The Jealous Ram

I have a question for all Rams out there, only the circumstance that I am referring is about a female - but, I don't think that matters. Here's the situation: A woman (girl) I know is so jealous, so possessive of her man that she would do whatever it takes to keep other girls out of his life. Ok, so that's not so bad. The problem is - all girls. His mother, sister, daughter - all of them. She behaves as though she is threatened by them. She has to be the queen bee - and I understand this in Aries - but, he own family members? I'm like scratching my head, trying to figure this out. I'm thinking that maybe it's the younger girl. You know, immaturity. So, the question is: Do all Aries attempt to make thier mate draw lines between them and his family, simply because the members are the same sex? Do you feel jealous because your man talks to his sister, or mother?

Nothing like that wouldn't come without a reason. Maybe she knows something that you are not and acting according to it...

She's a psycho thats all.Alot of the aries females I've meet are possessive but it's usually only when it's obvious the females are making eyes,flirting and doing the touchy feely hit ons.The little"oh,I love your hair"and play w/ it type thing.Some will even exclude the just verbal flirting as a no no,so long as they know it won't go further than that.

I mean even posessive behaviours are ticked by reasons. No one will start to act like that when there is no threat to do so. So, there could be reasons that we dont know.

The reality of existence of reasons are % 100. The only difference here is that her RESPONSE to agressor may be elevated.

It is also possible, that this Arian girl is interpreting things wrongly and responses in deep emotional fashion. In either cases, she needs help.

I'm an Aries. And if I act in this manner, It's only because the family members' are cruel or perhaps aren't making me feel at home with them...so the jealousy emerges. I, personally, would never separate a family...but if the family seems to be TOO close and they get into my business or try to run me...then "yes" I will become possessive. Other than that... I am a "true" lamb.

Daniela, I'm not exactly sure I understand what you said. I mean, I understand the words, but maybe I'm interpreting them wrong. Did you mean to say that if your partners don't treat you the way you want to be treated, or, are too close, then 'yes' you would attempt to put a breach between him and his family? Are you really admitting that? Are you really inferring that you think so much of yourself that you should be more important than his mother?

Funny, when I put this post in here, I really didn't think anyone would admit this. I was really just seeing how everyone would side step it, you know, watching human behaviour and listening for what "isn't" said. Then there are the people who don't answer at all and they are usually the guilty ones. We tend to run from things we don't want to admit. But, you . . . wow. I'm impressed.

Just food for future thought - Pisces rarely ask a question that's not loaded. Unless of course, we are playing funny, then we get nasty, so you'll know the difference.

I meant to say, your partners family don't treat you the way . . .

Actually I think I know what she meant by that except for the too close comment,Im wondering about that as well.Were you just saying that the parents don't except you?if so that one is actually understandable if you try to except them and they only see you as a big bad wolf here to steal thier baby.There are those situations out there too,but yeah unnessecary stuff the persons just paranoid and is a psycho.

In most cases, boys are extremely close to thier mothers. Well, most people, I guess it's not fair to say 'boys'. Some children have seperation issues with their mother, but the majority have a tight bond.

It's the TOO close part that bothers me. What do you mean by that? The love within the family circle is more powerful than a twat. Sorry, that was crude, but true. When it's all said and done, he'll not forsake his family for what's between a woman's legs, so the best course is to stave off the possessiveness and let him live.

No, not at all...

Either you interpreted it wrong or I didn't state it well.

What I meant was: I was loving, caring and very catering to his family.. But when I saw that they didn't respect me.. or didn't treat me kindly.. I backed off. (a very difficult family) I'm still nice to them but I don't really go around much ... nor do I keep him from them.. I just keep my distance.

Oh, I just misunderstood - sorry! But, in reality, I really know a girl who behaves this way and I was trying to see if all Aries (mainly females) feel this way, as well.

Thanks for the response.

No offense taken. No need for apologies.. I stated it wrong. But for that Aries girl that you know: I think there's something going on there that maybe we dont know about? That.. or she is still immature? She'll learn.

