weirdovirgo97
@weirdovirgo97
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Aries man gone MIA (what a surprise *sarcasm*)
morning. I hope all is well have a good day" text msg. It has been a week since that text was sent and still no response! We have never gone this long w/o talking. Naturally being the stubborn Virgo I am, I have mentally cut him off, but my friends think I should reconsider and give it some time. He did just get out of a year relationship with a gf he was living with. They broke up in January. And I have kept that in mind but I just feel like it only takes 3 seconds to respond to a text message.
So what do you think I should do? Should I continue to cut him off like I planned on doing (or already have) or should I reconsider and listen to what my friends are saying and give it some time?
So what do you think I should do? Should I continue to cut him off like I planned on doing (or already have) or should I reconsider and listen to what my friends are saying and give it some time?
Couple of things:
1) You didn't have sex, right?
2) He said..
..which = he will not have a lot of time for you. and he already said in the beginning he is not good with messages.
3) Maybe you shouldn't be too quick to the trigger. It's almost as if you went into this whirlwind romance and now since it all happened at an insane pace..you worry over things pacing down.
4) Your friends do not live your life for you. They would also be biased with insight because they care about you. In this case I think they are right about not cutting the guy off yet
5) Go on cafe astrology and run a birth chart. tell me your planets. do you have a moon or a mars in aries? a venus in cancer or scorpio?
Also run his chart and tell us where his moon sign, venus, mars are.
We are astrology freaks around here.
6) What you described is the way it went with my Aries Ex..intense off the bat, spent all our time together. When real life started emerging, I took his distancing from me as him backing off when in actuality, the normal pace of a relationship developing is what you are experiencing now.
7) I wouldn't write him off at this point, I'd wait a bit longer
8) When did he contact you last? Did he call you? Message you?
9) Showing interest and sending more than a text message is not you being desperate, Virgo. It's you acknowledging you have a connection with someone and also displaying interest.
10) I'd call him.
1) You didn't have sex, right?
2) He said..
Posted by weirdovirgo97
He told me he would be working practically 2 weeks straight w/o any days off.
..which = he will not have a lot of time for you. and he already said in the beginning he is not good with messages.
3) Maybe you shouldn't be too quick to the trigger. It's almost as if you went into this whirlwind romance and now since it all happened at an insane pace..you worry over things pacing down.
4) Your friends do not live your life for you. They would also be biased with insight because they care about you. In this case I think they are right about not cutting the guy off yet
5) Go on cafe astrology and run a birth chart. tell me your planets. do you have a moon or a mars in aries? a venus in cancer or scorpio?
Also run his chart and tell us where his moon sign, venus, mars are.
We are astrology freaks around here.
6) What you described is the way it went with my Aries Ex..intense off the bat, spent all our time together. When real life started emerging, I took his distancing from me as him backing off when in actuality, the normal pace of a relationship developing is what you are experiencing now.
7) I wouldn't write him off at this point, I'd wait a bit longer
8) When did he contact you last? Did he call you? Message you?
9) Showing interest and sending more than a text message is not you being desperate, Virgo. It's you acknowledging you have a connection with someone and also displaying interest.
10) I'd call him.
Yes my ex chased me but it went so intense off the bat he needed time to calm off and tend to his life as well.
Thank god for his Venus in Aquarius or my Cancer Venus would've freaked out like no tomorrow.
I think it's too soon to tell whether he lost interest or is stepping back a little to look at the full picture.
Thank god for his Venus in Aquarius or my Cancer Venus would've freaked out like no tomorrow.
I think it's too soon to tell whether he lost interest or is stepping back a little to look at the full picture.
Posted by Damnata
Couple of things:
1) You didn't have sex, right?
2) He said..
Posted by weirdovirgo97
He told me he would be working practically 2 weeks straight w/o any days off.
..which = he will not have a lot of time for you. and he already said in the beginning he is not good with messages.
3) Maybe you shouldn't be too quick to the trigger. It's almost as if you went into this whirlwind romance and now since it all happened at an insane pace..you worry over things pacing down.
