I'm worried about my Aries sister

She and her boyfriend broke up a year r more ago an he has totally and completely moved on she was t treated brilliantly in the relationship at the time but it's like she keeps hanging on to it and I think thinking maybe there's a chance I don't want to be cruel but I'm afraid she's hurting herself not accepting its done? Do Aries cling on and how can I help without offending her

It's because we don't fall in love easily, but when we do then we really fall hard, and letting go is not very easy at all, even if we try we keep going back.

I can't imagine what it would be like to leave the person I love, it makes me cry just thinking about it, I really feel sorry for her. Maybe if I were her I would just move to another city, start something fresh, maybe that will help, knowing that the other person is so far easier to accept that they not coming back. But that might not be an option, how about hobbies? ... does she have something that she loves doing? maybe if you get her to focus on something else that she loves doing, that will help her move on slowly from here.

He has moved on? Ouch that makes it even worse! Every breakup is tough, but if I was the one to "walk away" and move on...it would be 100 times easier then the other way round. But I've been in your sister's shoes and I know exactly what she's going through. It took me almost 2 years to get over my taurus guy. I was hurting bad. Like crying everyday, thinking about him etc. When I finally accepted the breakup, I moved on. On a new fresh chapter. I was doing stuff I loved, played soccer, spending time with friends and family, and LOTS of shopping! I became stronger, well I became myself again. Hardcore attitude, "no one can hurt me bla bla".

Do me favour. Don't mention the guy's name. Don't talk about him with her. My sister used to do that and I hated it. I wanted to move on, but I couldn't! It takes time. She will be okay soon 🙂

I've also been there. No matter how much his friends told me it was over and to let go I just couldn't because I didn't know how. I'm afraid there's nothing but time to heal a wounded heart. I had an on-again-off-again boyfriEnd for five years. We'd be togetherfor 8 or 9 months and then break up for 6 or 7 months. All the way through the break ups I just knew things weren't over. It was like someone showing me half an orange telling me it was a whole orange. I just knew it wasn't a whole orange. It was only when I wanted more from life that I mOved on.
You should just try and keep her mind and body busy. She won't think about it if she's busy doing other stuff. Then eventually one day she'll wake up and not even think about him once. And then, one day she'll wake up and be into someone else.

so what you're really saying is...

your sister's ex-bf is your man now and you're tired of her sleeping with him on the side because she's just a booty call and you're the real deal.

Yea I suppose that's a good point she just doesn't seem to have actually accepted the break up at all! I don't bring him up she does...a lot!! And I think she is harbouring a hope of a reconsiliation but I don't think it's a possibility atall

Posted by caligula
so what you're really saying is...

your sister's ex-bf is your man now and you're tired of her sleeping with him on the side because she's just a booty call and you're the real deal.

Is it me missing the plot on this one or you? Lol.

Posted by smileypisces
Yea I suppose that's a good point she just doesn't seem to have actually accepted the break up at all! I don't bring him up she does...a lot!! And I think she is harbouring a hope of a reconsiliation but I don't think it's a possibility atall

Why did they break up anyway? And how old is your sister? It sounds like she's young(er) and that this may have been the first 'cut'.
I know with me: the guy I was holding on to was my first love -- or at least I thought it was at the time -- and when ur young you tend to believe blindly in happily ever after and you think the first guy who becomes your first long term bf is 'the one'. It's a common delusion amongst women I think. Sometimes they're lucky to grow out of it, sometimes they'll just stay stuck in preconceived ideas of how life is meant to go.
Me and my bf at the time even broke up for two years once (when I was in England) and that entire time I couldn't let go and I didn't have any other boyfriends. Then as soon as I got back to my home country we got back together... Despite not having plans to do so.
It's not for anyone else to say things aren't possible. Even if her ex seems to have moved on.
My heart was shattered into a million pieces by the guy I loved the most when he went back to his ex gf four days after we broke up (my 2nd bf) and she hated me and forbid him to even look in my direction. So for six years I watched them be together in front of me and I only had one more bf after that (four years ago!) and I moved on completely. Seeing them together didn't bug me anymore... I went overseas and travelled. I heard they broke up and tried to make friends with him after that and he rejected me everytime.
So it was the last thing on earth I expected when I bumped into him at a party I was at about 2 months ago and ended up with his tongue in my mouth again!!! Nothing's happened again since then and he's still being full of shit about being my friend (personally I think he's scared) but the point is: after that: anything is possible! I know I had moved on and wasn't planning on hooking up with him again.... I guess the universe sure showed me!
When she brings his name up, what kind of things will she say about him? Just tryna gauge more about the situation.

Also! You have to understand, Us Aries have blind faith.... And although our blind faith may seem like foolish insanity to others, our faith (in whatever) is strong enough to move mountains and make miracles happen. We believe and because of that, we achieve! Our faith is not to be undermined as silly 'ness'... It's a force of nature.

^ I don't even get the story.
Something is not adding up. How is she holding on? By talking about him a lot?