Pisces guy doesn't want to talk to me NEmore idk y

I have the Pisces lover/friend and we recently came to a misunderstanding about something from work. He warned me about something he heard people talking about with me and told me so that I could keep a look out. And that was fine I understood what he was trying to do. A few days later, someone that he works with told me that they were told by someone else that he had said something about how he is when he works. So going back to what I was told, his co-worker was saying how upset she is and how she doesn't have any respect for him anymore and whatnot(mind you she is one to report people for not doing work). So I thought it would be right for me to warn him that whatever he had said to someone there, word got out, and to just be careful because I didnt want anything bad to happen to him.

So he got mad at me after I tried giving him a look out and tells me that it seems like I was looking for dirt when I really wasn't. I told him that his co-worker had voluntarily told me about, in a gossiping way but he didnt want to hear it and just kept saying that he didnt want to talk to me anymore. So I said that I didn't have time to be warning me friends and for them to tell me to F off. So I left him alone. The next day I write to him again, this time nice and sweet, to re-explain why I told him. And I assured him that I wasn't looking for any dirt on him..no answer/response from him.

So I let a few days pass by and when I see him at work I tried talking to him in person and he was just completely trying to avoid the entire convo and he walks away. I text him again, asking what happened and what was wrong and his response was "if you haven't figured it out by now then there's no point in talking about it" so I tell him that I'm just trying to understand him and why he got mad..his only response was that all he said was to please stop texting him. And I told him that hurts me because I don't know what I did and that he wasn't being clear or fair to me, but that I was going to leave him alone.

I'm sorry if this is long but I need a thorough understanding from a Pisces themselves. Does he really mean what he says? Why, why wont he be clear was to what I did? Should I just completely forget about him or what? I need help please

the shyt that was being talked about him was probably TRUE and he avoiding you because he doesnt want to talk about it. all pisces do that. when u want to take about something like that or the truth, they will squirm or swim away. they come back when the coast is clear.

back off. he will reappear when he thinks the waters are safe. when he does, dont bring it up immediately. if its still on your mind, bring it up in a few after food or something. or if he smokes the ganja, bring it up after then.

experience:

my mom is a fish, i dated 2 fishs, ex friend whose a fish, few other fishes that crossed my path.

Damn, that's so messed up. I'm trying to help him and he flips me the bird as if its all my fault. I feel like he never wants to reason with me...as if everything has to be on his terms only. And I don't even know how to bring it up to him because if I say how that hurts me, he makes as if its not a big deal or anything. Like I'm forced to be silenced, so what do I do?

see above, i just told you what to do.

Posted by DMV
the shyt that was being talked about him was probably TRUE and he avoiding you because he doesnt want to talk about it. all pisces do that. when u want to take about something like that or the truth, they will squirm or swim away. they come back when the coast is clear.

Not true. As a pisces, I can tell you that not all of them do this. If I don't want to talk about something, which is extremely rare (I believe in talking over problems and understanding), I will simply state that it's something I prefer not to talk about (unless you mean very little to me). I would not make it a big deal, get defensive, or 'swim away'. And, as a human being, I think many people, not just pisces, do this, though.

Your guy seems really immature. But, if you still want him back, the only thing you can do is wait. Even then, he probably won't want to talk about the situation nor a lot of other situations that may occur in the future. He doesn't seem like the type to talk things over. If that's what you want, then, good luck.

pisces= evasive


especially when it comes to talking "truths"

Stating your opinion more than once doesn't make it any more true.
Let's agree to disagree.I don't believe that saying everyone of a certain type or category can all be the same way personality wise is in any way fact or correct.

I'm not an evasive Pisces. I mean, sure, there are things I don't want to talk about sometimes -- and when that's the case, I say so. And if I don't want to talk about something, I WON'T. Period, and there will be no getting anything out of me. But I don't just go silent and make you figure it out.

But the passive-aggressive isn't me -- I don't play around with the "Read my mind, and if you don't know what's wrong, you're screwed." So it sounds like this guy was looking for an excuse to cut contact with you.. maybe another girl has caught his eye (you said lovers/friends which = FWB to me.. you didn't say boyfriend.. and FWB wouldn't be a primary relationship for him to be "faithful" within.. FWB is a "for now" relationship).. orrrr.. he's being an immature douchebag and wanting to see if he can turn it back on you, make you grovel at his feet. What an ego stroke that would be!

