Libra's wandering eyes may cause some friction in the love arena considering that Leo loves all the attention, but then again Libra is Romantic and that may just be all you need 🙂
I'm a female Pisces and like solitas said, the males and females are a tad different, but, one thing is for certain in both genders . . whatever we do, or say in life, it comes from our heart . . our soul . . beit, harsh or nice, considerate or critical. And Aries tends to overlook this factor and focus on what we said or did, rather than where it came from inside of us . . this can be a huge wall between the two.
We will do the same to you . . we will look past WHAT you did or said, and put our focus on WHY, how it effects you within yourself. Fire signs have a problem with this sometimes because, while you might be concentrating on getting a point across and wanting us to look at what your saying logically . . we'll be overlooking the issue at hand and concerning ourselves with nurturing the "feeling" inside of you, rather than the subject.
We care less about the point your trying to make, and more about the effect your feelings are having on your psyche . . your soul.
mystic fire- IM an aries girl who dated a pisces for 2 years. Nobody will ever know me as well as he has. Pisces is definately good for an aries because they are a refuge and they cool your flaming anger with their empathetic watery spirits. He always helped me put things into perspective. he knew me better than i knew myself. That was the problem! i could never win, and it got boring! also i like to have angry outrages and just explode then forget about it, it feels good. but he always took everything i said and acted so seriously.
"also i like to have angry outrages and just explode then forget about it, it feels good. but he always took everything i said and acted so seriously."
This likely happened because we "feel", so though this felt good to you, it didn't feel good to him. With the Aries, an explosive moment is taken just as you stated, it really means nothing to you except a release .. to us, it's not just on the surface, it goes way down inside. Also, we are mood based, so if he felt a vibe of constant explosion without a cause .. this would put him in a tailspin because it would indicate an emotional imbalance .. emotions is our focus .. uncontrolled anger would certainly injure his soul.
The more evolved and mature Aries, has put this in perspective and will attempt to use some control - knowing that they are injuring the Pisces - instead of just assuming that the fish can deal with the outbursts and not take it to heart. Additionally, once the Aries has grown beyond their self-centeredness and grown beyond not caring whether they've injured another person, they come to realize that they operate from the soul as well, so then the Pisces becomes more endearing, rather than a liability.
Pisces HAVE to take things to heart, within their soul .. that's where we live inside. They absorb your emotions .. you'd blown it off, while he's still hurting because it fractured his psyche .. this is a huge problem with this match.
We feel, all the way down .. you can't step on us with uncontrolled fury, we don't know how to just forget because it's not a thought. To forget something means, it's a thought .. it's not a thought .. it's a feeling.
It's difficult dealing with the fish for the ram because these things are on the surface, this anger issue, it doesn't go much deeper, for most, just a form of release .. where with us, it goes all the way down .. hours later, sometimes, days later .. it's still vibrating.
we just had an argument last night because I couldn't hold it in, anymore. No matter how many people I run to, I just really do have to blow off that steam with him. And since we talk so sporatically (more so when I'm having issues...ermm)..it's a vicious cycle, really.
I do feel not guilty...but sympathetic. I want to call him and let him know I'm here for him. He does have some major abandonment issues, which could somewhat work to my advantage since he may be a little less sensitive.
I am very confused b/c we've "been together" since the end of last September. And he says repeatedly he doesn't want to be in a relationship. But the fire in me just needs to know. 'Cause the way I see it, you can't be together without going out and/or seeing each other. We literally talk even, maybe once or twice a week. Then other times, we'll see each other three or four times in a week. Then he wants me to go to Tahoe with him..
It's like he wants to be with me without admitting it, or something.
Any tips?
I am plenty patient because it's exciting not knowing what's gonna happen. But since I met him, I've had this feeling about him. Like it just won't end or something.
So I definitely want the chance to prove myself worthy. Not righteous or self-anything.
I want to show him that meeting my criteria (which he does), he's got ALL of my trust. ALL of my thoughts. ALL of my feelings (eventually 😉
There are two sides to the Fish, you are only seeing one of those. When he calls you and the two of you go out, have fun, want to be together .. that is one side of him.
It's the other one that tells you he doesn't want to date, or be in a relationship. This other side, he has to keep a guard around.
If he's into you and feeling you, I'm sure you've captured him, but, this other reality HAS to be protected because this is where we're vulnerable. In "there" is where we feel weak, yet, at the same time, it's where we find strength to cope.
Being a male Pisces must be hard as hell because you know how men are .. they have to be tough and in control .. weakness isn't easy for men to admit .. so, I imagine this is a huge struggle within him because in our alter reality is where we have to go to process things in our life and it makes us feel small to other people. We feel big to ourselves .. but, we know that other people CANNOT understand, so we hide it, or try to hide it. Whereas female Pisces can just say, "Hey, I'm having a moment" and cry without fear of judgement. But, he has to be a dude, so he's got this pride stuff going on.
