Cc1124
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Did I just fxked up with this Aries man?
Posted by Cc1124Sorry not an Aries dude (bf is) but, the one thing about dealing with Aries is, everything you put down here-give it to them. They appreciate it and can handle it. And its SUPER refreshing to be able to do this. I done it from the v beginning of our relation, I had NEVER been this way before and think it was something to do with my age 30's no time for bs guessing games etc etc.... But it worked, for us both!
Met a guy online and we have talked over 6months before we really met in person. Long story short, we see almost every week the past 4 weeks, even there was one time he cancelled on me on Wed, but he made it up to me straight the way on that Saturday.
However, this week, Monday we were supposed to meet for movie after 2 days party , he cancelled on me, didn't reschedule. Then we again suppose to meet the coming Friday for dinner and usually I suppose to stay at his for the night, but then he just texted me and said something about his workmate happened who's kind of his friend, but he said let's still do the dinner at least, and the next week he's going to be busy with his mon for things.
I was so fxking angry but without acting up while replying him, I just said "it's okay I understand and no need to rush for the dinner, be there for your friend(means his workmate)".
I don't know if blowing off the dinner on Fri was a bad idea while he was actually saying let's still at least do the dinner? But I was just so pissed and felt I'm lowering myself if I still saying yes.
So please Aries men, tell me, if I already fxked things up?
So, you think it's a great move? Thanks for replying me btw, I just need someone I can talk to and calm a bit.....
With the conversation below, I'm thinking he just wanna end things but still only trying to play nice. Or just me?
HIM：cool.. let you know the time for Fri to meet..
ME：Okie
(After 2 hours)
HIM：friend got fired yesterday..
but lets do at least dinner on friday.. ok?
ME：Oh, sorry about that, he/she did something wrong ？Anyway, lets forget the dinner, take your time
HIM：seems like only restructuring after an m&a..
no lets do.. cause the week afterwards i am quite busy with my mum..
except you have already plans..
ME：It's ok
I understand you have your things, no need to rush dinner, be there for your friend
.......No more replies since then for hours already
I just so confused at the moment, like he's being so sweet one moment, taking me out every week doing all those couples things, but the next moment just cold, cancel on me twice in a roll
I have no clue what's going on, that's why I just so pissed and couldn't be bother and blow off the plan by myself.....
With the conversation below, I'm thinking he just wanna end things but still only trying to play nice. Or just me?
HIM：cool.. let you know the time for Fri to meet..
ME：Okie
(After 2 hours)
HIM：friend got fired yesterday..
but lets do at least dinner on friday.. ok?
ME：Oh, sorry about that, he/she did something wrong ？Anyway, lets forget the dinner, take your time
HIM：seems like only restructuring after an m&a..
no lets do.. cause the week afterwards i am quite busy with my mum..
except you have already plans..
ME：It's ok
I understand you have your things, no need to rush dinner, be there for your friend
.......No more replies since then for hours already
I just so confused at the moment, like he's being so sweet one moment, taking me out every week doing all those couples things, but the next moment just cold, cancel on me twice in a roll
I have no clue what's going on, that's why I just so pissed and couldn't be bother and blow off the plan by myself.....
Your in your feels.
He didn't just randomly turn cold, he gave a perfectly reasonable explanation as to why he can't kick it for long on Friday.
YOUR the one suggesting that you guys don't see each other at all. YOUR the one blowing him off.
He didn't just randomly turn cold, he gave a perfectly reasonable explanation as to why he can't kick it for long on Friday.
YOUR the one suggesting that you guys don't see each other at all. YOUR the one blowing him off.
Posted by LadyNeptune………………………………
Your in your feels.
He didn't just randomly turn cold, he gave a perfectly reasonable explanation as to why he can't kick it for long on Friday.
YOUR the one suggesting that you guys don't see each other at all. YOUR the one blowing him off.
Yea, maybe. That's why I'm so struggling now and needing someone I can talk to
I just can't really take the excuse tho, he shouldn't have only knowing his friend being fired from yesterday just by now. And after the 2 times cancelling on me in a roll....
Posted by Cc1124Being fired is embarrassing and private. It's entirely plausible that he only just found out.Posted by LadyNeptune………………………………
Your in your feels.
