Chachacha
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How would a Mature Aries Act?
How Does a Mature Aries Act
A mature Aries balances assertiveness with patience, showing confidence without arrogance. They are honest and direct but also considerate of others feelings. They maintain their enthusiasm and independence while practicing self-control and empathy. Maturity for Aries involves understanding when to speak and act and when to listen and reflect. It is about channeling their natural energy positively.
Hmmmm, it is difficult for me to actually know if I qualify as a "mature" Aries. I will admit to being an older one, though.
Gullible, well, I tend to accept what people tell me. That is unless it is very improbable, or I have evidence to the contrary. If that makes me "gullible," so be it.
As for love, I am either all in, or hardly interested at all. We are passionate people, and I suppose that can come across as desperate. If I want, I really want!!!! Unfortunately for me, having someone who returns those feelings with even some modest intensity has been very rare. Oh wait, I have never had that combination in my life.
This has set me up for some very painful experiences, though. Hopefully, you are more lucky than I have been with "love."
Friendliness, yeah, sure, I suppose. In reality I depend on my innate abilities to adapt, learn, bob and weave to keep me safe. People tend to think I am an idiot when I am really not at all interested in what they think I should be interested in. I have my own agenda most generally, and pursue that agenda with surprising determination and focus.
Being talkative, and annoyingly so, is indeed something I inflict upon others. The rule is, if you don't want to know, don't ask! I will tell you, and at great length sometimes, what I think.
Having said that, learning to shut the heck up has served me well.
There has been a bit of story telling associated with some of my talkativeness. I have discovered that I need to be ever so close to the truth at all times. Apparently, we are lousy liars, and people seem to hold us to a standard of factual precision that they don't seem to hold others to. I never figured that one out. Person A will tell Person B a bald face lie, and it is obvious that Person A is lying, but Person B just smiles and lets it slide. I make a comment that is slightly different than the facts, and I am seen as the scum of the earth. Oh well....
Gullible, well, I tend to accept what people tell me. That is unless it is very improbable, or I have evidence to the contrary. If that makes me "gullible," so be it.
As for love, I am either all in, or hardly interested at all. We are passionate people, and I suppose that can come across as desperate. If I want, I really want!!!! Unfortunately for me, having someone who returns those feelings with even some modest intensity has been very rare. Oh wait, I have never had that combination in my life.
This has set me up for some very painful experiences, though. Hopefully, you are more lucky than I have been with "love."
Friendliness, yeah, sure, I suppose. In reality I depend on my innate abilities to adapt, learn, bob and weave to keep me safe. People tend to think I am an idiot when I am really not at all interested in what they think I should be interested in. I have my own agenda most generally, and pursue that agenda with surprising determination and focus.
Being talkative, and annoyingly so, is indeed something I inflict upon others. The rule is, if you don't want to know, don't ask! I will tell you, and at great length sometimes, what I think.
Having said that, learning to shut the heck up has served me well.
There has been a bit of story telling associated with some of my talkativeness. I have discovered that I need to be ever so close to the truth at all times. Apparently, we are lousy liars, and people seem to hold us to a standard of factual precision that they don't seem to hold others to. I never figured that one out. Person A will tell Person B a bald face lie, and it is obvious that Person A is lying, but Person B just smiles and lets it slide. I make a comment that is slightly different than the facts, and I am seen as the scum of the earth. Oh well....
My guess is most of this results from my view of the world. An example would be that I met someone who was quite proud of themselves. It seems they were a rather important person from where they were from, but that this place was literally thousands of miles from where we met. Not only that but even if they had been local, their "importance" would have in no way had an impact on me. Now really, why would I kiss this persons ass? But, that was not only the expectation of said person, but of people who I knew locally. "Why would I care" was my exact comment, and really, why should I care. This person had exactly 0 impact on my life, and would continue to have 0 impact. Why was my time and effort on 0? This is the sort of attitude that will set you up for all the things listed above.
Of course you are gullible, can't you see this important person!
Of course you love, and you do so intensely, so you are obviously desperate
Of course you are innocent, otherwise you would be kissing "important" persons ass
Of course you are a liar, cause anyone can see that this person is important, and you are denying that
Talkative, well, you have just read a fine example of "If you don't want to know, don't ask...."
Of course you are gullible, can't you see this important person!
Of course you love, and you do so intensely, so you are obviously desperate
Of course you are innocent, otherwise you would be kissing "important" persons ass
Of course you are a liar, cause anyone can see that this person is important, and you are denying that
Talkative, well, you have just read a fine example of "If you don't want to know, don't ask...."
^^^...why waste my time...
I read it all i loved it.
Posted by dofacc
Hmmmm, it is difficult for me to actually know if I qualify as a "mature" Aries. I will admit to being an older one, though.
Gullible, well, I tend to accept what people tell me. That is unless it is very improbable, or I have evidence to the contrary. If that makes me "gullible," so be it.
Gullibleness/Gullibility/whatever is relative. If some people didn't lie and weren't full of shit and just out to use others it wouldn't matter who was gullible and who wasn't.
Posted by dofacc
There has been a bit of story telling associated with some of my talkativeness. I have discovered that I need to be ever so close to the truth at all times. Apparently, we are lousy liars, and people seem to hold us to a standard of factual precision that they don't seem to hold others to. I never figured that one out. Person A will tell Person B a bald face lie, and it is obvious that Person A is lying, but Person B just smiles and lets it slide. I make a comment that is slightly different than the facts, and I am seen as the scum of the earth. Oh well....
Why bother lying? It's just more stuff to remember.
Simpler to stick to the facts. And if you were out with an Aries the facts are probably much more fun than any dumb story you care to draft up in an effort to cover your tracks😉
Posted by Chachacha
Sometimes I battle with my inner self. Due to reality i wonder if i should be as expressive as i usually am, as talkative, as friendly, as honest and gullible as i am (believe that most people are good honest people), and as loving as i am.
My natural tendencies cause me to get hurt a lot more than i would like to. Automatically i give everything and everyone my 100% unless im not interested in the thing or person. I just wonder if im suppose to be the way i am or tone it down a few notches because people will perceive me to what they want to.
i.e gullible = stupid
loving = desperate
friendly = Blind by my own innocence
talkative = annoying
honest = liar
It seems all my characteristics are mislead and interpreted wrongly.
Im young so i expect i'll change but, change into what?
how does a mature aries act?
I guess I'm somewhat mature and Jaded too. I hope a mature Aries isn't a cynical Aries because that's what I'm becoming. I have to change.
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My natural tendencies cause me to get hurt a lot more than i would like to. Automatically i give everything and everyone my 100% unless im not interested in the thing or person. I just wonder if im suppose to be the way i am or tone it down a few notches because people will perceive me to what they want to.
i.e gullible = stupid
loving = desperate
friendly = Blind by my own innocence
talkative = annoying
honest = liar
It seems all my characteristics are mislead and interpreted wrongly.
Im young so i expect i'll change but, change into what?
how does a mature aries act?