Venus in Aquarius

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I agree a hundred with Nemesis; my Venus is also in Aqua; and although i might seem aloof/of detached emotionally, my emotions run deep. Most of the time I'm trying to coherently understand my feelings because I have trouble explaining or speaking about them. This is why I write poetry so much, because it actually helps explain my feelings.

On paper I can write my emotions. However; speaking about it, just comes out wrong so I just write.

Loyalty; respect; honesty, means a lot to me as well. I don't open up to just anyone, I have to feel a level of security with the person before I do that. I don't like drama so if I see someone is about to go from 0-60 I walk away. I don't like confrontation; however this does not mean if you push I won't push back.

I love romance; but I also like a little bit of eroticism; however I don't know if that's my Sun in sag/ or my Moon in Virgo.

My BF and I have Venus and Mars in Aqua so that works very well, because we are both laid back. His Moon is in Cap and my moon is in Virgo.

I'm a Sag and he's a Cap and we are best friends and mesh very well. As he gets older his serious exterior seems to become less and less. Which I like cause he's not so intense.
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Venus in aquarius here. Only one significant input comes to mind for me... Give me my space and I will miss you like crazy. Smother me and I will view you as a 7 metric ton weight on my ankles. It really is that extreme for me. My woman needs to be intelligent and be able to make me think, I hate simple material conversations all day... Thats all I can think of off the top of my head.
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Moon/Mars Aries, Venus in Cancer

My boyfriend has it. It felt like pulling teeth through the courtship but it helped calm my zany needy self.



I'm glad you two are doing okay. You seem to have Mars in Aries as well! Does he feel overpowered by your energy? lol
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He's an Aries, I can't compete with that. Off the top of my head, things I noticed with his Aqua Venus the last couple of years (I am by no means an expert).

- PDA is just a weird acronym for him: he's really private and not big on showing affection in public, which is fine with me. I wasn't ever the kind of girl in a couple where people passing by would yell at "get a room you two".

- I am his friend first and foremost. I asked him once why he loved me, he looked with huge eyes at me "because you're my best friend, how can you ask that?"

I'll think of some more.

As a side note, I know a lot of couples where one party has Venus in Cancer, the other Venus in Aqua..I feel they are truly opposites in a lot of regards.
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Posted by lysergicaciddiethylamide
Venus in aquarius here. Only one significant input comes to mind for me... Give me my space and I will miss you like crazy. Smother me and I will view you as a 7 metric ton weight on my ankles. It really is that extreme for me. My woman needs to be intelligent and be able to make me think, I hate simple material conversations all day... Thats all I can think of off the top of my head.



I agree with you as well when it comes to space. I hate feeling like I'm being smothered. I'm allergic to it and also to arguments. I like things smooth sailing; if not then I'm liable to jump ship for the moment(meaning I walk away till the other person comes down and talks to me like an adult, and thinks logically and coherently explained their side).

I do need space; lots of it. Intelligence is a must; I like people to stimulate me intellectually, whether it be my partner or even friends. I love learning new things; so teach me something new and you have me at hello.

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i wanna know more about this placement. for all you venus in aquarius, in which sign/placement did you meet your match, so to speak?



In venus? Sun sign? Moon? Which placement are we speaking of?
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well i'm not sure how that works.. a guy's venus should be compared to a girl's what?

but i've dealt with two venus in aquarius so far.. and their courtship ritual is really odd... rather cold i feel. the more attention i give them, the more distant and almost uncomfortable they get. i'm not sure whether to attribute that to their interest level, maturity, time in life, or the venus in aquas.. but both men were like that. both love to talk their heads off though.

i'm not sure.. but i think this placement is a little too cold for me.. THAT coming from a virgo. yup.
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there's almost a taunting cruelty to their coldness, moreover. reminds me of when i was in grade school... maybe like 3rd grade or something. an immature cretin. but whenever i found out a boy liked me, i always acted so mean to him after that. i just resented the way those boys would look at me and act around me; and i saw it as a weakness.. and weakness was annoying to me, even at that age. well venus in aquarius behavior reminds me of that. it's just really odd. but makes sense because aquarius people are generally really odd in a really odd way to me lol. (no offense, odd can be cool sometimes).
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Did you jump into smothering them? Lolol



i wouldn't necessarily say smothering... i'm a venus libra so i understand the need for space because i need it too. but even as an air sign, i think libras generally need SOME affection... some romance. else it gets a bit confusing on where you stand with them. i also understand the need to warm up to someone... but i suppose it's my scorp tendencies to need all, NOW. i do have to admire the venus in aquarius ability to keep it cool. very rational at all times. that makes me go more nuts though. hehe
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Yeah, I noticed. I wasn't pressed to fix it.
You already do, you're most prominent.

You wouldn't say smothering, but we might. Lol.
We can be very affectionate. It also helps if you talk to them about everything.



i think that's what i need to work on... communication. but "courting" this venus in aqua is like a lesson in discipline and control. don't know how you guys can keep calm so much.
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Telling a Venus in Aquarius you love them






holy crap that's good hahahaha

but true, very true. in the mornings, venus in aqua boy would make me some tea and sit far away from me, i.e. i'm on the couch and he's on the floor or in a nearby chair. still shy as ever. i just want to rip into him (in a good way).
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HEY now.
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i wanna know more about this placement. for all you venus in aquarius, in which sign/placement did you meet your match, so to speak?



