those people who date til some one better comes

ALright, I haven't interacted with my fellow fire mars often in my life, I've noticed the people I am close to have water mars or air mars. I just recently met a really sweet guy. I'm an empath so I know a good soul when I feel one. I was in a crowded room helping my friends move, he walked in and we immediately made eye contact, I felt really drawn to him and saw such a gentle kind spirit in his eyes, I was studying him and he'd stay by my side as I was talking to people. He seemed all around curious about me. After a few months and the friends had moved, he met a girl. She's a Pisces sun, Scorpio moon, Leo mars and cap Venus. I ran into him at a party and I did his chart he's a Leo sun, Scorpio moon, Leo mars and Leo Venus. I studied their relationship for a while, he would always resist her attention and come sit next to me and enjoyed being involved in my conversations, she hated it. But idk I'm not one to push people out of a conversation. Anyways he kept saying things to me about meeting some one that you feel deep down inside your destined to love, and I kinda felt as if he was trying to explain how he felt. With distant behavior towards his gf and small mentions of following your heart and gut I Dont feel he is sincere with himself or her. He doesn't seem happy. Kinda sad when people waste other peoples time.
Anyone ever study and notice this kind of behavior in others? What the moon/sun/mars and Venus?

Yep.

Dude was a Libra though, so it's kinda not surprising he was keeping options upon options around. Some are notorious for doing that while dating.

Posted by AriesLady8
I'm not sure if this is an astrological thing. Some people need and wait for that soulmate love and some settle down with whatever works.

Yeah, but it's not just the settling, it's using that individual to get you by until something "better" comes along. There seems to be a lot of that going on in dating anymore. It's what happens when you raise a few generations who are used to having tons of options in all aspects of life. They bring it with dating and treat people as commodities.

Posted by downstairsmixup
ALright, I haven't interacted with my fellow fire mars often in my life, I've noticed the people I am close to have water mars or air mars. I just recently met a really sweet guy. I'm an empath so I know a good soul when I feel one. I was in a crowded room helping my friends move, he walked in and we immediately made eye contact, I felt really drawn to him and saw such a gentle kind spirit in his eyes, I was studying him and he'd stay by my side as I was talking to people. He seemed all around curious about me. After a few months and the friends had moved, he met a girl. She's a Pisces sun, Scorpio moon, Leo mars and cap Venus. I ran into him at a party and I did his chart he's a Leo sun, Scorpio moon, Leo mars and Leo Venus. I studied their relationship for a while, he would always resist her attention and come sit next to me and enjoyed being involved in my conversations, she hated it. But idk I'm not one to push people out of a conversation. Anyways he kept saying things to me about meeting some one that you feel deep down inside your destined to love, and I kinda felt as if he was trying to explain how he felt. With distant behavior towards his gf and small mentions of following your heart and gut I Dont feel he is sincere with himself or her. He doesn't seem happy. Kinda sad when people waste other peoples time.
Anyone ever study and notice this kind of behavior in others? What the moon/sun/mars and Venus?

he has Scorpio, he was just making her jealous. which means he's just very immature.

or that he feels his gf should express her feelings more for him. in other case, i wouldn't get involved and would have said, "dude, what's up with you?? why you so making your gf upset?? that's not cool."

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Posted by AriesLady8
I'm not sure if this is an astrological thing. Some people need and wait for that soulmate love and some settle down with whatever works.

Yeah, but it's not just the settling, it's using that individual to get you by until something "better" comes along. There seems to be a lot of that going on in dating anymore. It's what happens when you raise a few generations who are used to having tons of options in all aspects of life. They bring it with dating and treat people as commodities.

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+1. Yep, that's about right. God forbid that anyone should have to remain single while they meet someone they really like. It's all about settling because being single is apparently for losers

#sarcasm

Posted by RumiLove
Yes...my best friend's boyfriend did that once and I completely cut him off. It was 3 years ago and I, my friend and he would meet up sometimes at her house. He used to "flatter" me by saying he wanted a daughter like me, what a "good" girl I was. Slowly he started calling me upon my phone...I'd answer it out of respect for my friend..initially kept it casual and slowly one day he says to me that he wish he had met me before my bestie 😐

I just stopped answering to his calls/texts... Spoke to him in the presence of my bestie. Slowly he got the message and stopped "looking" at me. I desperately wanted to tell her to be careful about this guy. But I couldn't do it.. I decided that I'd stick with her if anything happened and support her.

