Leo girlfriend of 3 years dumped me :(

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Posted by Impulsv
Yeah unfortunately seems when going gets tough they are are not dependable or reliable. Yet when it happens to them??
My ex bailed just when thing were tough
N female Leo's keep expressing FUN FUn letting good men go
I have to agree. When things get tough my ex did the same. I feel they are incapable of handling stress with in a relationship, if they are especially young or immature.
Not ALL leos, but i'm just giving my two cents from my own experience.
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Because I'm apathetic toward the relationship. I tried explaining to her that I'm invested in the relationship, but I'm just very stressed with NUMEROUS things right now. I guess that's the one thing a Leo can't handle: a somewhat distant partner.
No great loss, Leo's are overrated. Plenty of other signs out there worth you time.
......unless he loved her

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The way OP should look at it is that she obviously wasn't meant for him as she ditched him the first chance she got and in reality she did him a huge favor by exposing her fake ass to him before he got anymore invested. So what if he was distant, people experience and go through shit on a daily basis, it's what being human is all about and she leaving him behind was perhaps the best thing that could happen to him whether he wants to admit it or not. I've been down the Leo rabbit hole myself and it's downright torture but eventually you gotta keep chugging on. Who knows, maybe he will accidentally meet a woman whom won't bail on him when shit gets real.
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Sorry about the break...It could go either way... No one wants an apathetic partner. Leo or not. I can't speak for all Leos but I AM Loyal to the grave... if you are going through a hard time and I love you I do everything in my power to help you make it through. If I don't care too much for you I don't waste my time.... If I've been there trying my hardest and you either don't appreciate it or I'm trying to help you more than you're trying to help yourself and you are constantly a wet blanket then I will distance myself because there is nothing else I can do. I won't leave the one I love because the going gets tough.

If my partner isn't giving me attention because they're stressed I will continue living my life. I'm not going to go run off with some Tom so he can stroke my ego lmao ... that must be immature Leos idk

There may be more to it but If you guys weren't IN LOVE then I can see a Leo easily leaving if she's not happy.
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Because I'm apathetic toward the relationship. I tried explaining to her that I'm invested in the relationship, but I'm just very stressed with NUMEROUS things right now. I guess that's the one thing a Leo can't handle: a somewhat distant partner.
I'm sorry you're going through this. Never an easy thing.

However, let's stand back from that a bit.

She isn't here to speak for herself.

If she were here what might she say to address the matter?
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She overheard my Cancer father jokingly saying that marriage isn't fun. She and I have both made observations of his unhappiness. She didn't take it lightly (though I've expressed that he was joking, I can't lie and say I don't believe my father is unhappy.) She has seen my distance away from her, and my lack of desire to be around her lately and general unhappiness, and she has seen my attitude turn a little sour over the past few months. She doesn't want to marry someone who doesn't want to be in a relationship with her. I understand that completely.

However, and I've expressed this, I do want to be in relationship with her. I do want to marry her. The situation is not the same with my father. Things are just tough right now, trying to build up revenue to start my own business and also juggling two different career paths in my heart - torn between the two, plus dealing with some health problems and a car that's about to fail and finishing a degree. Ultimately, we also both want to stay pure in heart and save ourselves for marriage (I'm not a virgin but I'm recommitted to my faith as a Christian; she is a virgin and I respect that) and the guilt has been eating me alive because I've lead her into very physical situations. She doesn't see it as a problem, but I do, and to back track I've distanced myself a little ways so we don't fall into that situation.

It's a combination of things, and she took it personally, and I understand. It simply hurts the heart, but we've both expressed keeping doors open and returning to this relationship in the future if we're both on solid ground. I just feel like, right now, I'm building the ship that I'm simultaneously sailing and dumping water overboard with a tiny bucket, and I know it's not the wisest thing to do, but the island I was docked has set fire.
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she'll be back

I believe it, but also vice-versa. I could easily, happily live without her, but I don't want to.
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Focus on yourself. Don't shower her with attention or anything, give yourself some space from her and the situation. Don't contact her, live your life and focus on other matters that need your immediate attention. Work on yourself and your happiness, so that if she does come back you are better prepared to make a better go of the relationship.
But i stress, let her come back on her own. Do not force the situation or 'try harder', she needs to miss you and miss the relaionship for it to have any chance of working again.
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Posted by Sssupes
I don't think this is the case. Leos love freedom, especially the lionesses. However, if she senses that you're not that invested or lacking effort into it, she will bounce if she's not in love with you.

If she is in love with you, she's probably feeling a tad insecure right now.
You're right to that extent; she and I both talked about her insecurities and acknowledged that they were present. We both have some growing up to do in certain aspects of our lives that we can't do when we're tied together. I think, for both of us, the time apart will help us to mature, and it will also help us to confront our fears and find confidence in our individuality.
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I don't think this is the case. Leos love freedom, especially the lionesses. However, if she senses that you're not that invested or lacking effort into it, she will bounce if she's not in love with you.

If she is in love with you, she's probably feeling a tad insecure right now.
You're right to that extent; she and I both talked about her insecurities and acknowledged that they were present. We both have some growing up to do in certain aspects of our lives that we can't do when we're tied together. I think, for both of us, the time apart will help us to mature, and it will also help us to confront our fears and find confidence in our individuality.
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Then that's exactly what you should do