Need your help with a CANCER girl.

Hello my friends.

I'm searching for your help because I'm lost with this one. So I'll start by telling the story. I'm an Aries guy.

I met a CANCER girl about 3 years ago in a party. It was a difficult time in my life and so it happened that it was for her too. The first time I saw her she was crying her eyes out about her boyfriend. I remember that day so clearly because over time I've understood that it's what got me to like her so much,that I saw her in that helpless state and I felt sorry. Also she's drop dead gorgeous. Ofcourse at that party I didn't try anything . Time went by and on one day I found her on Tinder. It was a match ,so I wrote her a message because I was surprised to find her there. So we started chatting. By the feels it all went well and she even told me that her boyfriend cheated on her and that she was hurt. Bear in mind that this was like half a year later . We managed to meet up few months later taking walks and talking.

All this time I was sweet to her ,tried to respect that she's wounded and hurt ,tried to cheer her up. But she was realy rude to me alot of times. If I'd say something sweet ,i'd get back a "slap". So that went on for a couple of months ,mostly we'd chat and whenever I decided to ask her out she'd agree but later dodge it at the last moment.

So finaly one day in the middle of another chat ,she got mad at me for no reason at all and I ran out of patience. I told her that I have been nothing but nice to her and that I'm sick and tired of being dragged arround. I stopped writing her . She wrote me a message a week later,but I didn't care because I had taken enough punishment . So time went by , I got involved with other people and then ,Half a year later ,she suddenly popped up with a message asking me how am I doing. I was in a relationship so i just answered I'm fine and moved on.

Last summer ,she wrote me again. Now I was a free agent and started comunicating with her again. Again,was sweet but relaxed. Asked her out and we had a great time together. And then guess what? boom she again dodged every other invitation to meet up. So I gave up and decided to leave her alone. Half a year later ,AGAIN she wrote me . Then I got mad. And just told her everything I was thinking. She was shocked and started talking to me about it but still in a low-key fashion. I told her that I like her and would want to try something with her. Then she surprised me even more by saying that she moved to a different country and she doesnt know when she'll be back. I sent her a meesage every now and then after that and she did too but nothing much . That's how it pretty much went all this time up till the end of march. She was forced to return back home amid this virus crisis. We hadn't talked in about a month so I sent her a nice message after I saw that she's back home on instagram.

Then we spent two weeks chatting almost every day. We'd even manage a few phone calls along the way.

Three weeks ago I decided to make a grand gesture ,to surprise her. I bought her a present some snacks and decided to go almoast 300km to the city where she was in quarantine. I went there and just wrote that "Hey ,I'm here". She was realy happy and shocked that I did that. I tought that that would be enough to at least get us somewhere further. But surprise ,it wasn't. One evening ,a few days after my visit, we were chatting and I was asking her some questions about does she like me at all? And she got mad at me saying that I was being pushy. I told her okay and backed off. Didn't write her anymore. She congratulated me on my birthday which i didnt expect. And this weekend my phone started ringing late at the evening. I was in shock when I saw that it was her that's calling because she never calls. She talked to me about everything. She seemed happy and excited.

So now I'm here and I'm just confused . I'm lost. It's very hard to understand what should I do. Because I have accepted and let this go a few times already but always ,somehow,she keeps coming back. I dont understand what to do? I mean I still like her even after all the nasty situations she put me in.

Sorry for the long text ,but if you could help with advice, I'd be thankful.

I would have given up on her a long time ago. She has jerked you around and being an Aries man I'm kinda surprised you layed down for that. She's way too wishy washy. She is probably still chasing her ex. What is his sun sign? If he's a Scorpio forget about it.

You have a hard head, deaf ears and impaired vision.

You don't actually need help w her; You need help with your self esteem.

She has REJECTED you several ways, but you're trying to chisel at her every chance you get, only to be rejected even more.

STOP being so thirsty. Stop. Unless you're a glutton for punishment.

I've never understood men who become attracted to women in distress/who are heart broken/who are grieving a relationship. It's a FOOLISH move.

Get it together.

Sounds to me like she is feeling that magnetic soulmate attraction to you but she has a huge ego. She is really good looking and instead of getting in touch with her emotions she distracts herself with unfulfilling relationships not knowing how to fill the void. It's way to easy for women to replace a guy rather than trying to work out issues so most of us are missing out of growing moments

Block her

She’s bored like everyone else while they are in quarantine. It would be better to judge her behavior once this is all over. But if she doesn’t go out with you and keeps giving you the run around. You should block her. You’ve been doing this for 3 years—

That’s crazy.

You guys must be quite young, you should never tolerate that much bs from anyone. You deserve better and should move on, you can remain friends but don’t expect anything to happen.

As others have said you’re a glutton for punishment.

Thank you everyone ,so much about the honnest and straight forward answers.

Most of you saying that she's leading me on and i'm a pussy ,are right. But to be fair, I don't even know how in the heck did she get in my head. I mean, I'm the ram and usualy I have few or no problems with women.

im not obsessed with her, she's just a big puzzle to me.