Flavia
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married Aries interested in me
Sorry it got cut off the first time...
I really believe you are just ready to move forward with your life. Since this man is so attractive to you, you want it to work out despite the obvious complications. You have made the situation the SAME as you and your ex in your mind even though you admitted to not knowing his situation completely. How did you do that: by comparing your ex and him as both unhappily married with kids and then over imposing your old life as though the Aries man is just as miserable with his wife as you and your ex-husband were for those years. If you truly love this man let the notion of him go unless he becomes legally separated/divorced from his wife.
Posted by gia37
And wanted to add...
I made vows to be with my ex husband and he made too.
We had 2 lovely children and were together for a long time,
but we were not soul mates.
Then I left him because I felt he was not my soul mate and he met 2 months later a wonderful woman he is with now. And they are so happy.
Not all marriages are good, and sometimes you meet your soul mate later in life.
And it s up to you what you do then.
I really believe you are just ready to move forward with your life. Since this man is so attractive to you, you want it to work out despite the obvious complications. You have made the situation the SAME as you and your ex in your mind even though you admitted to not knowing his situation completely. How did you do that: by comparing your ex and him as both unhappily married with kids and then over imposing your old life as though the Aries man is just as miserable with his wife as you and your ex-husband were for those years. If you truly love this man let the notion of him go unless he becomes legally separated/divorced from his wife.
Posted by amethyst2002
*facepalm*
Gia you need to get some boundaries, it seems you are being totally irresponsible with your feelings and heart, you don't just fall in love all willy nilly b/c some random dude that happens to be married makes goo goo eyes at you. It doesn't matter if this guy is happy/miserable/in love/out of love with his wife, what matters is you not interfering in that process....Get some self respect, love yourself enough to allow your heart to be with a more available man, your X husband did it and so can you but for some reason your in your own way by allowing your heart to be with an unavailable man. This isn't so much about this married guy as it is about you not choosing someone that is ready and available for close intimacy without barriers of unavailability...What are you scared of? Why is an unavailable man more attractive than an available man? You stay with an UNAVAILABLE MAN (YOUR HUSBAND) for years before you decided to end it and he's seemed to transition quite smoothly to an available woman whereas your still stuck on men that are unavailable...This is something you need to explore rather than fantasizing over a man you can't have without causing someone pain including self.
You need to search yourself out, find a therapist or counselor that can help you pick that toxic mindset apart so you can move on with your life...Look at you stuck...stuck on another unavailable man that will choose his wife over you...Why are you causing yourself so much pain? You really need to explore your heart and explore the pain that's in your heart, there is some fear that is blocking you from having the kind of relationship you want...I see how your behaving and your being like a little girl that wants everything she can't have be it good for her or not and you resist GUIDANCE...that's immaturity on your part....
Stop the goo goo eyes/flirting, stay away from this guy and make yourself open to men that are available, stop being an emotional junkie that chases feelings, that's what little girls do, it's time to grow up.
You need to search yourself out, find a therapist or counselor that can help you pick that toxic mindset apart so you can move on with your life...Look at you stuck...stuck on another unavailable man that will choose his wife over you...Why are you causing yourself so much pain? You really need to explore your heart and explore the pain that's in your heart, there is some fear that is blocking you from having the kind of relationship you want...I see how your behaving and your being like a little girl that wants everything she can't have be it good for her or not and you resist GUIDANCE...that's immaturity on your part....
Stop the goo goo eyes/flirting, stay away from this guy and make yourself open to men that are available, stop being an emotional junkie that chases feelings, that's what little girls do, it's time to grow up.
Posted by FlaviaPosted by amethyst2002
*facepalm*click to expand
Oops...I meant to comment...
Amethyst2002 I think she is just looking for a different answer because the answers we are typing are in the back of her mind; just the decision to make a different chose is alluring.
Posted by gia37
You as a real Scorpio should know that we Scorpio influenced people just dont let go so easily and that when we love we love deeply. If you cant be nice, then please dont post here.
I think she just doesn't want you to hit the same wall she did....
Posted by girl_in_black
I am in a similar situation, and I'm a capricorn with scorpio stellium too. The guy I work with is a scorpio tho, and he's not married, just ha a gf. I feel attracted to him ,and I know he feels it too, but this is such an obvious lose-lose situation.
