To All Aries...

What does it take to get any point across to you folks...in the sense that you are able to comprehend, acknowledge, accept and be conscientious of another person's point of view? Also, I know some Aries don't bother with the whole "let's talk" thing to resolve issues. So, what do you do to resolve issues, particularly in relationships?

ME TOO Aprilbaby...i don't get why the person i'm dealing makes it so hard to just sit and talk. None of this "you really hurt my feelings" bs...but straight to the point, this is my problem, adult confrontation. truth does hurt, but getting everything out on the table is completely healthy. this aries, in particular, does what he can to avoid simple confrontation and i don't know why.

Hi Truthseeker!

"What does it take to get any point across to you folks...in the sense that you are able to comprehend, acknowledge, accept and be conscientious of another person's point of view?"

In my individual case it truly depends on how the person is getting their "point" across to me. Are they clear in what they are saying? Are they being direct? Are they possibly "dancing" around and hoping that I will pick up some clue? I actually prefer for someone to be DIRECT in communicating with me - say it like it is!

Regarding considering another's point of view...sure I do however that does not mean that I must agree with that person - we can agree to disagree.

How do I resolve issues? by being open with the other person and communicating what it is I am feeling in the moment - along with listening and understanding what it is they are expressing to me without judgement.

Hope this helps - 🙂

Typical Aries personality would not accept any advise from anyone. Lets say more clearly; They wouldn't take any advise from lesser beings. They probably will stop you right away and better go find the answer alone.

But that's for typical Aries...

Not sure if this is "typical" of anyone...I will accept advice from someone if it resonates with me - if it goes against my beliefs then...NO I will not accept it. My guess is that Haffo, you would do the same.

There is no such thing as a "typical" anything unless you think there is. 😉 Each person is unique...and what a beautiful concept that is!

Freebird

You are not a typical Aries.

I also belive typical Aries personality is not % 100 practically possible. Maybe % 80 only.

"Freebird

You are not a typical Aries."

LOL...yeah, my mom used to think that I was dropped here from a spaceship - said I was not of this world. hmmmmm....I grew up thinking I was an Alien - who knows, maybe I am?

Anyway, thought what you said was funny - thanks for the smile 🙂

Yeah

And my mom told me that birds brought me one night. When I asked my father wether he saw when this happened, he said: "I would shot that bird with my shotgut who brought you here".

NO he did NOT say that...! at least not in a serious way of course...he was just kidding....right?

He rubbed his shotgun.

uh oh....well, you are still alive and kickin' 🙂 He apparently changed his mind when he first saw you and fell in love with you - and seeing how cute you were! You gots it goin' on Haffo! You rock 😉

Actually he shot that bird on the next day and put it corse in the highest building of the city as a warning for any incoming birds. No birds visit this city anymore.

LOL....Haffo you are too funny. What city are you talking about btw -

"LOL....Haffo you are too funny. What city are you talking about btw -"

🙂

An imaginary one.

Oh man...! I'm BUSTED - YOU got me 😉

I totally agree with you April Baby...LET'S TALK THIS OUT LIKE ADULTS! 😉
In a relationship, I'd totally hate to ignore the little things that makes the problems. For example, (and I know you'll think this is totally off topic..but let me speak... )for example my husband..he's a Taurus..and when he's mad at me and I know he's mad..he'll never want to talk it out..He'll just IGNORE the whole situation and act like it's no big deal. When the truth is..it's bothering him like crazy.

On the other hand, it'll bother me and frustrate me to where I EXPLODE! and I'll just blow up...but in other words...what i'm trying to say is....IT IS BETTER TO TALK IT OUT CALMLY...AND ACCEPT THE DIFFERENCES OF OPINONS AND EMOTIONS rather then to avoid it for so long in where you BLOW UP LIKE ME! ;p Okay..case is dismiss for now!

I totally agree ab419. However, it's a bit different with this aries. he can talk about his feelings and when he's pissed off (whether with me or in general) but when i'm pissed with him and i want to talk he will either avoid talking, he'll get extremely defensive, or he'll try to 'one-up' me, you know "well i hate it when YOU do this." it's so frustrating because there is sometimes always a sense of urgency when it comes to him and his needs, but go forbid there's that urgency with me and mine, and he won't acknowledge them. i guess this is why people think that aries are selfish...i should know w/ my aries moon.

He controls you.