Nights said it best - flip him the bird. The Pisces is being a knucklehead and you don't need the headache. Find one who doesn't play bullshit games because he doesn't have communication skills.

i remember this one pisces guy used to lie on mt all the time to his friends. saying that we were in hot charged relationship. when confronted...swim away.

this other pisces girl, i just had to stop talking to her and if i did, i had a witness present to make sure she couldnt make up anything. what they hear and what you tell them is 2 different things.

so annoying to anyone who lives in reality

Posted by Scenic
Stating your opinion more than once doesn't make it any more true.
Let's agree to disagree.I don't believe that saying everyone of a certain type or category can all be the same way personality wise is in any way fact or correct.

i wasnt disagreeing with you. i believe u when you say ur different.

Posted by DMV
all pisces do that.

Posted by DMV
pisces= evasive


especially when it comes to talking "truths"

This was the crux.. you (erroneously) painted ALL Fish with the same brush, and you have here at least two examples of Pisces who don't do this. And DMV, I like you.. but you do this often, declaring ALL Pisces (or whatever) to be this or that... and that may be why people bristle at your very broad generalizations.

Then you backpedal...

Posted by DMV


i wasnt disagreeing with you. i believe u when you say ur different.

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No one likes such broad generalizations about themselves and their sign, esp negative ones. :/

You guys are very right. I'm a cappy female and I believe in just being honest with me. I try to be gentle with him but I feel like he's taking it for granted. And even though I'm not very outspoken all the time, he knows how to get under my skin. He claims to be a man but he being childish about this read my mind bull shyt. And he knows I've started having feelings for him, but its times like these that I think to myself how much I don't need his bull shyt. Even as friends, he can still be reasonable, but no, he's trying to do some bull crap like this. And then he wonders why the hell none of his relationships don't work out..smh

You know what I think I might do, I'm going to do what DMV told me...I'm gonna keep it cool and see what happens...if he is still acting like a kid, I'm gonna flip him off. I say this because I don't like having animosity with anyone. I try to be cool, but if still hadn't calmed the F down, then I'm done even trying to be friends with the guy

generalizations are an inconvenient truth. good or bad.

just the way i feel about the fishies, at least u know im consistent right. i think the men are adorable but friction occurs eventually. the women are all the same to me...they all have dry mouth cause they gossip soo much lol.

you dont have to agree with me, but im entitled to my 2 cents. if someone were to come and bash the hell out of any one of my placements, theyre entitled, i may speak my peace but i wouldnt tell someone that they couldnt say this or that.

have u seen my post about those murderous cancers? i also believe that an aries has no problem taking your man out for a test drive. tauri are a bit slow on the uptake and horndogs. geminis talk way too fast for me to keep up so i dont date em. capricorns are opportunist. virgos have more blonde moments than not. saggis cant wait to fall into bed with someone and love shiny new objects. leos should just walk around with a mirror and a live studio audience to give them the ego trip they desperately seek.

who'd i miss?

@OP, u have an evading pisces man. he doesnt like to confront things that he isnt ready to confront. so in order to avoid being "caught", he will wiggle himself out of a conversation and some pisces can get nasty about it and then play the martyr role as usual. it all becomes your fault and the heat is off them. sooner or later, people figure out their lil 2 step.

if u want him back as a FWB, i understand...all the pisces men i screwed had 3rd legs and knew how to navigate my waters. just expect more of this behavior if u or anyone else tries to shove him into reality.

"No one likes such broad generalizations about themselves and their sign, esp negative ones. :/"

True. But something about that kind of statements on these kind of threads (i.e. "[insert Sun Sign here] hates me/dumped me/why is he/she so [insert whatever here]) boggles my mind. I mean, when someone makes this kind of thread and doesn't even attach a chart, what kind of feedback could be expected? There's nothing wrong about DMV's answer (considering that all she knows is the Sun sign, which is pretty much nothing). Also she is pretty much spot on about Pisces Sun sign. She forgot something important, though: Pisces, more than any other sign, hates being labeled or stereotyped.

Posted by MzSag
Scorpios, Aquas, and Libras... That's what you missed. 😛

THANKS!


scorpios talk shit about their very best friend and smile right back in their face.

i actually have no gripe with aquas or libras, they have no pulse so i hardly even know theyre around.

