PARTY @ CANCERLADY'S!

NO PORK??!!! R u sure it's a BBQ? Actually I probably would come to your B-day party on the 25th. I ain't gat nun-else ta do.

STD!

If you want some, we'll get some. 🙂 I have nothing against it, I just really don't eat it that much. (Sometimes I sneak in a piece of bacon here & there...Don't tell Mr. Pisces though...I'll get a lecture 😢 )

I think I'm about to be through with him anyway...Love is overrated.

Cancerlady

Through? But I thought he just came back this past weekend, what happened, hon?

Mr. Pisces doesn't like to eat swine? (Sweet, salty swine..)

No he is West Indian and most of them don't eat pork because it is "dirty" or whatever. I don't eat it because it is very salty, fat and bad for you in the long run. I am a vegetarian-in-training anyway, but I really love chicken & fish so I don't know how that's going to work out.

As far as Mr. Pisces...he has been here since friday late afternoon and I have only seen him once on Saturday night @ 2:30am when he came over & left the next morning around 11am. He called me after I left him a message saying I was going out & wouldn't return until the next day.

1. I am tired of having a "boyfriend" that I never see. Never get to do anything as a couple beside fu $ k.
2. I am tired of having to leave mean voice messages threatening to see other people for him to act right.
3. I am tired of calling him and he doesn't answer, doesn't call me for two days, then makes me feel bad for saying he should at least return my call even if he can't come see me. There ain't that much "busy" in the world that you can't take 2secs out of your day to tell the person you care about that you are busy & will call you when you get a chance.
4. I am tired of him saying he is on his way over and doesn't ever show up & sit at home waiting on him...he never calls, never shows up.
5. I am tired of him saying in one sentence "Oh I miss you, I care about you" but in the next "I don't care about anybody, I don't miss anybody"

I am just tired! QBone if you are listening, I am trying but it's hard to fight for someone when you have every inclination that they are NOT fighting for you. Yeah he eventually calls & says all this crap about how he misses me & blah blah blah, but I ain't big on words these days. I think he just doesn't want to be tied down, but wants to tie me down and that ain't right...nor is it going down! I am ready to move on. If there is a perspective that I am not seeing, please tell me because he is about to be outta there!

Cancerlady

I would advise you to do not take those today "yes" tomorrow "no" responses as serious. They are just babbling of emotional stress that he is under. Better to turn on other topic or he will start destroying relationship for no reason.

PS: LOL. I have same turn on's and turn off's. How people can be that similair?

There is advise how you can turn this boredome to something funny.

When he tells you something like that, you can try this:

Oh cmon you were saying "Oh I miss you, I care about you" and then "I don't care about anybody, I don't miss anybody", just f**k that.

If he smiles, then you won. If not, well then you better leave him for a while or he will start destroying relationship.

@BJ

That ain't fair, I wish Gorgia was a bit closer to Australia. I want some BBQ action!!

Too bad about your boy Cancerlady. Sounds like he was just after a booty call anyway.
You're a fine looking girl, I'm sure you won't have any drama's finding someone who wants to put as much into a relationship as you do.

Enjoy your PIG!!

@BJ

Of course that was Georgia with an E

" Enjoy your PIG!!"

Ehh, is that who who who? ROFL! Or is that for eat?

Hi Cancerlady.

Your post speaks to the very issues I've been having with a "friend and maybe-more". We've known each other for about 2-3 years, and have grown closer in the last year- but every time the "next step" presents itself... we do this dance of maybe-maybe not. I couldn't figure out why it was so hard, what was taking so long-- I even posted something here on DXP about it...

...and advice of others have helped-- sorta....

I still hope for something more... kinda 🙂.

What's this wishy-washyness you ask?

I realized- through experience, and reading a lot of posts on here that having a relationship is no different from walking through a pitch-black ballroom. Every now and then, there's a glimmer a light- where the next thing to do is "clear". But, as you move towards that light-- and past it, every thing gets dark again.

As we feel this room out, we make up rules- and build familarity, but not matter how well you've become comfortable in your room- there's always an unseen dynamic.

The perspective that we lose is that the people we involve ourselves with are walking in the same dark room. In other words, they are just as confused as we are. OK- some people go into relationships with the rainbow of experiences, and sometimes there are instances where generalization will apply... STILL, every new relationship is different. No matter how much experience- or hurt- or whatever we're bringing to the new relationship... in the long run, it takes time to feel a person out. There are no short-cuts.

Anyway...

I said all that to mean- there's no cookie cutter answer to any relationship. Although there are plenty of people with experiences similar to yours who will help- ultimately you have to decide (especially since you know Mr. Pisces waaaaay better than we do). I know you don't want to get hurt-- I know in your heart you don't know when enough is enough-- so your torn between giving him chances- and tossing him to the curve. I know you don't want to feel like you're being taken advantage of-- nor do you wanna feel neglected. You probably want this guy to SHOW that he feels for you, with the same intensity that you feel for him. For all these things-- it may take more time. It may take for you to "dial back" in sense, so you can get a better perspective on who he is as a person.... then deciding whether or not you want something more.

Just like walking into a dark ballroom..we have to use our common sense and instincts to feel a room out.. and every room needs time.

Ok.. to wrap up, I wish you the best. I don't know if this is just a booty-call thing, or a man conflicted. You will know- but you won't know for SURE if you take the quick route.

take care
sTD.

btw-- put aside a plate for me on memorial day 🙂

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Cancerlady

Seizetheday, that's you dancing with VirgoSquared AND Brahn0913...

Haffo and BJ are off in the corner chugging beer...

QBone is the DJ... HA HA HA

What fun!

Cancerlady

Can I come to Australia to visit BJ?

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I LOVE THESE NEW SMILEY'S!!!!!!!!!