4) Your friends do not live your life for you. They would also be biased with insight because they care about you. In this case I think they are right about not cutting the guy off yet
5) Go on cafe astrology and run a birth chart. tell me your planets. do you have a moon or a mars in aries? a venus in cancer or scorpio?
Also run his chart and tell us where his moon sign, venus, mars are.
We are astrology freaks around here.
6) What you described is the way it went with my Aries Ex..intense off the bat, spent all our time together. When real life started emerging, I took his distancing from me as him backing off when in actuality, the normal pace of a relationship developing is what you are experiencing now.
7) I wouldn't write him off at this point, I'd wait a bit longer
8) When did he contact you last? Did he call you? Message you?
9) Showing interest and sending more than a text message is not you being desperate, Virgo. It's you acknowledging you have a connection with someone and also displaying interest.
10) I'd call him.click to expand
I dont know what his chart his but mine is a Virgo sun/ Libra moon & venus with a Gemini rising. So I can definitely be just as aloof and independent but my expectations/need for routine obviously comes from my Virgo sun. The last time we talked was when we had breakfast the Sunday before last so 5/25. Im too stubborn to call or text him again. I just feel like if you got the first text message there is no need to keep sending messages idk. My first relationship was an Aries, 6 years (off &on) crazy relationship but we were a lot younger so a lot and i wasnt into astrology as much as I was back then. So its hard for me to compare the 2 esp since we're still learning about each other.And no my friends do not live for me but they
How old are you both?
25.05.. is that when he said he'll be busy for 2 weeks? it's been.. 10 days I think.
I should've guessed the Libra Moon when you brought the friends up.
Ok, what I would do. If you did reciprocate with his texts and phone calls, if you did show interest then I wouldn't hold my breath. However, I wouldn't dismiss him yet, I'd wait for a while longer.
I'm just saying this because it seems you folks really enjoyed yourselves so maybe other factors are at play here.
I'd just call him to ask him out some place but that's just me.
He might have lost interest or he might be busy with his life but since he didn't object to you meeting his friends..I don't know. Go with your gut feeling on this.
That whole scenario really struck a chord with me so I might be projecting here. I would call him or wait for a while longer.
I should've guessed the Libra Moon when you brought the friends up.
Ok, what I would do. If you did reciprocate with his texts and phone calls, if you did show interest then I wouldn't hold my breath. However, I wouldn't dismiss him yet, I'd wait for a while longer.
I'm just saying this because it seems you folks really enjoyed yourselves so maybe other factors are at play here.
I'd just call him to ask him out some place but that's just me.
He might have lost interest or he might be busy with his life but since he didn't object to you meeting his friends..I don't know. Go with your gut feeling on this.
That whole scenario really struck a chord with me so I might be projecting here. I would call him or wait for a while longer.
Well, I don't have much experience with the Aries' male, but a good female friend of mine is an Aries, and I know that when she is focused on something or busy, she disconnects. When we first became friends, I took this personal, but once I got to know her, I realized she just had tunnel vision with certain things.
Yeah, ari I get where you come from. I do things the same way lol.
When we met..we were inseparable for 2 weeks I think. Then we realized there is life happening around us so we needed to go back to being individuals.
I didn't even get a chance to call and ask him out cuz he was right in the next room or the kitchen.
We were just so excited. Sun in Aries, Moon in Aries..let's have fuuuun.
When we met..we were inseparable for 2 weeks I think. Then we realized there is life happening around us so we needed to go back to being individuals.
I didn't even get a chance to call and ask him out cuz he was right in the next room or the kitchen.
