Aries Sextrology: Issues explained

Hey all!
So, I recently purchased the book "Sextrology" and I highly reccommend it. I believe it has helped me to understand my relationship/friendship issues and the feeling of detachment from others. The following is a part of the book that really resonated with me. Does it with you as well?

"Aries woman, too, seeks her cool remove from the domination of men, refusing to fulfill the worldview of woman as a creature of sujugation. She keeps to herself and her own counsel. Though her signature isolationism isn't really due to the fact that she simply "vants to be alone"; no, she tends to eschew the company of other women, especially, because she perceives herself, and therefore wants to be percieved, as a standout, without begging comparions: Not in so much to say that she isn't like the others, but rather that there is nobody else, really, quite like her.
Aries is likewise always showing someone up. And she can be incredibly cutthroat in the process. There's zero irony to Aries woman in her directive approach to life, and she doesn't have a self-deprecating bone in her body (unless it's someone else's); humour about oneself, which can be so charming in others, is anathema to her. She thus never lets down her guard.
Unlike most human beings, who thrive on connectedness to others, Aries survives in life via staunch independence, if not outright segregation.
Typically good-looking and confident in the extreme, she appears to be an aloof loner rather than a social outcast. Wholly individual, her presence makes others feel like sheep. She will often be labeled a "feminist" from early on when, in fact, such political purpose couldn't be further from her mind: Aries has no agenda other than her own. However, she quickly learns that her above-it-all routine works like magic at bringing guys to thier knees. Without even trying, she seems out of reach, something that only inspires men to pursue her all the more vigorously."

I'm not sure it's about appreciation, but rather being able to get there at all. It's funny because connection is what I would really love to have with a lot of people in my life, but I've always felt something was blocking my ability to fully connect with those I love. I often feel as if I'm on the outside looking in and I'm very separate from others.

Posted by love_365
SLB you??re right. When I have to depend on someone (relationship wise) I get sick emotionally physically, and spiritually. I don't feel like I am who I am. I have a very independent nature. However, I do connect to people but very few. The person I connect to have to EARN my trust and my love. Only then will I let my guard down enough to show how vulnerable I can be.

My sister is a Libra and I notice how she depends on a man to define who she is. It's like she NEEDS to be in a relationship in order to feel whole. My sister is teaching me how to be a little more dependent on others, and I am teaching her how to be a little more independent, lol. It's hard but we are learning. She also understands men a little bit more then I do, so she helps me there too. I am direct and say what I have to say, but that gets me in a lot of trouble sometimes. I usually run to my sister when I do get myself in trouble, and she will say no you can't say this and that because you??re going to hurt the guy??s ego.

My biggest problem is when I do get in a relationship with a man he doesn't understand my need to be independent. However, that man has to have enough confidence to know when to come to me and say??_.Look sweetie its ok you can lean on me, then I will usually let my guard down and lean on him. Most men see my independent nature as something bad. I believe the ONLY person who knows me inside and out is my Sagittarius mother.

im independent like you but i don't seem to attract the same type of men. i'm too stubborn and outspoken and id make an ugly scene if i thought my head was being messed with and most men frown on that kind of behavior lol. this is stuff you can gather about my personality after meeting me once so im about 100% sure most guys aren't stupid enough to try to "change" me and if they don't like what they see they know it's not gonna change.

i think every man, no matter how progressive, will always want to take care of his lady but i don't think they're threatened by independence. i think most guys appreciate it because they know the girl loves them and doesn't need them but she's making the choice of letting him in. i know i'd so never stop taking care of my bills or stop saving or let up on my responsibilities after i get married. im a control freak and i have anxiety when i dont know EX

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Posted by ramfishtwins
I'm not sure it's about appreciation, but rather being able to get there at all. It's funny because connection is what I would really love to have with a lot of people in my life, but I've always felt something was blocking my ability to fully connect with those I love. I often feel as if I'm on the outside looking in and I'm very separate from others.

they say detachment is the key..
to what extent ? to what cost ?
and : who is they ?

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LOL WTF...I love when people say "they say ____" Who the fuck is they??!!

Well, well, well...where in the HELL have you been all my life??!! Damn lady, I wondered what happened to you! I've been missin' ya 😉

You didn't miss it...it's going on right now!! Thanks for the wishes 🙂