A CANCER MAN TALKS ABOUT CANCER MEN

Hey ladies (and gents),

Found this post on another astrology site and thought I would share it with you all. What with all of the questions in reference to how to figure out a Cancer male, or just wanting to better understand their inner workings, perhaps this can help. Please note that the poster does mention that he is only speaking for himself but I suspect that this could be applied to many other Cancer males. Maybe you've heard this before, maybe you haven't, but I still think it's quite interesting and I find it's always best to get it straight from the horses mouth so here goes...



mood shifting is something we can't help. ... At least, I can't help.
I cannot, will not speak for other Cancers. But my mood experience is much less of a "bipolar" thing. It's much more of a gradual phasing of perception. You know those slider lightswitches, that dim and brighten the fixtures overhead?... I sometimes feel like life is very slowly pushing that slider up and down, seemingly at random, thought sometimes I can predict what will happen. When those "lights" dim, the world seems... drained. Patience wanes. Enthusiasm is harder to dredge up. Little interests shift, from music to food, and my personality goes full-on reserved, pensive, reflective and weary.

The darkest side of this is the softening of my usual stalwart emotional defenses. Words that might have come across as playful now seem to drip with venom. Small irritants become larger. Perceived slights sting that much deeper, and stick that much longer. This, I believe, is part of why Cancers withdraw sometimes... Most of us know on instinct that this is bad, this isn't who we want to be. So we pull back, cool off, recharge our batteries and come back out with the lights all turned on... and with plenty of fresh vigor for life in general. It's a mechanism, and one that we'd all do well to develop properly.

I'll let you in on a little secret... If other crabs are anything like me, we forget compliments even less than we forget insults. Don't believe me? I still vividly remember when my first crush whispered "I really like your eyes...", and I'm blushing just calling up that memory.

Continued...

Even in my darkest times, where life stress couples with a bleak and moody day, the contents of my heart dictate whether I control or am controlled. This is it - the entire point behind people saying that Cancers need emotional reinforcement. We don't need someone fawning over us. We need genuine. We need real gestures from real people. Give us a bit of recognition, let the males of us be your champion, and THAT is what we will think of when we're sailing through storms. Snub us, belittle our efforts, ignore or chastise us constantly... we will nurture resentment. I learned all this the hard way so you don't have to, love. 😛

Some of us can be real dicks. The over-sensitive among us will find fault and enmity in even your best intentions, and those few crabs are the ones that earn us our... colorful reputation. But the vast majority of us, as I see it? Confused. Very few of us are conscious of all this. I'm amazed I am, and it took a long time to get here.

He is so clear , I love how he explains all he feels. Excellent and touching. It must be hard for Crabs if this is how they normally feel.

I feel the exact same way. I couldn't have said it better myself.