OPPOSITES ATTRACT: can it work?

Well to start off, I just want to say hello everyone! I am new to this and I hope you guys might be able to help me out with a little situation...
See, it's like this:

I am a Taurus inlove with a Scorpio. I have recently saw so many compatibility reports on our signs, and was wondering if it's true what they say about it??

I would love to hear your views on this!
I just don't want to make a mistake or rush into something that might lead to unhappiness...

P.S. it's true what they say about that magnetism part between a Taurus and Scorpion...

how long have you been with your scorpio? scorpios are the most magnetic of signs. just read all the posts on here of people who love them, lust after them and think that they are the ones for them. i myself have had a relationship with a scorp and thought he was the one for me too. their MO from what i have read from others is almost the same, where they make you think you are totally loved, and that they feel very passionate about you, and the sex is almost unbelievable. (nothing like a scorp) i'm not saying this isn't true in your case. you'll have to give us more details of your relationship to get our thoughts on it's prognosis. in general, yes, scorps and tauruses get along and are attracted to each other, but i'm a capricorn and from all data, caps and scorps are one of the best matches, but it didn't work for me, because of other extenuating circumstances. so read the message boards here for all the signs to find out more about your scorp. you'll be amazed. welcome to duncan. it's a great place with great people who will be here for you no matter what. best of luck.

Hi pato!
Thank your for your information...I have been going through the different opinions being stated here about Scorpions and Taureans...In my case however, he's declared his feelings towards me and I guess it's just my gut feeling telling me that he's being serious...if my feeling was saying something else, I wouldn't be going for him in the first place. He is however starting to act a bit jealous but not so overly that he's scaring me, just enough to let me know that he wants to be mine alone and no one elses..and of course expects the same in return which I am glady to give! We haven't met yet, but according to him it's not the right time yet (he wants to come to me first)...which explains the secretive nature...but on the other hand he is very open and honest and that means alot to me! I just don't want to make another mistake like I've been doing with the other sunsigns I have met....This is actually the first time I've really been involved with a Scorpio as being my partner....I use to have a Scorpio friend but it stayed as friendship....

oh I forgot to mention...he was also talking about having kids someday and wanted to know if I also would like to...could this be IT?

what do you mean you haven't met yet? how in the world would you even consider the things he's telling you are true, if you haven't met yet. and all that he's told you, my scorp told me. really. and another thing... they're very jealous. very!
you've got to explain about not meeting yet...

calling all the troops on this board. help me here.

LOL...no don't stress pato!!
We have been talking reguarly on chat and cam and I have his address btw and telephone number...so I can call whenever I want...I sould have mentioned it earlier, sorry...ok it's like this about the meeting thing...he's parents doesn't know about me .... yet....all in time will be revealed I hope...otherwise I am wasting my time...but he's very keen on meeting me...he said to me: "I (meaning myself) will know when the time's right to meet"....which I can understand...you see, I, myself is still currently in a on/off relationship so it won't be good to travel anyways,....

forgot to mention...we do live in different parts of the world ...

where does he live?

he's in america

where in america? state/town?

he's in Texas and I am in europe...so can you give me some advise on how to's?

i don't mean to freak out, but you must understand that i used the very words, about knowing the right time, to my scorpio, as to when we would meet. it's down right spooky. are you sure he's from Texas? i guess i'm from the old school, where you really have to meet and know someone first before even thinking about the things you are thinking about with this man. if you must proceed with this, i would make him visit you on your turf, around your friends, etc. all i can tell you about scorpios is that they fall in love with love. they don't think through the reality of things. they will come on very strong and when they realize the situation is not exactly what they thought it to be, it's over. with you left with your heart in a million pieces, because you believed all that was said was true. (maybe i should be saying me, because that is what happened to me.) maybe i will send you a part of some of the things he told me and then you will understand. what i think is most important though,is you don't put yourself in harms way. meaning, let him come to you. i think everyone would agree with me on that.

how old are you, if i may ask?

see your other post

see your other post

james tate, I've left my comment on the scorpio board...take a look at it if you wish

Hey pato!

Thanks a bunch for your replies, I think you are the only one who is understanding my situation at this point!

I would like it very much to read the things your scorpio said to you - it might give me more clearity on my point of view of my current situation at this stage...

And yes he is really from Texas...why do you sound so surprised by this? :o) Like I was trying to say before, he wants to come to me instead me going to him, so I think that might be the safest way for me (or us both) .... I am not attaching any strings to this, and I don't expect it to work...but at least I can try...you know I can be very much the same as the scorpio, and I am also afraid that he might end up getting hurt etc....also the reason for taking it slow at this point...but please do send me those notes you said that your scorpio said to you....btw, I am 25 and surprise! he's younger than me 21...but age doesn't really matter to me or to him...he's quite the mature scorpio.

