So Gems, ever considered getting back with an ex?

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arianasummers
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I'm a dxpnet virgin, so be gentle.

Ok so my long-story-short, I just started seeing this Gem girl (HOT!) and she told me she'd never felt the way about any of her exes as she did me and the feeling was mutual, but then one day she said she needed some space. I hear you guys are all about space and shit. I'm a Cancer and we're all about the love baby. Anyway I texted her occasionally to see how she was but one day she stopped responding. I tried to get ahold of her (not stalking just to find out what the hell is going on) but she just ignored me. So I waited a few days but never heard from her (wtf?) so I left her a vm telling her I guess it's over and it's cool but hang onto my number in case she ever wants to talk or hangout. I guess I wanted to keep the possibility of communication open in case she comes back but not let her think I'm just gonna wait around by the phone for her call even though I hope she does eventually.

She's my first Gem. I was with a Cap for 5 years and a Libra for 2 (fucking nightmare). It seems like Gems wanna take things slow and shit but then you fall hard and fast, get spooked and disappear. What's up with that?
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Wow, this sounds familiar.

I was in a similar situation. I met the man of my dreams (or so I thought) and things were wonderful until we got into a disagreement and I got the "we need time apart" statement too (yes he's a Gemini). I'm also a Cancer so I had a hard time with the whole "space" thing and pushed him away by texting too much. Of course I hate myself now. Everyone says he's not coming back so I have to move on.

I hope things work out for you! Good luck!
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Thank you, Ariana. I know if he does (and everyone on here tells me he won't) it won't be anytime soon. I'm just doing my thing: working, going to school, and taking care of my daughter, trying to stay busy and positive. I'd by lying if I said I'm not holding onto the hope that somewhere down the road, whether it be months or a year, he'll think of me and miss me and maybe want to chat and catch up. A lot of people say I got played too, but I believe he really did care. I just should've backed off when he asked me to. Hopefully things will work out for us both!
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arianasummers
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Oh don't beat yourself up sweetie. Like I said, I was with a Cap for years but we took a break for almost a year. We got into this huge fight and I said we need a break. We seriously didn't talk at all for almost a year, then one day she texted me. We talked for 6 hours and got back together and things were great for 3 years. Yeah we broke up for good this time but I think there's always hope. Keep doing what you're doing and one day he may come around. Sometimes people need to play the field when they have strong feelings for someone, and I know that sounds weird. But what they find is no one compares to you and they come crawling back. It may happen for you guys too but don't get discouraged if it doesn't. Just keep doing you and see what happens.

As for me and my Gem girl, yeah I wanna get back together but if it doesn't happen I'll be ok.
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Posted by arianasummers
I'm a dxpnet virgin, so be gentle.

Ok so my long-story-short, I just started seeing this Gem girl (HOT!) and she told me she'd never felt the way about any of her exes as she did me



I'm confused. You're her ex? But she needs space? WTF? Anywho, if someone tells you they need space, GIVE THEM SPACE. That doesn't mean contact them to see what's up. I know if I'd ask someone to give me space I would be really annoyed if they kept contacting me during that time.

I'm sure it may be out of concern but sheeeeeesh!! But honestly it's aggrivating & I would label you as being desperate. But that's me. If someone wants to exit for a while or for good, hold the door open for them to leave & lock that shit behind you. If they decide to come around, you'd have to make the choice to unlock it again. If they're worth it & if you really love them.
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That means her interest moved on..not to be mean but it happens to all of us. I am a gem myself, our interests changes every day, every minute, and if your not changing with us, we will get bored and leave. Plus we love love. but we dont like clinginess or mushy love ALL the time. We like to miss the one were dating. as in go all day without talking, or only seeing each other a few times a week. Im not saying you should date astrologically but You should go for a Pisces, Scorpio, or another cancer! Your best match is another water sign because they want the same thing in a relationship that you do. For you all put more emotions in your relationships more then other zodiac signs. (: best luck for you love
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Posted by cassibird89
That means her interest moved on..not to be mean but it happens to all of us. I am a gem myself, our interests changes every day, every minute, and if your not changing with us, we will get bored and leave. Plus we love love. but we dont like clinginess or mushy love ALL the time. We like to miss the one were dating. as in go all day without talking, or only seeing each other a few times a week. Im not saying you should date astrologically but You should go for a Pisces, Scorpio, or another cancer! Your best match is another water sign because they want the same thing in a relationship that you do. For you all put more emotions in your relationships more then other zodiac signs. (: best luck for you love



You don't think a pisces & gemini relationship will last? Do you think the fish will suck the living daylights out of a airy, free-spirited gem? And eventually grow weary of these desperate needy ways?
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Posted by cassibird89
Not for every single gem and Pisces but from my experience and from what I've witnessed with this combo...yes lol



Oh. I always figured the fish would be left to pick up the pieces, especially with a Gemini. The Pisces women I know are very "doormatish", & from what I know about gem men, they use this to their advantage & deal with them whenever they need something from them. At least, that's what my cousin does. *shrugs*