We were just so excited. Sun in Aries, Moon in Aries..let's have fuuuun.
lol@ the aries whisperer.
yeah, also don't forget that aries when they are busy..you are off their radar. you don't exist. nothing but their quest is in front of their eyes..they have narrow vision.
then they come back like it was yesterday..waltzing in your home "heeeey i brought you flowers and food and how are you? let's go out, there is this movie we can see and then we can go play pool"
while you're there looking at them like.."i thought you were dead the last week. i'm amazed you're alive since you disappeared off the earth"
yeah, also don't forget that aries when they are busy..you are off their radar. you don't exist. nothing but their quest is in front of their eyes..they have narrow vision.
then they come back like it was yesterday..waltzing in your home "heeeey i brought you flowers and food and how are you? let's go out, there is this movie we can see and then we can go play pool"
while you're there looking at them like.."i thought you were dead the last week. i'm amazed you're alive since you disappeared off the earth"
Posted by Damnata
25.05.. is that when he said he'll be busy for 2 weeks? it's been.. 10 days I think.
I should've guessed the Libra Moon when you brought the friends up.
Ok, what I would do. If you did reciprocate with his texts and phone calls, if you did show interest then I wouldn't hold my breath. However, I wouldn't dismiss him yet, I'd wait for a while longer.
I'm just saying this because it seems you folks really enjoyed yourselves so maybe other factors are at play here.
I'd just call him to ask him out some place but that's just me.
He might have lost interest or he might be busy with his life but since he didn't object to you meeting his friends..I don't know. Go with your gut feeling on this.
That whole scenario really struck a chord with me so I might be projecting here. I would call him or wait for a while longer.
LOL yea that's why I am reconsidering because we did have a good time. Actually any time we are together it's always fun. I just really enjoy being around him. I felt comfortable with him as soon as I met him and he's such a gentleman as well. He told me a lot about his family background, friends, family, and an overview of the last relationship he was in along with his views in relationships which i found not weird or alarming but it was an "eyebrow-raiser" considering what we both want at the moment. It's really refreshing as of late because I haven't come across many guys with any actual substance which is always unfortunate. I asked him straight up what was he looking for since he was on the site. He said because he just got out of a relationship, he wasn't looking for another one so soon just someone he can hang out with and go out with and if something more were to happen then so be it. And I told him I was looking for the same. So there's definitely optimism as far as a further development but lack of communication will cause us not to move over this hurdle.
Any other man disappearing off the face of the Earth..I might believe he isn't interested. I would still think he might be busy with his life but I'd bank on not interested.
Aries Men..they have such a short attention span, it doesn't dawn on them how time passes around them. They can't play games because they don't have the tenacity to come up with a strategy. If they aren't into going out, they won't go out. If they want to see you, they'll see you.
Remember this is a very sensitive sign..you hear people talk about Aries giving chase..they need that interest to be reciprocated. You'd think with them being so outgoing..they wouldn't need it. But they do, they second guess themselves like crazy.
Basically if you felt on cloud nine next to him, there's a high odd he felt it too. He would've left if he wasn't enjoying himself and there's no way you can mistake an Aries being bored or not interested in you.
Aries Men..they have such a short attention span, it doesn't dawn on them how time passes around them. They can't play games because they don't have the tenacity to come up with a strategy. If they aren't into going out, they won't go out. If they want to see you, they'll see you.
Remember this is a very sensitive sign..you hear people talk about Aries giving chase..they need that interest to be reciprocated. You'd think with them being so outgoing..they wouldn't need it. But they do, they second guess themselves like crazy.
Basically if you felt on cloud nine next to him, there's a high odd he felt it too. He would've left if he wasn't enjoying himself and there's no way you can mistake an Aries being bored or not interested in you.
Posted by arietteheart2
"I'd just call him to ask him out some place but that's just me."
She is the aries whisperer...listen to her.
Lmao! Why thank you Aries Whisperer. I may have to consider. But why do you Aries distance yourselves so abruptly if everything is going so well? My Pisces cousin had the same issue with a former girlfriend of hers. 2 years later, although they're both in relationships (and she's still in love with the Aries woman) they still talk and communicate...on the Aries time of course...
Read your post, you have a good attitude about this, however it will play out.
Call him, stubborn Virgo.
You just have to take a chance sometimes. I'd tell you to back off a little but if things really played this well between you, there's no need for you to panic or read into this. Call him and suggest going out and you will pick up on his interest or lack thereof.
Call him, stubborn Virgo.
