how to get a cancer man

I really like this cancer guy who has leo moon and I know he likes me. Problem is he is shy and I am doing all the calling. I only call 1 x week then I started calling
1 every 2 weeks. Now I don't call at all because I don't pursue guys. I let them pursue me.

Thing is he always picks up the phone when I'm calling and he likes to talk but I can't get much else out of him. He lives on the east coast and I live on the west coast. He is coming out here to Cali for something and said he wanted to see me. I really like this guy but I need help getting him. help please?

IMO if a man can't call you don't be bothered. It is only indicative of other weaknesses and issues. Another possibily----especially with a cancer----is that he just may not be interested on that level. A cancer will rarely put much energy into anything they don't deem will get them what they want.

In the future if you like any more cancers, just ask a scorpio what they would do....that'll nab 'em.

thank you cancerLA that makes sense

I should ask a scorpio (I know plenty of 'em) for my next cancer

Be affectionate but not smothering, spend time with them but don't be available 24/7... yeahhhh something like that, I'm not sure lol

Some guys don't like talking on the phone though. So what you guys said might not necessarily be true. Some men like to call you all the time and some hardly at all. He might be a face to face person.

cap,

my sun sign is aries
He and I talk fine face to face and on the phone when I call. It could be that he is not interested. However if that's true why does he pick up the phone each time I call as oppose to letting it go to vm? I'm just trying to figure out if I am doing something strange

Aries and Cancer huh? I have heard great things about these couples. Just keep doing what you are doing. He will come around.

never wait for a cancer to "come around" they are either really in or really out. A lot of the games that we get a rep for playing is a result of not being interested in a person at any deep level but hey, they're fun, so they'll be kept around for that.

If a cancer is not practically trying to marry you within a few weeks, it ain't all that. Drop him unless you are ok with whatever level of attention and treatment you're getting now.

"If a cancer is not practically trying to marry you within a few weeks, it ain't all that."

jaw drop...so if a cancer really fancies you, he/she will want to get hithched?

So, curious if a Cancer man is playing games and tells you he loves you in person one day and lets a week go by without calling because he knows you will call does he have zero interest just like that or is this part of the manipulation game, since he feels this has been done to him for over a year. This Cancer has been in a long term relationship, and wanted mariage, but also went a lil nuts and was very acusiing of issues that were never in the picture. Have to say that substance abuse was a factor as well, caring person but things have been strange lately...

Vanessa's right, cancer men seem to be aggressive when they are interested in a girl ... even if the girl ignores them completely they are still persistent :-/

They don't really except the whole "distance friendship" thing very well, I learned that the hard way. :-O

Karima27,

So, you have heard good things about aries/cancer, because I am an aries and have had this relatinship with my cancer man for over a year and with all the good points I love he had all the bad ones previously mentioned. He wanted to live together and get married not so long ago and now he is pulling the distant act and I think because I didn't act on doing that with him right away, but I feel he still cares. He has come over and left a few times and playing the ignoring my calls game, but then turns around and says after afew days go by "well if you really cared why did u not call for a couple days" ahhhh I feel like pulling my hair out he is driving me crazy does he care or not. He was always the one calling insainly and accusing me of things which made me distant, now ITS ME, doing all the callng wanting him closer then ever, but I feel manipulated for sure. Does he care or not, I really want to know, this is making me soooo upset and its been a little over a week and he hasn't called or anything, does it sound that he has completely wipped me from his mind, because each time he has come over he tells me how much he has thought about me.. I want to know if I'll ever see or hear from him again, I really wish I knew...😢

Cap,

I just stopped calling. I got sick of chasing this guy. He ended up calling me this weekend as I was headed out of town. He may not be interested in me but it's interesting how when I stop calling he starts calling me.

Sunaina,

How long in between when you last called him that he finally called you?

Cap,

I like what you said.

Mystical

It was about 2.5 weeks.

"Sunaina you know whats the meening of your name...its beautiful eyes"

it sounds beautiful, what language is this from?

agent 006:

"jaw drop...so if a cancer really fancies you, he/she will want to get hithched?"

Absolutely. Cancers (generally speaking)love to be in relationships so anytime you are dealing with one and its been awhile and they aren't trying to move forward with you.....its only because they don't like you deep enough. If a cancer thinks you could be "the one" they'll trip over themselves trying to lock you down.

Beauty29:

"So, curious if a Cancer man is playing games and tells you he loves you in person one day and lets a week go by without calling because he knows you will call does he have zero interest just like that or is this part of the manipulation game, since he feels this has been done to him for over a year. This Cancer has been in a long term relationship, and wanted mariage, but also went a lil nuts and was very acusiing of issues that were never in the picture. Have to say that substance abuse was a factor as well, caring person but things have been strange lately..."

well this cancer seems to have multiple issues going on....old relationship baggage, substance abuse, etc. Both are common cancer issues. I wouldn't say all or most but just very common.

Bottom line still is....if he thinks you're "it"..for WHATEVER the reason he won't be trying to play any games. He will be trying to lock you down in to a relationship. Otherwise, he doesnt' see you as that, and may just want you around for whatever you have proven yourself to be good for to him.

Karima27, your cancer issue is different from the original one here.

You have a cancer that thought you were great and went into a relationship with you....now he seems to be passively agressively "getting back at you" after he took great offense (too much offense IMO) to something you did.

When's his birthday? I wonder if he's a 1st deacon cancer.

Try confronting him about this issue (in a non-threatening way) and give him an opportunity to say what he's tripping about. If he won't talk he's just being immature....however, you may be able to resolve the issue by forcing his hand in talking about it.

thank you guys for all the advice

I haven't called him in about 3 wks. He called me after 2.5 wks. He is currently in town and called me the day he landed. I have been busy with school so I will probably see him this weekend. I will report back

well I went out with him last night and got to meet 2 of his cousins (seemed nice) and after dinner we went out for drinks (1 of his cousins came along). He paid for my dinner eventhough we were in a group and when we went out for drinks afterwards he paid for my drink. I thought he was a real gentleman and he did all the right things a guy should like opening the door etc. I guess I'm a sucker for gentlemen. I got a good vibe from him. We'll see when he gets back home. I still think he is interested because a guy friend won't go out of his way to invite you to dinner and keep calling if you're just a friend. He also made me call him when I got home to make sure I got home safely. He kept asking if I would be ok to drive home, etc.