All This Talk About Cancer Men

All the men that I've ever loved in my life have been Cancers... A total of 3 men. Only one of them does not fit the stereotype that they are all liars and cheaters. The one I fell totally head over heels in love with turned out to be the worst. The thing I don't seem to understand is that they can dish it but, can't take it back.

Some of you have seen me on the boards before and have heard some of my stories but, I'm gonna start from the beginning on this one but, try and make this short. I need to take out my frustrations some where. I really loved this guy. Everything seemed to be almost perfect. Seems like things fell apart real quickly after I found out he was cheating on me. They say us cancers have a heck of an intuition and mine was telling me something was wrong. So I went in his phone and found the evidence. I confronted him about it and he apologized to me. But later that night while we were having sex he hit me and told me never to go in his phone again. Little did I know there was more to it then him just cheating on me that one time. I forgave him. But, after I found out about it he started verbally abusing me and picking arguments with me. Calling me Whores and everything else you could think of.. He wanted me to have a 3 some with my own bestfriend. I had to constantly tell him no! I finally agreed to do it but not with her. Not with my friend. He couldn't respect the fact and we got in to this huge fight about it on New Years when he tried to set it up behind my back. I came to find out that he was trying to sleep with her behind my back as well. After all this I should have ran from him. I should have walked out of the relationship because I never allowed any of these things with any past relationship. I don't know what kept me there besides the fact that I really loved him. Things just got worst. Everytime I tried to walk away he would sweet talk me into staying. Till finally I dished back the verbal stuff and it ended up into him physically putting his hands on me again for the second time and spittting on me over and over again. I was so shocked when I looked in the mirror and saw my swollen face I called the police and he was arrested and held with out bail. He went to jail for three months. When he got out he contacted me and I had left the state to be with my family and tried to start my life over again... I ended up back with him but, I had to hear about how I put him in jail and talked about him to all his friends while he was

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While he was in jail... How I gave some things of his away that I didn't want him to have anymore because I was afraid of him... While he was in jail I found out his sons mother was pregnant from him again... I found an airline ticket from a few months back when he told me he was going to Atlanta but went to CA and his friend told me it was to see some other girl. The cheating was continuous. But yet he tells me He's had the best sex of his life with me... He slept with two of his friends girlfriends. One who was in a wheelchair. He told me he did it for his friend because he couldn't have sex with his girl. His friend told me a different version of the story. I mean the man does all this to me and I take him back. And I have to ask myself what's wrong with me. I've never accepted cheating I've never accepted abuse. It's like I'm still in love with the man I thought he was. It won't go away no matter what I do....

The story ends with me being pregnant now. He wants me to get an abortion and I refuse. He's not going to sacrifice his family for me. That they would be disappointed that he was even messing with me again. After what I did to him. Like I'm some horrible bad person. That He's never had anyone go the extra mile for him. I didn't go the extra mile when I put him in jail. I didn't check on him and I should go the extra mile by stickin by him and getting an abortion that he can't have a baby right now. And one of the reasons why he loved me was cause I didn't have kids and now he'll have no escape...When all my life I've thought I couldn't have kids and there's nothing I want more in the world. Because I won't have an abortion He wants nothing to do with me or the baby. One of the reasons why I loved him was the love for children he had... He's some other person that I don't know... Like he disguised himself to be this other person till I was totally in love...

All I have to say is excuse me for saying I hate cancer men... Now you know why...

Honeygirl,

it is terrible, really, really terrible how he treated you. I really do hope that you find the way and keep your child, now the baby is the most important thing to care of.

But I don't think he did it because he is a Cancer, he is just a b....rd, if he really treated you like that.
I know men of many other sun signs do the same thing, there is something wrong with them. My brother is a Cancer, and he would never do something like this.

Wish you all the best with all my heart, L.

a-holes come in every sign. You shouldn't hate cancer men, you should hate yourself for continuously going back to such a jerk. He clearly showed you who he was waaaaay in the beginning when you could have gotten out without things being too messy and you being to hurt but apparently you saw what you wanted to see because you've gone back to him several times after some pretty HUGE episodes of neurosis on his part. Plus, if you keep being with the same type of guy, there is probably something about you that is keeping them around. You're probably a very nice lady, however, apparently there is something that cheaters and liars see in you that has them latch on...you may want to find out what that is and eliminate it so that you can attract the type that you want. If you ask me they can probably read your willingness to stick around for bullshit. A cheater and liar who HAPPENS TO BE a Cancer especially will pick up on this because their intuition is just as strong as yours.

Um...He spit on you? He lucky all he got was jail time. I would have stuck my whole foot up his ass! Spitting is absolutely disgusting!

You know what...I have to may thoughts to even comment like I want.

I understand you wanting to keep the child because you are 28 years old and never having children myself or being pregnant and I am going on 28 I can sypmpathize with you but honey...get it together. Please...

I'm gonna have to bite my tongue real hard to keep myself from getting kicked off this website about this one!!!! Girlfriend... get it together! Listen to your brain!! Love in this situation means nothing because there is no love here!! Love is NOT violent. Love is NOT cheating. If you ever have your "supposed loved one" arrested for abuse.... it is NOT love! The guy sounds like a derranged psycho. Get a concealed weapons permit and defend yourself!

