Aries guy - Popping in and out

i really liked this guy but he he is consistently inconsistent. I really really liked him but he seemed so closed off. the last time i talked to him, he asked me to come over but i was busy with Aunt Flow. So i declined. I dont hear from him in months. He doesnt acknowledge me on my birthday. but was seen partying it up with some other girl. i messaged him but i never got a response. i was obsessed for some time with him and i just had to turn the faucet off.

I finally defriended him on facebook because i couldnt bare the sight of him anymore. I wanted to get to know him but the feeling wasnt mutual.

2 days later, he texts me wanting to know how i been. the text came at midnight. obvious booty call

what does this guy expect me to do. I sleep with him like once or twice a year if im lucky. hes always shutting me down.

he deosnt call me often, doesnt check up on me. i once texted him if he wanted to get to know me, crickets.

i always wonder in the back of my mind if he's being genuine. but probably not cause he texted me at midnight.

is he a lost cause?

Aries Sun
Aries Moon
Aries Mercury
Mars Cancer
Venus Taurus

Posted by Nevermore
He wants the booty call whenever he wants to.

Beside, I barely remember your story telling about sex.. but why do you jump first to that person into bed before you'll be obsessed with this person? Because once you got sex with those people, you'll become a doll and not a person. 😐

i think youre asking why do i have sex with a guy. i had sex cause i wanted to.

its not that i became a doll to him (cause that would be awesome). Its that i wasnt having enough of it for me to really be interested. I like continous sex with someone i like. if im only getting it like one or twice, i get bored and i start looking elsewhere. . But that doesnt mean that i wasnt still fixated on him. i can fixate and do nothing 🙂

We used to hang out and do stuff but then he would put the brakes on things.

like the last time we banged, it was great. I wanted to do it again and again, but he would put the brakes on. its frustrating.

but i see what youre saying about things always being on his terms.

Yes lost cause... If I really like a girl I usually dont have sex with her till Im sure that we can be more. Usually keeps things uncomplicated... Having casual sex with someone you like can get pretty messy.... Anyways the guy seems like a real douche, why do you want to be with him?

Posted by elguapolibra
Yes lost cause... If I really like a girl I usually dont have sex with her till Im sure that we can be more. Usually keeps things uncomplicated... Having casual sex with someone you like can get pretty messy.... Anyways the guy seems like a real douche, why do you want to be with him?

hes actually not a douche lol. hes a nice guy.

he has good qualities and assets that this venus in cap likes 🙂

he's just a popper. Pops in, pops out. pops in, pops out.

he did acknowledge me on my other bdays i like to add. He would also text just to chat.

so its just odd.

lol

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lol

thats it? you always have tons to say.

dont be like that lover.

Posted by DMV
he did acknowledge me on my other bdays i like to add. He would also text just to chat.

so its just odd.

I have a Taurus Venus and an Aries sun so I may be able to help. With the Aries sun, sometimes we can get excited about certain people, whether it's friends or romantic interests one minute, and then the next minute not as much.
The energy and excitement for my attachments to people can fluctuate, but majority of the time it doesn't dissipate completely; especially with my Taurus Venus. Granted, Venusian placements like a Taurus Venus can gain admiration from a harem at times lol but a Taurus Venus will remember you, and generally have some sort of attachment to you. I can certainly pop in and out sometimes, if I'm unsure of your intentions. So that could be why.
I am a woman, so that could create more attachment than it would for a man, but thought I'd share from those perspectives.

He didn't acknowledge your birthday ... so what the fuck are you doing even acknowledging his existence?

You should cut his penis off for something that heinous.

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lol

thats it? you always have tons to say.

dont be like that lover.

lol

He has Venus Taurus and Cancer Mars. hmmm..

Do you know what houses his placements fall in?

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nope

Posted by xomelindabelle

Posted by DMV
he did acknowledge me on my other bdays i like to add. He would also text just to chat.

so its just odd.

I have a Taurus Venus and an Aries sun so I may be able to help. With the Aries sun, sometimes we can get excited about certain people, whether it's friends or romantic interests one minute, and then the next minute not as much.
The energy and excitement for my attachments to people can fluctuate, but majority of the time it doesn't dissipate completely; especially with my Taurus Venus. Granted, Venusian placements like a Taurus Venus can gain admiration from a harem at times lol but a Taurus Venus will remember you, and generally have some sort of attachment to you. I can certainly pop in and out sometimes, if I'm unsure of your intentions. So that could be why.
I am a woman, so that could create more attachment than it would for a man, but thought I'd share from those perspectives.

