Why I need sex...is it in my chart?

I have issues with sex and being faithful. I like to make love and intimacy, but more I want the crazy fun sex. I start getting bored with my partner and stray.

At least you being honest. You are admitting that you think you have a problem, and that's a good thing to actually know this about yourself.

Now, I personally think that you aren't ready to settle down yet, so its important to not get involved with people who are more serious than yourself.

Also, its important for you to understand that you can't have it both ways -- straying away from relationships will eventually catch up with you so you need to be prepared, only because this is a life style that you are involved in at the time.

Now, as far as your chart goes:

Libra moon ... Aries Mars ... Leo Venus ... makes you a very passionate woman. That cancer sun can confuse your emotions from time to time and having such a strong plantary placement doesn't help the matter ^_^.

Its important to take time and reflect instead of giving into your passion -- passion can be wonderful if its structured.

Sure, structure is no fun, but hey, nothing that involves self-control is, its just something that has to be done 🙂

Hey, and just to make you feel better ...


Aquarius moon

Aquarius Mars

Aquarius Venus


Yeah, my chart is a bit of a bugger too ^_^.

were u ever sexually molested or abused as a child? u don't have to divulge that information here, but if u have, that is most likely the culprit and not so much ur chart placements. um, i grew up on a lotta "love line" with dr. drew. can ya tell? heh.

even if u weren't u could have been exposed to explicit sexual material at a young age too. a lot of little kids "experiment" on each other drawing on what they've seen in movies or whatnot. i remember i was a little too interested in it myself at a really young age. i used to ogle hustler mags when i was 8 cuz my uncle had them out in the open at his house. he was hyper sexual and kinda pervy (but not child molester pervy). all over his house u would see naked women and, with it being so aggressively in my face, i became more interested in sex than i think a normal 8 year old is. now i didn't act upon my impulses and i lost my virginity at 16.

all i'm trying to say is that maybe u should look deeper into the psyche. there could be a number of reasons. even though i was exposed to sex so young, and even though my placements make me crave sex (mars in scorpio here), i still have control of myself usually. sure, i may slip up every now and then but i don't have an issue per se. who knows though? there are a number of options to consider. could just be ur impulsive mars in aries shining through. feisty makes a good point too. i'm trying to get to the root because ur presenting it as if it is a real problem that u can not seem to control... like an addiction. maybe it's all of the above or a combination of some of them.

Thanks for everyone's insight. CappySweetie, I can totally appreciate that it is about self control and I tend to be impulsive and in the moment. I can see how with the right partner and some maturity I will find a happy place. But wow I can't imagine for a lifetime.

And Ninja, I was exposed to sex at a young age...dirty mags too and my family is pretty wild. There wasn't any sexual abuse but you never know...maybe it is repressed and I don't even know about it. I too wonder if it is an addiction. I don't seek it out, but I don't hide from it either. But when I do feel restless, my actual sex life in the relationship suffers. If it is a character flaw, I might need some help to get through it.

Posted by FeistyAquarian
Cause you're young?

You're human?

You haven't found someone good enough?

You lack self-control?

same thing i was going to say

Yep! All that fire and air in chart has a lot to do with it.

I can see your point and I have Sun, Moon and Venus in Leo and Mars in Aqua with Aqua Rising.

As I CAN be faithful I have a problem WANTING to be faithful quite often. I can also very easily associate sex as just fun without the emotional connections. In situations where I have been unfaithful, I very easily am able to just brush it off as nothing serious even though I know my partner wouldnt approve.

Dude almost every Sun Cancer and Venus Leos I had met are sexually horny. I remember they had boyfriends but would flirt sexually really hard with me and it freaked me out being that I have a venus in Capricorn, a cautious love sign.

Oh yea and Pamela Anderson and Lohan has that too.

Personally, I think when you have planets like that in your chart and being young , there's really only one route to pursue.

You should find someone who has an open mind regarding sexuality. Essentially, a guy that doesnt have a issue with you having sex with different men. Just basically be in a open relationship. But find someone who is a strong practitioner of safe sex. The only thing is you will have to overcome the Cancer sun jealousy 😉

Since I have Moon and Mars in Sag, either type of relationship can work for me. I can be in a exclusive relationship as easily being in a non sexually monogamous one.

I have that ability to emotionally detach myself from sex and just enjoy it for what it is. Just because I find a girl that can ride my c--k like a mechanical bull doesnt mean instantaneous "love" I've got more of my mom's venus in virgo. It takes a strong mental connection for me to fall in love.

Just find a guy probably a gemini or sag and explore your sexuality in that framework. It sounds like you're really young. You should go for it. Enjoy your 20's because they wont be around long.

Posted by madaboutlove
Thanks for everyone's insight. CappySweetie, I can totally appreciate that it is about self control and I tend to be impulsive and in the moment. I can see how with the right partner and some maturity I will find a happy place. But wow I can't imagine for a lifetime.

And Ninja, I was exposed to sex at a young age...dirty mags too and my family is pretty wild. There wasn't any sexual abuse but you never know...maybe it is repressed and I don't even know about it. I too wonder if it is an addiction. I don't seek it out, but I don't hide from it either. But when I do feel restless, my actual sex life in the relationship suffers. If it is a character flaw, I might need some help to get through it.

No, now -- I never suggested staying with someone for a lifetime 😄 My goodness, that long -- I was only talking about jumping from one person to the next so quickly.

Hey, I have too much Aqua in my chart to think one person can tolerate me forever, or vice versa lol

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