So I've been with my cancer man for 6 months now. At first it seemed like a match made in heaven. We both met in the most unlikely place and helped each other out of our slumps. He even mentioned in the first month that I was his light. He is way older than me. I'm 21 and he's 35. I'm Libra sun, virgo moon, cap rising. He is cancer sun, virgo moon, virgo rising. Our relationship was great the whole way through with a few natural bumps that every relationship goes through. The issue was that I'm super duper expressive. I express everything and I'm an open book. He's not. And my mind at the time did not understand that and it scared me. Hes always been in his hard shell and within the last 2 months is when I really started to bring it up. Every time I tried to help or get him out of his shell he pulled away more and more. Naturally I put up my own walls to protect myself because I don't want to get hurt either. He always said he loved me, every day from the beginning of the relationship to the end. But one I said "I love you a lot" and for no reason he just said "I'll get there". This was a few days ago and it hurt so much. What the hell am I supposed to think about that. So the next day I told him I needed a break to figure out if this relationship was right. I didn't really want a break I just wanted to shake him and see what happens because I barely ever got a response out of him and I just wasn't sure what was going on in regards to the way he felt about me. So when I didn't get Amy response except "OK" I said I wanted to break up and I said a whole bunch of stuff I shouldn't have said about how I didn't think he really loved me. He ended up breaking up with me but then after some thought just told me to please give him some space and that he just needed time to think. And I have apologized over and over, telling him I would not pressure him again and that I want t be patient and that I want to work things out. I explained everything about how I felt and why I did what I did. It has only been two days but it feels like an eternity. Last week, he bought me a beautiful brans new guitar, and now I feel like an asshole. But I love him so much and want to work things out and be patient with him. Could anyone give me any advice on what may be going on in his head and explain to me if you think its over or not and why ? Please help
Afraid I've pushed my cancer away
Sorry for all the mispelling, and I think this forum changed A**hole to a Marker
Leave him be for a couple of weeks, don't contact him in any way. I know it's hard, trust me. Try focusing more on yourself/work/studies/whatever for now. There's a LOT of patience required.
And like DonJohnson said, after a few weeks, contact him casually, like nothing happened.
And like DonJohnson said, after a few weeks, contact him casually, like nothing happened.
Any cancer men who can give me advice on how they would handle this situation if they were on his side ?

Follow these folks advice..they like space, they like goin in their shell.....if you're gonna txt keep it light and simple. When they need space give it to them!!!! There is no way around this.

He's a lot more mature than me, but as a Cancer man it's hard to stay away from someone I truly love, but I also keep my options open if I don't think the relationship is working... leave him be, make him miss you. Two-three weeks should be enough... and when you return, play hard to get and see what he is doing... don't shut him down too hard, though -- and if he seems to be retreating, judge whether he is sad or unphased.
If he is sad, shower him with affection. If he is unphased, move on.
If he is sad, shower him with affection. If he is unphased, move on.
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