CAncerlady

AGH.. smiley overload!

@Alana

Sorry to hear you're a bit flat-linish Cancerlady over Mr. P.
You were so so in love not so long ago but what a difference a day or a few days can make.....feelings and hearts are strange are they not.
Suppose I was to say to you, hypthetically of course, you can see Mr. P. again but you can never again in your life have sex with him.....is his personality and heart alone as it stands now big enough to fill that certain void you need filled or is it all about passionate sex and not much more with him—??
If the answer is yes, you'd still have him in your life without the sex, then I'd be prepared to "ride the storm out" a little longer and see where it goes and if he's worth being in your world...if the answer is no....then you know what you gotta do.
Hope I am making sense.......don't want you to be hurtin' all the time.

A x

LOL Sorry STD, I can be obsessive sometimes...You have such great advice I wish I could be more objective about everything like you! I will try to ride it out...partially because

Yes, Alana I could see him in my life without sex with him particularly. Now no sex for the rest of my life is another story...YIKES! *Sigh* He is so beautiful inside and out, I just WILL NOT BE IGNORED!

Haffo is probably right, I was just telling someone else on another post "don't let his don't touch me moods get to you" and here I am doing it! I am going to see, but I don't know...there is this Gemini/Cancer cusp that has been riding my coattails for 6 months now...We can't ever seem to catch up with each other except on the phone...and this Scorpio that still wants me even AFTER I told him about Mr. Pisces. I think he respects the fact I told him the truth. I wouldn't want to keep ANYONE on a string...IT SUCKS!

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Sorry STD, I couldn't help it!

LMAO.. Ok.. I love the cancer L-A-D-Y signature.. too cute.

.. also.. I'm not so objective about my own love life... just everyone elses.. so easy ain't it?

" Haffo and BJ are off in the corner chugging beer..."

***Comes out from the corner and asks Cancerlady:

Where I am? Who are you?

....You are

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EVERYBODY!

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*on the intercom* I need a stop on caffeine and sugar in Room 205... yes.... yes.. Cancerlady... uh huh.. approach very slowly...

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LMAO str8 crack head!

SSSSHHHHH....Don't tell everybody DANG!

Haffo was right...We're back in action! I mean I did exactly what you said and it worked! Yeah for us!

Oh he's calling me! Gotta Go!

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Cancerlady

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@BJ

Hey Cancerlady,
of course you can come and visit me in OZ but you would hate it here. It's always warm, the air is clean, the beaches are just too damn beautiful. It can be really horrible here sometimes.

Besides this party's going off!!

HEY BJ,

Why don't you rub it in? Seriously, Australia is one of the places I am determined to go in my life, so when I come...show me around? Teach me the accent?

Cancerlady

@4theluvofsea

Cancerlady,

WHERE did you get the smileys? They are tooooo cute!

Just do a search on Smiley Central. After you download them, right-click on the one you want and hit 'copy HTML'. Then paste to your message.

Thank LadyDane on the Scorpio Board when you get a chance...she is the REAL genius behind the smiles, not me. I am just probably going to be the annoy the heck out of everyone using them!
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thank you cancerlady & LADYDANE too!!!!

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@OBPisces

21 Years

Cancerlady:

I read your list of what your Pisces love has been doing...not cool. Pisces men that I've had relationships with (two, my first love and then one that I broke up with before my current Cancer boyfriend) were very loyal and didn't play these games, may sound naiive, but it surprises me that yours is acting like that.

I know he's attached to you in a way he just can't help, even if he is trippin' right now, because Pisces/Cancer just can't help but be drawn to each other! It's amazing how nearly all my females friends that I have ever been really really close to have all been Cancers.

He'd better get it together- I believe you and he could have a wonderful thing and he'd better realize before too late.

I saw in last post you said he called or was trying to contact you, good!🙂

Hope all goes well and I meant to say this to you a while back but you wished me well with my Cancer guy on a "book" post I had left not too long ago and I just wanted to say thanks for your sweet wishes for us. So far so good! I just realized just how much he really does love me, I think, no I know, for a long time I just kept questioning if he truly was deeply in love with me, I've finally realized it and am resting in that wonderful revelation! It scares me too, though, a little, but forgive me, I digress, lol

Take Care
OBPisces

what time is the party?

You're not a donkey-hole. You're just brutally honest.

Despite how I feel about some of the things you've posted- I don't think I can sum you up as person based upon what you've written here. Especially after your proposal for my hand in marriage (Branh-- do I smell a sense of humor in that logical exterior?)

Brahn0913,

You're not coming? Awww, that's BS! You live the closest! Come on...it's just a barbeque for Memorial Day...I was just getting ready to e-mail you the invitation!

You just gotta come to one of them! SeizetheDay will be there...http://www.smileycentral.com/?partner=ZSzeb008_ZSYYYYYYYYUS' target='_blank'>...

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Cancerlady

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WOE IS ME, WOE IS ME...

Oh, wait...you don't respond to emotion.

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You will come to my party...You will come to my party!

You feel the urge yet? If not...do it for your country!

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Oh he's coming.. we'll just have to drop in on his place cover his head with a hood-- and hand cuff him to a chair while we raise his blood-alcohol level to .125 (because I find that Brahn- like many other things- are best when inebriated [or lubricated]).

She went wild...again! ROFL!

Brahn says : "Your Jedi mind tricks won't work on my LADY"

"hand cuff him to a chair while we raise his blood-alcohol level to .125 (because I find that Brahn- like many other things- are best when inebriated [or lubricated])."

Wow wow wow...I cant believe it! Is that seizeTheDay?

oh yes.. Venus in Aries hard at work ... would you like to be next? 🙂

"oh yes.. Venus in Aries hard at work ... would you like to be next?"

*Pick's up chains and whips

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