He didn't just randomly turn cold, he gave a perfectly reasonable explanation as to why he can't kick it for long on Friday.
YOUR the one suggesting that you guys don't see each other at all. YOUR the one blowing him off.
Yea, maybe. That's why I'm so struggling now and needing someone I can talk to
I just can't really take the excuse tho, he shouldn't have only knowing his friend being fired from yesterday just by now. And after the 2 times cancelling on me in a roll....click to expand
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Cc1124Posted by LadyNeptuneSorry don't really get what you mean.... should I just say something to him?
Being fired is embarrassing and private. It's entirely plausible that he only just found out.click to expand
At first, was actually myself being the bad one, always not replying him and only accept to meet him that long after. But the plans changing thing, really not easy for me to take in though he was sweet enough before. just the excuses....
Being an Aries guy, I don’t mind if women are emotional. But he was being reasonable, you just made it sound like he can’t see his friends when he needs to. I think you see the error of your ways now. Of course it is a blip, but overall the relationship is probably still good? I think being honest is ok, I would tell him, send a message and say you were disappointed about not being able to see him the other night but you want to see him soon. Good thing about Aries is they forget things pretty quickly, however I do think you need to make the next move, because if I woman sent me the message you sent, then I would think she wants to break it off (and I wouldn’t know or care why). Don’t worry though, most women are confusing and do this sort of stuff, if you sent message just to avoid confusion now, but don’t apologise because you don’t need to make a big deal out of it now.
Posted by AriesJo...................................
Being an Aries guy, I don’t mind if women are emotional. But he was being reasonable, you just made it sound like he can’t see his friends when he needs to. I think you see the error of your ways now. Of course it is a blip, but overall the relationship is probably still good? I think being honest is ok, I would tell him, send a message and say you were disappointed about not being able to see him the other night but you want to see him soon. Good thing about Aries is they forget things pretty quickly, however I do think you need to make the next move, because if I woman sent me the message you sent, then I would think she wants to break it off (and I wouldn’t know or care why). Don’t worry though, most women are confusing and do this sort of stuff, if you sent message just to avoid confusion now, but don’t apologise because you don’t need to make a big deal out of it now.
I just did message him before I see your reply here, so..... I did say sorry, damn it !
I said sorry I was being mean to blow off the friday dinner plan, just because being cancelled wasnt easy to take in. and hope his friend is fine and soon to find a new job.
at first he sounded so pissed said I was bitching around. (Thank god I read enough Aries thing understand they could be real cruel when they're pissed, but I am Sagittarius which I am easy to be pissed as well.....but I did my best and hold it in!!!) then I said, "i know I was being mean and I shouldn't be", and he's now probably off guard again and said will see tomorrow if he could still make it for Friday dinner.
Hopefully he will make time for us this Fri as planned. If yes, shall I act like nothing happened and don't mention it at all, just be happy there when seeing him? or, anything I should be doing?
correction:
at first he sounded so pissed said I was ""bitching"" around
at first he sounded so pissed said I was ""bitching"" around
oh, the forum actually changed my words, now I know,
I was saying --- at first he sounded so pissed said I was ""bitxhing"" around
I was saying --- at first he sounded so pissed said I was ""bitxhing"" around
Posted by Cc1124Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Cc1124I think you should be direct with him like @libraloveshim suggested.Posted by LadyNeptuneSorry don't really get what you mean.... should I just say something to him?
Being fired is embarrassing and private. It's entirely plausible that he only just found out.click to expand
But honestly, I think your overreacting. Crying foul over him bailing on you twice. When in actuality the first time he didn't cancel, he rescheduled. And this time he's not canceling, he still wants to get dinner he's just letting you know that he's not yours the entire evening.
Life happens, plans change. Your attitude is proving that you can't roll with the punches. Aries are spur of the moment people.
Not to mention it's been a month, 4 dates, and your trying to put his balls in a vise. Not sexy.
yes, just like @AriesJo's suggestion, and thank god he's now no longer that pissed. Only see tomorrow if he confirms to make time for us as planned on Friday just dinner. Thank god at the end he seems already sort of forgetting, typical Aries, LOL
Posted by Lala1393..................................................