But something happened and she broke my heart(nothing regarding her bf) ..i slowly faded away from her life..she tried to stop, but I was already fading away ..my parents wouldn't allow me to talk to her as well...sorry I digress. Anyway I dont know anything about them(I have no fb now)


His birthchart --- Sag sun/Pisces moon/sag merc/mars/venus.

Wow, disgusting that he doesn't think about other peoples feelings.

Just wanted to tie astrology to human behavior. The way he feels around her is detached and not sincere. There was one time I came over and they didn't notice, they were mingling in a small space, I watched them for a few seconds, I could feel that his mind was there, he was focused on her.

We are mixing up the word dating with actual relationship.

I don't have a problem dating multiple people. I'm almost 40 and the concept of having a boyfriend rather than a partner isn't appealing. HOWEVER
the sex part. I literally had a conversation with a man I'm interested in today and he said sex should happen after the 2nd dnship mate BUT he won't know if the person is relationship material until after 3 months.
FML, I'm going to be single forever

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Posted by AriesLady8
I'm not sure if this is an astrological thing. Some people need and wait for that soulmate love and some settle down with whatever works.

Yeah, but it's not just the settling, it's using that individual to get you by until something "better" comes along. There seems to be a lot of that going on in dating anymore. It's what happens when you raise a few generations who are used to having tons of options in all aspects of life. They bring it with dating and treat people as commodities.

+1. Yep, that's about right. God forbid that anyone should have to remain single while they meet someone they really like. It's all about settling because being single is apparently for losers

#sarcasm

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My brother and I were just talking about this because a friend of mine is already jumping head first into dating after barely finalizing his divorce of 3 years/relationship of like 7-8 or something.

It's fine and nice and he deserves some happiness after what he just went through, but he's already moving a bit too fast. It's like wtf dude, what is wrong with being single and doing you for awhile. Recoup, you know?

But he's a Scorp. They think they'll shrivel up and die if they aren't in a relationship. I think he's also dying for the attention because he wasn't getting much of it before the ex, and now he's getting plenty of if after the ex because he's much different now (appearance wise).

I haven't said anything yet, but I kinda want to shake him and tell him to simmer down. But all he's hit up as a sounding board is another Scorp friend who is probably the worst when it comes to how to handle life's issues in regard to relationships (he too, also thinks he will shrivel up and die if he's single).

So I just sit back and wait and see how this pans out and shall be here either way...

Posted by livictori
We are mixing up the word dating with actual relationship.

I don't have a problem dating multiple people. I'm almost 40 and the concept of having a boyfriend rather than a partner isn't appealing. HOWEVER
the sex part. I literally had a conversation with a man I'm interested in today and he said sex should happen after the 2nd dnship mate BUT he won't know if the person is relationship material until after 3 months.
FML, I'm going to be single forever

But the thing is that the behavior of dating and relationships are now muddled together. We have all these emotionally retarded morons that we've bred who are treating their relationships as if it were dating.

Dating is dating. It's trial and error. But some people treat it as just a world of options for them to use with little regard to the other's feelings. This is where communication fails because they don't make sure they're on the same page as the other person.

The problem lies in that they begin to drag this mentality into relationships. They can't separate the two behaviors and it seems as if all they see relationships as are that the relationship is a fixed point in their life now as opposed to one that could change because it's "temporary" (dating). BUT the grass is always greener, right? So let's make sure we have some options on the side and/or keep looking while we're with this person. You never know, the TRUE love of your life could be right around the corner!


It's freaking sad.

My 20 something coworker the other day admitted about his new girlfriend was that if someone else "better" would come along, he'd drop her for them. Said it so nonchalantly, too.

The rest of us gave him a verbal smack down because it was so fricken atrocious to think. "WHY ARE YOU WITH HER THEN??" Jesus.

"those people who date til some one better comes"


...are called low life users. Nothing more.

