Blowing up my phone. Why is it ok when he does it?

This has been an ongoing issue with me and my man.
He is constantly blowing up my phone asking me where I'm at, who I'm with, what I'm doing etc etc when I'm out by myself. I have not given his ass any reason to be this suspicious of me. We've had our talks about trust and respect. He should know by now I'm not that kind of chick. I mean God forbid if I resort to the same behavior, he gets all butthurt like he can't even believe my audacity. I've only done it twice when it was past 3 in the morning and his ass was no where to be found. He was at his sister's house. She confirmed it but still it made me furious that he didn't even have the decency to call and tell me, his girlfriend that he was going to be that late coming home.
So my question to you all is...why is it ok for you to blow up my phone but not me—? Like why are you such a sexist pig? He tells me it's inappropriate for a woman to be out in public past 9 pm like wtf is that.

Would you get bored or suspicious if he didn't do it? Stop pretending you don't like the attention lol

9 pm is like an 11 year old kid's curfew lol

I am not a male, and I do not appreciate you directing this at all Aries, like we can read his mind. Get real.

Posted by piscesmoon
I am guessing he is the Aries... It is simple we don't like to be questioned... and although you are well with in your limits we don't like it... Believe me I know... lol

The calling you means he has just really let you in to a deeper emotional level and most likely feels week and out of control so he wants to know you are there... There no matter what... If you love him enough to let him squeeze you a little for a bit it will pass... Aries have been going through some issues this year... and over the last two weeks it has been hard... Believe me I know... Just keep telling him he can trust you and make him feel ok about it... I really need to learn to take my own advise... lol If you can't deal dump him and the sooner the better sorry...

I think you have to much feeling for him though so deal with it for a bit and it will go away...

PM

+1

I'm a Aries with Pisces moon too but i have an Aries rising.

dude probably has too much time on his hands lol i can't imagine monitoring somebody's ass 24/7 lol it looks like a lot of work. i'm too lazy for that sh $ t lol

Posted by beautifulsoul74
Stop pretending you don't like the attention lol

LOL...that's pretty much on target. I swear the women that don't get it feel like their man don't care, and the women that do "Oh God he is crazy".

I guess it's the relationship dance. A little drama here and there won't hurt, lol...I think.

Posted by piscesmoon
I am guessing he is the Aries... It is simple we don't like to be questioned... and although you are well with in your limits we don't like it... Believe me I know... lol

The calling you means he has just really let you in to a deeper emotional level and most likely feels week and out of control so he wants to know you are there... There no matter what... If you love him enough to let him squeeze you a little for a bit it will pass... Aries have been going through some issues this year... and over the last two weeks it has been hard... Believe me I know... Just keep telling him he can trust you and make him feel ok about it... I really need to learn to take my own advise... lol If you can't deal dump him and the sooner the better sorry...

I think you have to much feeling for him though so deal with it for a bit and it will go away...

PM

So you're saying this is just a phase? He used to let me roam around freely in the beginning stages of our relationship. We've been together for 3 years now. I mean I'm a jealous bitch but I try not to show it. That's the difference between me and him. We're both jealous and we know it but he just tends to take it to the extreme.

Posted by Jesse91
dude probably has too much time on his hands lol i can't imagine monitoring somebody's ass 24/7 lol it looks like a lot of work. i'm too lazy for that sh $ t lol

I don't even know where or how he finds the time. He works a lot of hours but he somehow manages to squeeze in a couple of phone calls into his hectic schedule to harass me.

He has a Virgo moon so he's got really good time management skills. smdh

Posted by ninjafish


Crimeofpassion, the good side of all of this is that evidently he's thinking of you much of the time 🙂

Yeah I guess that's not so bad if you put it like that lol Obviously I'd rather have him obsessing over me than some other bitch.

He's thinking about you and really just wants to know what your up to. Sometimes when we miss people we love and we dont hear from them when we want to it feels like their dead. Those three questions mean a lot to us. Those are the first questions i ask almost everyone i really care about.

lol I'm not excusing his behavior or anything but I think he just cares about you a lot 🙂
Like piscesmoon said, Aries don't really like to be questioned because we think we are already an open book lol We get a little offended when people accuse us of having hidden agendas lol

Posted by Jesse91
9 pm is like an 11 year old kid's curfew lol

lol 9 o clock is more like an 11 yr old's BEDTIME.

@piscessmoon

I never flirted with anybody so all of his fears are irrational. Yeah he has a tendency to deliberately pick fights with me in order to find out if I still care about him (Which obviously I do. That's why I'm still with his ass after all these years). The Virgo moon makes him suspicious by nature. He analyzes things needlessly. It can be annoying.

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Posted by Jesse91
9 pm is like an 11 year old kid's curfew lol

lol 9 o clock is more like an 11 yr old's BEDTIME.

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Exactly. and I'm almost 23.

he doesn't actually make you obey that 9pm curfew though, does he? lol

He does.
But I only listen to him half of the time. I've had to turn down so many late night outing and party invitations from co- workers and friends because I didn't want to worry him.

that must be tough.

It is.

what do you wanna do?

I'm not sure what I want to do.

why is it ok for you to blow up my phone but not me?

because you answer the phone.

does he ever like compromise what he wants for you or are you usually the one doing most of the compromising? cuz it shouldn't just be one-sided.
right?

Right.
He'll compromise like once in a blue moon but it's not something that comes naturally to him. Usually I have to coax him into it. That being said, he's not a bad boyfriend. He treats me good...most of the time. He buys me nice things, he's protective and semi-caring(?) lol

that's cool 🙂

Posted by Jesse91
that's cool 🙂

I guess.
But things definitely need to improve because I don't know how much longer I can take his insecure crap.

Posted by harry99
Oh behold why I looooove being single. People (men mostly) can be soo controlling. Hon idk how long you intend to change you life for him but you need to invoke the Virgo and ANALYZE the living h&ll out of this relationship. I hate being controlled. My Taurus sun makes it semi-impossible for me to be the one to end a relationship, so my Gemini moon takes over & I semi-conciously do ....... stuff that eventually forces the relationship to just end with no chance of reconciliation...............that way I'm never tempted to go back nope. After I "had" to cancel the first party etc.... oooooohhh I would've started doing & saying stuff to truly piss him off. Ijs I haaaaate being controlled, my mind is just incapable of handling it. I spent too many years being controlled by various people in personal relationship settings (I already went through childhood once).......... never again ever.

My man has a Virgo moon, not me. I'm a Libra moon and I like to be social unlike him. I'll sit down and have another long chat with him. If he doesn't change, I'm leaving.

Thx for your help everyone.