why are we talking if he still wants his ex—??

(just venting) so the aries I've been talking about we've been dating 9 months and i guess he still wants his ex but why is he talking to me— i don't understand.....seems like he wants her more than me i feel so stupid to think he's actually like me and want me i finally gave him a chance after him trying so hard to get me to talk to him and i wish i never given him that chance. so tired of being second to someone i put first, and pushed to the side. obviously he didn't tell me he's back with his ex other people had to tell me. when we first started dating he never told me he was still kind of in a relationship with his ex and i got mad at him and told him how i felt and he never really responded to me he never really gave me an explanation he just told me that their relationship was complicated so he never told me he was or wasn't still with her. seems like he may just want me as his side girl i am really not talking to him anymore i don't want to be labeled as a side girl and i don't want to be put second to anybody...so i'm done! i'm going to just focus on loving myself and making myself happy!

but, yea, whoever is reading this thanks for caring lol

Posted by Dragalutzi
I looked at your chart. I had a gf just like you. He does not know what he is missing...a girl with a stellium like yours in leo.

lol thanks

Posted by impresswho
You do know that the side chick usually get treated better then the main chick, right! Just think??_whenever you don't want to be bothered you can get up, walk away, and into the arms of the man in your dreams. Ha, while he stuck home with the same ole?? pussy he stay running from, lol??_??_I kid I kid.

At least you think he is with his ex. Ha, I had one dude tell me I should be happy that he offered me to be his side chick. To this day I still laugh at that, because he had no idea who he was talking to. His son mother is/was a stripper so I guess he thought he was talking to her. Some men I tell you are a hot mess.

We feel ya luv??_Vent away 😄

lol thanks it piss' me of that i even gave him a chance when i really wasn't sure about him in the beginning we were in high school when he first tried to talk to me and i was not taking him seriously and he said i broke his heart when i told him i had a boyfriend smh

Posted by Dragalutzi
5 years ago I had a scorpio gf that was on and off with me. that made me fall in a ugly obsession that lasted one year till I met an aries girl. she was 3 years older than me. She really knew what she was doing. LOL She showed me what the word "fking" really means and I forgot about my ex in 3 days or less. 🙂

wow lol

i just asked him "what is it that you want from me because i feel like your not who i thought you were" waiting for him to reply back to me

Posted by lovelivelife11
i just asked him "what is it that you want from me because i feel like your not who i thought you were" waiting for him to reply back to me

I think Aries are sentimental people and good people in their heart.Maybe he just didn't wanna mistreat her,maybe they are just talking as friends.I started talking to my Aries ex,he would go through fire for me,and he is married.I don't think he would cheat,but then again,he is a man,he once told me he will have a baby with me secretly if only I agreed (which I never did!).
Anyways,they are open people and if you confront him,you will get the truth.

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Posted by lovelivelife11
i just asked him "what is it that you want from me because i feel like your not who i thought you were" waiting for him to reply back to me

I think Aries are sentimental people and good people in their heart.Maybe he just didn't wanna mistreat her,maybe they are just talking as friends.I started talking to my Aries ex,he would go through fire for me,and he is married.I don't think he would cheat,but then again,he is a man,he once told me he will have a baby with me secretly if only I agreed (which I never did!).
Anyways,they are open people and if you confront him,you will get the truth.

There are bad apples out there. In this situation, there is her side, his side, and then the truth. Whatever that truth may be 🙂.

I just feel like he is not into her because she doesn't capture his attention. She's not bananas enough. She plays it too safe when he probably wants her to free herself and say exactly what she feels.

Look at what she text him and tells him about him. Instead of texting him and telling him how she feels about the way his actions affect her and their relationship. She text him and bash him.

She should have text him something like...i need some love right now. I am feeling lonely and cold. Come warm me up baby.

She needs to capture his attention.

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i really just said whatever was on my mind but he never replied i knew i should have called. but anyway i want something more to our relationship than just sex because that's all it seems like to me. it's like i can't ever talk to him especially about something serious. i want to be his friend as well. with my last ex BF we talked all the time, laughed and played around but it's like i can't or don't know how to do that with him, sometimes i think i'm too boring for him (here i go being insecure) i don't strike his attention. ugh this is torture.

maybe i act this way because of my past relationship, because i've been hurt and i don't want to get hurt again, i don't want the same thing that happened with me and my ex to happen again. i want to let him in but there's always something holding me back from fully being myself with him because i'm scared.

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Posted by lovelivelife11
i just asked him "what is it that you want from me because i feel like your not who i thought you were" waiting for him to reply back to me

I think Aries are sentimental people and good people in their heart.Maybe he just didn't wanna mistreat her,maybe they are just talking as friends.I started talking to my Aries ex,he would go through fire for me,and he is married.I don't think he would cheat,but then again,he is a man,he once told me he will have a baby with me secretly if only I agreed (which I never did!).
Anyways,they are open people and if you confront him,you will get the truth.

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yea well maybe he doesn't want to mistreat her but he tells his ex he loves her all the time which also makes me think he wants her and not me. and since they have a baby together makes me really think she has the upperhand and then there's me on the sideline. maybe i'm overthinking to much into this i swear i'm having a war between what's in my head and what's in my heart ugh i hate it...

Posted by impresswho

Posted by lovelivelife11
maybe i act this way because of my past relationship, because i've been hurt and i don't want to get hurt again, i don't want the same thing that happened with me and my ex to happen again. i want to let him in but there's always something holding me back from fully being myself with him because i'm scared.

Sweetheart, this is life and you will be hurt. That is a FACT. It's how you deal with the hurt. Each relationship will make you stronger and wiser.

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yea your right about that

Posted by impresswho
You're probably scared because you have all that fire burning inside (LEO), poor Aries guy wouldn't know what hit him if ya unleashed the dragon, lol.

lol ur tooooooo funny but oooh sooo right!!!

Posted by impresswho
Haha, I know many Cancers that date Aries men. One Cancer chick I knew dated this Aries guy and she had a lot of Leo in her chart. I gave her some advice and of course like a Cancer in the moment she was like naw??_LMAO, her daughter called me the next day and told me her mother tried to run the Aries guy over (at his job).

I told her to express her feelings, lol, LOVE. Shit that was full blown rage. He never fucked with that Cancer??s feelings again.

ROTFL i would never do something like that smh that guy must of done something seriously wrong lol

so he just asked me "where is all of this coming from"

:::: shakes head ::::



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Title of thread - why are we talking if he still wants his ex—??



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