He's fine. You're good. Don't stress about it.
Aries men are really sweet and childlike in a good way.
True, that's why I am so not willing to fxk this up and looking for some advises here.
I was so shocked when seeing his first reply that Im bitxhing around, never expected a sweet person like him always treating me like a queen would say such thing to me, thank god I hold it in and didnt fight bacj, and then he started to soften his tone.....Aries and Sagittarius, what a nightmare.....
Posted by AriesJoThank god he confirmed to make time for dinner tomorrow as planned, anything I should be doing or say when seeing him tomorrow ?
Being an Aries guy, I don’t mind if women are emotional. But he was being reasonable, you just made it sound like he can’t see his friends when he needs to. I think you see the error of your ways now. Of course it is a blip, but overall the relationship is probably still good? I think being honest is ok, I would tell him, send a message and say you were disappointed about not being able to see him the other night but you want to see him soon. Good thing about Aries is they forget things pretty quickly, however I do think you need to make the next move, because if I woman sent me the message you sent, then I would think she wants to break it off (and I wouldn’t know or care why). Don’t worry though, most women are confusing and do this sort of stuff, if you sent message just to avoid confusion now, but don’t apologise because you don’t need to make a big deal out of it now.
Sagi + Aries is a great match, I don’t think you need to worry or overthink it. Aries men don’t want a quiet woman, they like things more exciting than that. Sagi are direct and Aries like that, because that’s how they are too. You obviously like this guy and don’t want to mess up, but it’s important you can be yourself too. Show him who you are and don’t be afraid, it will be what wins him over in the end.
Posted by AriesJo………………………………………………
Sagi + Aries is a great match, I don’t think you need to worry or overthink it. Aries men don’t want a quiet woman, they like things more exciting than that. Sagi are direct and Aries like that, because that’s how they are too. You obviously like this guy and don’t want to mess up, but it’s important you can be yourself too. Show him who you are and don’t be afraid, it will be what wins him over in the end.
I will try my best, if he brings up that I was bitxhing around (which I could guess he would make fun of it), how should I respond?
Sometimes curious, is it Aries guys don't like texting much? I mean everytime only replying with few words and that's it?
Hehe yeah he might make fun of it, Aries do this. Obviously there are better conversation topics, but if it does come up then making a joke out of it is probably best. Because Aries overreact all the time, and then chuckle about it afterwards. I would say something like “you know you love it really”, or “well, I can’t make it too easy for you now, can I?” or .. I dunno, something that makes it funny. Or you could change the topic if you prefer, like “..but your friend is ok now, right?” Or put it back on him, like “..hehe yeah it was almost as bad as the time you….” .. if you can think of something where he overreacted.
Yes I think in general, Aries men do short messages, you’re probably right there.
Yes I think in general, Aries men do short messages, you’re probably right there.
Posted by AriesJo.........................................................
Hehe yeah he might make fun of it, Aries do this. Obviously there are better conversation topics, but if it does come up then making a joke out of it is probably best. Because Aries overreact all the time, and then chuckle about it afterwards. I would say something like “you know you love it really”, or “well, I can’t make it too easy for you now, can I?” or .. I dunno, something that makes it funny. Or you could change the topic if you prefer, like “..but your friend is ok now, right?” Or put it back on him, like “..hehe yeah it was almost as bad as the time you….” .. if you can think of something where he overreacted.
Yes I think in general, Aries men do short messages, you’re probably right there.
I really need to say big big thanks to you AriesJo and all others
without you guys' advises, I could have real messed up this relationship.
Thank god we made it to the dinner, and he was like even sweeter than before, or just me, I don't know, We had a real great time at dinner and after that, we both hang out with our own friends separately. Which I was actually like how it was.
somehow, during to trip from the restaurant to the location where we were going to split for the night, he saw a work mate (he said) but we acted like totally strangers....which I wasn't really happy about.
Anyways, from today and it's a week I will not see him as he mentioned he's busy with his mom visiting, which.....you know I wish he would introduce me to his mom, at least as a friend? I dont know, but yes, I know I should try to do my best and live my life at least this week without overthinking anything again, Right??