Posted by YellowSubmarine
While I don’t prescribe to the idea of having a line-up of men at my disposal to use and abuse, I have absolutely dated people that I saw no future with.

Why? Because first of all, you never know what happens in life – I‘ve started out with someone and then later realized that I could see real potential in it, versus other times I knew right away and ended things flat out. These things take time – commitment takes time.

The reason people date without committing is because we’re all human… Just because someone hasn’t found their soulmate yet, it doesn’t mean you don’t still yearn for human connection. It doesn’t discount the significance of loving someone, whether you spend your life with them or not.

I resent the idea that unless a relationship ends in marriage, it was somehow a waste of time or insignificant. People so readily toss people aside these days, it’s near tragic. I genuinely consider all my exes friends, no matter how things ended.

P.S. Hitting on someone else while in a relationship is not what I’m condoning.. that shit is just plain disrespectful, especially to do it when your SO is right in front of you! Lying about your level of commitment is NOT OK, ever.. neither is cheating. My intention here is more to explain why people date without committing.

Just admit that you choose people you know you wont have a future with....cause you're too weak to commit.

Omg the timing.

So here's another lovely example. I'm talking to my Leo friend about his dating stuff. For the last few months, he's been between two girls- casual. One's a total flake, the other just sounds like a good time. TBH from what he's told me, neither sound like viable long term options.

Last I heard, he was probably dropping flaky and wanted to see how things went with good time chick after a weekend trip someplace.

Tonight, he tells me that they decided to be exclusive after that weekend trip- her initiating it. He then tells me how he really had wanted to wait a week since he'd had a date lined up with flaky. He was still deciding between the two, apparently.

So now he's "with" good time chick and is already unsure if it'll last, and is glad he's kept flaky around as a potential option.

This guy is already thinking these things in a fresh relationship he started.

Makes my brain want to splode. :/

I told him he sounds awful haha. "Well I'm not sure if it'll work out. It's really one sided, but that's okay, I have flaky as an option if this falls apart."
"I don't think she's the one, but she'll do for now."


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Posted by rockyroadicecream
Omg the timing.

So here's another lovely example. I'm talking to my Leo friend about his dating stuff. For the last few months, he's been between two girls- casual. One's a total flake, the other just sounds like a good time. TBH from what he's told me, neither sound like viable long term options.

Last I heard, he was probably dropping flaky and wanted to see how things went with good time chick after a weekend trip someplace.

Tonight, he tells me that they decided to be exclusive after that weekend trip- her initiating it. He then tells me how he really had wanted to wait a week since he'd had a date lined up with flaky. He was still deciding between the two, apparently.

So now he's "with" good time chick and is already unsure if it'll last, and is glad he's kept flaky around as a potential option.

This guy is already thinking these things in a fresh relationship he started.

Makes my brain want to splode. :/

I told him he sounds awful haha. "Well I'm not sure if it'll work out. It's really one sided, but that's okay, I have flaky as an option if this falls apart."
"I don't think she's the one, but she'll do for now."


....

Well now, that is not very nice.

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Not sharing to be gossipy, was just wowed that he was telling me all this when we'd JUST been discussing this in this topic. The kicker is that he's in his late 30s as well, which is kinda funny considering you'd mostly associate behavior like this with a 20s crowd.

Are Leo dudes known for behaving like this? I'd shared about another Leo guy friend who was trying to jump into a relationship with me right after his split, but then proceeded to do something similar to what this guy is doing- using some chick to his advantage all while crying innocent.

This guy, funnily enough, I think had some interest in me at some point. I kept it nipped in the bud for certain reasons (long story) and now I see what my gut was picking up on. :/ ...it just baffles me that he openly admitted to doing all this stuff as if it's no big deal. I think the only reason he's sticking around is for the sex, tbh. That was the motivation of the other L

Posted by starlover
It seems that for some women any old dick will do and i have heard some men say
*as long as it has a pulse*

Fecking hell


lol

This is in regard to serious relationships?

I'd get it if you're trying to get laid. It's kinda gross, but it'd make more sense in that context. But to settle into a relationship with that mindset? No wonder people are so unhappy all the damned time.