ground because I never did him wrong and left it in his court that if he wants to talk and get everything in the open, I'm here.

@ EvatheDiva yeah I think he's cowardly for the text breakup and told him that. He claims he can't face me through video chat or the phone because he's been depressed for days and crying. I also left it open that if he wants to talk about later, we can because I don't feel like he's telling me everything... or maybe Aries are drama Kings ?

@ariesfire82 I was thinking before that he was trying to test me to see how committed I am because he's mentioned that before; but I already told him that I was sorry for anything that I've done that made him feel neglected but I also told him that I think there's more he's not telling because I just can't believe that he's that much of a baby lol

@aquarius_beauty I'm finding out the hard way that he's insecure and kinda dramatic

Aries are like the babies of the zodiac, but we have good qualities too. If you decide to stay with him, then I think this is something you might have to get used to. We aren’t great at expressing our own feelings logically, we are honest, but it’s usually emotional outburst first before doing any thinking

The LDR can be a problem, he will want to know what you are up to, I think he likes you. Aries like the attention, they want to feel they are “the only one”, and he will wonder if other guys are around you while you are apart. You might have been showing attention but not enough for an Aries. They want to see emotion, not logic. In the relationship, you may be able to outsmart an Aries, but it means nothing because emotion is where it counts, love is illogical, and from the heart.

I don’t know how Aquarius/Aries relationship works, Aquarius seem calm daydreaming type people. Aries want something immediately or nothing, dreams are exciting, something to chase. Aries don’t usually play games, love is an emotion and should be passionate. Is it for Aquarius? or do they just day dream about it? But what will happen is, you will want your freedom, and he wants to see if you are soulmates, he will be a little controlling because he wants to be sure you aren’t out with other guys. It’s an LDR, most of an Aquarius/Aries connection would usually be in the bedroom. If you want him back though, I would do something, you get him back by talking positively about being together in the future, not sure on exact words.

Lol @ EvaTheDiva’s comment about buses. Texas must have a better bus system than where I live, we have the same saying here “Men are like buses” ..but it’s usually followed by “because you wait for one for a long time, and it never shows, and then three come along at once”

Not “there’s another one in five minutes” lol

@AriesJo I'm starting to realize that he does require a lot of attention and his emotional nature; I wasn't sure if it was genuine or not because I'm an Aquarius and recognize that I can be kind of aloof and I don't want to downplay his feelings but at the same time I don't feel like I did anything wrong to him. But I do really love him and want to reconnect with him and I'm glad to know that Aries don't usually play games. So with that being said I think I'm going to send a brief email just kind of stating that I still love him and I'm sorry for what I did to make him feel that I took him for granted and that if he's open and when he's ready I'm here to talk about our future together. At the same time though do Aries get further pushed away if they feel like you're begging them and not moving on? Do they prefer the chase? I know I'm probably overthinking it but I'm an Aquarius LOL Great advice by the way ?

Yep and that's one of the things that I'm worried about if he broke up with me on a tantrum and then later on I want to come back because I'm not the type to go back and forth in relationships... it's way too draining. It's like I would want to take him back if he wanted to come back but at the same time I wouldn't want him to make it a habit and think it's OK to break off our relationship whenever he gets upset.

I think if you email him with those words, it’s perfect. You should always say how you feel, and if it doesn’t work then you should have no regrets over that. You have one life and you don’t want to wonder about the chances you didn’t take, Aries also respond well to people showing courage.

Aries do have a hard time when it comes to romance, they ruin things themselves. Although they are fearless most of the time, love is a little scary. They do not want to give up their freedom of being able to do whatever they want, but they know they have to for love and the right person, they just kind of expect loyalty in return too, equal rules. They want that “end of movie” scene where the guy does something heroic for love. They would sacrifice themselves for love, and obviously this is a big deal, they want to be sure the other person loves them too. (not every relationship with an Aries progresses to this extreme level, it should be noted, but it is what they are looking for)

They do like the challenge, this is why they like the chase, but the LDR is a challenge already. His friends and family may tell him that LDRs don’t work, but this will work to your advantage, because Aries like to show that difficult things can be done.

I think if he notices you can ride out his emotional ups and down along with him, then he will really feel connected to you. And if you can make things work even with an LDR, then this counts for a lot too. He might throw tantrums, but Aries are good too, and they want to be the best at what they do, which includes being the best boyfriend or husband, they work hard, and are very generous. And it is kind of like how you view a child, his tantrums come with other qualities like how he wants to have fun and be adventurous, and how he wants to be the hero because he wants to prove himself to be a man. Don't forget to listen to your feelings though, because I think I'm trying to sell Aries too much, other factors affect how someone is.

Lol @BuffaloBills28 It's definitely crossed my mind lol

Well as an aries guy I can give you 2 advices:

1. Tell him to man up, stop acting like a child and have a honest and mature conversation with you about his problem, else you will just move on.

For me this kind of approach will slap hard my ego and cause me to think logicaly. Also I might get angry (if it does let him chill out a little bit and it will have the same effect) but finally I will honestly open up with my problem.

2. Lisen carefully on what he say, tell him you understand perfectly (even if you don't) but he was rude, he should understand that and apologise, after that smile, give him a hug and tell him that everything is gonna be ok. Leave and wait. In 2 weeks he will be back with an apology. If not, just move on.

Honestly, I just think Aries men not trusthworthy and commited in the relationship. Being as an Aquarian, I have met lot of them and I tell myself to stay away. They are mostly very quick to say like or love you, then flirt others. It seems like its all abt the chase.

I have been in the stuation and also my friends' stories that there are some Aries men they chase you day and night until they have you then boom, they get bored and move to other women, and I hate that.

Or maybe I havent been lucky enough to see any Aries as faithful men. They mostly strong, bossy, easy to get bored..etc.

@AriesFireKnight Thanks for the straight forward advise. I feel like I've already applied a good mix of 1 and 2 so I'll just wait and see what happens which will let me know where I stand... ——

...he sounds psycho.