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this make total sense.

thank you for responding.

We shared some tender moments and than poof, he'd be gone for months.

Posted by P-Angel

He didn't acknowledge your birthday ... so what the fuck are you doing even acknowledging his existence?

You should cut his penis off for something that heinous.

hey i totally agree with you. totally. which is why i didnt respond to his text.

i guess im just thinking out loud.

but yes, youre correct

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Posted by xomelindabelle

Posted by DMV
he did acknowledge me on my other bdays i like to add. He would also text just to chat.

so its just odd.

I have a Taurus Venus and an Aries sun so I may be able to help. With the Aries sun, sometimes we can get excited about certain people, whether it's friends or romantic interests one minute, and then the next minute not as much.
The energy and excitement for my attachments to people can fluctuate, but majority of the time it doesn't dissipate completely; especially with my Taurus Venus. Granted, Venusian placements like a Taurus Venus can gain admiration from a harem at times lol but a Taurus Venus will remember you, and generally have some sort of attachment to you. I can certainly pop in and out sometimes, if I'm unsure of your intentions. So that could be why.
I am a woman, so that could create more attachment than it would for a man, but thought I'd share from those perspectives.

this make total sense.

thank you for responding.

We shared some tender moments and than poof, he'd be gone for months.

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You're welcome. Taurus Venus is just very careful. We love romance, affection and bonds in general. But if any lines are blurred, the Taurus Venus will be wary of the connection and how much of ourselves we give to that person. Not accusing you of anything, just take that into account.

Smh

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he did acknowledge me on my other bdays i like to add. He would also text just to chat.

so its just odd.

I have a Taurus Venus and an Aries sun so I may be able to help. With the Aries sun, sometimes we can get excited about certain people, whether it's friends or romantic interests one minute, and then the next minute not as much.
The energy and excitement for my attachments to people can fluctuate, but majority of the time it doesn't dissipate completely; especially with my Taurus Venus. Granted, Venusian placements like a Taurus Venus can gain admiration from a harem at times lol but a Taurus Venus will remember you, and generally have some sort of attachment to you. I can certainly pop in and out sometimes, if I'm unsure of your intentions. So that could be why.
I am a woman, so that could create more attachment than it would for a man, but thought I'd share from those perspectives.

this make total sense.

thank you for responding.

We shared some tender moments and than poof, he'd be gone for months.

You're welcome. Taurus Venus is just very careful. We love romance, affection and bonds in general. But if any lines are blurred, the Taurus Venus will be wary of the connection and how much of ourselves we give to that person. Not accusing you of anything, just take that into account.

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nope. I received what you wrote very well.

your comment was very much appreciated.

Posted by ramparts
I'm sorry but I really want to blame his Cancer Mars for all this. Cancer placements can't deal with undefined relationships very well.

I want to say an Aries wouldn't do this. Especially Aries sun, moon, and mercury. I've never outright ignored someone unless I really did not give 2 shits about them. But Cancer placements tend to operate like that. Everything on their terms. And if they get even the slightest hint of proof that you're entertaining someone else while they're in the picture...they will poof into a cloud of dust. Their egos can't take it. When they've licked their wounds for a while they'll peek their heads back out and see what you have to say. If it's any direct questions "Do you want to get to know me?" or anything like that, it will be ignored. They operate in such a indirect way. It's maddening.

I have a love/hate relationship with cancer placements.

oh my goodness. thank you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I started yapping with him like almost 2 years ago. Any time i was to do something different or deviate from his "plan", i am toast. Its like i dont even exist!!! i get placed in time out!! LMAO

i used to be really upfront, sweet, and open with him but he kept dissing me sort of lol. So i stopped trying to hug or kiss him goodbye because his body language wouldnt be into it or hed tell my friends that i was making him feel trapped. lol. so i just started treating like any ol wham bam thank you ma'am. but then i still get placed in time out!

oh my. thank you.

this is why i posed the question in the first place. because i KNOW when im being jerked around by a guy. but he's so sideways, leaves me confused!

Ive kinda bowed out from the whole dance because i feel like id be stuck in this waltz forever,

i mean, im toast already. Ive already ignored the text way too long and now im back in time out anyways.

omg, the tit 4 tat is exhausting. i knew it. i was soo hurt he didnt say a word to me. I musta been a real naughty gurl for that.

i tell you want. i dont know how these other ladies did it with him. im endlessly in time out lol

Posted by canmini
dam use your Sagittarius intelligence to solve the situation, your nothing but a booty call, Aries keep coming back well your making it easier for him when he comes back, your giving him what he wants, then he get bored than go somewhere else, pretty much you are a back up lunch, when he can't get anything from other girls, he comes back to you, best thing is to drop him and move on, your a Sag and deserve better than what he is giving you

its okay if its just sex. But the sex is only like every 3 months!!!!!!

