Pisces Aries Fem vs Aries Taurus Male - The Novel

Hi DPXers,

I am an Aries Female born right on the Pisces Aries cusp. In late February I met an Aries Male born right on the Aries Taurus cusp, and this is the most ridiculous non-relationship merry-go-round I have ever seen in my life time.

We met on the last day of February.
Went on one date the following Friday. One very intense date. One date where we acted more like a married couple instead of two people on a first date. No getting it in, just hand holding and public affection and hugging — just really intimate stuff that I wouldn't do on a 50th date in public much less a first. Yet, the feeling between us is/was very natural, so I allowed it and honestly enjoyed it. Well, here's where it gets weird.

After our first date we contacted each other on a decent basis. Nothing smothering, just normal getting to know you interactions. Every weekend we would say we we??re going to meet up but it would just never happen. We would dance the following dance:

I am here.
I am over here.
Okay.
— silence.

Do you want to meet up right now.
I can't but do you want to meet up tomorrow ?
I can't.
-silence

Oh. Hey I am here you should come.
I am here. You should come.
Okay??_I??ll try??_.
Cool. Hopefully see you later
Hours later: Can't make it.

I mean this went on constantly. CONSTANTLY. It wasn't like one of us was solely initiating these conversation either. It was both! We??re both pretty freaking busy people, but we live less than 10 minutes away from each other. I mean really?! AND he is an Aries male and a very driven person. Dude?! Piss or get off the pot.

I know you??re thinking, —Well Myu, you??re a driven Aries woman so take some responsibility,?? which I do, but IDK. I think at the end of the day he just doesn't want me because we all go after the things we want in life. However, I am acting the same way towards him and I do want him. So what is going on here?!

UGH!! So anyway??_

My birthday came around??_
I invited him to the celebration days in advance. I hear nothing from him.
He texts me after midnight during the get together asking for me and my crew to come meet him and his crew at a nearby bar. OF COURSE, I did not, and the next day I aptly chewed him out for that request and ended the conversation by saying —Clearly you don't want me so just leave me alone. I am a big girl and I'm cool with that.?? He responded, —You??re getting really worked up and jum

CONT'D-

—You??re getting really worked up and jumping to crazy conclusions over a petty sitation, but if that's what you want fine. You??re wonderful inside and out. Have a great life.?? Then her called me within the hour to fix the situation!? We worked it out. We made a date. Then??_ on the day of the date, I hear nothing from him and as an Aries Fem, there was no way I was going to reach out to him. No. Way.

So we did not speak for two months.

Two weeks ago, he texts me explaining that he's been going through a lot and needed to sort his life out??_ -__- and would it be okay if we started hanging out again.

I will admit if he had contacted me any sooner than when he did, I would have tore him a new one but since I had so much time to cool off, and had some really shocking events occur in my own life, I was like —It's totally okay, you owed me nothing. When you thinking about it, we??re just two people who went one date and argued a lot over small stuff. I'm glad you got your shit sorted and let's totally hang whenever. —

That was two weeks ago and since then, we have been doing that same text message dance again.

We both claim to want to hang out and meet up but neither will succumb to the other. Last night the dance began again and I cracked. I messaged him, —Either come out tonight or I'm done with this.?? He said he couldn't, so I said, —We are just not meant to be. I like you, you??re great, but this is stupid and I need to erase you from my life so I can have some sanity.?? He responded, —You??re being irrational giving such an ultimatum, but if that's how you feel, I understand. Have a great life, gorgeous.?? I deleted his number and his contact information. Phew. I woke up really feeling like over this whole nutso situation.

From the day we met there was definitely, at least on my end, a legitimate like pull towards him. I really felt disconnected from it for the first time since we met.


So of course around 3 today he texts me, —What are you doing. I want to see you.??
I should have said nothing but responded with the truth that I was getting ready to head into work!
Long story short, we are supposed to hang out tonight.

cont'd

What. In. The. Actual. Fuck. Are. We. Doing.

I am an Aries. He is an Aries. We are supposed to be all action, and move move move — go go go- but his (and my own) hesitation and fickle natures are really gnawing at me. He's part Taurus - Aren't you supposed to be grounded and reliable?! I am part Pisces and from reading this message I'm sure you can tell I am emotional as fuck but I back my crazy up with rationality AND FURTHERMORE we can't both be fickle. He must be a water rising. He must.

I feel like I'm taking crazy pills, and I really do like him a bunch. (Although how is that possible since I haven't seen him SINCE OUR FIRST DATE IN MARCH?!!?!?!?!) Even during those two months of not speaking I thought about him all the time. When he reached back out to me he claimed that very thing was the reason why he popped back up.

