Cancer guy won’t talk

So I need a bit of advice from Cancers to help clear up something that I’m dealing with rn. I’m an Aries woman, 17, graduating in 2020 and I’ve had a crush on this Cancer guy for 5 months. He’s a year younger than me which is unusual for the guys that I become interested in. When I met him 5 months ago I was immediately attracted to him, he was funny, quiet, endearing, had an adorable smile and seemed really sweet. My friend ended up telling him I liked him and he asked me out over text, honestly I felt like it wouldn’t work out and sure enough he broke up with the next day sending me a long, remorseful, sweet message on Instagram about how he liked someone else and he didn’t want to waste my time. I was sad but I figured it would be best if I moved on and gave him space since he really liked this person, I wished him the best. It took me a month but I finally decided to give this guy that liked me a chance and it was going well but then his dad cut off our communication outside of school. Keep in mind the Cancer guy who I liked kept staring and watching my Instagram stories and liking some of my post even after he broke up with me and we never talked in real life. I signed up for summer school so I had more options next year and turns out he was there in the same group all day with me. The first week or so it was obvious that he was staring, it was 2-3 second eye contact but I would look away because I’m in actuality pretty shy. It seemed like he was slowly starting to warm up to me. In my mind I really just wanted him to talk to me and maybe develop a friendship with him. My friend who has known him since kindergarten asked me if I still liked him because when he comes around sometimes I freeze up and try and avoid him. I told her the truth which was a huge mistake because it got back to his friend that I still liked him. My friend then confronted him and hinted that I liked him but he didn’t get it at first. I remember looking over and they were both talking to him. The next day it came back that he had gotten mad saying “if she likes me then why is she with him?” And my other friend overheard him saying “I just don’t want her to do the same thing to me that she’s doing to him, another guy might come along that’s better than me” I completely understood that, knowing a bit about cancers I understood that he expected me to be loyal before the relationship started and during the relationship but the communication between us was horrible which led to his friend giving him the wrong impression of me. I would never try to actively pursue him while with someone else but I couldn’t deny my feelings. I was trying to let them taper off but it was true I still felt something for him. A mutual friend of ours told me that he said “she needs to pick me or him because I’m not a vending machine” and she advised that I talk to him. The second to last day of summer school I finally decided to say something and I simply asked if we could talk and he said no in a bitter way that made me feel the hurt that I may have caused him. Last day of summer school I had given up and I asked if his friend could at least just apologize for me and when she came back she said “ he said you never came up and talks to him”. After that I just completely gave up knowing I at least tried and maybe he’s too young to understand. I would be his first girlfriend and i really just wanted it to be a good experience for him but now I don’t know what to do. I had broken up with my boyfriend because I realize I needed time for myself and I didn’t want to carry on with him knowing I had feeling for the Cancer guy. What should I do?

If I were you, I'd leave him alone. He's already formed a negative opinion about you. I don't believe there's any reversing that. He seems bitter, jealous and insecure. That's no good.

He likes somebody else so why is he saying you need to choose anybody? 🤔

Aww, young people are so cute.

First, I would stop going through a bunch of other people. Reach out to him again, and start the conversation without all the he said she said.

Posted by Gemitati

He likes somebody else so why is he saying you need to choose anybody? 🤔

I’m not quite sure, but when my friend asked if he liked anyone he said “no”.

Posted by Thefacelessdaisy

Posted by Gemitati

He likes somebody else so why is he saying you need to choose anybody? 🤔

I’m not quite sure, but when my friend asked if he liked anyone he said “no”.

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Gemitati is right... He is the one that liked someone else first and also he is obviously reconsidering dating you. What is this double standard??

It's fine to have unresolved feelings as long as you don't do anything about them... we are all human. The fact that he is not even dating you, in fact he rejected you and now is making you feel guilty for still liking him is a mindfuck. Just move one from this guy. There are other guys out there.

He’s not interested. Cancers are clingy when we like you. I also think we are picky and when we find something we don’t like and make a decision, there’s no chance in changing our minds.