Can't wait to read your next reply...

ok honey, this is going to be long, so hold on.

this is a email i got from him after one month of being together as a couple: also, i was older then him too. i was 48 at the time (a very young 48), he was 32. this was last year, by the way.
...
this love that i give is going to be yours till the day i die.
i love you hun.
if you wonder how long i am going to be faithful, well, i will tell you. i will love you forever and forever.
you are the only one i think about and desire.
it is true that i might not think of everything, but the thing i do think about is why i love you and how much.
you have taken my breath away and swept me off my feet from the ground i stand on. you have taken down the walls that were as large as the china wall.
you are responsible for breaking down those walls, and showing me that it is ok to love and express desires.
no matter what you look like in 20 years, come grey or wrinkles, you will always be that person i have fallen in love with. i will see you as you are now. your soul never changes. that is the most important thing to fall in love with.
people who fall in love with outward appearances just fool themselves. someday we could have an accident that will leave us totally destroyed on the outside. the only thing that will keep us, is the inside. it is the force that drives us and binds us. without it we would be nothing more then an empty shell.
love me for who i am in the inside, as i love you on the inside. you are the most beautiful person i have ever met. please never change. i hope time will allow you to fall in love with me, as i have with you. i strongly believe if you let yourself go, we would be wonderful together. maybe i could give you what you once wanted a long time ago. someone to love you till the day you die.
...

so there is some of the wonderful things i held so dear in my heart that just turned out to be crap. we also talked about children, but i told him at 48 the risks were very high. he said that was ok, it would've been nice but, he really didn't want kids anyway. well, to our surprise i did get pregnant. and that is when he started to change. again it was the reality that hit him that he couldn't handle. i, unfortunately, or fortunately, had a miscarriage. he then told me soon after, that he, in fact, did want kids, and needed to find someone younger.

Hell pato!

I have read through your message and I am sorry about what happened to your unborn child..I really am....I also understand what you are saying...the truth is that I have had this kind of relationship in the past as well (with an Arian) and after two years of marriage it collapsed...yes I was married before, dont ask me why, I was young and naive at the time...so at 25 I do know what to believe and what not...I don't expect our "situation" to blossom anytime soon, and if it does work out, then only time will tell what will happen in the near future...

Hi Sweet-P,

Thank you for your reply!

LOL yes as you can see me and pato are talking about the scorpio male...

I understand the dangers/risks involved and I am completely aware of them. Maybe I should put it in another way:

We started off as "chatbuddies"...which later developed into something more personal. I wasn't surfing the internet for a soulmate or try and get dates and so on. It just happened that we both just clicked I guess...this has been going on now for quite some time. It's obvious that we would like to meet in person.

I am taking it slow however...like I said before...I don't want to rush into unknown territory....(I guess that's my Taurean side). I am not proud to say this, but I am also the jealous type and can be very possesive at times...but eventually if wears down as I get to know the person better.

Trust is sometimes also an issue for me (the reason my prev. relationships failed to uphold) - bad for me, I know...but as I said...once I get to know someone, it dissapears.

We communicate well and he tells me everything that's going on there without me even asking for the info.

I will keep you ladies updated!

Hi Sweet-P,

Thank you for understanding....at this point it's so new and yes I will go for it at full speed once I know it can bring me happiness!

Thanks for your replies so far!

Will keep you updated as I said 🙂

UPDATE:
Taurus vs. Scorpio (in this current situation..yes)

Current status of mind's emotion (mine):
((( AAAARRRRGGGGG !!! )))

Reason:
I don't really know (confused)

Problem:
Retreat, silence, not talking enough (refering to Scorp's behavior)

Question: I NEED ADVICE! (again)

This must be the "lowest" and weirdest feeling I've ever had:

Oh, first let me say hi guys!!!! My holiday period have officially started with a slight twist in trust, emotional torment...(yes, it's about my Scorp again, as if I don't have anything else to talk about..I do, but first I need some opinions/advice again...)

First of all....when did silence, without a reason, play part of any relationship/friendship? I mean, if you gonna stay quiet all of a sudden, you might as well just dissapear never to come back again. Or, is this the way to withdraw one's self, to see everything in a open perspective of reality again?

Well, yeah...this type of behavior is just not what I call being open and honest! So, what, am I suppose to accept this? Well, I could, if only I knew why...but yeah, it's almost like asking this question to a wall or closed door.

The last message I got from him was about his pc troubles...it crashed for some reason...and the fact that he was quite busy at that stage. Understandable, it can happen...
Moving on to emailing instead....but, I was like sending enough info on my daily happenings, while he was just not responding to it...then after about a week not talking (I decided not to send emails anymore)...he suddenly talks to me again...telling me how much he has missed me (of course)..but only to chat for a while before he left again...(not really enough time, if you ask me, to chat about anything, except for exchanging feelings etc...)

Sorry for shooting down on the details..but I am not sure what to make of this whole mystery (approaching misery). Can anyone please give me some advice on how to handle this correctly?

And, yes...my stubborn streak is pulling at my heals, because of this (only natural behavior for a Taurean who doesn't know what's going on and feeling blindfolded).

The question, however, is if he doesn't have time to reply to my emails, why in the name of love, does he even take the time to read them—

Btw, this post is going on the Scorpio Board as well....

Soooooo....let me hear ya already! Any suggestions?