MysticFire .. if you can assure him that you'll take care of and protect his dream-world, then .. only then will you have him. I've said many times in this community and other Pisces have said it as well . . I'm alone, always . . even when in the presence of other people .. still alone .. and that's how he feels. Even when the two of you are making love to each other .. he's alone .. it's his other side that is lonely, that aches for someone to understand and trust and love. The Pisces will pull away and you don't know why, you don't know what you've done to hurt him .. we search everyday of our lives, looking for the person who will first, comprehend (it's hard in itself to get a person to even comprehend that it exists), then understand .. our existance is in two planes of reality that operate simultaneously.
The thing is .. he won't tell you about it, MysticFire .. because he only has himself who will protect it, keep it safe. This is why we appear indecisive, vague and foggy to people sometimes ..
It's difficult to explain .. embrace him when he's trying to process a situation because he has two levels in which to find reason .. at these times, if you are making him feel good and safe, he'll begin to realize that you're gonna stand with him, even when he's in his "other world"
"we just had an argument last night because I couldn't hold it in, anymore. No matter how many people I run to, I just really do have to blow off that steam with him. And since we talk so sporatically (more so when I'm having issues...ermm)..it's a vicious cycle, really."
There's a way around this .. the Aries HAS to let off steam, like you said. It's a form of release that you can't let build up inside of you, and it can't be helped sometimes because you feel like your going to either completly explode or go insane.
When he's in this world .. the one you live in .. anger can be dealt with. If you explain to him that you HAVE to vent, he'll understand that and stand by you while you have your moment. However, you CANNOT explode while he's in his world, trying to process reason and rationality .. when he escapes, you'll know .. that's when we suddenly become completely unreasonable, bitchy and you are sitting back thinking, what the hell is he talking about .. he's processing. It doesn't mean he BELIEVES this, it just means he is tasting how it feels to him. Sometimes, you might notice that within just several minutes .. his opinion changes five times .. because it's not an opinion, or a view of how he feels or what he thinks .. he's processing the situation, trying to come to terms on what he feels, or what he thinks. At this time, just be patient and let him work through because he has two places that are working at the same time and it gets confusing inside our heads.
If you explode in anger when he's not fully put the situation in perspective .. you've put him in a tailspin, he can't grasp your anger, he can't grasp reason or logic and the two of you will have an argument where you hadn't intended one to be .. you just wanted to vent off steam, not argue. Does that make sense?
It's a matter of you recognizing when he is where .. it feels sort of like, you're at work and two different people are telling you that they need something of you and they want it right now. You're standing at your desk, ready to pull your hair out because you are only one person, yet, both bosses want your attention right now. That's how it feels .. you're angry and he wants to soothe this emotion that's inside of you, yet, he's not done processing the situation because there's two places he has to do this, so it just ends up in an arguement that makes no sense.
I KNOW I can be strong for him. I protect him everyday; he just doesn't realize this. None of my friends understand why I want things to work out so badly. They just assume I'm going crazy and found myself yet another bad relationship.
Strange thing is, I know I do have a profound effect on his goals. He told me here the other week that I influenced him into thinking he could buy a new car, too. Although the strange part about it, is that I already knew that.
Could Aries be intuitive, too? I think maybe he makes me more sensitive or something. But I'm seeing and hearing things I always missed in the past. I suppose he's slowing me down and I'm speeding him up. 🙂
I really think there is solid potential, here. I just don't know how to tell him what I truly feel. I guess I'll have to show him...which is scarry as hell for me.
The one time I let myself break down and be seen, I thought he missed it. Because he only wanted to have sex. And I def. have a fear of people's true intentions. I try to match what people say to what they do. And that's no easy task with my Pisces.
So that day I ended up going home early with a massive migraine. I made myself physically ill, indeed.
When he smiles, I see his fear. I see his pain. I know who he is. And maybe this is part of what keeps him coming back.
If only he knew I was online right now. Trying to figure him out. But of course, he has no idea how important he is to me. 'Cause I'm horrible at telling people what they mean to me.
Thanks for all your help, guys. I really appreciate it.
"he has no idea how important he is to me. 'Cause I'm horrible at telling people what they mean to me."
He KNOWS how much he means to you .. he can FEEL it .. just as you KNOW that you have the inner strength and he can feel that, too .. that's why he is still there. Don't worry about "telling" him with words, MysticFire .. we are emotional beings who feel every nuance within the other person, just a twinkle in your eye, he can feel.