Daniela,

I gotta tell you (which other Aries already know) - I just love you guys! I mean, read my earlier post, saying: you really think so much of yourself . . ., just a twat between your legs (paraphrazing here) and no offense taken. I'm just like to discuss things, and Aries never takes it wrong. You're so - objective. That word is not even good enough for you.

If ever I need to talk about something controversial, or taboo in some way - you Rams always pull through, without taking it personally. I really appreciate that. Thank you.

I agree with that AprilBaby, absolutely. But, the girl I was referring - that situation doesn't apply. I've watched her around all family members and alls a female has to do is walk into the room and she freaks out. Because she's Aries, I thought I would state this here.

However, there is the ME factor here that Aries struggles with on a daily basis. Do you ever sit back and think, is this family really trying to interfere, or am I just so possessive that I perceive it this way?

If you love someone and are "blinded" by that love for the person, which seems to happen alot, especially to Aries - then how do you really know that what you are percieving is really reality, if you're 'blind'?

Helloooooos to you P-Angel 😉

To answer your above question ...I really think that it does depend on the individual Aries..as we go through life we learn - how we reacted to a situation in the past may not be the same way now. In the past for me....yes, Love was blind (lack of knowledge) Now? nah.....too much wisdom I have gained. How do I personally know what I am percieving is really reality? First, what is reality? What may be real for me may not be for the other person see? In situations for me I have learned to just trust my intincts and that is what is real for me. Us Aries live in the moment not "for" but "in" the moment and while in that moment, that is our life, that is our reality. Hope I am making some sense here....My Pisces pal and I have many chats about how us Aries are - got me...can't figure it out - just moving with the flow.

This could be the case Freeb, because the girl I'm talking about is very young. She still has a lot of growing to do - well, we all have growing to do. But, she's VERY young, not even in her 20's yet. I'm trying to think about adult females I know and the only older Aries I know personally are male, except people in here.

So, maybe there is hope for her and her man's family. Once a couple years go by, maybe she can learn to back off a little and let him have a relationship with his sister without her feeling threatened.

If you live 'in' the moment, then what do you do when the moments gone?

P-angel, my pal, If you live in each moment, you never lose the moment, coz the moment is always here...as it is........you lose memories (well you never lose memories really either - fortunately or unfortunatley for some people!!!) oh I think I am too much in my head today....not too good! Got to lose my mind and come to my senses!!!!!


PS Freebird, just tried to ring you....you ain't in your moment house!! so will try ring your in your moment house tonite:-) Thanks for the email. The saga continues.....


A x

I can help you Alana!

Wanton Blount?

What is a Wanton Blount if I may ask....some type of chinese food?

P-Angel...Alana is correct about the moments - they keep coming till you take your last breath. So we make each moment count cause once we have experienced it, it is gone forever and all we have left is the memory. Hope this helps....

I understood from the beginning what it means to live 'in' the moment. But, what about when the moment is gone. It doesn't last forever, then if you fly off to find another moment, then you have no lasting memories.

It's like a dream, you have the dream and you can see yourself with another person, only your not looking through your eyes, rather, off to the side, watching yourself from another perspective. That is the same as living with, around, in, for the moment. But, if you're only living "in" the moment, then you can't see from other perspectives as to how you treated someone while in that moment, because of your intoxication while within.

If you look at the world from only your own eyes, then your recollection is slanted in a view that is very narrow - it is only your own. So, to me, living "in" the moment seems odd. Why would one want to do that? Wouldn't you then, not learn at all because you can't see outside the box - the next encounter will then be the same. All moments are the exact same, the only thing that changes is the person who is with you.

I don't know, I'm just thinking this through. Trying to rationalize.

"If ever I need to talk about something controversial, or taboo in some way - you Rams always pull through, without taking it personally."

I agree...I wish I had been blessed with that ability!