I met my match with a Venus Libra, Mars Taurus. Mars in Taurus is the one placement I have been with the most. They hold me down... very slow, very sexy steady.
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i wanna know more about this placement. for all you venus in aquarius, in which sign/placement did you meet your match, so to speak?



I met my match with a Venus Libra, Mars Taurus. Mars in Taurus is the one placement I have been with the most. They hold me down... very slow, very sexy steady.
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hmm. i'm a venus libra with mars in virgo. he is venus in aqua with mars in scorpio. what sign is your mars in?

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As an Aqua Venus I would say that:
-I wouldn't date someone, if I couldn't also see them as a friend.
-I have a tendency to come off nonchalant, even though I care deeply. I'm working on being more expressive. The "devil may care" attitude isn't intentional.
-I'm not necessarily touchy feely at the beginning of a relationship, but will reciprocate affection if my man initiates it. Once I'm comfortable though get ready for a lot of mushy affection from me.
-Conversation is very important. If you can seduce my mind, the heart is yours for the taking.
- Quality time tends to be my love style . So if I am giving you a lot of time or attention, assume I'm interested.
- though I enjoy spending time with boyfriends, I expect them to have their own life and own friends as well. I want to be a part of someone's life, not BE their life.
- I'm not really into PDA. So if you are the type that needs your mate hanging off of you, or slobbing you down when you're out in public...keep looking.
- I take my time committing, because once my feelings are invested I have a hard time letting go. So if I tell you I want to be with you, trust that it is sincere. Don't waste my time if you're not feeling the same.

Any way. Hope that gives some insight into the female Aqua Venus psyche.



seems like the venus aqua male psyche is very similar.... what is really blatant though is the non-chalant, non touchy feely thing. not sure if this is because of his venus in aqua or his pisces sun, but he's SO shy that it makes me shy too, but i have to kind of pep talk myself to initiate things with him. we've not been intimate in that way yet, but definitely have our intimate moments like sleeping/cuddling together... i feel like he's trying really hard to withhold that from happening quite yet... like pulling away from my kisses after a bit, even though in the beginning it's like he's going to devour me. or getting up to get water. it's a bit strange!!! is this normal for a venus in aqua..? i've just been racking my mind as to the reasons why!
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i wanna know more about this placement. for all you venus in aquarius, in which sign/placement did you meet your match, so to speak?



I met my match with a Venus Libra, Mars Taurus. Mars in Taurus is the one placement I have been with the most. They hold me down... very slow, very sexy steady.



hmm. i'm a venus libra with mars in virgo. he is venus in aqua with mars in scorpio. what sign is your mars in?

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Nice you're a Venus in Libra. I have Mars in Gemini.

Happy Valentine's Day to you all.
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Telling a Venus in Aquarius you love them





Oh, boy. I'm the same. Even though I don't have this Venus, Aquarius takes over my 7th house, which is quite the same as having this placement. Short analogy: Venus governed 7th house + Aquarius or Gemini (Air) = trine. So it's like having Venus in Aqua.

Anyway, thank you all for sharing your experiences and your mindset in these matters. My Aqua Venus female seems to like the wild energy of my Aries Mars! 😄 (they sextile each other in our synastry)

Her Venus is in the 9th house, which explains why she's ready for exciting adventures.
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As an Aqua Venus I would say that:
-I wouldn't date someone, if I couldn't also see them as a friend.
-I have a tendency to come off nonchalant, even though I care deeply. I'm working on being more expressive. The "devil may care" attitude isn't intentional.
-I'm not necessarily touchy feely at the beginning of a relationship, but will reciprocate affection if my man initiates it. Once I'm comfortable though get ready for a lot of mushy affection from me.
-Conversation is very important. If you can seduce my mind, the heart is yours for the taking.
- Quality time tends to be my love style . So if I am giving you a lot of time or attention, assume I'm interested.
- though I enjoy spending time with boyfriends, I expect them to have their own life and own friends as well. I want to be a part of someone's life, not BE their life.
- I'm not really into PDA. So if you are the type that needs your mate hanging off of you, or slobbing you down when you're out in public...keep looking.
- I take my time committing, because once my feelings are invested I have a hard time letting go. So if I tell you I want to be with you, trust that it is sincere. Don't waste my time if you're not feeling the same.




This was a really clear and concise summary. Thanks.
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My venus is in aqua I admire partners who are talented and creative in a way that only I can see and no one else??_. I've always needed to be with someone who I'm proud of and see as a tribe member I treat my BFs like family and family loves you no matter what??_.having said that family never turns their back on family??_.If my BF ever cheated on me thats considered abandonment in my eyes.

But as long as we are family I should be free to go walk-about where ever and whenever I please??_..and I NEED to be appreciated so that I know I'm doing something right otherwise how would I know??_

I don't like being made to hate people because others tell me to it usually has the opposite affect on me??_??_.My exes always learn that early on??_.also it takes a lot for me to hate someone but If someone fucks around with my family I will destroy them.

and yeh??_..I like being unique and different if my lover doesn't appreciate that they can fuck off
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Posted by lysergicaciddiethylamide
Venus in aquarius here. Only one significant input comes to mind for me... Give me my space and I will miss you like crazy. Smother me and I will view you as a 7 metric ton weight on my ankles. It really is that extreme for me. My woman needs to be intelligent and be able to make me think, I hate simple material conversations all day... Thats all I can think of off the top of my head.

Exactly. Though I don't really bother with relationships too much any more due to both factors.