OP, I am glad your dinner went okey, but...
I am not sure I understand why he would have to console his friend during the night? Or was it a type of consoling, that: you are fired, so lets go and get really drunk?
how long they have been friends? are they working together? is this friend a man or woman?
I am not sure I understand why he would have to console his friend during the night? Or was it a type of consoling, that: you are fired, so lets go and get really drunk?
how long they have been friends? are they working together? is this friend a man or woman?
Posted by Pandora101....................................
OP, I am glad your dinner went okey, but...
I am not sure I understand why he would have to console his friend during the night? Or was it a type of consoling, that: you are fired, so lets go and get really drunk?
how long they have been friends? are they working together? is this friend a man or woman?
What I understand is Aries is always friends are like family, he wasn't have to console his friend, and yes I guess was like the type of lets go and get drunk, and just needed to be there for him. This now I could understand, and I was happy, as I knew they were suppose to meet by 8ish, but he chose to spend time with me till 10ish then to meet them, which I see he did put effort.
Posted by AriesJo…………………………………………
Hehe yeah he might make fun of it, Aries do this. Obviously there are better conversation topics, but if it does come up then making a joke out of it is probably best. Because Aries overreact all the time, and then chuckle about it afterwards. I would say something like “you know you love it really”, or “well, I can’t make it too easy for you now, can I?” or .. I dunno, something that makes it funny. Or you could change the topic if you prefer, like “..but your friend is ok now, right?” Or put it back on him, like “..hehe yeah it was almost as bad as the time you….” .. if you can think of something where he overreacted.
Yes I think in general, Aries men do short messages, you’re probably right there.
Does it take long to have an Aries guy consider a girl as an exclusive?
and what would the reasons to make them have such a switch?
I know Friends are like family to Aries guys, so...do they usually only take the girl to see his friends only if he sees her as exclusive?
Don't screw this up! Aries men are the best ?
Posted by Brittnie………………………………
Don't screw this up! Aries men are the best ?
Still wait to see if the best lol....
But this guy really got me and I want to just not overreacting something to ruin it.
Somehow yes, the sweetness and cuteness, killing me mannnn
Somehow, I am pretty uncomfortable with one point is, his mom is in town now for a week, and just told me she extended the stay for one more week, which sure he's not ready to invite me to anyone yet, that is something making me go nutsssss. and now can only wait till then and also he will then be out of town for a week of holiday......sighhhh!!!!!!
that's why, really would like to know if it take long to have an Aries guy consider a girl as an exclusive?
and what would the reasons to make them have such a switch?
and do they usually take the girl to see his friends only if he sees her as exclusive?
that's why, really would like to know if it take long to have an Aries guy consider a girl as an exclusive?
and what would the reasons to make them have such a switch?
and do they usually take the girl to see his friends only if he sees her as exclusive?
Posted by Lala1393.....................................................Posted by Cc1124
Somehow, I am pretty uncomfortable with one point is, his mom is in town now for a week, and just told me she extended the stay for one more week, which sure he's not ready to invite me to anyone yet, that is something making me go nutsssss. and now can only wait till then and also he will then be out of town for a week of holiday......sighhhh!!!!!!
that's why, really would like to know if it take long to have an Aries guy consider a girl as an exclusive?
and what would the reasons to make them have such a switch?
and do they usually take the girl to see his friends only if he sees her as exclusive?
You're seeing his friends....y'all are a couple.
click to expand
No, I have yet ever been introduced to any of his friends..... T.T
Posted by Lala1393.....................................................Posted by Cc1124Posted by Lala1393.....................................................Posted by Cc1124
Somehow, I am pretty uncomfortable with one point is, his mom is in town now for a week, and just told me she extended the stay for one more week, which sure he's not ready to invite me to anyone yet, that is something making me go nutsssss. and now can only wait till then and also he will then be out of town for a week of holiday......sighhhh!!!!!!
that's why, really would like to know if it take long to have an Aries guy consider a girl as an exclusive?
and what would the reasons to make them have such a switch?
and do they usually take the girl to see his friends only if he sees her as exclusive?
You're seeing his friends....y'all are a couple.
No, I have yet ever been introduced to any of his friends..... T.T
How long has it been ?