You just have to take a chance sometimes. I'd tell you to back off a little but if things really played this well between you, there's no need for you to panic or read into this. Call him and suggest going out and you will pick up on his interest or lack thereof.
With my ex, after the 2 weeks of bliss passed he pulled back to see wtf was going on.
He got cheated on in 3 previous relationships so it amazed him he didn't pull back at the beginning with me. So he went into his man cave to ponder, scratch his nuts and play computer games. Basically taking some time for himself to gain composure and go about his own business.
Then I got tired of waiting and hit him up "Yoooo let's go out, I know this place.."
I just figured that there was no way he was playing me since we connected this strongly off the bat. I had no doubts in my mind. But if he was one of those Aries players..then again, no harm done. I would've figured it out based on his reply and his actions after my phone call. Even if I would've got him in a bad mood and he wouldn't be excited about going out..I knew if he was feeling me he'd be back with a phone call.
He got cheated on in 3 previous relationships so it amazed him he didn't pull back at the beginning with me. So he went into his man cave to ponder, scratch his nuts and play computer games. Basically taking some time for himself to gain composure and go about his own business.
Then I got tired of waiting and hit him up "Yoooo let's go out, I know this place.."
I just figured that there was no way he was playing me since we connected this strongly off the bat. I had no doubts in my mind. But if he was one of those Aries players..then again, no harm done. I would've figured it out based on his reply and his actions after my phone call. Even if I would've got him in a bad mood and he wouldn't be excited about going out..I knew if he was feeling me he'd be back with a phone call.
itely mind the chase :-) but I mean I can't play this cat/mouse game. Its childish and a bit redundant. So I will hit him up today and that will be the final time I do because his response will give me the answer I need.
Posted by arietteheart2Posted by weirdovirgo97Posted by arietteheart2
"I'd just call him to ask him out some place but that's just me."
She is the aries whisperer...listen to her.
Lmao! Why thank you Aries Whisperer. I may have to consider. But why do you Aries distance yourselves so abruptly if everything is going so well? My Pisces cousin had the same issue with a former girlfriend of hers. 2 years later, although they're both in relationships (and she's still in love with the Aries woman) they still talk and communicate...on the Aries time of course...
I can't say with 100% certainty but one reason is like Damnata said...if you're not reciprocating interest as much as we want you to, we will start to second guess ourselves and back off to see if you will chase us back. If you give a little back, well go back to the regularly scheduled program of chasing you.click to expand
Try to pick up from his tone what's up because he might also be busy. But if he doesn't suggest another day or hour..yeah..you can back off.
However, be fun about it and don't just ask him "so how are you?".
However, be fun about it and don't just ask him "so how are you?".
Is it bad that I read the title and immediately thought this was a Virgo posting this?
Posted by rockyroadicecream
Is it bad that I read the title and immediately thought this was a Virgo posting this?
I thought the same thing LOL.
the condescending "What a surprise" clued me into it and then the *sarcasm* sealed the deal.
Being an Aries I agree, when we like someone we go full bore for 2 weeks - month, then we settle back into our own space for awile. You like the energy he puts off, Aries are fun, exciting, full of life, and we normally try and project that energy on everyone around us. We are very easy to get attached to, even for a Virgo.
You feel like the "new programing" isnt normal, but for an Aries it is. He hasnt disappeared like a Leo does, he just hasnt responded back yet. Why cause now his vision is on something else, it happens to us all the time. We liked to be chased to a certain point, enough to know you are into us. Once we know that, we dive back in "regular Program".
We tend to lose track of time and people when we get our vision moved in another direction.
Keep that chin up and text him, or call him! 😉
You feel like the "new programing" isnt normal, but for an Aries it is. He hasnt disappeared like a Leo does, he just hasnt responded back yet. Why cause now his vision is on something else, it happens to us all the time. We liked to be chased to a certain point, enough to know you are into us. Once we know that, we dive back in "regular Program".
We tend to lose track of time and people when we get our vision moved in another direction.
Keep that chin up and text him, or call him! 😉
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