Posted by BlueSandCacoon
"No one likes such broad generalizations about themselves and their sign, esp negative ones. :/"

True. But something about that kind of statements on these kind of threads (i.e. "[insert Sun Sign here] hates me/dumped me/why is he/she so [insert whatever here]) boggles my mind. I mean, when someone makes this kind of thread and doesn't even attach a chart, what kind of feedback could be expected? There's nothing wrong about DMV's answer (considering that all she knows is the Sun sign, which is pretty much nothing). Also she is pretty much spot on about Pisces Sun sign. She forgot something important, though: Pisces, more than any other sign, hates being labeled or stereotyped.

they do? haha i know that theyre either on drugs or drinking themselves into a stupor.

Yeah, but i'm rather talking about the Pisces sign. Not the people with a Pisces Sun.

I don't get how people can relate to cookbook descriptions so much and, at the same time, get defensive when someone start making "negative" generalizations about signs. Usually they are valid but that doesn't mean you have to relate to it. If something about your Sun sign doesn't add up, then you are obviously not 100% that sign. Likewise, if you can't relate to one of those statements, that doesn't make it completely wrong. That's because it's just a generalization (not true all the time).

Well that was bit of a vent out, i guess. I shall peacefully retire from this thread now, lol.

to thine own self be true

Just give him his space. Honestly, I'd think it was fishy to warn someone of something and for them to come back and do the same to me too. It could almost seem like a tit for tat, or an "I'm not the only one" type thing. I wouldn't say it to that person, nor would I ignore them, but I would think something was up. Just give him the space he's entitled to. Don't bother him anymore or try to figure out what's going on. Just let him cool off and once he's chill he should come back around. You know how some Caps can be with the infamous silent treatment and ignoring too when ticked. Let him see for himself.

" A few days later, someone that he works with told me that they were told by someone else that he had said something about how he is when he works. So going back to what I was told, his co-worker was saying how upset she is and how she doesn't have any respect for him anymore and whatnot(mind you she is one to report people for not doing work). So I thought it would be right for me to warn him that whatever he had said to someone there, word got out, and to just be careful because I didnt want anything bad to happen to him."

Hmmm seems there may be another lover in the mix at work, women typically gossip to see if the other woman will open up and TELL her what's up, see if she defends the guy, if she blatantly talked about him to you then she's letting you know something is up be it as innocent as liking him or perhaps they are lovers, whomever this woman was that lost respect hurt his poor lil feelings and he's taking it out on you by distancing himself before YOU find out the truth.

Learn from this and not help him anymore, if people are discussing him behind his back then that's what it is...And that goes both ways.

But for the most part leave him alone, he's decided to stop communicating so let his wish be your command. I have a gut feeling the TRUTH set him free, yep he ran off when the truth got too close, as much gossip that's going on inevitably the truth about him will surface and you may just find out you're not the only one he's messing around with, of course this is speculative on my part.

Keep listening and you'll know why he stopped talking to you, it's bound to come out.

I understand what you mean @tiki33...but this is an older woman..she told me that she lost all respect for him a son. Is not what you think it is. Its been about a week and a half so I'm wondering exactly how much time?

There used to be someone from the same job that he used to date but they broke up back in january. I've known him for about 2 1/2 years you know. We were talking at the time but things didn't work out because he decided to go back to his high school ex(this one from work is a different chick)...long story. But yea, how much time are we talking here that I should give him? What do you think?

Clearly this woman KNOW his antics, It's speculative and all I'm saying is OBSERVE-LISTEN, there is a back story to this and it's soon to REACH YOU. Loss of respect means there is way more to the story than not working.

Don't give him time, move on, you've attempted to explain and to continue doing that (grovel) will only make you appear more and more desperate, listen to the background noise, there is a story behind that loss of respect and he bailed out on you before you get wind of it. Be patient and you'll know what you need to know but for now focus on yourself, you attempted to do an admirable thing and it backfired on you so don't keep dousing the situation with more flames by pushing for communication, once things settle down he'll either approach you again or swim away for good and if there is a back story in there about someone else (another woman) it'll manifest itself soon.

Be patient. Moving on is temporary and/or it could be permanent but the most important thing is that you take care of yourself FIRST so you won't feel so down about the situation. Friends don't cut one another off so abruptly so I'm wondering if this relationship/friendship is one sided (mostly your side), seems you should probably LOSE RESPECT for him as well, he clearly YANKED your chain--mindfucked you as in pretending to care about you but once reciprocated he ran off, he's not really behaving like someone who cares about preserving the connection you share with one another.

So for now don't wait, continue living your life and inevitably he'll come back your way and if not well you didn't waste time sitting around pining for a guy that's gone, you'll be a few steps ahead of getting over it.

Alright, sounds good to me, thank you all for your help