follygemz
@follygemz
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You broke it off with him and now you're considering doing it again... maybe he has good reason to distance himself.
I didnt say i was going to bream up with him. I said if he needs distance, i will give it to him. Different things.
Posted by follygemzHow is he suppose to be?
When we're together he's very present and passionate, but when we're not...he seems detatched.
Posted by enfant_terribleWell, lately its a few great days together, then no contact from him for at least 2 days, unless i reach out then hes very monotone. That is not normal for him so its confusing to me.Posted by follygemzHow is he suppose to be?
When we're together he's very present and passionate, but when we're not...he seems detatched.click to expand
Posted by follygemzYou said "...and if I should even hold on to us" that seems like you're considering it to me.
I didnt say i was going to bream up with him. I said if he needs distance, i will give it to him. Different things.
As you said, maybe you need to not over analyze so much.
Sounds like he's a bit down over losing his job.
Posted by AriesIntrovert16Well, its been almost 5 months. I can understand that as it was a job he thought hed have for years, but hes not trying to find another and yeah...it may be a depression. Hes just good at a chipper facade and the meloncholy might be leaking when were not together. Idk.
Sounds like he's a bit down over losing his job.
Posted by AriesLoveThat actually makes perfect sense. Thank you!
You broke up with him he got you back. Challenge over! Give him space if he wants to stay together he WILL come after you. He needs room to get his self together, find a job and build his confidence back up which only he can do.
BUT you can always help by showing you care in subtle ways. Check in now and then with a caring demeanor. It is what it is, you cannot force someone to act a certain way. Just let him know if he needs someone to talk to you are here.
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I did break up with him, and he initiated us working things out so we had what i thought was a productive conversation, although nothing has really changed except him moving farther away.
He lost his job and seems to just want to chill and neglect our plans of moving out. Last week my daughter called him daddy, and he seemed ecstatic. I'm just getting so many mixed signals and its driving me crazy, and i am an overanalytical Scorpio sun.
I understand Aries need their independence and ego in tact, so I have been trying to preserve that...but i need to address the changes in behavior or at least understand him. When we're together he's very present and passionate, but when we're not...he seems detatched.
Maybe he regrets trying to work things out with me?
I'm guessing the right thing to do right now would be to give him his space, but i want to understand in the meantime what may be gking thrlugh his head and if I should even hold on to us?