He's so lucky to have you, and solitas woman .. Pisces NEEDS Aries because you rams are the only ones who feel us as deeply as we need to feel from another. I know my soulmate is an Aries and I look for him everyday of my life.
Your depth and endearing heart calls out to us .. he senses this. He knows that he belongs to the person who can talk to his heart without uttering a word .. the reason why you feel so different and alive with him is because of this .. it's where your bound, just as he is, too.
Don't worry, just be yourself .. he knows that you are true to him because he can sense it with his "feelers" .. it's his fear that holds him back. His fear that you won't be able to accept his weakness that he cannot help. When he's in his transition inbetween worlds .. just hold him and tell him that you love him no matter what's going on inside him .. you don't have to tell him that you know his fear, or that you know he's struggling within himself to reason because of his two planes .. he only has to know when he's in this "place", you're still standing there, waiting for him to come back, that you won't forsake him for it.
And, you know what? I've figured this out from myself, having to live inside the two worlds of the Piscean "real and surreal" existence .. once I realize that I'm protected and that I'm ALLOWED to live within myself without judgement, I don't have to go there as often to understand a situation. I can look to my partner for the answer because I know that I can trust him to be sound and in control. So, once he realizes this, he will then be more loyal to your desires and decisions .. he'll then stand by your side, no matter what your decision is because he trusts that you love him all the way down to his soul.
I'm so happy for you. The two of you are going to loved like you never have before.
"When he smiles, I see his fear. I see his pain. I know who he is. And maybe this is part of what keeps him coming back."
Yeah, you're right. Then one day, once he realizes you're still holding him KNOWING he's afraid, and being strong FOR him .. he won't ever leave you. A person like you is who we are looking for to share our life with. We can't help who we are, we live in two worlds and it frightens the hell out us .. embrace this within him and he's yours until death parts you.
Well I haven't heard from him since last Thursday, which really doesn't surprise me. Supposedly he's going on a cruise with his family at the end of this month. However, since he wouldn't tell me which dates, perhaps he's already left? Anywayz.. Suppose he does call me. Then what? What do I say to him? I really do feel bad about hurting his feelings, but my standing holds. I can't be around someone I know I could fall in love with, and the only person preventing me from getting what I want is him. Bah. Thanks for your all your help, guys. I 'ppreciate it.
I promise to keep trying. I stop and think it would be easier to just give up. But then i think there's no way. 'Cause I see things in him nobody else knows about. He's my little secret. And even though he ignores my phone calls (stubborn SOB) I think maybe it's his way of testing me? I test with brutal truth; he tests with having faith. ?? I'll keep you updated 🙂 Thanks for the support. When I'm with him, I feel like I'm dying. Like all my strength disappears and he picks up the slack. He sees me. He's a love like no other. Then I start thinking, Why me? What did I do to deserve you? Then I start siht just to see if he runs. . .and boy, does he!
That's true, I am a Pisces women and if we had enough of you or was tired of any drama off we are OFF?we will be nice and sweet but wont answer when u call, wont call u back?etc.
You're approaching this quite astrologically...perhaps too much.....I mean how did you get his ENTIRE birth chart?! Don't forget the magic is the mystery which is what Pisces thrive off of. Yes you have a chance but if you don't relax you'll scare away the fish.
""MysticFire,have you tried asking the Pisces males how they feel about aries women and what they like,need,and want in a relationship?""
NOPE. Don't ask us that question. We will see the reasoning behind you even ASKING that question and will only respond with an answer that suits the reaction we're in the mood for.
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heh, i've put this in two other forums too but as you should know - i have problem with my patience (pisces/aries cusp - "i want what i want, when i want it") so i figured if i put one HERE as well, i might get answers faster. bhaha. xD
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Do they have a chance at all? I'm an aries gurls and hes a pisces guy. We aren't just friends but yet we don't have a boyfriend/girlfriend kind of relationship. We work together (hehe) and when no one is around, we hug and kiss each other (on the
hey i am pisces fem and i was wondering if aries dislike pisces males.i do!!pisces fems are opisite from pisces males. we are very different in so many ways. anyway tell me what you guys think?
Sun: Aries
Moon: Leo
Mercury: Aries
Venus: Aries
Mars: Taurus
Jupiter: Aquarius
Saturn: Scorpio
Uranus: Sagittarius
Neptune: Capricorn
Pluto: Scorpio
Lilith: Aries
Asc node: Taurus
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Sun: Pisces
Moon: Libra
Mercury: Pisces
Venus: Pisces
Mars: Cancer
Jupiter: Gemini
Saturn: Leo
Uranus: Scorpio
Neptune: Sagittarius
Pluto: Libra
Lilith: Cancer
Asc node: Libra
Do you think we have a chance?