"i guess this is why people think that aries are selfish...i should know w/ my aries moon."

haha, oh no, you're not like that! 🙂

gotcha 😉

haffo...what do you mean "he controls me?" i live my own life, got graduate school, my own car, apt., job, money bills. he's not as fortunate, but nonetheless, he has his own life. so, how does he control me? how do i not let him control me?

lizzie...all i can say is that i wish you were single! i love it when you suprise me!

surprise you? you mean, you're surprised that i don't find you selfish?

You accept what he says while he does not accept yours. Which means that emotionally he controls you. He is in charge of this relationship. Whatever he does not like, he passes it. Whatever he likes, he makes you act according to it.

Relationship is 50/50 thingy. No one should control each other. Controling each other is not tolerated in the community, especially in the realtionships.

"how do i not let him control me?"

If what you belive is really fair, then stay your ground. Don't allow yourself to retreat from your ground just to please him. This kind of behaviour will simply take you to the end of relationship faster than the other "fair" way. If he does not want to be fair, then I suggest move on with this person since no one can control your decitions. This is you and you are a person. Not a tool.

"You accept what he says while he does not accept yours. Which means that emotionally he controls you. He is in charge of this relationship. Whatever he does not like, he passes it. Whatever he likes, he makes you act according to it." uurrgghhh...the lioness doesn't like that!!!

mmm...i guess that's where i'm such a wimp. I can be dominating and pushy and bossy, however, i know that my intentions are good and i would never try to change who he is. therefore, you would think that it would be easy to stand my ground. i mean, i've got a lot going for me and i know that i'm a good catch. so why do i let him get to me and have control over me emotionally. uuuurrrrggghhhh...thanks for the advice haffo!

as for you, dear lizzie, i am a little surprised that you don't find me selfish. however, what i meant when i said that, is that i love it when you pop up from out of nowhere, suddenly...it's surprising and i love surprises!!

"i am a little surprised that you don't find me selfish"

haha, i thought we were over this already 🙂 i was judging too quickly, but we cleared that part. right?


"so why do i let him get to me and have control over me emotionally"

maybe because you don't have other options right now!? that will change 🙂
if he really refuses to even talk about your needs then he's really not the one for you. sad but true. i mean what's the point talking to a wall? what for?

well, let's see option number 1 is in a relationship and has a beautiful baby girl.
option number 2...hahahahaha...doesn't exist, and thus there are no more options.

i'm literally stuck, lizzie. i'm starting to feel like this is my karmic debt that i must pay off b/4 i can be happy again. i've never treated myself so poorly (except for when i smoked) and here i am, not completely happy hoping that this relationship will change. the funny part is that i know i'm only kidding myself, but it's hard for me to admit that i'm so desperate to be in a relationship that i would stay w/ someone who, in so many ways, isn't worth my time.

btw...we met when, last summer? you still haven't judged...i will always be grateful for that!

Option 3

Tell him to get lost (wether he come with you or not).

haffo, i don't understand what you meant by option 3...please explain.

From what I understood, you're pregnant.

If this guy is trying to control you and you feel that being pregnant is something that should made you stay with him no matter what he say, then you shouldn't think like that.

That what I try to tell you and that is option 3.

Or maybe I misunderstood.

If of course by option one you mean the Lizard Scorpio.

hahahahahahahha...yes, by option 1 I was referring to Lizard Scorpio!!!LMAO. Don't worry, i'm not pregnant!LMAO

Eh sorry then. My first language is not English so I can be easily lured into little language tricks like this one.

So then by pointing out your options you ment people, not behaviours. Fine.

no seriously truthseeker, if you know you're kidding yourself then end it. it may hurt badly at first but it'll liberate you for other positive experiences - it may not be love for a while, it could be your education. but i think love will find you, like you always wanted. but you need to be free for that when it happens, and realise someone special has found you. how would you know when you're wrapped up in a difficult relationship that doesn't even make sense to you?

i know...it's also a bit more complicated than that...so right now, i'm just waiting for a divine intervention.

aaaaaaah, a devine intervention! 🙂 you mean a kick in your cute tushy? 😉

yes, absolutely...a kick in my cute tushy. bTw when is your b-day, i forget.

november 20th. yours is july 23rd?

going to bed. in case you wonder why i'm not answering today. i will tomorrow... 🙂

you know...you just get better, and better by remembering my b-day. your girl is extremely lucky to have you. sorry i missed you b/4 you went to sleep. you should check your e-mail cuz i wrote to you yesterday. oh...two more question: where were you born and do you know the time? i wanna do your birth chart, if that's ok. 🙂