Signed,
Worried/Emotional Taurus

ok..this is your assignment taurus. i want you to go back over this thread and read it from the beginning. then i want you to go over everything you can find on every board referring to a scorpio. i want you to understand what is being said here is true. everyone's experience with a scorpio will sound familiar to what you're going through right now. it will not be any different, ever. i told you they will make you feel very special and then, poof they are gone. i'm sorry you have to feel this pain, but understand one thing, you are not alone. we have all felt this pain,who have dealt with a scorp, and in my case, still feel it. it's the venom of the scorpio. you might be angry at me saying all these things, and somehow feel you will be the special one, but he's moving on, the space is growing. they might come back once and a while, but it won't be the same as it was, or it might be, but then they will be gone again. read nat's posts. she thinks he's the one too, but he leaves her, and she sits there broken hearted, too poisoned to realize that he will only come back to get what he wants with those beautiful words, sex, and just a shot of a bit more poison to keep her drugged in a state of imaginary bliss. i'm not bashing scorp's about this, it's just their burden to carry. it's their nature. i wish you strength to get through this and see the truth. i hope the pain is bearable. any more questions, feel free to ask.

previously poisoned pato

I had a simular experience with an Aquarius man...maybe we each have a bit of "poison" in us that we use either intentionally or unintentionally at times. I think FEAR plays a big part in relationships and perhaps when a person feels threatened, scared, too many emotions to handle or confused they will retreat to their "cave" to THINK. I am not saying this is good and acceptable but if it continues..it becomes a habit for that person and that relationship. I finally said to my "friend"...this does NOT work for me...do not call me anymore. HUH!!!! he waited just like you say pato and then he came back...my mistake - I took the call but, he did not get what he wanted...his mission failed. He called again and came back...this time I knew it was going to be the LAST time that we were going to see each other...yes, he tried...the words (I let them go in one ear and out the other) the touches (nice, but I used my inner strength to protect myself) and again, his mission failed..I did give him one heck of a ride though...torture for him. I then said AGAIN ..."Do NOT call me, email me or come over to my home anymore..this is it" By golly, I think it has worked. He did ask me why I would not be with him in that way anymore and I plainly said, " you are a very selfish man, it is all about you and your needs and I want to be in a more meaningful relationship...thanks for the experience and enjoy your journey." The End.

The truth will set you free~

Love is a bird and she needs to fly!!!

Dear "emotional and worried" Taurus~

I neglected in my above post to directly say to you that I am truly sorry for the pain, low and weird feelings that you are experiencing. They will pass in time and with understanding. As I have said in my above post...I too have "been there."

Focus on what YOU need to be happy...if this relationship is not doing that for you than maybe it is either the wrong time or wrong relationship...One thing is forsure, it is bring emotions to the surface for you to work with, to heal yourself. Like pato, I too wish you strength to move through this and to gain understanding.

Lots of well wishes xoxo
Freebird

ugh...that should be "bringing"....

Hey Freebird and pato 🙂

I'm sorry for not replying sooner...I've been a bit busy and ofcourse to get over that sting I got....

But...I have some surprising news for you guys...

Ha! The exact same thing happened to me, like what happened to you Freebird...I had to laugh actually...

When I thought it was over...he made contact again...geesh..what the nerve. But anyway...short after our "breakup" I decided to join another forum about personalities and such, and hair-you name it..and guess what...he was on the same forum.

As soon as I posted my first message, I had alot of responses (and mostly from guys) and I felt like, wow, there is still other guys who are interested in me...and I'm still having contact with one in particular...I think he likes me... 🙂

But, anyways...so straight after I responded back to some of the guys there, out of the blue I receive a e-mail from him, where he asks me if he is being kicked out? Ofcourse I replied with: "Oh, what makes you think that? Btw, wasn't I the one to be kicked out in the first place?"
So he replies with: "No, I never said or did anything that could have let you think that. I just don't want to be the one to loose you. And most of the guys on there aren't really that serious you know."

So I just ignored his e-mails...and they are still coming in almost everyday! I'm really enjoying this type of attention from him because now he knows what it felt like for me. I'm being very cold to him, and he doesn't like it very much...but he still manage to e-mail me like everyday.

I'm having fun now, and I'm happy. What will be, will be...

So, thank you for helping me through this and a BIG HUG to all of you who had the patients to read my boring stories and provided advice!

From Happy Taurus

Heh, well this is an interesting thread. I'm currently with a Scorpio (female)...I'm a taurus Male. I guess we're lucky or something because it's the best relationship I've ever been involved in.

We're coming up to a year and a half now and I'm currently saving up for an engagement ring for her =).

I have nothing but positive things to say about this combination. The chemistry between us (physical, intellectual, sexual) is immeasureable.

I stated in another thread that the bond is so strong (even stronger than when we first started dating) that it's almost as if we knew eachother (best friends) in a previous life or something.

Even though there are more negative posts about this combination (in this forum), I can tell you that at least there is one Scorpio / Taurus couple (us =)) that says go for it full steam ahead.

Be honest and upfront with eachother, don't hold back ANY feelings. Communicate...compromise...communicate. Make this clear early in the relationship and stick with it.