DMV do you have aspergers?

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DMV do you have aspergers?

No

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DMV do you have aspergers?

Lol.

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why would something like that be funny? Thats a real condition that people with it get bullied over.

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DMV do you have aspergers?

Lol.

why would something like that be funny? Thats a real condition that people with it get bullied over.

I laughed because it reminded me of someone else's thread involving a discussion about Aspergers. If you read my posts in that thread you would know my position on Aspergers.

Stop reading for things that aren't there.

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okay but for someone who doesnt read every thread on DXP, how would i know that? an LOL is just that, an LOL.

no worries.

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dam use your Sagittarius intelligence to solve the situation, your nothing but a booty call, Aries keep coming back well your making it easier for him when he comes back, your giving him what he wants, then he get bored than go somewhere else, pretty much you are a back up lunch, when he can't get anything from other girls, he comes back to you, best thing is to drop him and move on, your a Sag and deserve better than what he is giving you

its okay if its just sex. But the sex is only like every 3 months!!!!!!

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If you are upset over getting sex every 3 months then fwb isn't right for you. Especially if you want consistent ongoing sex. Which is a lot of time to give someone who is just a bootycall. That's a relationship. IMO you are waaaaay to casual about sex. Rams like a challenge. They like the damsel in distress. He will play with you when he feels like it though. All that Cardinal energy is selfish.

Most likely his energy is being used to pursue more challenging women and goals.

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Posted by canmini
dam use your Sagittarius intelligence to solve the situation, your nothing but a booty call, Aries keep coming back well your making it easier for him when he comes back, your giving him what he wants, then he get bored than go somewhere else, pretty much you are a back up lunch, when he can't get anything from other girls, he comes back to you, best thing is to drop him and move on, your a Sag and deserve better than what he is giving you

its okay if its just sex. But the sex is only like every 3 months!!!!!!

If you are upset over getting sex every 3 months then fwb isn't right for you. Especially if you want consistent ongoing sex. Which is a lot of time to give someone who is just a bootycall. That's a relationship. IMO you are waaaaay to casual about sex. Rams like a challenge. They like the damsel in distress. He will play with you when he feels like it though. All that Cardinal energy is selfish.

Most likely his energy is being used to pursue more challenging women and goals.

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yeah im not a damsel in distress. Not by a long shot lol.

Coolio

Cardinal and fixed energy is tough for me to deal with.

I just wanna go go go and theyre all............

Posted by DMV
Cardinal and fixed energy is tough for me to deal with.

I just wanna go go go and theyre all............

No way! If anything, Aries is the most Cardinal and we wanna go, go, go! Cardinals are the initiators. An Aries male enjoys being the initiator in all of his endeavors. So he may be shying away due to the fact that you've been the more proactive one; I've had an Aries man tell me he felt like I took that from him lol perhaps if you ghost for awhile? I know that works for me as an Aries lol gets my attention!

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Cardinal and fixed energy is tough for me to deal with.

I just wanna go go go and theyre all............

No way! If anything, Aries is the most Cardinal and we wanna go, go, go! Cardinals are the initiators. An Aries male enjoys being the initiator in all of his endeavors. So he may be shying away due to the fact that you've been the more proactive one; I've had an Aries man tell me he felt like I took that from him lol perhaps if you ghost for awhile? I know that works for me as an Aries lol gets my attention!

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sorry let me elaborate.

cardinals move when they want to. They prefer to initiate, they feel better and more secure.

mutuables dont care. We just wanna go go go. But with cardinals we cant go go go. You guys decide when we go go go. Cardianals prefer to lead, to begin the go go go.

Like there were times where I wanted to hang out, etc but always got the no. Its only when he initiates do I get some time.

so id leave him be. But its tough because when you like someone you wanna spend time with them. But its always on their terms.

I get bored and feel like my hands are tied.

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Posted by xomelindabelle

Posted by DMV
Cardinal and fixed energy is tough for me to deal with.

I just wanna go go go and theyre all............

No way! If anything, Aries is the most Cardinal and we wanna go, go, go! Cardinals are the initiators. An Aries male enjoys being the initiator in all of his endeavors. So he may be shying away due to the fact that you've been the more proactive one; I've had an Aries man tell me he felt like I took that from him lol perhaps if you ghost for awhile? I know that works for me as an Aries lol gets my attention!