I understand how you feel - but it's just not right, and you know that. You and I are both cappies, we both have a scorpio stellium, I know our kind.. we are drawn to the dangerous, destructive sides of love - but with our morals and our pride surely we are smart and strong enough to stay away from these dead-end situations that will end up hurting not just ourselves but even more so other innocent people.click to expand
🙂
He's married, the answer is don't do it. And it's one quick step from the emotional affair ( on his part ) to the physical. If you'd like to put yourself in 'other woman' role and be with someone who cannot or will not give you all of his time and care, then go for it.
Myself? Hell no. He's with someone else.
Myself? Hell no. He's with someone else.
LOL!!!!!!!!!
Posted by girl_in_black
lol, i never hit a wall. I am mature and respectful towards myself and other people. I know about my inner demons, but weakness and lack of empathy for other people are not one of them. There are things I would never do. Don't compare me with this kind of woman.
Excuse my poor choice of wording GIB. I only meant that you were preventing her from hitting a wall you yourself adverted by stopping and reflecting on the fact that the man was taken. I was comparing the situation, not the women if that makes sense 🙂
I believe you shared the situation and similarities with yourself having similar placements so that Gia could see that it was not a worth while venture from a fellow Cappy with Scopio influence. She could always take Invigorate me's advice. It could make for an interesting conversation at coffee.
Any Aries men think she should go for it? Don't be shy, she needs your point of view on this.
Posted by amethyst2002
I wonder if faith $ golphin is your cousin.
LOL smdh sure does seem like it ameth.....it just never seems to end
Posted by gia37
And sure, I will keep my eyes open. If someone else comes along who makes me tick, I ll take the chance!
Astrologically I have noticed that with men who have lots of water (I have 4 planets in Scorpio plus Cappy sun) I have a very good affinity, but nothing ever comes out of it. Usually I am very attracted to Cancer/Pisces moon-sun-venus men, but I scare them off! They are so weak.
But this Aries is not fearful at all...
of course he isn't fearful...he's married, your the one left to hang and wait AGAIN, pining away for a married man, you would think after all the years of lack and waiting with your X-husband you would move on to someone available like he your X husband has but I can see your toxic and have issues...dream on...morals, get some
Posted by TasteOfChaos
Haha amey, I read that before!
I love the crazies!!!
Let's throw rocks at her 😄
LOL@throw rocks at her, aim for the head, maybe the rock will knock some sense into her
IMO opinion he's still hunting and preying while married, what a lame ass creeeeep and he needs a good swift kick in his ass or balls whichever one comes first for behaving inappropriately, I mean what is it with married men and work place affairs?
I LOVE DXP!
i have nothing to add other than this thread tickles me.
Gia your making excuses about the marriage issue, it's IRRESPONSIBLE not to ask a man if he's married before forming an emotional connection, it's not that we really want to throw rocks at you, least I don't but honestly you suck, only because you can't see beyond your own selfishness.
Posted by amethyst2002
https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/relationships/how-long-should-i-wait-for-his-move-1892321/
Just depressing. Forget everything I posted here. ^^^The end of that thread was the answer. Why the hell are we entertaining it if this was Jan/Feb of this year? Smdh........
Posted by TasteOfChaos
^^^^ that took me ages to write
I want that time back
I understand completely.
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I say you need to date someone else. Even though you love this guy, or feel this strong connection to him, he is taken. Until he is getting that divorce it is not worth entertaining. Because your marriage was loveless does not mean his actually is. I think you are doing that Cappy toss where the information you know you have that could keep you out of a mistress/affair situation is not overriding your being horny when it comes to this guy. But he is just ONE guy, there are plenty of others out there and someone who really fits (is single now) will come along.
Have you asked about his wife after finding out he was married? Just because someone does not talk about their spouse or kids at work does not make them unhappy. Work is work and personal things can get in the way of work. The big difference in what you posted is he is NOT engaged, he is married. He has kids with the woman and if you were in that loveless marriage all that time imagine back to when you loved your ex-husband completely: how would it have felt to know he was developing a relationship at work?
I really believe you are just ready to move forward with your life. Since this man i