I know the right answer is leave the whole situation alone, but then when he reaches out I feel like I??d be an asshole to ignore him because he hasn't done anything particularly wrong to me!?

DPX Rams!? And/or everyone else... Help!?

There's a glitch in the matrix, and I feel like I'm really losing my mind dealing with situation!

"The Novel."

Because nobody wants to read a novel.

Also, it's DXP.

Ah! I see - Don't wanna read the novel but you wanna edit it? Okay.
Thanks and I apologize for my egregious typo.

Listen, I'm not a grammar nazi but if you're gonna come for someone on a forum come correct. I do believe a sentence should never start with because....

Don't even get me started with the famous Aries.. you have to just leave the situation, it will tire you out. It's always going to be hot and cold..well after some time of the constant let's hang out, have a few laughs or drinks, and a homemade meal. It gets exhausting mentally..

It's like oh you like me but never make time and always cancelling plans... And when it's time no one wants to. Both stubborn or in control..

That little bit he says to you, always seems to be the jerk move. Like you're great and if that's how you feel, it's like what-yeah because if you did or were interested in me, you would move and do everything with the person you like. something is fishy..

Like wtf what does that mean. Like you're indecisive about this whole thing but you don't want to let go.. games. He probably has someone or is too involved with work that he just relaxes and doesn't want to do anything..

Posted by Myu
Ah! I see - Don't wanna read the novel but you wanna edit it? Okay.
Thanks and I apologize for my egregious typo.

Listen, I'm not a grammar nazi but if you're gonna come for someone on a forum come correct. I do believe a sentence should never start with because....

No shit, sweetcheeks. Thanks for trying though. I got as far as the title and the preview on the main page. Don't flatter yourself.

If you have to forewarn everyone that your sob story is a "novel," chances are your sob story already has an ending and it isn't happy.

If your story has to take THREE separate posts because you think every minute detail is going to make a difference, chances are your story is done.

If you want people to actually read it, you need to keep it short and concise.

^^ Meh. What is it with people and writing unnecessary comments? Whinge whinge f'ing whinge.

Anyway, that sounds really, really annoying... You're worth more than that, so show it to him. Don't get worked up over him, you'll only annoy yourself. Is he getting worked up about it? Clearly not. I'd give him a taste of his own medicine, if it doesn't get a reaction then he really does not care, and you should leave him well alone. It's too much hassle.

You should give it some space and do things for yourself and maybe later reconnect but that's a big maybe. You might find someone else.

Good luck

Move on. There's a spark but so what? You can find that with anyone. There are 7 billion people on this planet you are bound to click with someone else.

People always put their best foot forward in the beginning and if this is his best foot... Girl he does not seem that into you. I'm sure it was because of the nagging and ultimatums. I mean come on you guys aren't even in a relationship and you're acting like your his gf. Plus ultimatums?? A little immature.

if he's like this now you're going to have more problems down the line. Also just because you thought your first date was wonderful and magical doesn't mean he did. You don't know his experience he could have had a girl before you blow him out of the water and in his exp. your date was fun but not as good as what he's had before.

Move on. If he really wants it he'll work for it. Keep your dignity this boy doesn't seem like he's worth your time especially since he doesn't care about wasting it.

he doesn't seem to be interested and I don't think he's playing hard to get...just let it be and move on.

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Don't even get me started with the famous Aries.. you have to just leave the situation, it will tire you out. It's always going to be hot and cold..well after some time of the constant let's hang out, have a few laughs or drinks, and a homemade meal. It gets exhausting mentally..

It's like oh you like me but never make time and always cancelling plans... And when it's time no one wants to. Both stubborn or in control..

That little bit he says to you, always seems to be the jerk move. Like you're great and if that's how you feel, it's like what-yeah because if you did or were interested in me, you would move and do everything with the person you like. something is fishy..

Like wtf what does that mean. Like you're indecisive about this whole thing but you don't want to let go.. games. He probably has someone or is too involved with work that he just relaxes and doesn't want to do anything..

!! Well this^^^ is the short version for those opposed to the novel! HA!
Also I think the last portion is 1000000 percent what's going on but I don't really care as long as you're not married or seriously dating someone. Just don't string others along! The only time he makes an effort is when I say okay, I'm done #rude.

That being said! Reading all you comments was like a straight up reality check! Registered his number as SPAM in my phone then deleted all texts and contact information.

Not even joking or being corny but my mood is 10 times lighter!
Thank you all! Really!!

Sometimes we need to be reminded we are acting crazy and to stay away from crazy!