Any Questions??

Honey girl, I am not going to sit here and criticize you because of the choices that you made, there is no need to make you feel any worse than you're already feeling. I understand you loved him, and even though he did what he did you were willing to give him another chance with hopes that things will change for the better. I am really sorry that you went through this, and no matter what no one says the decision still lies within you. But you have to realize that you are a great person and you do not deserve any of this, grab your strength get yourself on track whether it is alone or with your unborn child (that's your decision). I know it's easier said than done, but try. My mom always tells me "Nothing beats a failure but a try". And you will see that once all of this is over, that you will be happier without him. You don't need any added stress especially now that you are pregnant. I wish you the very best, and please keep us posted. Be strong honeygirl.

Take Care!

cancerLA, and what would hating herself, have to do with solving anything? what good would come of it? where would it land her but in a deeper hole than the one she's already in? It seems to me, that she just needed to get something off her chest; if she wants a solution she can ask, but if not let's just give her a little breathin' room to clear her head out, so she can see the big picture eh? I empathize honeygirl....really it's sad to not be able to be with a loved one...but if this man is treating you so badly, really jail time would be the least of his worries for me....I don't suffer fools gladly, and ain't about to sacrifice myself for some jack-ass who thinks he's entitled to walkin' all over me!! not I said the cat, and this cat says find another one...I would have broke my fist across his face for treating me so poorly; then I would pull on his damned tongue till it about bled; nobody, but NOBODY treats a person in such a way, and should be able to get away with it!.

but I am not a woman, so yeah....but if I wuz, I would have ripped his damned mouth apart for ever crossing, or hurting me!!

I've read everyone's comments and I don't blame some of you for saying some of the things you said. Like I said I too asked myself what was wrong with me over and over again. Everything I ever said I would not except from a man I excepted. My biggest pet peaves the I will nevers. I think in the beginning I saw so much good in him that when the bad came some part of me refused to believe it. I had made promises to myself that I wouldn't be with anyone else and that he was the one because I really believed that. For me it was really an emotional and mental thing. The things I did with him sexually I never did with anyone before and can't possibly see myself doing with anyone else ever again. I feel like I gave myself to him and that has everything to do with me excepting some of this abuse. Growing up my father was an alcohilic and I watched mother go through it with him for years. She stuck by his side no matter what. I believe seeing this as a child makes me as an adult put up with things I shouldn't be putting up with. Me as a cancer I was looking for that forever stick by your side no matter what relationship. I don't ask for things that I'm not willing to give in return so some part of me believed we would work it out. Thing is you have to draw the line somewhere. I'm not really stressing over this I'm just hurt that I made all the wrong choices and I didn't see him for what he was. I believed all the lies and how could a person be so cruel and turn around and say I love you in the next breath. I am probably overly nice and that's why this happend to me. Sometimes I wish I wasn't so nice but, I guess I just don't know how to be mean. I'm just waiting for the day that I can completely get over it all. You can all pass judgement if you want to. I completely understand your thoughts.

Just following up on the subject since you guys asked me to keep you posted. I'm doing really good. I'm now 5 months pregnant with a little girl and she looks so beautiful already.



As for him. He contacted me earlier this week telling me he wanted me back but, he wanted me back alone and that it wasn't too late to still get an abortion... The man has really lost his mind and it baffles me that he would even consider asking me to do that at this point... Having an abortion at 5 months pregnant is definately considered murder in my mind... I basicly told him to go to hell. I don't know why he thinks I want him that bad after all that he has done that I would consider killing my child just to be with him...

Prettypisces you said it the best. Honeygirl, it's great to hear your pregnancy is coming along well and your baby is healthy. That Cancer guy sounds like a very sick man. You're so much better off well away from him and his sickness. I hope you enjoy the rest of your pregnancy and don't forget to chill out!

Honeygirl, I am really sorry that you're going through this. However, I know you are strong and you don't need him you can do this alone. Make sure you take him to court for child support. I am glad that you're doing well. What is it with cancer men, I hate them too, and it's sad because I am a cancer but we are different them. I could not sleep at night knowing that I hurt someone. I wish all the best, and I will keep in you in my prayers. Keep us posted.

Oh yea and know karma is a b# $ % h, so he will get what he deserve. I wish he would have stayed im jail for life.

You are so strong, I admire that you are having your baby in spite off!! all the best in your pregnancy and stay strong dont allow him to stress you out either you dont want to have the baby early. You will find happiness again!! read about my cancer man nightmare when you get sometime be encouraged!!!

Sorry I'm just getting back to you guys I've been away for the holidays... I'm not stressed at all... I'm actually very happy and excited... I can't wait to have the baby so I can move some where and start my life over again... I do have a lot going for me I always have... I feel like 2007 is going to be a very good year for me. It has to be!! It can only get better. I have a lot of faith in God and I beleive that he was just trying to show me something. Thanks for all your support and listening to my crazy ass story!! I know I have to sound crazy! I will definately keep you guys posted as I always have and I will be sure to come back and post pictures of the baby.