How long should I wait before we have sex?

Okay, so I had a boyfriend who I've never had sex with. We dated for like a month Six months have passed and we started talking again. It has been a few weeks and we are finally going to see each other, because I'm going to be staying with him for a week. He is a cancer if that helps. How long should I wait?

Posted by swatches
Okay, so I had a boyfriend who I've never had sex with. We dated for like a month Six months have passed and we started talking again. It has been a few weeks and we are finally going to see each other, because I'm going to be staying with him for a week. He is a cancer if that helps. How long should I wait?

There is no set time table. What are his intensions does he want a commited relationship. Guys usually give pretty easy clues about what they want however many girls ignore what is being presented, blinded by their "feelings"

In most cases I would say "Whenever you fucking feel like it" but I can tell you don't have the confidence to deal with it if he leaves you after that.

Just spend some time with him, enjoy your time together. If he is serious about the two of you he will tell when you ask. If he just wants some nookie, well make it clear you don't.

I have had sex on the first date as well as after a month but I would have been fine in both cases if I had to wait a few months. He should be too.

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Posted by swatches
Okay, so I had a boyfriend who I've never had sex with. We dated for like a month Six months have passed and we started talking again. It has been a few weeks and we are finally going to see each other, because I'm going to be staying with him for a week. He is a cancer if that helps. How long should I wait?

There is no set time table. What are his intensions does he want a commited relationship. Guys usually give pretty easy clues about what they want however many girls ignore what is being presented, blinded by their "feelings"

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How can I know?

Posted by swatches
Okay, so I had a boyfriend who I've never had sex with. We dated for like a month Six months have passed and we started talking again. It has been a few weeks and we are finally going to see each other, because I'm going to be staying with him for a week. He is a cancer if that helps. How long should I wait?

Well, from what I've read, and the few Cancer's I know and have interacted with, the sign of Cancer is that of emotion and feelings, so IF you decide to sleep together he may see you as more than just a jump off and want to continue to pursue the relationship as a serious one. I agree with "Tigercap", if he really cares about you, then he will continue to wait until you're ready. However, if things don't work as planned, just be ready to roll with the punches.

Posted by starlover
Wait as long as possible and then you will see what he is made of ~ it is up to the man to chase a woman ~ dont give yourself too readily, you may regret it

This^


The longer you wait, the more you know -- when the time is right.

haha wat a thred of conflicting responses lol

Don't shave for a week or four. Make sure you're as hairy as sasquatch down there. That will keep you from rushing 🙂

Posted by sassafras
Don't shave for a week or four. Make sure you're as hairy as sasquatch down there. That will keep you from rushing 🙂

LOL!!

Approximately 24.64392 years. Give or take.

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Posted by TigerCap
In most cases I would say "Whenever you fucking feel like it" but I can tell you don't have the confidence to deal with it if he leaves you after that.

Just spend some time with him, enjoy your time together. If he is serious about the two of you he will tell when you ask. If he just wants some nookie, well make it clear you don't.

I have had sex on the first date as well as after a month but I would have been fine in both cases if I had to wait a few months. He should be too.

Nice one

Good to see there is at least one male here who isnt ruled by his genitalia
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They yell at me for that sometimes but I draw my own plans. 😄

I know I can deal with rejection, a comment about the way I do things and I actively encourage feedback.
So when it doesn't feel right or I sense the lady in question is uncomfortable I stop.
That might have cost me some nookie now and then but it has also provided me with some awesome sex other times.

Think about it this way Swatches, would you prefer to give yourself because you feel it is required or expected, or because you really, really want it so bad?!?
I can tell you that the first one will be so so (a.k.a. Meh) while the other one can be a wild tangled mess of legs and arms... and just a whole load of fun if done right.

Posted by size zero superhero
What if someone spent forever building up the upcoming sex in their mind...but then, when the day finally arrived, the sex didn't go too well? Or worse yet, the action didn't improve over time after you'd gotten into the habit of doing it? Would the emotional ties serve as compensation for lackluster love/absence of sexual compatibility?

That would SUCK, quite honestly.

True. In that case it would be better to get it out of your system and move on.