Too fast in everything. Even in forgiving?

I was wondering whether any of my fellow Aries' have asked themselves this question.

We're famous for having only little patience and moving into things fast, sometimes too fast. So I have noticed a thing about me - I tend to forget that I am in bad terms with somebody or that I "should" be mad at them. Instead I want to forget and forgive asap, in order to live on with my harmonic and intact self.

Often friends or family have to remind me to stay cold or reserved to people, who "didn't deserve" kindness or love from me. So now I'm wondering - is there such thing as "having" to be mad at somebody if they treated you wrong or is it fine to follow the feel of your gut and try to get back to normal with people asap.

Of course I am aware of the fact that being too loose on people might eventually lead to them treating you like a doormat, but you should know Aries are not having that. No way in hell will I let someone think less of me than I am. So it's not that I'm submissive, on the contrary I'm very proud. But when I like someone I tend to try to be on good terms with them regardless of what they did. Is that bad?

It takes me a bit to get mad with someone but look out when i do, usually there is no turning back once i reach that point. Have left a few good, long friendships behind over the years. In saying that they have to have really let me down big time for this to happen. Im not fickle. Im just honest and loyal and do expect the same back. Ive found that ive mellowed and have more patience now as ive gotten older. Im 45 now and still can be a little impulsive with decisions on general life direction but hey makes life exciting. Not to many dull moments.

I tend to be very forgiving, and I tend to forgive to quickly. On the other hand, while I may not be carrying an actual grudge toward you, if you have proven to be an unreliable, mean, nasty, lying, cheating bastard, I am going to be a good deal more guarded. Maybe I am splitting hairs here.....


As for doing things fast, let's use NZaries as a reference point. Most of them young whipper snappers her age move to damn slow and get in my way. Really, that's what the right hand lane is for!!!!
I expect that NZ isn't one of those people getting in my way, as a btw.....

Na not me past you about an hour back, was moving so fast you didnt even see me wave

Posted by NZaries
Na not me past you about an hour back, was moving so fast you didnt even see me wave

Nah, I missed your wave, sorry.....
Dang trifocals.....

As for remembering bad things people do to me, or trying to get revenge, well, you know what, I am just plain bad at both of those things. I may remember that I don't like you, and that I need to not trust you, but I may not be able to remember why, without some thought (trifocals for the brain?).
Revenge, ha, I am really bad at that. Never fails to backfire, and I feel like a low life, sneaking, jerk when I even try.

*****zip****
*****spinning in circles*****

Was that you again NZ?

^^^^Hmmm, where did "circlesprinkle" come from? Tain't what I wrote. I just wrote "spinning in circles." Are you like a Fairy, NZ. Sprinkling all your lovely and mischievous fairy powder here and there?

**whips police car around and races after dofacc and NZaries to book them for texting while driving**

Yep that was me. We all clean green fairies over here. Revenge oh no not me either ever. Dosnt that fit along side jealousy. Both such a waste of time and energy. So how you feeling now after the fairy dust. Exhilerated?? clean?? My job here is done!

Ha Ha you will never catch me mate

Posted by NZaries
Ha Ha you will never catch me mate

Don't laugh. Look in your rear view😉

Like i said you wont catch me. Yes i know exactly where you are. Im keeping you in my sights

Posted by dofacc

Posted by NZaries
Na not me past you about an hour back, was moving so fast you didnt even see me wave

As for remembering bad things people do to me, or trying to get revenge, well, you know what, I am just plain bad at both of those things. I may remember that I don't like you, and that I need to not trust you, but I may not be able to remember why, without some thought (trifocals for the brain?).
Revenge, ha, I am really bad at that. Never fails to backfire, and I feel like a low life, sneaking, jerk when I even try.

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Yes, this sounds a lot like me too!

Often I simply forget why I was fighting with someone or how it all started. This might happen very fast too. Sometimes after a few hours I'm like: "Uhh so how did we even start?". Even if I was the one to start it off. Feels retarded at times, but I'm wondering whether it's the inner guard against drama and bad feelings. Even though I must admit I do like a little drama from time to time to spice things up (I know I know..).

Revenge is not for me either, even though a bitch might deserve that lol

I just always saw that as me being the bigger person and trying to act like all this fighting isn't even worth it. Let's just live in harmony but then again... I feel this way even if I was the one to start some ish.

Confused.

Good discussion.

I have issues of remembering that I'm supposed to be mad at someone for a particular reason, no matter what the context of the disagreement/argument was. I have often tried to introspect and ask myself why this sudden "forgiveness"( is that the word?) arose out of the blue. It seems i WANT to be mad, But I'm UNABLE to. I am back to my jovial self, when I'm face to face with the person whom I'm supposed to be mad at. Sometimes this attitude shows even before the day is up. I'm extremely bad at maintaining a cold shoulder towards anyone.

I've made myself realise, that for me, I'm the most important person that matters, so occupying my brain with other people's problems about me is simple an insult to my intelligence and I move on, without so much as a second thought.

Revenge is something I simply cannot partake in. My scorpio ex tried his level best to make me a little bit vengeful when he saw how forgiving I was. I refused to bend. It is insulting to be a child of the God of War and engage in such petty stuff.

LOL at the last sentence!

That's very true though, I feel like that sometimes too!

But my logic of it goes like this: I'm supposed to be mad -> I'm not -> Do I love myself? Hell yeah! -> So what don't I stand up for myself and let them have it?!


I don't seem to pull this through really well. There are only a few people I have completely distanced myself from , who were spreading rumors about me. However it is more of a "let go" thing rather than a "payback" thing, because like you said, firewatergurl: I just see myself as too good to be getting down to that level and dealing with this.

In general there's nothing wrong with not holding in negative feelings towards anyone or anything, but if you forgive too early this can be regarded as inconsequence. My problem with it is that I don't want to send out signals of being inconsequent or weak. I'm unfuckwithable.

Posted by Aries04
I was wondering whether any of my fellow Aries' have asked themselves this question.

We're famous for having only little patience and moving into things fast, sometimes too fast. So I have noticed a thing about me - I tend to forget that I am in bad terms with somebody or that I "should" be mad at them. Instead I want to forget and forgive asap, in order to live on with my harmonic and intact self.

I love love love this discussion. To be honest, I'm not so much concerned with appearing weak, because an Aries could never be, even if we tried. It goes against our very planet. I feel it's more about baggage--we're already carrying the weight of our desires, plans, goals, etc. why throw in someone else's BS? For what? To dilute our own life and potentially interfere with it?

We cannot control what we feel even though we are entirely driven by our feelings. Hence, Aries always rushing into something and rushing right out. If I'm not mad at you, congratulations, however, it isn't because we are weak--it's because we NEVER want to put ANYONE in an uncomfortable situation. We're emphathetic like that and we can feel the embarrassment of others; I think that's enough anyhow--someone's hurtufl actions don't phase us yet they may spend the rest of their lives wondering why and how--that's our satisfaction. An Aries can never hold a grudge--we have two hands and both are entirely full of our own innocent selfish desires!