I saw the naked truth

It was him, the scorp, in his real, environment...and it made me sick. He was living his lie and this person whom he is living with obviously doesn't have a clue. HELLO!?! He is not with you mentally or completely in the physical department either. Wake up oh slow one!! I mean, it is pretty obvious that a baby does not constitute a relationship.

Oh how glad it made me because now, I have the mind power to kick him to the curb. I am sooooo glad that I was able to see reality before I wasted any more time. How sad to watch someone who desires to be in control, struggle as someone twist and turns them and manipulates them into something they are not nor do they desire to be. I would imagine that is why he is with every woman in town that gives him a sideways glance. How sad.

My respect for this person's integrity went from 90% to 0 in a flash. I have been giving benefits of the doubt over and over and making excuses but, after what I just saw...I finally ran out of fabric to patch the badly torn and soiled reality quilt.

To watch him live a lie, a big fat black lie, was absolutely therapeutic. Good Luck with all of that I say!! I have so much life in me and am happy to be free of the endless, worthless, self defeating wondering. I am looking forward to a business trip to Detroit this fall with all of my co-workers, a new chihwawa (i know i killed the spelling on that one) puppy,(a little girl who will sport the name twinkster bell) and the rest of my free life to enjoy myself and whatever the world has to offer, and whatever I can give back with my gifts and talents. I am free.

Went to see my friend who has the ability to feel my thoughts and she told me...he could never, ever, give you what you truely desire Tink....selflessness, truth and honesty. (He can't even trust himself) That is the core of every good thing. She is right!! live learn and love...Tink! PS...Maybe this is a scorp who hasn't evolved. If I get involved again, maybe the next one will be mature...that is my true desire.

Tinkerbell, i am so glad you've seen the light. People like that try to make you believe you want them because they drag you down so low and then replace your worthless self esteem with something a little better than zero, and viola, you think you want them.

Give me a sexy aquarian (the grounded ones anyway) or taurus any day. I am even thinking Aries aren't bad.

Tink~

You came, you saw and you left. Good for you. Always choose to honor the wonderful being that you are and always trust your feelings. I was in a situation very simuliar to yours...us Aries have a quality where we give the "benifit of the doubt" one too many times. It's nice to be "free" isn't it? Go fly now you new "transformed" butterfly...let those beautiful wings take in life and soar!

I am proud of you 🙂

Freebird

OH, and Libragirl....you are correct, us Aries are not bad at all. I have a guy Librapal and he and I are going to start cooking together.....he goes to the park with me and helps me with my car....he is a lifesaver and so "balances" me. 😉

Well, I had a pretty good day but my spirits are down. I am praying every day that he doesn't show up. I don't know if he saw me. Usually,after he has been naughty, if he is curious, he will test the waters. He walks around in a daze most of the time so maybe he didn't notice my obviously marked with certain unique university magnets car as I sped across the parking lot and blew a stop sign to pull out right in front of them at a local retail store. It was night time so his head lights were right on me. I drove very slowly to make sure he was watching my tail. I would have to say that he had to have seen me. He is so good at the game so he probably didn't bat an eye. My girlfriend said when I was watching them from the parking lot as they were loading their packages, I should have pulled up right beside of them,got out, started digging in my purse for a nail file and started filing my nails as I sat on the front of my car pretending to wait for someone. I couldn't lower myself. I just wanted him to know that I saw him...and I think I did that. Just letting him know that his two little secret worlds were just about to collide was enough of a thrill for me. But who cares cause I am nausiated now and don't want to think of his stink anymore. !!

Well Tink, walk your talk and just let it go.

Best wishes to you 😉

LG.

But if you want to vent anytime, you know there are folk here who will put you off going back.

Just reading your post today Tinky! Hope you are in better spirits today. So a huge dose of reality hit you straight between the eyes....there's nothing so good or so bad for that matter as a dollop of reality to help you get back on track, be re-focused and renewed but also it kicks you straight in the stomach and you can feel gutted and so low for a while.....Your first post shows just how angry you were at the "sighting" and that is only natural and normal...your second post not so upbeat - more sad...and that is normal too, after the anger comes the pain and the loss (no matter how good it is that you are actually "losing" him). Anyway, pal, chin you beautiful 41 year old you!!!:-) the world is your oyster...and that silly "oyster" is out of yours!!! hopefully for good!!!......and perhaps we will spare a thought too for his other "lady" - one day she will realize too what a fool she's been to be with that Mr. Scorp.....everybody sooner or later has that "one day experience" when we see with utmost clarity the situation as it really is....not with our love-glasses on.......so take yours off for now.....and hey get ready to put them on again maybe when you hit Detroit!!!:-)

Good luck Tinky.

alana xx

What a bunch of beautiful people you are. Bless your hearts for the support. I laid in bed last night and dreamed of him. Isn't that sick? I am going through detox. Then my friend from Detroit called and cheered me up some and said that he used me and that is how most men are. See, I don't want to start hating men over this...really I don't want to hate him..I don't think I could if I tried. What kind of monster could love something then hate it? We had a connection of sorts and you just don't move on that quickly....I don't anyway. How could anyone derail like that? I wonder what candle girl would say about all of this? I wonder if she is back from her Harley celebration? I am going to go hug my horse....he is the only beautiful thing in my life now. 😢

Look Tink, it's not men in general, it's scorpio men. I went out with a scorpio (woman i admit, but nevertheless the same) and she did exactly the same thing to me. Basically they will stay with the safe option and use you for sex on the side. I don't know where they get their 'brave' label from because as far as I'm concerned, some of them are 'chicken s.hit). Like seriously, fancy waiting in a relationship until something better comes along... Have some integrity and break up with someone if you're not happy and don't use someone until you find the 'right' one cos you'll never find the 'right' one if you keep putting out bad causes like that scorpio guy did to you and that scorpio girl did to me. They can do a real 'job' on you believe me, they will convince you you are the only one, but you're not. So don't think it was you, it is a common pattern of theirs. What you really want is someone with some COMMON decency and unfortunately most scorps (the ones i have known anyway) just don't have this. The horse thing sounds good, at least you HAVE something to hug! All i had was a series of 'rebounds' and that left me feeling worse than ever. Be careful who you choose to give your affections to.

Best of luck and chin up,

Libragirl.

I guess my horse is my safest option. The pompous attitude stinks...who do they think they are anyway? Haven't seen hide nor hair of him. I guess he is living his life of trickery with this poor woman and child. Good Luck with all of that. I'll be watching from the parking lot!! 🙂

Any developments Tinky re. Mr. Scorpio?? How you feeling now about the whole saga??