how to be more serious? - Aries

hello,

i am struggling with a fact that some people do not perceive me as a serious person.

i am funny, 'light' i make jokes but i am also a workaholic.

there has to be much time in some even friend relations that must pass to people to understand me and get to know me better.

i hope its understandable.

as i wrte it before in some posts- only fire signs understand me well.

i have capricorn and aqua placements and when i am alone or in the very trust company i am serious.

when i enter the room eyes are on me. some people tell me i have some aura. i have a lot of friends. but struggle with relationships. do not know why.



like i would have 2 personality types and like i would have 2 boyfriends- one who is a party centre of attention and the second one who is very down to earth, silent and serious.

i have always felt i needed to prove people my worth. which is actually bad. some people do not care.

i care a lot.

but sometimes people perceive my behaviour as i would not care.

how can i change it?

i would like to be perceived more serious at work, at university. how to d o it?

i get in friendzone very fast because i am open to new relations and boys either are scared of me or just perceive me only as a friend - they do not want to 'explore' me more. like i would be only a 'friend material'.

its the same at university or at work- i need to focus 1000% even more than some people because then i have good results.

i have wondered maybe i had adhd or borderline problems. but maybe its about aries?

thank you for the answers.

j

yes i am pretty and attractive.

i apologise to say that i do not come as narcisstic.

but i am not very womenly, i am 27- i look like 20. its not about hair colour or clothes.

now i am slimmer, my size is 34/36 - even 6 months ago i was 38 - i was not taken seriously neither now.



i wear normal clother but sometimes i think that i intimidate people.

my facial features are strong - i am not slavic type of a woman. more turkish, italian type of a facial features.

i have a strong nose, when getting older my cheekbones are visible and i have big eyes and mouth.

i am surrounded by girls who are more slavic. blondish even reddish- they all have boyfriends. very feminine and delicate

i am stronger.

i like red colour, black, grey, navy blue.



i know usually men my age, or younger are attracted to baby face.

i used to be like that now i am not.



i laugh, i am funny but 3 seconds after i get very serious and i think it is weird to people.

i have 2 kinds of friends- professional that i am serious and party people who know i am a good person to have a party with but it scares me.

Don't change..... carry on being light and funny you

God knows there's enough miserable overly serious people out there

Who wants to be around them .... ?

🌞🌟🌟🌞

Tbh you need to be less serious instead.

Posted by Koniuchaa
I think you should stop caring about what other people

i started to do it when i saw men my age preffered other women than me.

because of my strong facial features i think that people missinterpret me because they think i am serious. but i am light and funny.

its weird contradiction.

yes i was going out, i was socialising. now i do only my diploma. my routine is home university and library- i know sounds boring but i didnt work on my diploma as good as i wanted to before because i was going out a lot and i couldnt focus...

yes the most frustrating thing is that people are intimidated by me.

and it always goout after, afyer some break ups. after 2-3 years that some men , boys were scared to ask me out.

i am also stubborn and territorial. i do compromise but i am not like other women that are 2nd part of the relationship. i need to be the same 1-1 in a relationship. and i think it what makes men think i am intimidating.

hahahah maybe your friend is me?

my leo ignored me yesterday when i asked him politely ( in a nice way, but not flirtatious) to fill some survey for my master thesis.

he 's seen the facebook message, seen my snapchat story about the survey but didnt respond.

he ignored me completly.

i think its obvious when a man like you he would help. he hates me. or i did sth to his ego.

on sunday we met accidentally at the cinema. he was nice even offered a movie that he was going for with his MALE friend but i said no because i had other plans. i needed to do my diploma 😆 sorry its lame.

but he wished me nice evening and see you around but ignored my yesterday's message.

maybe he feels used by me because he helped me but it didnt work out as he wanted?

but why was rejecting me twice or 3 times about meetings and now ignored my message...

its a disaster.

i dont wanna write to him anymore.

i think its dead topic.

Don't try to be someone you're not - it's never gonna work in the long run anyway.