Emotional connection and Romance with Aries

Hi,
I am pisces married to Aries. We had arranged marriage and first few years had been quiet difficult for me to understand my Aries man. I have now started to accept the differences we have and how he thinks but what I really miss in our relation is the emotional connection. He seems to be always occupied with things and very independent. We never have deep emotional talks and as pisces I think that's a big need I have. I complain about spending time together and he will be with me for short while explaining me politics and how rest of world works but when it comes to romance — I feel as if he isn't romantic at all.

Anyone here with aries-pisces relation help me? I??ve read aries man are romantic but I am yet to see this. How do aries man define romance and do you believe in having emotional connection?

Do you know his chart?

Posted by CancerPisces
Hi,
I am pisces married to Aries. We had arranged marriage and first few years had been quiet difficult for me to understand my Aries man. I have now started to accept the differences we have and how he thinks but what I really miss in our relation is the emotional connection. He seems to be always occupied with things and very independent. We never have deep emotional talks and as pisces I think that's a big need I have. I complain about spending time together and he will be with me for short while explaining me politics and how rest of world works but when it comes to romance — I feel as if he isn't romantic at all.

Anyone here with aries-pisces relation help me? I??ve read aries man are romantic but I am yet to see this. How do aries man define romance and do you believe in having emotional connection?

No worries dear! I'm a Pisces too...well, stop for one. Everything you do, just stop. Stop showing him attention, stop acting in any way interested. Just stop. Act as if you are mild friends. It's make him wonder, he doesn't like clingyness and he isn't about the cute mushy stuff. If he starts trying to talk, play the game well, slowly give your attention back to him. If he gets mad, stay calm and collected. And after a while, instead of trying to be cutesy, ask him to go on little adventures. Maybe take a walk around town, go rock climbing, stuff like that. You'll have to go out of your comfort zone for him. This may sound dumb but maybe even ask if he wants to watch the stars with you outside on the roof, it's dangerous, it's cute, and romantic. He may have a bit of an immaturity when it comes to relationships, use it to your advantage. Tease him too, everything will be a little contest, and he has to be the center of your world, then all of a sudden, nothing to you. A lot of Aries may not agree with what I am saying, but I've lured so many in it's not even funny, I know what Aries guys like, even if they don't think they do.

My Pisces sister and Pisces brother are married to Aries people, and if there is one reason why I would go back in time and change events that occurred it would be that these couples never met each other, they are simply ruined lives - and I'm talking about the children of this disastrous relationship. The problem with this pairing is, imo, that the problems don't materialise in each persons brain until they are years down the line and have born children who reap the non-benefits of their parents utter selfishness in the beginning. And to be perfectly honest about it it's my Pisces siblings who haven't given their all to their unions.

My ex boyfriend of 5+ years is a Pisces. We make much better friends, than lovers.

He was too secretive for me... I like people to be UPFRONT with me...

I need complete honesty at all times. Even if you think its going to get you in "trouble" it will help the relationship out if we're honest, not hurt it.

that's my 2 cents.

^^ to add onto this... we taught one another a lot. I taught him courage, he taught me to question things... 🙂

Thank you for all your replies.
Supermissman: I get your point and after year of rocky and clashy relation — I??ve honestly lost any energy to give more attention to him and weird enough he doesn't really realize. Only some days he??ll come around and question —you don't love me —do you— and I feel frustrated that again this selfish attitude comes up. no — let me correct it- I think its not him being selfish —its him being too positive at times about everything. He makes all decisions and when I question —its like I know you??ll like the decision I make. You wont go against me — but I feel like no! its been hard explaining him that I can have different opinion and when I question him he??ll get angry and upset and throw things etc??_I had hard time explaining to him that he needs to explain things to me and involve me in decision making. I am going to try asking him about watching stars as you said and will see what happens.

Celticlioness: I think you??ve pointed out a truth that I find hard to accept but am willing to work on this marriage and that's why am trying to see all possible ways to understand him. you see his family background includes all earth and fire signs and my family background has water signs. Never thought this will make huge difference but I kind of realized it during first year as to how many differences exist

Aine: agree to you! we are good friends and yes I learn a lot from him but you mentioned about your ex. Pisces bf. I??d like to know (if you are willing to share) what aspects of your relation with pisces you liked and what you thought could have been improved by pisces? I know about secretive nature and its hard at times to be absolute honest as I don't know when his fiery anger comes out and that scares me from telling things honestly to him. my ex bf was a cancer and to him I was an open book and talked about anything and everything. I think am trying to get that level of closeness with ariesman but find it difficult

Posted by Aine
My ex boyfriend of 5+ years is a Pisces. We make much better friends, than lovers.

He was too secretive for me... I like people to be UPFRONT with me...

I need complete honesty at all times. Even if you think its going to get you in "trouble" it will help the relationship out if we're honest, not hurt it.

that's my 2 cents.

Yeah it's a common thing in pisces 😢

My father is an Aries. It took me all my life to finally learn how to deal with him, I even ask my mother how she could deal with him throughout their marriage, I could not comprehend his moodiness, his what seems like overreactions to little matters and his my way or the highway attitude. I know this is different, he is my father, but actually my ex bf is an aries too. They think they are better than anyone. But, lets look at their better side cause I am sure it outweighs their negatives. Let me tell you my father is my idol. He is brave, firey, ambitious, extremely active and never gets bored of life, his independence makes him a trustworthy and dependable person who knows how to take care of his family and support them at all times. He is the kindest being and has a warm heart and this is something you should always remember when you get into firey arguments (which you better obey and avoid cause he believes his ways are right and working. If he needs your advice he'll ask you for it and you better give a smart decisive solution he'll value your opinions later on). He loves you and may not show it in a romantic way to you but will always show it through his actions. What you can do is keep him feeling loved.. how? always show aporeciation, even to the smallest things he does like fixing your kitchen sink.. etc and always support him. When he talks to you about troubles just listen and don't give advice unless he asks for it. Always be looking your pretty self and ge will be by your side. If you neglect his sexual desires, I'm sorry to say this but he might find it outside. So keep him! He is the best person in my life no kidding.

P.S. this is my experience with my father and my ex bf. I am not generalizing here ok.

By the way, his controlling attitude is bec. he feels it is safer this way that things are under his control. It is not a good thing for children to experience, but I think you can balance this out.