That works for me also, but only if I am interested in the guy. Otherwise, I could care less and I would only make contact if I was bored at the moment.

However OP,

My nephew is an Aries and the girl he is currently chasing is a Sagittarius. I have never seen him chase anyone like he chases her. I think it's pathetic because she treats him like crap. She is really mean, but when she wants something from him, she surely knows how to wheel him in. He has a Pisces moon though. Pisces moon turn an Aries Sun to mush...

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funny, I feel pathetic dealing with an aries guy

With mutables, anything goes. You can call them when you feel like it, you can initiate, you can change your mind.

Cardinal and fixed signs dont operate like that.

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Posted by DMV
With mutables, anything goes. You can call them when you feel like it, you can initiate, you can change your mind.

Cardinal and fixed signs dont operate like that.

Hmmm.... Usually single vibrant Aries are down for almost anything. Maybe, he is in love with someone....

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which could definitely be the case.

there was that one time.

Id just be better with things if I could have sex with him and then actually have sex with him again within a week. Not months.

I mean if its good, wouldn't you want it more often?

I know I do.

Posted by DMV
Id just be better with things if I could have sex with him and then actually have sex with him again within a week. Not months.

I mean if its good, wouldn't you want it more often?

I know I do.

I'm the last person that would judge someone for wanting a fwb setup. The problem here is that it's only on his terms. You hit him up and it's silent. But when he wants the booty you come running.

Give him a taste of his own medicine. Next time he txts/calls let him know you have prior plans for the evening.

Posted by xomelindabelle

Posted by DMV
Cardinal and fixed energy is tough for me to deal with.

I just wanna go go go and theyre all............

No way! If anything, Aries is the most Cardinal and we wanna go, go, go! Cardinals are the initiators. An Aries male enjoys being the initiator in all of his endeavors. So he may be shying away due to the fact that you've been the more proactive one; I've had an Aries man tell me he felt like I took that from him lol perhaps if you ghost for awhile? I know that works for me as an Aries lol gets my attention!

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This is the problem I get from my meddlesome Mars in Aries!!!

This post could have been written by me! I'm in the exact same situation with a guy who has the exact same placements. I would be advising someone to move on forget about him, all the sensible stuff but this guy has me weak and I hate it. It's like an addiction!

This post could have been written by me! I'm in the exact same situation with a guy who has the exact same placements. I would be advising someone to move on forget about him, all the sensible stuff but this guy has me weak and I hate it. It's like an addiction!

Posted by Ohdear
This post could have been written by me! I'm in the exact same situation with a guy who has the exact same placements. I would be advising someone to move on forget about him, all the sensible stuff but this guy has me weak and I hate it. It's like an addiction!

Oh I have. I took him out the race.

Move on to a man who is consistent and knows how to communicate

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Posted by DMV
Id just be better with things if I could have sex with him and then actually have sex with him again within a week. Not months.

I mean if its good, wouldn't you want it more often?

I know I do.

I'm the last person that would judge someone for wanting a fwb setup. The problem here is that it's only on his terms. You hit him up and it's silent. But when he wants the booty you come running.

Give him a taste of his own medicine. Next time he txts/calls let him know you have prior plans for the evening.

That's not what I'd suggest.

I'd make it happen. Invite him over with an offer he can't refuse. Have your way and take ownership.

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I dont know why i never thought of that.

Posted by capricornmoon
He's the one that's supposed to be using YOU for sex. Come on, don't you know the rules of the game? It's no fun if you also USE him like he uses you. DUH. He's just trying to keep the ball in his court and maintain control. This is not a mutually beneficial contract. If you're smart enough to realize it, FWB is never mutual.

I had a 6 year fwb that was very mutual.

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Id just be better with things if I could have sex with him and then actually have sex with him again within a week. Not months.

I mean if its good, wouldn't you want it more often?

I know I do.

I'm the last person that would judge someone for wanting a fwb setup. The problem here is that it's only on his terms. You hit him up and it's silent. But when he wants the booty you come running.

Give him a taste of his own medicine. Next time he txts/calls let him know you have prior plans for the evening.

That's not what I'd suggest.

I'd make it happen. Invite him over with an offer he can't refuse. Have your way and take ownership.

I dont know why i never thought of that.

Blame it on my Aries mars. I have zero time to waste.

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I was being sarcastic. It didnt translate well

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He's the one that's supposed to be using YOU for sex. Come on, don't you know the rules of the game? It's no fun if you also USE him like he uses you. DUH. He's just trying to keep the ball in his court and maintain control. This is not a mutually beneficial contract. If you're smart enough to realize it, FWB is never mutual.