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Just over a month 😉
There are too many variables which are unknown, like you don't know if he's worried his mom will get out the baby photos lol. You could ask if he's told his mom about you? If he says yes then definitely he's thinking about you properly.
I wouldn’t push him if he isn’t ready for something, sometimes we have expectations and if they don’t happen, we can be disappointed, but there aren’t really any rules. Sometimes things don’t happen as expected but they end up being better. I think you have to enjoy the process of getting to know him, remember you don’t want to give yourself to anyone unless you’re really sure. We always want to believe we’ve met the perfect person and sometimes get carried away, but make your assessment of him too, don’t just worry about what he thinks about you. If you see a red flag then you might need to take a step back, don’t commit unless you’re sure. Don’t invest too much feeling without getting it back in return from him.
I think it really depends if you think he genuinely looks forwards to seeing you, things like that. Meeting his mom, it’s probably in the same category as “when does he want to get married” …things like this progress differently for different people?
I wouldn’t push him if he isn’t ready for something, sometimes we have expectations and if they don’t happen, we can be disappointed, but there aren’t really any rules. Sometimes things don’t happen as expected but they end up being better. I think you have to enjoy the process of getting to know him, remember you don’t want to give yourself to anyone unless you’re really sure. We always want to believe we’ve met the perfect person and sometimes get carried away, but make your assessment of him too, don’t just worry about what he thinks about you. If you see a red flag then you might need to take a step back, don’t commit unless you’re sure. Don’t invest too much feeling without getting it back in return from him.
I think it really depends if you think he genuinely looks forwards to seeing you, things like that. Meeting his mom, it’s probably in the same category as “when does he want to get married” …things like this progress differently for different people?
Posted by AriesJo……………………………………
There are too many variables which are unknown, like you don't know if he's worried his mom will get out the baby photos lol. You could ask if he's told his mom about you? If he says yes then definitely he's thinking about you properly.
I wouldn’t push him if he isn’t ready for something, sometimes we have expectations and if they don’t happen, we can be disappointed, but there aren’t really any rules. Sometimes things don’t happen as expected but they end up being better. I think you have to enjoy the process of getting to know him, remember you don’t want to give yourself to anyone unless you’re really sure. We always want to believe we’ve met the perfect person and sometimes get carried away, but make your assessment of him too, don’t just worry about what he thinks about you. If you see a red flag then you might need to take a step back, don’t commit unless you’re sure. Don’t invest too much feeling without getting it back in return from him.
I think it really depends if you think he genuinely looks forwards to seeing you, things like that. Meeting his mom, it’s probably in the same category as “when does he want to get married” …things like this progress differently for different people?
Thanks a lot, and all your advice really helped me a lot. I am now trying to enjoy the most to get to know him better, seems like he's now getting more invole, like would send me pictures of what he did, not always but sometimes, kind of an improvement.
Still his mom still have a week to stay and then a friend will come visit and stay at his for 2 weeks... thank god he seems would still make time for us at least once a week. Last night after dinner and he came to mine. And before he leaves, he mentioned next week maybe he could try one night stay at mine or maybe I could sneak in and stay at his... i don't really like to do the "sneak in" thing, feel like I'm not someone he could tell his friend about ;(
What do you guys think?
Some follow ups, we're both in a very happy situation here, and as mentioned last message, still his mom then his friend soon be staying over as well as he having few up coming weekend trips in Aug, which sort of making me want to make sure he will make time for me during the week.
Somehow, i start feeling myself a bit being too easy now? Cause I'm now mostly the one asking to meet (which he always say yes), seems like I'm now cutting the chase? As i remember Aries guys need to feel he's winning that woman instead of I'm always there so available for him?
I'm feeling a bit clingy to him now maybe, should I be a little bit step back or anything I should be doing or doing less to get him chase me again?
Somehow, i start feeling myself a bit being too easy now? Cause I'm now mostly the one asking to meet (which he always say yes), seems like I'm now cutting the chase? As i remember Aries guys need to feel he's winning that woman instead of I'm always there so available for him?
I'm feeling a bit clingy to him now maybe, should I be a little bit step back or anything I should be doing or doing less to get him chase me again?
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