The jealous ram pulled another stunt this past weekend. I had a party (for all the Cancer's in my family) on Saturday night and this particular ram got so freaking drunk that she forgot she had a newborn. Then once she remembered, she dropped him because she was trying to steady her feet and then just laughed.

Well, the other females at the house stepped up and took her baby and cared for him until she sobered up. And you know what this girl did?

She yelled, cursed and almost came to blows with her baby's father - accusing him of sleeping with these women while she was past out because when she woke up, he was sitting and talking to all the women because THEY WERE THE ONES CARING FOR HIS INFANT. He wasn't flirting or anything, just talking to these random females who were kind enough to protect his child.

I know now that this doesn't have anything to do with her being an Aries, it's really about her just being immature, but since I started this post about this particular girl, I thought I would add this - travesty. I mean, she laughed when she dropped the poor little thing. Isn't that terrible?

Dear P-Angel,
being an aries does NOT equal being insane.
Too many try to put that label on us aries, just because of - well, I must ask why? There seems be something about the aries that invites those insults.
Pray tell!
And; the aries parent usually watches over his/her offsprings like a hawk - if your particular girl really is an aries there is something wrong with her that has nothing to do with astrology.

Actually Turtle - it was the being jealous about her man thing taking priority over her what should be instincts to protect her child that got me, as far as this board. Her jealously is just completely out of control. I'm not referring to her parenting as far as Aries - just her jealousy.

You need not worry about me - I love Aries, love 'em, I do. I was just examining this character flaw, is all.

all ARIES are pricks, loud, cruel and BORING!! if she is doing that keeping you from your family what's up with you that you'd allow that? tell that B**ch to get a life or get out! Your family is YOUR family, she needs to get a life or a hobby maybe one where she is talking down to everyone or acting like she knows everything-Oh wait they do that already!

Wow! I totally relate to her on keeping other women out of his life. But about his mother, sister(s), and daughter..whew...that's a little off. Man, she needs to do some really serious SELF OBSERVATION. I mean..unless the guy's mother tried to posion her or something..yah, then maybe I can understand why she draws her line to where she does. But, as for myself..he can talk to his mama his sister..his grandma..his great great grandma. I have no jealousy what so ever. I mean..what for? That's his family. Hello—

Hmm...that sounds more to me like she is insecure with herself - not allowing pictures in the house? nah...she is not jealous. Me thinks she wants to be his NUMBER one fan and have the attention on her...yep, insecure.

Not all of us are jealous...there are some "free-jealousers" out there....really, we do exist! 😉

This goes directly to: virgoprincess7
NOT ALL ARIES ARE PRICKS. EVEN IF WE ARE..WE ALWAYS HAVE OUR REASONS. DON'T BE SO UPSET AND SO JUDGEMENTAL. YOU YOURSELF MAYNOT BE PURRRFECT (AS YOU THINK YOU ARE)..BUT AGAIN, THANKS FOR THE LOVELY COMPLIMENT YOU HAVE GIVEN...YOUR OPINON IS JUST ANOTHER ONE OUT THERE THAT MAKES ME STRONGER THAN WHAT I WAS ALREADY BORN WITH. THANKS! 🙂HAVE A GOOD ONE!

hi im an aries girl......... and yes jealousy and possessiveness is a definite part of the arian character i feel. however i feel this is only n ONLY in the romance department.......... id hate a woman who flirted with my man.... but not the women in his family ...afcourse not

aries is infact never jealous like other signs are about other people whether they r happier or more successful, but in the romance dept....YES, NO TOLERATION OF UNFAITHFULNESS...

Jabbaarsher - I couldn't agree with you more on your "no toleration of unfaithfulness"
statement. That is definately a huge NO-NO with an Aries. I however do not see this as a sign of being jealous but infact a sign of our integrity...what we will tolerate and what we won't.

In most cases, being jealous is usually a sign of insecurity. When you KNOW and FEEL the strength between yourself and your partner there is absolutely nothing to be jealous about...if you feel that you are not good enough for him or he may wander then...something is up in Denmark.