I had a 6 year fwb that was very mutual.

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He was a mutable sign tho; sag

Posted by Ohdear
This post could have been written by me! I'm in the exact same situation with a guy who has the exact same placements. I would be advising someone to move on forget about him, all the sensible stuff but this guy has me weak and I hate it. It's like an addiction!

Howd yours act?

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Id just be better with things if I could have sex with him and then actually have sex with him again within a week. Not months.

I mean if its good, wouldn't you want it more often?

I know I do.

I'm the last person that would judge someone for wanting a fwb setup. The problem here is that it's only on his terms. You hit him up and it's silent. But when he wants the booty you come running.

Give him a taste of his own medicine. Next time he txts/calls let him know you have prior plans for the evening.

That's not what I'd suggest.

I'd make it happen. Invite him over with an offer he can't refuse. Have your way and take ownership.

I dont know why i never thought of that.

Blame it on my Aries mars. I have zero time to waste.

I was being sarcastic. It didnt translate well

Thought I was of help. I apparently don't read you well at all. Still appreciate your life though. Still a fan. I hate not being able to help I think your far too advanced for my logic.

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No. Its just that he is wayyyyy to cardinal and in n out pf his feelings. Hes possessive yet tells my friends he feels trapped. One minute he sticks to me like glue, the next im being ignored for months. Ive invited him over and he says he will call me back and i dont hear from him in months. Shyts retarded.

The psychic told me to never chase him cause hes way too confused.

Him not saying shit to me on my birthday is where he fucked up. Partying it up with some other girl, that was the nail in his coffin.

Posted by Imarollin
Well if the nail has been dug in, why dwell? Fuck him! Literally and then actually!

That's bullshit! I hate it for you and I know how it feels. But you're to blame. For still wanting the sex and all.

That's why I said fuck him so good one last time and then seriously drive that last nail in hard.

And here I'm thinking... "You're being wrong"

Ok.

My better side says move on. Burn his shit. Or shit on his shit and then burn it. He is dead to you.

I'm still no help I realize. I'm just getting emotional.

Naw i dont need one last times. No need to be nasty to him or burn is stuff lol.

Yeah i already moved on.

Plenty of fish in the sea.

you really gotta ask y a guy only contacts you every few months? seriously based on your other post i assumed you were hip to game more than that boo. I'm slightly disappointed, anywho he aint that into you

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He's the one that's supposed to be using YOU for sex. Come on, don't you know the rules of the game? It's no fun if you also USE him like he uses you. DUH. He's just trying to keep the ball in his court and maintain control. This is not a mutually beneficial contract. If you're smart enough to realize it, FWB is never mutual.

I had a 6 year fwb that was very mutual.

So how come the mutuality isn't working in this case? Just admit girl, you're selling yourself short. You like him way more than he likes you. The sex isn't even good enough to keep him coming back repeatedly. Time to change your MO.

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The difference is cardinal versus mutable

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Id just be better with things if I could have sex with him and then actually have sex with him again within a week. Not months.

I mean if its good, wouldn't you want it more often?

I know I do.

I'm the last person that would judge someone for wanting a fwb setup. The problem here is that it's only on his terms. You hit him up and it's silent. But when he wants the booty you come running.

Give him a taste of his own medicine. Next time he txts/calls let him know you have prior plans for the evening.

That's not what I'd suggest.

I'd make it happen. Invite him over with an offer he can't refuse. Have your way and take ownership.

I dont know why i never thought of that.

Blame it on my Aries mars. I have zero time to waste.

I was being sarcastic. It didnt translate well

Thought I was of help. I apparently don't read you well at all. Still appreciate your life though. Still a fan. I hate not being able to help I think your far too advanced for my logic.

No. Its just that he is wayyyyy to cardinal and in n out pf his feelings. Hes possessive yet tells my friends he feels trapped. One minute he sticks to me like glue, the next im being ignored for months. Ive invited him over and he says he will call me back and i dont hear from him in months. Shyts retarded.

The psychic told me to never chase him cause hes way too confused.

Him not saying shit to me on my birthday is where he fucked up. Partying it up with some other girl, that was the nail in his coffin.

I'm happy you're moving on from that Aries.

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🙂

Posted by KittenLaRouge
you really gotta ask y a guy only contacts you every few months? seriously based on your other post i assumed you were hip to game more than that boo. I'm slightly disappointed, anywho he aint that into you

I can see how you would feel that way.

To put it simply, "i am human"